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i didnt know what i should put this under but any ways... umm right now im visiting family. im going this saturday the 24 or 26 back home. Im in tennessee i live in maine. the car ride is like 24 hours long and we are drivign straight through. my question is what are somethings to do while im traveling? i have a book to read. music to listen to. a portable dvd player. and i have a laptop but it doesnt charge for long and i dont have money to get a car charger what should i do? i know that this is alot of stuff to do but it gets boring after a while. thankx in advance. :] (link)
what you can do is write things on a piece of paper like a church and a pool and then look for them and once you found them check them off of your paper. or play the ABC game.



My two best friends just recently started drinking over the summer. I have been away and just found out about this recently. I however, dont want to start drinking they are, I think it is pretty pointless and I dont need alcohol to have a good time. I KNOW that I am able to say no if I am put into a pressuring situation by them, but I am afraid our friendship isnt the same anymore. It seems like they want to move on to bigger and better things, but they truly are my best friends in the world. What do I do? 15/f (link)
Good Job! You are right you don't need alcohol to have a good time. What you need to do is follow your heart and that will lead you to the right decision. Good Luck!!



Im very into technology and I have a slightly embarassing question. I have to send a letter from Rhode Island to California. How many stamps do I put on it? How much do I pay for stamps? I've no idea.

Thank You! (link)
If you want to send a letter from Rhode Island to California and you don't know how many stamps to put on i suggest that you go to your post office. They can answer all of your questions that you have. Hop ei helped!!

Alli


My room has lots of junk and somethings are special to me but all they do is sit there and get all dusty!any good cleaning tips???
thanx,
Jaime (link)
Try putting things in rubbermaid containers and put them in your attic, basement, or even under your bed. So you still have them.



I dont really need advice. I just want to ask you how you got your background. Please and thankyou! my username is music_luvr717 (link)
What I did was I went to column settings and then I could pick what background I wanted and then I clicked on it and then I had it there.



i think my sibling may be bulimic. she has alot of the signs. i dont know how to confront her. or how to help her. im scared though.
any advice would be great. or anyone else who has been in the situation wanna share a story??? (link)
I believe your best bet is to tell your mother and then take her to the doctor. THen he can tell you if she is or not.



okay so for the past 9 months i have been using dandruff shampoo my dandruff isnt bad but when i scratch my scalp tiny flakes come off and my tiny dandruff is still there after 9 months and ive switched shampoos twice and im not sure whats wrong. I have to scratch my scalp in order for the dandruff to come off but sometimes my head bleeds and its just really annoying me so if anyone has any suggestions tell me. (link)
OMG(oh my goodness) I have the exact same problem and I as well use dandruff shampoo. However if teh smapoo is not working then maybe you need to get your head more cleaner(I am not saying that your head it dirty) I am saying maybe you are just cleeaning your hair with the shampoo. Sop nedxt time try getting your scalp included in the washing as well.



I met this guy at a party back in May. I knew him before but didn't really like him, but this party made me think he was a decent enough person. I wasn't attracted to him in a romantic sense though. Anyway, he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. He was okay at first, but then I started hating him. He is really immature. I tell him that I don't like him at all and to leave me alone, but he won't stop. He calls me about 394834 times a day and at odd times since he knows I'm awake a lot. He even calls the house phone where my parents are sleeping at 4am. One time I went to the store and there were twenty seven new calls on the phone. Going to the police isn't an option because I'm not exactly their favorite person ever. I've told him many times but he just won't listen. The only reason he talks to me is because he thinks my interests will fit in with his image. It's pathetic. He pretends to like every movie and band I like, even if he knows nothing about them. How do I get him to leave me alone? (link)
You are teling him the wrong answer, he wants it to annoy you. So you are doing what he wants and so he will keep doing it only because he knows it bugs you. So next time when he calls say hellp and then hang up on him ir dont pick uop the phone at all. When he tries to talk to you...run away. There is alot of stuff you can do. But I agree this problem is not major enough for the police. Just next time act like it doesnt bother you and then he wont have a plan anymoore he will think that he should stop because he knows it wont bug you.



I'm 16 and desperate for a job. So I posted a "resume" online (even though I had almost nothing to put on it), and someone e-mailed me with a job at Home Depot. They said that the job was in marketing and I would only work weekends.

My question: what is marketing? What do you think I would be doing at Home Depot and do you think I'll be one of those people who has to lift wood and other heavy stuff (I'm not very strong)? Thank you! (link)
Marketing is not a fun job. You should do something that you like to do. Sure you have a dream of something. If you believe it good enough, IT WILL COME TRUE! IF you follow yourr heart and do what you want to do, then you will feel so much better. I am starting small though, such as babysitting or selling jewelry. Something small then live up to your dream.



so I used to cut myself--bad
not just a littl red mark
these deep gauges in my skin
but I got over it and battled it.
and won.

But I still have the aftermath and the embarrasment of scars on my thigs/shoulders.
is there any creams or lotions that I could put on them to help the scars fade away? (link)
No. There is not anything you can do to help it. You need to face your consequences, you did something like that and now you have to pay for what you did. I am glad you go over it and won but now you need to pay fro what you did.



hi im 18 years old and ever since i was about 6 and started painting my nails and that same day or after i eat the nail polish off my nails like i peel it off with my teeth. I have been doing it ever since and i told my aunt and shes like you STILL do that you can get stomach cancer or another crazy diesese! is this true?? how bad is it for you?? please help (link)
It is bad for you because of the chemicals that are in it. it can be bad for your stomach esecially if you swallow. You coudl get a bad diesease from it because of the chemicals and different things that are in it.




My boyfriend has a friend thats having a party next Saturday. She used to like him andhe used to like her. I want to go because I don't trust her. He said I could go if I wanted but he didn't ask me directly. What can I say to him to invite me without thinking I don't trust him?
14/F
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You can ask him to do something different that same night and then if he says yes take him to a movie. If that doesnt work maybe go with him and be with him the whole time and is he asks why you are leechy say kinda sadly maybe pretend to start to cry and say "I just dont want to lose you to the other girl". But if he really likes you, you can trust him and he can trut you.



Hey guys, I need some help here. I want to know if any of these are signs that my guy friend likes me.
There's this other creep at my school who sometimes hangs out with all of us at lunch. The other day my friend had to go do something in the classroom, so he wasn't there yet. This creep, we'll call him...'Sean'...ran up to me and grabbed me and said: 'I need to ask you a personal question. Are you going with anyone to the Sadie Hawkins dance?' When I said no, he asked me friend and my other friend. Anyway, later on I told my guy friend about it and he sort of got protective-like, and wanted to know if I'd said yes to 'Sean'. I said no, and he asked if I had a date, then sort of playfully suggested I go with him. Aside from the fact that the guys at my school have the Sadie concept all wrong, I'd like to know if he might like me. (link)
I dont think thta means he likes you he just might be watching out for you to make sure you dont go out with the wrong gy and wind up haveing alot done to you. He asked you if you were going with anyone but didnt ask you there with him. But aside from hiim insisting that you go with him on a date I am not quite sure if he does like you or not like you. Most of the time you can really tell. Like they ask how your day was or somtrhing like that. I think he is just looking out for you.



Sorry, it's long but please read anyways!

Okay, so in 8th grade, I met some of the best friends I've ever had, and in was in 7th that I met my very bestest friend in the world wide world. Basically, 8th grade was like the year we knew who we were friends with and we loved each other and were crazy and it just felt like one big party. (drama included) Not trying to brag or anything, but I had ALOT of friends. I could go to like 5 different groups of friends and fit in perfectly.

The problem? I'm going into high school next year and everyone has said that you will loose alot of your friends from middle school. This is almost definitely going to happen especialy because we are like all really different. I really want us all to stay friends. It's almost as if I can't imagine life without my friends. I know I'll make new friends and everything but does anybody have any suggestions of how I can stay in touch will them and not loose them completely?

By the way, I am pretty busy after school with cross country and horseback riding and stuff.

Oh and please do not say "if they are your true friends, you wil find a way" because I just want suggestions. Thanks! (link)
Maybe you could call and ask them to do something with you and say i would like to go to teh movies or something like that. You canhelp this and try to geet back together again. You need to try if you dont do something then you will break apart and not to be mean bt it will be your fault. You need to try and call and make plans to be with them. Then you wills tart to get to know eachother better and be friends again.

Alli


I am going on vacation for a week and my neighbor has offered to water my garden and vegetables while we are gone. She is an older lady, not elderly but older. She lives next door, but we have a lot of land so it will be a hassle for her to come over and get out the hose, then roll it up again...but she offered and I need the help so I accepted.

My question is, I want to do something nice for her in return but I don't know what. I was thinking maybe a gift card to a grocery store or Wal Mart, but how much $$ is appropriate? Thanks for your advice! (link)
I think you should definately show your appreciation for your neighbor. A gift card is a good idea and I think that maybe 40$ is appropriate. It is hard for a lot of people to take care of a lot of land and especialy for an older lady. Maybe you should also bake her a cake or some other baked good. Hope I helped!!!
Alli


if u r babysitting wut r the phone #s u should have on hand

like umm dunno. ok 911. um pest control? no..um posion something or other?

i should know how to do first aid right? btw what is first aid - like help a choking person with the heimlich manuever and like CPR?? (link)
You should definatly have:
1)911
2)moms cell phone #
3)dads cell phone #
4)poisen control(if the kid ate something toxic)

Hope I helped! < Alli


I'm 16 and I'm fixing to have my 17th birthday (by the way, I'm female). I always have a party for my birthday. I'm having about ten people over and I need some advice on what to do for my party. I want something fun, but a little mature. I'm having it in my game room. It has a game table (like ping pong, air hockey, pool, etc), stereo, and tv. I'm inviting about 8 girls and 2 guys. Any suggestions as to things we can do at the party?? (link)
1) spin the bottle
2) board games( dont knwo how mature you want to get)
3) dance to music/sing

Hope I helped!! Alli


I have a month till i go back to to school and im going to be a senior. I need to get my senior pictures done professionally and before school starts back up.

I live in Brunswick maine.
And can any one give me any price ranges they will cost.

Thank you (link)
Oh! I didn't know it was going to be profesional. Usually profesional are $50. I think they shouldn't be over that maybe I am wrong though, like I said before i am not a senior.



Okay, so i'm a 14/f. About 4 months ago, i was 125 pounds, and i was disgusted with my body. So i decided i was going to lose weight. Well i chose the wrong path to take. I basicly cut down on food. Well, now i am 115 pounds. And today i realized something was wrong.

I was starving, and my friend, my boyfriend and my mom went to the mall, we ate there and i had about 4 peices of orange chicken and like 3 pieces of broccoli, and a fork full of rice, and i was full and i thought i was going to throw up because i was so full.

And I'm not like that, usually, i can eat pretty well. Is there any eatting disorder that can relate to this, because i'm 99% sure i'm not Bulemic or Anorexic.

And please don't say "just eat more", it's harder than you think.

Help please? (link)
I really don't know how to help you but I think you should go to a doctor. If you feel ashamed then you do have a problem( not to be affensiv )
You need to go to a doctor right away. Bulemia or anerexia is something that you may be able to get going through the natural process of life. So my #1 reccomendation is to go to a DOCTOR!

God Bless


did you know SOLE is actually SPELLED SOUL? (link)
Sole is spelled both ways. Sole is like the sole on a shoe. Soul is the thing you have inside of you, it is your soul. It is like what you believe in. Hope I helped!
Alli




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