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Besides Ebay where is a good place to find livestrongs?? I am trying to sell them to my friends at school for double price!!! (link)
www.wearyellow.com datz a great place...i think. i hoped i help please rate


Ok, so i have this problem. I always dress in black or dark colors and i've been doin this all my life. Some of my friends are starting to get pissed that i'm always dark. they're embarrassed when we go out in public just because of me. They yelled at me but i just told them to piss off. this can become a problem. Should i just keep telling them to shut the hell up and put up with it or try to deal it out with them?

advice is nice...
i don't care if it sucks like hell, just give me advice... (link)
i dont you should listen 2 them cause if u do your changin yourself. you shouldn't change yourself 2 please sum 1 .hoped i helped! please rate


OK...my best friend EVER is moving to Australia, the total other side of the world!! :'(
I want to give her a really great, unique send off. She is leaving in three weeks, and I want to get her a great present and throw a great party she'll always remember!! I don't want to burn a CD because she does loads of those herself, and I don't want an ordinary boring party. Anyone got any great ideas for a really unique send-off? (link)
have a suprise party 4 her. MAKE EVERY 1 BRING PRESENTS! lol. have a theme 4 da party.you could also get tickets to one of her favorite artist concerts. hoped i helped! and i'm sure everthin will go rite.


ok so i have one of my two best friends birthdays is coming up this week and i want to give her i mix of song lyrics that make up a poem form all her favorite songs and i know ive seen theese before i just forget how to get them. Please help me in anyway you can because it will be her last birthday with me because we are going to different high schools and we've decided that it'll just be too difficult to stay in contact so i really wanna make this on count!
PS illrate 5s (link)
go 2 a music store and ask dem which section u can get it or download it from your computer hoped i helped!


how can you tell that a guy wants to kiss you? thanks (link)
wen he starts spendin a lot of time wit u and flirts wit u.please rate me high


If a guy kisses you, does it mean he's attracted 2 u?
im not talkn bout drunk or nething, if he kisses you sober an does makes out w/ u alot does that mean nething? (link)
yea. He likes you


There is this woman at work who really is being rude to me.

The managers all like her, and I tried telling one of them that she was really being rude, and they all jumped on me.

what do I do? Should I just ignore her? obviously I can't go to any of the managers because of the extreme favoritism. help!


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you should try ignoring her. and u could try being nice 2 her maybe she'll be nice back. she is probely mean2 u because you are new give her time. hoped i helped! please rate


ok theres a birthday party tonight.. this one kid (john) likes me alot.. hes nice and really cute but he can be obnoxious and makes up stuff alot.. theres this other kid(tom) who i like as a good friend.. and he doesnt like john and him finding out that i hooked up with john will make him mad.. i might like tom more than a friend.. and john wants to do something tonight with me (make out).. ive never kissed a guy before.. and i dont know which one i want to kiss.. and i dont know how to kiss! please help! (link)
you shouldn't worry. i think you should go wit john because then if you and tom break up it would be a lesser risk of friendship. whichever 1 u pick the kissing shouldn't be a promblem cause if da guy really likes you he will start it. so it's not a promblem. please dont rate me low lol and i hope i helped


okk theres this boi lets say john nd i love him !! a lot hes my first love nd well he loves me too (nd i think its true cuzz i live 45 minutes away cuzz i moved) nd he still talks to me .. nd yesterday i told him that i wanted to see him one last time nd then i didnt wana see him agen and then he said why nd i was like cuzz i think its qwhat i shuld od nd he said i dont nd i said that i think it would be better that way nd then he said something bout space gives oppurtunity nd i get it but then he was like i dont wana lose you nd then we got in the big argument cuzz my friend got me to do it (if you wana or need to see the convo then IM me at
" theOnlyOne4me x " ) and well i dont kno if i made a mistake or not nd i really really need help on if he IMs me then shuld i go w/ it or shuld i stop what is tarted nd say i didnt mean it !! please help soon !! i really need it

xO - Confused (link)
if you really want 2 b friends wit dis guy den you should tell him you were just playing. please dont rate low lol


My parents are in a very strict religon.
I dont want to be in this religon and I've told them so, and I don't go to their church.
But everytime I do something against the church rules, (even though I dont go)
they still go, "Your going to hell" "Your a sinner" bla and so forth.

I dont like this and it hurts my feelings. They even say I'm full of the devil and qoute scriptures at me. What do I do? its totally getting on my nerves and just because I dont go to their church doesnt mean I'm a rebellious brat like they think I am.

HELP! (link)
tell them dat they are hurtin your feelings. make them understand. tell them why you don't wanna be in their religion. i hope i help. please dont rate me low lol


if you masturbate does it mean your not a virgin anymore??

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nope. your still a virgin


ok well i wouldnt say i was loose "down there" but the skin-like stuff inside the lips is really lose and nobody elses i know is liek that...i havent had sex...ive been fingered by the same guy about 4 times over a year n a half ago and jus about a half year ago i was eaten out and fingered for like 2 minuted by a guy..could this be why its so lose...im still a virgin so it cant be because i had sex i need help..i dunno if this is normal or not (link)
it could be but 2 b safe if it's still lose in less than 2 weeks see a doctor. even thought u might not feel comfortable it's the best 4 u. please rate!


How do you play Russian Roulette? (and I'm not talking game show, I mean the game with the gun.) (link)
sorry dont no do you need any more more with anything else?


This may sound odd but I would really like to know: after a pregnancy (after the baby is born) how long does it take for the woman's periods to come back? Is it instant, or in (roughly) a month, or depending on when her last period before the pregnancy was, or what? And also, will her periods be irregular like when they first started or go back to her normal cycle?
Thank you! (link)
it will take awile 4 it 2 get normal but sometimes the period comes rite away sometimes it takes a wile. both happened 2 my mom. please rate


What are the affects of taking the Morning after pill too late?
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you could get pregrant


I got advise on what I needed but I need more I really still dont know what to do I always keep my promises and I really dont know what to do in this siguation you know what I mean I made a promise to my closest cusin that I would save my virginity till I got married I have a b/f right now and I love him dearly I want to lose it to him but I know love isnt all about losing virginity but I want to lose it to him can some one help me PLEASE (link)
i think it you should wait a little longer and see if you still wanana lose it 2 him.cause my friend did the same thing she said she really loved him but now she regrets losing it.please rate lol


My ex-boyfriend and I both told each other we loved each other. He doesn't want to get back together because he has issues that doesn't seem to go away. It's along the same reasons we broke up. Should I wait until he gets over them or just get over him? I really love him, and he seems to care about me. (link)
if you love each other you should wait to he gets over his promblems. you could also help him with his promblems to show him you care about him


Where do I start? My mother divorced my step-father about two years ago. After she became involved with his best friend, the situation turned nasty. Currently, they are not on speaking terms.

About eighteen months ago, my mother also suffered a massive stroke, causing temporary brain damage as well as temporary paralysis. Her doctors call her recovery "miraculous," but she is less than thrilled. She tires easily, has trouble with stairs, and sometimes can not complete her own sentences.

A few months ago she left her boyfriend, and was forced to move in to her mother's house, where I also currently live. (I am twenty-two.)

She has regrets concerning the divorce, concerning her ex-boyfriend, and hates living in her mother's house. (They both have very strong personalities, and tend to clash often.) Her self-esteem is at an all time low, she feels like a child or invalid since her stroke. (She is also pre-menopause, and therefore extremely emotional.)

I have tried to provide as much emotional support as possible. I have told her that I believe she will fully recover, but that she has to work at it (something she keeps making excuses not to do.) I try to spend time with her, I try to listen and understand her problems. I try to boost her self-esteem.

I want her to be healthy. I want her to be happy. I want to be a loving and patient daughter. But my patience is wearing thin...

I find it harder and harder every day to spend time with her. I find it harder and harder every day to listen and understand. I feel guilty, as if what I am feeling is wrong...

I know that ultimately, only she can heal herself and make herself happy. I know that the relationship between her and my grandmother can only improve when they both a make an effort to listen and understand each other. But I still feel responsible for their happiness in some way. Like I should be contributing to it.

But I'm tired of contributing. I feel more like...Well, more like they are all making terrible messes, and I'm always the one that has to clean them up. I'm the one that has to play peace-maker and dry their tears.

And I am so tired...Is it wrong for me to feel this way? Am I really just an angry, selfish, immature twenty-something, as I have been suspecting all along? Is there something I could be doing to help that I haven't done all ready?

I don't mean to whine so, I just wanted to know...Honestly, is it natural to feel this way?

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yes and no. yes because you are put in so much stress and your tired i feel dat way some times 2 but compared 2 u i shouldn't b complaining lol.
no because your family needs you rite now .you have 2 support dem and help dem. soon every thing will be alrite. i hope so! and i hope i heiped you! please rate


okay, question. when a girl gets "wet" is it normal the next day for it to hurt down there?
thanks (link)
It hurts some girls and it doesn't hurt others. if it hurts you it's alrite it'll go. if it takes more than about 4 days you should see a doctor.


I am a 14 year old male.
i have asked this girl (anne, 14)on a date.
I have decided to take her to the local fair this Friday?
but i have never been on a date before.
I don't know where to begin!
I need a good ice breaker that will keep us talking the whole time.
I appreciate all advice.
All help is good.


also: should I end the date with a kiss?
I don't relly know how. i have never been kissed. (link)
yea u should end it wit a kiss if you really like her. it doesn't matter how you do it just as long as YOU DO IT. dont worry bout a lot of people havn't been on dates b 4.2 keep da conservation goin talk bout your friends and her friends or ask her questions.




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