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I am a female graduate student, in a program where the vast majority of students are female. Last year, I met one of my classmates, who I thought was a nice person, only to find out she is mentally unstable and a total nightmare. Long story short, she is manipulative, controlling, obsessive, paranoid, insanely perfectionistic, a pathological liar, and highly insecure. She comes across as very sweet, but what people don't see, is that she is the total opposite in reality. If you do one tiny, miniscule little thing to get on her bad side, she will literally give you hell.
I lived with her for several months, during which time, I inevitably got on her bad side. She did not talk to me, pretended to be nice (nauseatingly so) to me in front of other people, broke one of my things, hid her silverware and the kitchen trash can in her room, literally hoarded her groceries in her room, accused me of stealing her mail, lied to the landlord about me...Well, I finally left, and it's the best decision I made all year.
But, I can't stop thinking about her. I used to be friends with a couple of girls, who she got to side with her, so now, things are just not the same. Everyone adores her, but no body knows her, and it pains me to even think of it. She is literally mentally ill, but she is the total expert at hiding it, and makes everyone else look bad in the process. The thing that kills me, is that she has a throng of people who think she is such a little sweetheart, when in reality, she is a venomous snake, and they just can't see it. But I saw the red flags early on.
Anyway, I think about how much she has hurt and bothered me all the time. I can't stand seeing her in class, and it pains me to see my old friend (who is a nice person), so close to her, and so distant from me. This has negatively impacted my well-being, my studies...it's this constant gray cloud. Any thoughts and advice are greatly appreciated.
Hello!
Well you can't do much to make people realize that you are the better person of the two. But heres some advice.
You can't do much so just try your best. You are done with her, you aren't in her nightmare anymore, you aren't living with her anymore, so just find new people. I'm sure not everyone likes her or thinks she is all that great.
Try talking to people. Don't spread rumors or anything, just tell them what she did to you and who she is, because fake people are not appreciated even in college.
Try to talk to the friend that is super close to her but so distant from you. I know how you feel when that happens, numourosly to me as well. If she doesn't realize what she is doing to you, then you don't need her. You sound like a great and wonderful person, don't let people walk all over you.
Good luck.
me and my girl friend just broke up after 7yrs we have 2 kids togther and have been seporated for 6 months but i still love her and tell her so. just the other day she told me she was still so in love with me and dont no why she says shes tryed everything to not be in love with me but she cant what would u say to that u think its just head games she had tears and everything hard to no she lies alot
The only way to know if she is truly lying is if you look inside your heart. Of course you don't want a partner where you can't tell if they are lying or not, that is not good. But just look into your heart. No one can tell you what to say or do. Only you can. Did you guys have 7 wonderful years together? or was it all just full of lies and fighting? If you were truly happy and if she was truly happy then maybe it was love. But only you can know for sure. So just take some time. Honestly, in my opinion, you don't want
someone who left you with your two children.
Good luck!
Okay this may be kinda long , well i was dating this guy for almost 3 years off and on, we have literally been thru hell in back because of our ex's, friends and family, basically we were stupid and insecure. Anywho we found out that he was moving out of state with his fam and he wanted me to come but his family didnt like me that much because they thought i was taking him away and that i wasnt in love with him like i said which was a lie. Well i went to visit him after he left for bout a month and everything went good family loved me and everything but then we started fight alot over lil old stuff that i found out he lied about and i told him that if we break up we are done for good, he told me he loved me and needed me so we was on the same note but he decided to come back with me to our home town so i left him with his fam for the weekend next time i see him he was different he had a nervous break down which they tried to blame on me but it happen with them NOT me. Well i stayed by his side NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED. I was yelled at cussed at feeling hurt heart broken and i still stayed by him everyday but he broke up with me. They finally went back and i started kinda talkin to another guy and when he seen it on my page he blew up and said i cheated and we were together and crap even tho i didnt talk to him in a week. I apologized but then my friend wrote me and made it worse so he deleted me FOR GOOD and because he knew that it would hurt he tried to flirt with my best friend over the internet knowin i was probably right there. I wrote him and wrote him, NOTHING! So outta know where he wrote me asking if i was pregnant months later and even had his ma ask but after that i heard nothing. Its been a year now and i jus seen his pictures on his sister page and start crying. His was my first love and i was his plus i took his virginity. Even tho he hurt me and i hurt him my feeling are still STRONG and it hurts , idk if he's with somebody or not but i miss him soooooo bad it hurts. So what do i do? Everyone say let go but i been trying for a year no luck and he still lives in another state but im moving there wit my sister this summer. Someone please help idk what to do im lost without him. Oh by the way 19/f and sorry so long. Merry Christmas.
Merry Christmas! :) and no problem, it wasn't that long.
So, as I was reading this I had a lot of thoughts run through my head. The first was "People don't hurt you if they love you." BUT i have had some people be hurt with me and hurt me because they were hurt. If that makes sense.
The next thought was that "you tried to make it work and it just didn't." Moving to where he is is just going to make it worse for you to try and get over him. I'm caught between two decisions:
1: move on to someone else. Chances are there is someone out there. Their family will love you and you won't have to fight as hard to hold on, it'll just come naturally.
2: Try one more time. If that doesn't work. Then its done. You don't have to try that hard because he obviously makes no effort in the relationship.
In my opinion: I would go with the first. I have been in your decision. And I am still trying to talk to my ex boyfriend, not to get ahold of him but just to talk. Anyways, I wish that I would have just moved on. I did, and I am happy, and chances are you will find someone too.
Hope you feel better soon.
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Okay so I am in a place were it's really cold out side so we aren't going outside unless it's something outrageously fun haha. What are some things me and my friend can do tomorrow when she comes over? Out of the ordinary things like truth or dare or nails and hair... Somehings that are realllyyyyy fun for just the two of us. Also we can't leave the house so something we can do when we are at home. Please don't say make something or something.. Some realllyyyyy awesome things! Thanks!!!
Play truth or dare! That's always fun. Is there stairs? I heard people do this before. Take a mattress and slid down the stairs, :) There isn't much things you can do indoors that is REALLY fun! BUT try those things. Theres also the possibility of prank calling people for fun or making up a game. :)
Have fun!
My boyfriend and i have started having sex we are 16 we were both virgins and my boyfriend has a little trouble getting an erection i give him handjobs and it takes a while to get him hard and when we have sex his penis goes soft after a few minutes and i cant get him hard again hes a bit embarrased about it what can we do to get him to last longer?
Well the problem probably lies with him. Usually people go soft when they think about things that they don't like. His mind is probably wandering. Maybe he is a little insecure about himself and that tends to be a problem with erections. Talk to him about it openly and tell him it isn't anything to be embarassed about. :)
me and my bogfriend had sex today and yeaterday twice and he came in me each time . is it a great chance i will be a soon to be mother ? Or are my chances slim ?
If you aren't taking anything for pregnancy and if it was unprotected sex then your chances are high. However, there is also the "time of the month" thing where you can only get pregnant at a certain time of the month.
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So my ex's 18th birthday was a while ago and we used to fight and hate each other but recently we apologized and agreed to forget about the past and get along and be friends/there for each other. I didn't treat him the greatest and I feel really bad about it.. Any ideas on a bday present I can get him or make him? I want to give him something that shows that he means a lot to me. So nothing flirty (I have a boyfriend) nothing slutty or immature or cheap. Something that says "you mean a lot to me and I care about you as a person and I will always be here for you" but remember it can't be romantic because I have a boyfriend. Budget is less than 40 dollars please! I'm 18.
How about you write a letter to him and put it into a card? Then he will always have something to read if he gets lonely and he ran remember how much he means to you.
Also you could just by him a shirt and put something on the inside that says "you mean a lot to me" and then the date you gave him the shirt, that way when he finds it he'll know. :)
Well I'm a 18 year old girl, and for awhile now I've noticed that everytime I see a pregnant woman I get very fascinated with her figure. I'm not really sure what my sexuality is, I can get turned by men and women...even trannies. Just the thought of getting close to someone as a very good friend and then falling in love, I guess is a bit of a turn on too. During my freshman year I was experiencing health issues, that 'caused me to go to night school along with other students such as, pregnant teens. I was so amazed and wanted to rub their bellys at all time...lmao
I became good friends with this one girl who was pregnant, it started off awkwardly since I was so very turned on by her overall physical look. Huge potbelly, and she was very thin and tall...like a lamp....with a basketball glued to it. LOL"
I've always been blunt about things, so naturally I told her she looked beautiful pregnant and I'd pay massive amounts of money just to bathe her and her belly...Yeah, I'm a bit of a creep. But she laughed and said she wasn't a lesbian. Hah, still didn't stop me from telling her how she turned me on, and how I'd um...yeah. Anyways, the year went by and we got very close, she said oddly enough she never saw herself with another woman, she admitted to have fallen for me at some point. I was so amazed...and happy, lmfao (;
We dated for a year, but then she moved :( and since we were both only 15, we couldn't do much about it. These past years, people keep telling me I act like a guy. And women keep falling for me, which is weird...and men keep saying my boyish ways turn them on...I'm not sure what my question is. I sortah lost it...nice, but yeah. What might be the reason for this? Someone told me maybe I had a higher testosterone level than most woman...I'm very girly looking, not butch or lesbian looking at all, haha. I'm always attracted to older looking men, and younger looking girls, not like 12 year olds though. Sheesh, I like a full set of breast, lol.
Anyway, I guess my question is basically.
1. Why am I so attracted to a pregnant woman's body?
and
2.Am I just a freak?
It sounds like to me that you may be bisexual because both girls and guys turn you on.
1: That is just something you are attracted to. Some people have weird turn ons, some people have common ones. One of yours are pregnant woman. :)
2: No, you are not a freak. You can't help that you are turned on by older men and younger girls, and pregnant woman. It is just how you are.
I'm the type of person who likes to use condoms. I feel like it's a lot safer than plan b after unprotected sex. But I was always curious, what if someone had unprotected sex and someone pulled out of came inside, which ever one and they take plan b right afterwards and after rinsing and urinating?? Would they still be safe? I know there's always a chance of pregnancy, but how much of a chance will there be?
I see all the time that there are people that have unprotected sex and the day afterwards they take plan b and they're fine.
So, is the pull out method and plan b or the coming inside and plan b can decrease your chances of getting pregnant?
The "pull out and plan b" is a lot safer if you don't want to get pregnant. BUT there is always a chance of STDs if there is unprotected sex. Usually plan b works very well even if someone came inside of you, but if you want to be absolutely certain have the guy pull out.
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Hello! :) i'm pretty busy right now, but if you need someone to talk to just email me hun.
immortalfaith4@Yahoo.com
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What stage do you talk your parents about being gay? im 16 male ill be 17 next month and my boyfriend and i have been together over 9 months we are great together we are really in love and weve talked about coming out but im not sure if im ready yet im not sure how my parents will react my dad is a bit old fashioned so he might not take it well so i dont want it cause problems my boyfriend and i love each other a lot i proud that im gay so im a bit nervous about telling them so how do i talk to them about it?
Okay :) Well just come out! Tell them you need to talk to them, set a date where you guys are absolutely alone and there will be no interupptions. Tell them you need to talk to them about something very important and you aren't sure how they will react. And then just say "I'm gay...and I've been dating someone for 9 months...I wasn't sure how you would react...but you still love me don't you?" And then that should fix it all. No matter how they react though they DO still love you :) you are their son, you always will be.
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You answered my original question. I'm 12 & I have a major crush on this really hot guy in my science class. His best friend keeps telling me he's gay. This has been going on for a month now so I don't think he's kidding. Now his other friends are saying he likes me & their all pressuring me. I have no idea what to do & I think about this guy all the time.
Okay :)
Well, it seems to me like his best friend is just being stupid and spreading rumors about his friend. Some friend huh? :P You should always go with the people that seem more reasonable. Like the friends that are telling you he likes you. Don't ever feel pressured. Just talk to the guy. :) Maybe write him a message online or something, that always helps. You obviously REALLY like this guy, and he may like you, so just go for you. You have nothing to lose but a lot to gain! :)
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I am 12 & have fallen in love. He's all I think about. I can be doing math & find a way to incorporate him into it. One of my friends (his best friend) keeps telling me he's gay but I don't know what to believe.
Never assume. Some people just like making their friends a part of a joke. Just talk to him. Don't be rude about it, just ask nicely and say "It is okay if you are..."
Good luck.
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can your hair thin out from std
No, I don't think so. :P Only more serious diseases will make your hair thin.
What kind of scales are accurate?
What kind of scales are accurate?
Are dial scales accurate? I have a dial scale and my weight goes up and down all day everyday. When I get on doctors scales my weight is different, but they always way me with my shoes on. One time I went to the doctor and the said I weighed 151, then I went to another doctor and they said I weighed 149, but my scale at home always goes from 142 to 146 to 148 everyday and its been doing that for a long time. What scales are accurate and how much do they cost?
Really, no scale is accurate because they all say different things. But the scales doctors use are pretty accurate considering they need accurate ones. But like you said, you went to two different doctors and you weighed different. It's all about how much you move when on the scale. Never wear shoes. So a scale like at the doctor's probably around 100 dollars. BUT there are also good dial scales out there, the ones that move up aren't good. But dial scales are pretty good. Don't weigh yourself three times a day, weigh yourself at the same time everyday but not after you eat.
Well see I'm thinking about doing softball for highschool but I'm unsure bc the play is in the spring time same time as softball season and I kinda wanna do the play more but softball ikinda want to do that I'm a freshamn so I don't know if I'll make the play so should I do softball or school play? Also I kinda wanna do softball bc I have friends on the team and this boy I like plays baseball well which one do you think more???
You should do both why not? :) Usually, in a play, you get a spot no matter what. Even if it is off stage because no one wants anyone to feel like they aren't good enough. If you can do both you should do both :) But you sound like you want to do the play more. You can speak to your crush anytime :) and you can talk to your friends anytime as well.
What do I want for my 21 st birthday
How about some things for your car (new radio, new seat covers, etc) or new clothes :) you could also ask for something you have been dying to get.
i will start fitness to increse my strength and get more stronger, what kind of food should i be aeting and any support as medicament
Don't eat processed food and avoid a lot of sugar. Like, for instance: only eat the real butter not the "It taste like butter!" crap. Eat mulit-grain bread and all fruits and vegatables are good for you. Also, eat a lot of different kinds of red meat. That is always good for you. Eggs are also good for you because they supply a lot of protein. :) Good luck! You will do amazing.
:)
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I just got married six weeks ago. I am 29, my husband is 8 years older than me. Anyway, I am feeling very overwhelmed. I never have any alone time, I just moved into his apartment as well. I should feel happy but I feel so overwhelmed....
Some people, going into a new marriage, feel more overwhelmed than they do happy.
Just make some alone time for yourself. Hangout with some girlfriends or go shopping, or tell your husband you need some alone time. He'll understand if you talk to him and share your feelings with him.
Good luck
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soo.. SUPER long story short: Matt is a guy ive been seeing for over 2 years on and off unnificially. at first it was just a friends with benefits deal but then we developed feelings for eachother, and he told me that first, feeling the feelings more for me than i do for him. any ways we had a fall out and he asked some girl to his homecoming without telling me even though he wasnt aloud to take someone from a different school (which i go to). thats not the first thing hes lied about like being kicked off of football for smoking and some other stuff which we've gone over. anyways, i havnt talked to him for a while and its killing him. he texted me literally every day asking to hang out. if im with someone he doesnt want to hang out though. i confronted him about that and about how he said that he liked me but doesnt wanna hang out if its not the two of us. and he said its just weird acting how we do in front of my friends. but not his. we got in a fight about that last night. i still have feelings for him but he just wont let me get over him. he has a rough life, not even living at home and im the only person who is truely important to him. i dont know what to do. i still care so much about him and want to hang out. but i feel like his feelings will never change for me. :( i need help.
Well usually when people see each other and develop feelings for each other, those feelings never go away, you're right. Some guys are uncomfortable acting any way around a girls friends, but not their own because it is more comfortable and more safe for them. Just text him and ask him to hangout one day, just the two of you. Talk to him about all this that you just said on here....if things still go no where..you can still be friends. Things will get better for him later on and it'll be easier to do whatever you want with you.
Good luck
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