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why are ALL BOYS heartbreakers?

aw sweety..it seems that way but some guys are just immature...arent ready for a relationship..and dont know what they want. the rocky road of love stinks but there are plenty of sweet , genuine guys out there..dont give up!

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ok i have been modeling since i was 5 for big agency in calgary i have been asked to go to new york for 5 months to recive a bigger contract with the company that runs america's next top model, tyra banks etc. and they want me but to start i will have to leave the love of my life for 5 months what sould i do sould i accept it or what please help cheak out my pic in my advice column it is Reality. thanx

no way this is an opportunity of a lifetime! if hes the love of your life he will be there when you get back..he will keep in touch while your gone. im positive if he loves you he will insist you go...this is an awesome opportunity that may not come up again..this must be a dream for you..take it!

have lots of fun and remember...people who love you wont abandon you while your gone..they will be strongly supporting you

***melissa****

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so im 14/f and my hair keeps falling out like a lot and its not normal. i have an ear infection right now and my head has been hurting a lot and it feels like i have to throw up and my stomach has been killing me....whats wrong????

my honest advice is for you to go to the doctors.
i wouldnt trust anyone here because we arent doctors here..most of us are teens and young adults. the doctor knows best..you will be glad you went theere to get the full story of whats going on.

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How can I convince my mom to let me start wearing tampons?!!

just say "mom i dont want to have to miss out on water activities..swimming..pool parties..the ocean..etc because of my period!..why should my period rule my life! please let me try them..im old enough to handle my period the way i want..and if tampons are comfortable for me..i should be able to wear them right? why do i always have to wear pads just bc its what you wear...do you want me to turn into a clone of you or can i have freedom and be my own person?"

^^^ that accademy award act should get her attention...i admit the end gets dramatic so edit it how you want..i hope i gave you some ideas

~melissa

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(14/f)

My friend, Lisa, means a lot to me, & we've been through everything together. Recently, I've been drinking a lot, & my life has been all over the place & whatnot. She called me during one of these "intoxicated spells" & we kind of got in a fight about something or another.

I don't even know how to approach appologizing for what I've done, because I barely know WHAT I did. The hardest part is that she seems to want nothing to do with me any longer.

Should I just let her go, or what should I do? Please help.

no definately dont let her go...you messed up so you have to try and make things right. write her a letter..call her..go to her house..something and explain everything and how nothing you said was anything you meant. give it your best shot and if she still cant forgive her, at least you really tried to fix things.
good luck!

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This friend I know started to hangout with the "popular girls" I feel like since she sarted hanging out with them we arent as close as we used to be what should I do?

maybe shes so caught up in her new friends she doesnt realise she has been neglecting you. tell her your feelings and if shes a true friend she will suggest a girls night out just you and her to catch up on stuff..if not shes not true.

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Um, I recently had sex with this guy. I thought I was pregnant for a while, I hadn't had my period. I told him I was, and it freaked him out.
I went to a clinic today, and found out I'm not. I was kind of harsh on this guy because he thought he was just going to use me as a one-night stand. Well, as gay as it is, I'm starting to get feelings for him. And he's going to think I was lying, when I honestly did think I was pregnant. I want to apologize and ask to get to know him a little more. I know I scared him and I basically want to get on his good side again. What do I do?

why does the guy get freaked out and isnt supportive when he def helped you have sex and should take responsibility. i dont like it that he flipped out..i mean he thought of nobody but himself..he should have considered your feelings bc you were flipping out and your the one that would be carrying the baby!
so thats something that would def turn me off..not taking responsibility for actions..and just using you for ass..he probably just wanted you for sex and thats it..if he wanted more he wouldnt act like he only wanted a 1 night stand.
i know feelings get involved in hookups..but def consider what i told you and see if your feelings are so strong...
there are guys who you desserve out there...guys that will treat you right..dont settle for this jerkoff (my advice anyway)..if you wanna go for him..then you go for him..just be careful

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ok, my grandma always makes me do ALL of her dirty work for her. she makes me do EVERYTHING! i hate it and today i just blew up on her. i yelled at her and then she called my mom and told her. so ofcourse my mom took her side. now im in alot of trouble with my mom and my mom doesnt belive me.

ill rate high to anyone who gives good advice and doesnt tell me to sit down and talk to them....

time it so your mom gets to witness your grandma being a b*TCH to you...or secretly record her on tape giving you orders.

if you cant do any of this...just rebel against grandma andd dont do her work...walk out the house or something..wats grannny gonna do, chase you with a cane then fall ? hah

or you can threaten to not do any more work for yoour grandma until she admits to making you do all the dirty work and tell your mom that.

i think thats a good alternative to trying to talk it out..talking doesnt always work

good luck!

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Hi I moved here like last june and I havent had a boyfriend since I moved here and Its staring to really bug me Im 14 what should I do to get a boyfriend? plz HELP!!

just be yourself..if you arent really social getting a bf wouold be hard so try and open up and become social if you arent...make appearances at parties and get to know new people..guys are bound to come your way!

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Hey guyz!! i need help badly. i hope you could help me with this one. I'll rate 5's if the aswers are good. I used to live in queens next door to my boy friend but i lost touch with with him since i moved and i lost his #. and i want to talk to him again. i really really really really really miss him. we used to have the same friends but he stoped talkin to them and made new ones. some of ma old friends moved, which makes it harder.i went on the internet to look him up in the white pages but i couldnt find him. please please please please help me out. i dont know wat to do. i really miss him. how can i keep in touch again???????????????

think of people in his school..even if you never really talked to them who cares..try looking them up in the white pages..if that doesnt work try using their parents names...also try calling the operator to get in touch with anyone from your old school..and when you do explain your story and ask them to give your number to him

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im a 13/f. i have been getting this white werid stuff in my underwear for ALONG TIME NOW AND I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IT IS. shouldnt i have go my period by now?

yes its a symptom/sign that your period will be arriving anytime! enjoy life without it trust me!
dont think you should have had it by now because some girls get it younger than you..and others dont get it until they are 16 or 17! so trust me...enjoy life without it because once you get it...you have to deal with it until your late 40's or 50's (menapause )

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I'm sorta chubby, and i have been invited to a pool party. anybody have anty good ideas wear to get a suite for a c36 5'5" 160pd girl?

please i really don't want to look like a fool!

you will be fine as long as you dont wear a bikini or something...i dont have a bikini body either..its no big deal just find a cute tankini that complements you...one of those bathing suit dresses..or some kind of one piece.

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Hi I'm almost 17 and me and my boyfriend he's 17.have been having sex for a while and we've done different positions like him on top me on top him from behind him on top with my legs on his shoulders..But those things are kinda getting old so i was wondering if anyone could give me different kinds of positions..I'll rate high

have him sit upright and you straddle it and have se that way.

have anal but lay sideways

have him sit you on a washing machine or something and he stands up and has sex thaT way

for more ideas watch porn..im serious..they do some crazy positions

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After I'm in the sun for 3 or more hours, with suntan lotion on, later that day or the next day I develop these bumps on my arms, back, and chest that looks like pimples! Are these just pimples? How do i get them to go away?

it could be sun blisters..those arent good. i suggest using aloe vera ..they have to go away on their own

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Ok, i am a 17/f, and VERY innocent, lol, i've never had sex, but i masturbate, and why is there white and clear discharge "inside" of us? Thanks, I rate Very High!

hey dont worry about masturbating ..its all good and natural !
heres a website that will help explain about the discharge..its very helpful so it should help!
http://test.myvag.net/discharge/

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I spend about 3 hours in the sun every day, and I want my skin to appear tanner, but it doesn't get that much darker each day. It's barely noticeable! How can I get my skin to tan faster?

http://underthesunskincare.com/

go there..its a great website that gives you really good tanning tips along with suggested tanning oils. it looks so good..i think im going to follow these tips because im as white as can be!

happy tanning ! :)

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What exactly is a prude?

here is the definition:
Prude-One who is excessively concerned with being or appearing to be proper, modest, or righteous.

As you can see you can use the word prude not just relating to sex.,,but if someone was so proper and they went to a BBQ ..and didnt want to sit on the ground for instance, someone might say "hey dont be so prude"

ususally people use the word prude relating to sex.
well it depends on the person on what prude is. Lets say a girl is going out with a sex maniac and she wont have sex with him...he might call her prude

someone else who isnt a sex maniac might just want to kiss their bf or gf of one month and if he/she is to shy, someone might say "dont be so prude"

hope i helped?

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Just wondering and don't ask why ( you might not want to know ) if there is anyway I could knock a guy unconcious without him knowing or waking up for an entire night or at least a few hours or being to ovious like hitting him with a vase or anything. Just wondering. :)

ok this is going to be long, but i did special research for you and here is part of a website i copied and pasted for you. enjoy! by the waay im very interested to know what your planning on doing..so please leave something in my inbox ! lol


WAYS TO KNOCK SOMEONE OUT:
Firstly, it is dangerous to knock someone out regardless of how it is done. We lose a few million brain cells every time we are knocked out.

We, most of us know that a strong percussion anywhere near the head or chin, face etc. will cause knock out. This is because these areas are vital to human survival and when knocked, the brain simply causes the rest of the body to faint thus saving all of the energy and blood for the affected area. This is the first and most basic of the knock out techniques. This is why boxers are knocked out etc.

The second method relies upon the chin being pushed back to cause pressure upon the spinal column causing a momentary blockage of information from the central nervous system to the brain and so the body is unable to do things, so we have another knock out.

The third way involves striking certain groups of muscles causing the muscles around the lungs to contract violently thus taking the air away from the lungs. This is termed a restricted air dim-mak point. For instance if I strike someone in an upward way against the scapular muscles then the lungs will be restricted. See photo No.1 for the first attack and defence. I attack to his inner wrist points to cause the mind to think that the whole body has been hit and at the same time I strike at the 'mind point' on the side of the chin where the jaw joins and just back a bout a quarter of an inch. This is a 'special point' in acupuncture and is on no particular meridian. This alone will cause knock out and serious internal damage. Then, if I'm really keen on overkill, I should attack to his rear with that same palm in an upward manner as in Photo No.2. This in Taiji is called 'stroking horses mane.' This was defence against an 'open' technique where I am in danger of his other hand. I can perform the same air restricting dim-mak using a 'closed' technique. I now take his attack using a hinge block (in Taiji) to attack his colon points on his upper forearm. Photo No.3. This alone will cause the body to exert extreme low blood pressure thus knocking him out, but more on this method later. I can now attack with the same technique with my left palm across his pectoral muscles and cause the lungs again to be restricted through muscle spasm. Photo No.4. I can of course attack to these points outright by taking a simultaneous block and attacking with a palm straight into these points.

The fourth way is a much more complicated method and requires some medical explanation. This is where we cause the brain to think that something has happened when it really hasn't. The brain reacts to cause other physical things to happen and we end up with extreme low blood pressure which can, if it becomes too low cause heart attack. I will also add here that any acupuncture point when struck with enough force will cause a knock out. But it is not safe. Any acu point which is struck will be greatly over stimulated and cause the associated internal organ to be damaged. Acupuncture points are there for healing or for killing so use them with great caution. A little pressure is OK for healing but increase that pressure and you can kill.

So, we have little things in our body called baroreceptors. Baro meaning barometer and receptor meaning something that receives information. These little bits of us register either hi or low blood pressure in the body. We have them around the aorta but the main one that we are concerned with is in the neck and is called the carotid sinus. This thing is a small dilation (expansion) at the beginning of the internal carotid artery just above the bifurcation of the common carotid artery to form the internal and external carotid arteries. The common artery is the big one from where the other two branch out, one going to the brain, eye, forehead and nose. The external branch supplies the mouth, face, nose, pharynx and part of the larynx, some of the back of the head and some of the dura matter, (brain stuff).

The sinus lies just under the sternocleidomastoid muscle (the big one going up either side of your neck) at the level of the upper margin of the thyroid cartilage. (Adam’s apple). Sensory fibres (afferent) from carotid sinus baroreceptors run through the carotid sinus nerve of the cardioinhibitory centre of the medulla.

If blood pressure within the aorta or carotid sinus rises suddenly, it stimulates the aortic or carotid baroreceptors. The result of such stimulation is a reflex slowing of the heart thus lowering the blood pressure. This is how we maintain a normal blood pressure.

Now, here is the rub: If we are able to in some way cause this carotid sinus to think that high blood pressure is present, then the brain will cause the pressure to drop but because there is no high blood pressure, we are instantly dropped because not enough blood gets to the brain. We are able to cause this to happen with a medium strike to the carotid sinus area. The more on target one can be, then less strike force is necessary to cause knock out. However, we must strike through the carotid artery in order to get to this sinus and herein lies the danger. Apart from the danger of stroke from low blood pressure, we also have the added danger of seriously damaging the inner wall of the carotid artery which can slowly disintegrate and perhaps we will die some days later in our sleep from heart attack.

The strike necessary for this to happen is an inward strike, pushing in onto the carotid artery and sinus. See photo No.5. Here I have used a knife edge to do the damage but we are also able to use just the tips of the fingers to dig into this area and attack the sinus. In some ways this way is better as the smaller fingers tend to get to the sinus digging under the carotid artery not just barrelling through it but both are dangerous. I have in the past caused some of my students to become quite dizzy from a light poke to this area. I do not do it now however in the light of the dangers which have been told to me by professor McCleod of the Sydney University Medical Dept. If you attempt to just strike the outside of the neck with a knife edge you will of course do damage but with a much harder strike and so this is actually more dangerous. This is where irresponsible acts by martial artists in demonstrating these techniques without showing how they are done will cause damage. Someone will go and try them and, not working, they will try harder and harder.

Here is another medical secret:
We are told that other things that will cause this low blood pressure are, the cold sensors in the skin being activated or sudden intense stimulation of pain receptors in such visceral structures as, the gall bladder, uterus, (Lie behind the parietal peritoneum and extend from the kidneys to the posterior surface of the bladder. This is where the urine is collected for excretion etc. Any attack to this area, kidneys, lower abdomen will cause knock out) or intestines can cause such slowing of the heart that fainting may result.

That's what the scientists say. And here's another rub, the scientists either do not know anything about or do not wish to know about the acupuncture points on the body. There are so many intestine, small and large on the arms, shoulders and back and kidney and gall bladder points from the feet upward to the head that striking any one of these points causes the body to think that the actual organ has been struck and so we are able to knock someone out by striking to for instance colon 10, a point on the upper forearm as shown in photo No.6. You are able to attack this point with a block or with an actual strike of a finger grab. The power however is not just a touch, we were not made that fragile! A certain pressure must of course be used and it goes without saying that a person must first of all know how to fight and get in before he or she is able to use these points anyway. the striking of these points to cause knock out will however cause damage to the internal organs through over stimulation.

We just heard that if the gall bladder is in pain it will cause low blood pressure and there is a point on the foot just to the side above the toes called gall bladder 42, this point when struck with a heel stomp will cause knock out to occur.

The fifth way to cause damage by using points is to actually attack the points which refer to important organs such as the heart. We do not have to attack to the heart itself to stop it from working. Once again there are points on the arms which will cause great heart damage and these points should be avoided at all costs other that mild stimulation. Heart 3 if attacked with 'Play the Guitar' (from Taiji) will cause great internal damage. Upon being attacked we simultaneously attack the outside of the wrist and using the thumb knuckle, attack this point just on the inside of the arm and near the elbow crease. See Photo NO.8. We can further cause damage and knock out by then re-slapping the wrist area and using a fa-jing (explosive energy) technique to attack the mind point on the side of the face. Photo NO.9.

However, here's another rub, these points must be attacked in the right direction and penetration in order for them to work. For instance the 'mind point' must be attacked with an inward strike. So although it looks just like a back fist which would normally strike straight in, it is actually a twisting fist which causes the pressure to go in towards the brain. The attack to the heart 3 point must be going towards yourself and away from the person you are attacking so there is a slight hooking of the thumb upon impact to draw the pressure back. There are points on the chest which will kill but if they are attacked straight in will only cause superficial damage, breaking of bones etc. But if the strike is made in a downward motion to affect the flow of energy, then death will occur.

I will finish once again by warning you not to try these points in an actual self defensive way with power as they will do damage to your students. You can find out where these points are by simply pushing and poking around on yourself or on your sister, or mother, or father and watching them jump when you find the point. But only use very light pressure as you don't know what inner ailments are there. For instance there is a point called kidney 5 which is used for healing period pains among other things but that's what it is famous for. Now if you grab this point and squeeze heavily and your sister just happens to have her periods, at the most you will cause great internal damage and at the least will cause her to just sky high and perhaps kill you upon return. This point is used when we leg sweep. Never in our Taiji katas do we leg sweep. Try it when someone has a rubber pair of joggers on and standing on an asphalt surface. You just can't sweep the leg without breaking it. No, we are actually attacking to the k 5 point on the Achilles tendon. For instance if we block an oncoming attack with the peculiar hook from Taiji, thus attacking to the wrist area again and step in with our right heel, you will notice in any Taiji form, the foot is placed down coming back slightly towards you. Photo NO. 10 shows the attack and initial block. I now step around and as I attack to the Conceptor vessel point on the chest just between the two nipples in a downward stroke, my right heel attacks to his k 5 point as I throw him to the ground. Photo No. 11 and 12.

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whats a blow job?

ok i changed my answer to explain this better.
The girl sucks on the penis. The penis is hard because he has a boner. this boner happens because the guy is excited and semen and blood rushes to the penis, making it hard. the girl sucks on the penis until the guy has an orgasm which is when the semen rushes out of the guys penis. this is ejaculation. and then the penis is no longer hard. do you understand now? write back if you want more help

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Ok so yesterday i was raped =(....but see the thing is i dont know how to tell my parents....or anyone. I kind of feel embaresed that it happend and idk. But should i tell them and how should I tell them.
thank you soo much

sweety im sorry that happened to you..trust me your parents are there for you..YOU were the victim and your parents need to know about this to bring that asshole to court, etc. They will not yell at you..they will not be ashamed of you..none of that. Once you tell them your parents will give you a big hug and comfort you...parents are wonderful in that way..and you will feel so much better.
how to tell them..there are options..i cant tell you which i would choose because i have never been raped and if i were who knows what option i would take.

-sit them down alone and talk to them straight out..tell them you have something serious to tell them..and tell them the whole story.
-write a note and leave it somewhere they will find it ..and then go out for the day....school,shopping,friends house. when you get home they will be there for you
-tell a conselor first and have them come talk to your parents with you

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