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cant fall out of love . super long!
Okay this may be kinda long , well i was dating this guy for almost 3 years off and on, we have literally been thru hell in back because of our ex's, friends and family, basically we were stupid and insecure. Anywho we found out that he was moving out of state with his fam and he wanted me to come but his family didnt like me that much because they thought i was taking him away and that i wasnt in love with him like i said which was a lie. Well i went to visit him after he left for bout a month and everything went good family loved me and everything but then we started fight alot over lil old stuff that i found out he lied about and i told him that if we break up we are done for good, he told me he loved me and needed me so we was on the same note but he decided to come back with me to our home town so i left him with his fam for the weekend next time i see him he was different he had a nervous break down which they tried to blame on me but it happen with them NOT me. Well i stayed by his side NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED. I was yelled at cussed at feeling hurt heart broken and i still stayed by him everyday but he broke up with me. They finally went back and i started kinda talkin to another guy and when he seen it on my page he blew up and said i cheated and we were together and crap even tho i didnt talk to him in a week. I apologized but then my friend wrote me and made it worse so he deleted me FOR GOOD and because he knew that it would hurt he tried to flirt with my best friend over the internet knowin i was probably right there. I wrote him and wrote him, NOTHING! So outta know where he wrote me asking if i was pregnant months later and even had his ma ask but after that i heard nothing. Its been a year now and i jus seen his pictures on his sister page and start crying. His was my first love and i was his plus i took his virginity. Even tho he hurt me and i hurt him my feeling are still STRONG and it hurts , idk if he's with somebody or not but i miss him soooooo bad it hurts. So what do i do? Everyone say let go but i been trying for a year no luck and he still lives in another state but im moving there wit my sister this summer. Someone please help idk what to do im lost without him. Oh by the way 19/f and sorry so long. Merry Christmas.
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Merry Christmas! I know how you feel....and I'm 19 too. If you want to be in a long distant relationship with this guy you need to really think about this long and hard. You've went out with this guy for 3 years, maybe your feelings for him are getting old and so are his. But whatever the case, you can either find a new guy start fresh with someone. Or date him. It's your choice. I wouldn't do a long distant relationship because it's just too hard and I love seeing the guy I'm in love with a lot. I understand that you've had a lot of history together but I think you need to either live near him or break it off completely. Be strong and move on. He may not be the one for you and another guy might want to date someone as special as you. Don't talk to him first, let him make the decision. Good luck girl :)
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Merry Christmas! :) and no problem, it wasn't that long.
So, as I was reading this I had a lot of thoughts run through my head. The first was "People don't hurt you if they love you." BUT i have had some people be hurt with me and hurt me because they were hurt. If that makes sense.
The next thought was that "you tried to make it work and it just didn't." Moving to where he is is just going to make it worse for you to try and get over him. I'm caught between two decisions:
1: move on to someone else. Chances are there is someone out there. Their family will love you and you won't have to fight as hard to hold on, it'll just come naturally.
2: Try one more time. If that doesn't work. Then its done. You don't have to try that hard because he obviously makes no effort in the relationship.
In my opinion: I would go with the first. I have been in your decision. And I am still trying to talk to my ex boyfriend, not to get ahold of him but just to talk. Anyways, I wish that I would have just moved on. I did, and I am happy, and chances are you will find someone too.
Hope you feel better soon.
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