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16/F i have feelings for one of my very good friends, and he likes this girl who i KNOW for a fact is going to break his heart. (i know her and cheered with her for about 7 years when i USED to cheer )i told him this and tried to enforce it so that he would not go for her. even though i do have feelings for him i am not telling him this for myself but for him. so my question is if i should tell him about liking him and maybe that could lean him off her. but everytime i like him he doesn't like me but when he likes me i don't like him it is very odd and he told me about two days ago that he could see me and him being together in the future and told me that he loved me as a friend and i was always there for him whenever he needed someone to talk to or brighten up his day.. so i'm getting mixed signals and i think i might want to play hard to get instead of just straight out telling him. what do you think? :) rate a 5 for anyone who replys reasonably
hey, well whether you tell him or not is completly up to you. ill list the pros and cons of telling him and not telling him. if you tell him then he will know how you feel. it will also feel good for you to know that you told him. but if you do tell him he might think that your just jealous. he also could think that your making it up just so that he and the girl wont go out. if you dont tell him then he wont know how you feel and youll still have the fact that you nevre told him all built up inside of you. whatever you do dont play hard to get. its good to do to flirt, but if your serious about this guy then it might just push him away. good luck =].
There is this Jack Black movie where he is a wrestler in Mexico (I think). Can you tell me the name of it? He always seems to be in funny movies.
Thanks a lot! :D
hey, its called nacho libre =].
Girl, 16: I broke up with my boyfriend three months ago. It was a very serious relationship, he's 18 and we were together for a year and a half. not very long but it felt right. but as all couples we had our share of problems and eventually we broke up. We began being friends but i guess it was too early. he told me that he still had feelings for me and we slept together. but thats when the arguements started to occur again. In the end i told him that i still love him, and i would be willing to make an effort in making it work, if he wanted. I asked him whether i was wasting my time and he told me that i moan at him constantly. I took that as a yes.
Time has past and its been hard. I got involved with another of my ex's. He told me that he loved me and by this time i had been feeling so alone. He was a year younger than me. Eventually i realised i had no feelings for him. But, unfair as it was, i carried on, hoping they would develop. This continued until new year's eve. Where I hadnt been seeing much of this person because i had been feeling bad about the first guy i spoke about. I was at a party and there was an old mate. He's 19 and gorgeous! Besides, I say mate but really i had obsessed about him from when i was 11 to when i was 14. I then bumped into him when i was with the first boyfriend i mentioned. We talked for ages and we have EVERYTHING in common. Some of my old feelings started to come back but i soon realised that it was the old me that was feeling them, and all it was was old feelings. I didnt see him again till this night. We talked and flirted the whole time. We left and walked to the park to watch the fireworks and when we were walking back we were walking through an alley and we made out loads. He kissed my neck and... it was everything i imagined it would be - after all that time.
So thats been life up to now. I broke things off with my ex (the second one). I told him about me and this guy and he forgave me instantly. Thats when i realised this wasnt fair at all and i should end things.
I have been feeling really good recently. Its because of this new guy i know it is. Problem is, well. I dont plan to fall for guys. I really dont. When i do it feels so good. Im really happy. But then something small happens. I basically find out that hes not perfect. I have no problem with that at all. I mean, its not like i expect him to be. But soemthing happens and it hurts a tiny bit. And the pain is enough to remind me why i dont get involved with guys in the first place. I mean, the vunerabilty, the jealousy the pain. I hate it all. It wasnt anything bad this time. I was talking to a friend about a girl my brother (20) went out with at some point and my friend mentioned she had slept with the guy i like. Obviously that happens and it doesnt bother me - but it was enough.
I dont have a question. I mean, until now my life has kinda been a big cloud of blurr and ive lost the will to complain. This is basically my last shot before i except it all. I dont know my problem, i dont have a question. Im just hoping that someone out there can give me some advice on how to sort this out, how to sort me out, and how to fix my life.
Sorry! and thanks xx
hey, i say that you take a break from all guys. just stay single for a little until you know what you want. this doesnt mean that you can flirt with any guys or anything. good luck =].
i got in touch with my dad last year after 8 years. one of my aunts (she's 28 i'm 18) use to call me all the time and w'e talk. she made me feel special i couldn't wait for the phone to ring! now the other day i called her and she said to call her the next day. i asked her y and she said i'm going to forget. i was bothered by this because she told me that whenever she wnats to tlk to ppl she makes time for them. she took me back and i don't think she should have told me that. i feel that since a year has passed she's acting different. when i first got my cell phone the first few days before it got messed up she never called. she would only say i'm going to call u tomorrow then i'd end up calling her instead and she'd always call her bf on the other line or they'd be talking already and she'd make it a three way. now i got my phone again and she never called she only returned my calls. i think it's unfair for her to expect me to call and she can't remember to call me anymore. i called her a few days after she told me that and she never called back. i think she's messed up to call at first and now she can't even remember no more
hey, well it takes two people to have a friendship. if shes not willing to attempt to keep communicating with you then forget her. you dont need people like that in your life. i know its hard to forget someone that you were once good friends with, but its for the best of you. good luck =].
okay so..im14/f and my boyufriend is 16. and over holiday break, his family went on vacation. they went on an 10 day cruise on the carribean. jealous? ya, me too. but while he was gone, new years happened. and i did something that i couldnt regret more. i hooked up with his best friend. but i couldnt really help it. we were at a house party. and it got crazy with liquor. and i drank. a lot. i was really wasted and out of it. but the point is, i have a very guilty conscience(?). i know that i wont feel okay untill i tell him. but how do you tell the person that you love with all of your heart that you cheated. how do you cheat on them in the first place. i feel dirty. hes the only person that i have ever been intimate with, and i know that i love him and he loves me back. its so hard to live with guilt. and i feel like a tramp. once again, how do i tell him. btw, hes incredibly strong and im sure he would hurt one of us. most likely the friend. what do i do to stop everything.
hey, i recently did the same thing to my boyfriend. now let me tell you that it was not easy at all. i just told him that i was drunk and that it was the biggest mistake of my life. i also told him that i love him very much and that he has a right to be mad at me and break up with me[i told him i hope he doesnt tho]. it was hard for him to forgive me at first. eventutally he did and now were back together. since your guy is usually angry it might be harder for him to accept the fact that you cheated. good luck =].
My best guy friend has this friend that's a girl that I highly dislike. They weren't friends from August til now. I think they're starting to be friends again, which really sucks for me. The reason he stopped being her friend in August was because she would keep bringing him places far away, like theme parks, etc. Then she'd leave without him knowing. I always went and got him, even when it was about 2 hours away. Why he wants to be her friend again I do not know. :/ How can I deal with this? For some reason it bothers me very much, to the point where I cry every night, hyperventilate and what not. I have told him, so what else can I do? Thank you.
hey, well you cant change his mind. whatever he decides, he decides. you can sure try to persuade him to do the right thing tho. explain to him that if she really was his friend then she wouldnt leave him. also if they were meant to be friends they would have stayed friends from the start and not have stopped talking for a short period of time. i know that you said that you already told him and had a talk with him, but theres nothing else that you can do unless you want to talk to the girl that you hate. if you decide to do that then explain to her that if she wants to be real friends with him that she shouldnt leave him places because real friends dont do that. good luck =].
There is this guy I'm interested in, and I am pretty sure he is interested in me.
The thing is, he is quite rebellious. He drives fast, gets into violent fights, and pretty much questions and ignores all authority.
He acts like he doesn't like anybody, and acts like he is emotionally disconnected from the world around him. Is this a macho act? I don't know for sure.
The thing is, I seem to be an exception to his normal rule. I want to be the exception (He is very hot). He seems to want to connect on a personal level with me, like I'm different from the rest.
What are your thoughts?
hey, well i think he likes you! you should ask him to hangout with you sometime AWAY FROM EVERYONE ELSE. if you hang out just you two he wont feel the need to show off. good luck =].
My boyfriend chews and he's trying to quit but he's having a really hard time..how are some ways that i can help him or maybe like incourage him that he can quit..(even tho i doubt he really will be able to quit) thanks soo much
hey, whatever you do dont keep pressuring him to quit. that will just annoy him and make him not want to quit even more. just be there for him if he ever needs you =].
Ok i wanna know like what are some cute things i can do with my boyfriend. Besides like kissing and holding hands and such. also what are some cute names i could call him? thanks!
hey, well you could compliment him. say he smells nice. dont overdue it tho. call him something cutsie that goes with his name like mikey muffin =].
Okay this might be a little confusing so I'm sorry if you dont get it. Okay I have three best friends Nina and Christina are girls and Luke is a guy. And Christina and Nina have known each other since they were three, and I have known this guy Chris since I was two.
Christina is in love with Chris who she's had a weird chemistry since they were four (they were each other's first crush,love, kiss ect).
Chris likes Nina he's been flirting with her all year and it got Christina really jealous.
Nina is starting to like Chris which makes Christina really mad.
So one day she started using Luke as a distraction telling people she likes him now and not Chris, but she told me she doesn't like Luke because she knows that I finally came out of denial about falling in love with him.
Then I went out of state for Christmas and I got a call from Nina telling me that her and Chris kissed! And when Christina found out she asked Luke out.She's just using him!!! She told me herself she doesn't like him like she likes Chris and I don't know if I should tell Luke or not because he's so fricking clueless he's doesn't even know I like him, let alone that Christina likes Chris!!!!!! What if he says yes? I don't think I can watch not only my crush but my best friend get hurt.
What should I do?!?!?!?!
Please say that's less confusing
hey, well whatever you do dont tell luke. that will just crush him completly and make him loose faith in all relationships from there on. you have to confront christina and tell her that what she is doing is selfish and uncalled for. tell her that if she was lukes real friend she would break up with him before she gets seriosuly hurt. dont do it in a mean and rude way because then she definately wont go for it. do it in the nicest way that you can possible. also tell christina that shes not going to get anything out of this situation. its not going to make chris like her anymore or make him jealous. its acutally probably going to push him away even more because she is going out with luke and he thinks that she is happy with luke. also tell her if chris is truly happy with nina then his feelings for her wont change for anyone -- not even her. good luck =].
I want to get my exhusband something for his birthday, but I don't know what! It could be something funny because he has a good sense of humor... But it also needs to be special. Some people don't care squat about their ex's but I want to let him know I'm glad we're still friends. Here's a little about him.
He loves country music (esp. Toby Keith) and plays guitar. He's great with kids and has a wonderful sense of humor. Um... I don't know what else to say!
hey, i think its great that you want to give your ex husband a gift! most people would not do that. i give you a lot of props. anyways you say that he has a good sense of humor. so that must mean that he likes commedians. get tickets to a comedy night somewhere and go with him. before you go to the comedy night go out to dinner. good luck =].
13/f
my little brother is serously adroable
hes 5 and hes into football and stuff
but he dosent like me. he loves my brother tho!! wat can i do to make him not hate me? like little stuff like playing with him. and what sgouldent i do??
hey, hes only five. im sure he doesnt hate you as such a young age. hes probably at that stage where "girls have cooties". since your his sister and your a girl hes not going to warm up to you as much as he does with his brother. just be as nice as you can to him. offer to play his favorite game with you. good luck =].
What is some nonperscription drugs i can get for my back, i think it's fractured and it feels like i've been gettin stabbed in the back by a screwdriver, i've been goin through it about 2 weeks now, its only getting worse, i cant take this pain, any thing to get rid of the pain, stuff like ibuprophin and bayer aren't helping
hey, well possibly having something wrong with your back is a serious matter. you should go to the hospital and get some xrays done to see what going on in there. from there they will be able to give you pain medication. good luck =].
How do you make a Relationship Last?
hey, well first off you need to have true feelings for each other. you need to be completly and truly in love with one another. after that you need to trust each other 100%. thats one of the biggest parts of a relationship -- trust. you need to have communication. that means you can talk to each other about everything and anything =].
15/f.
i'm 165lbs, 5'4.
i want to loose 20lbs for my new years resolution. i'm not entirily sure on how i can do this though. i like to eat, a lot. and i always intend(sp) to overeat, evenw hen i try not too. i've tried different types of diets, but they havn't exactly worked out for me. i need some different excersises also. do u know anything that can kill cravings so i won't want food? i heard that the pills are dangerious, so i don't really want to get into those.
any advice would be appreciated.
thanks in advance
hey, i believe you had a question about if your "fat" or not before. so im getting the impression that your the same person. anyways like i told you before you should be 120 pounds. im sorry, but im just telling you the truth. you asked for the advice, so im giving it. dont take the pills. there very bad for you and also very dangerous. keep yourself occupied by things so you wont want food as much. get involed in after school activities or sports. when you get the craving to eat, chew some gum. that way you will still be getting the chewing sensation without actually eating things that are bad for you. dont completly give up on food completly. you still need to eat no matter how much weight you want to loose. what i mean about chewing the gum is that when youve had enough food that day and your still hungry thats when you should use the gum trick. i wish you luck =].
As much as I try, I can never blow dry my hair as good as they do at the salon I go to. I have a good dryer and a big rolly brush. Im pretty sure Im doing it the right way, but any tips?
hey, well no one ever can so dont worry its not just you. its because the hair dressers can see/reach the back of your hair to blow it out nice. do you blowout your hair everyday? if not then you could ask your sister or mom to do it for you when you want to blow out your hair =].
okay, i'm waayyy overthinking this but i was just sitting and i looked at the question titled: bearshare and that somehow led to bear hugs and i thought "what exactly are bear hugs.."
haha so what are they and how do i get one from guys deviously lol
hey, bear hugs are long tight hugs =].
13/f
I am always stuck watching my baby brother. He just turned 11 months [today]. I get so freaking stressed out all of the time because of him. I realize that he is just a baby, but you have no idea on how much its breaking me down. I don't even get to hang out with my friends as much as I used to. He bangs on my laptop when I'm sitting on the couch and he even shut off my laptop by picking at my power button and shutting it off while I was typing a paper that took ONE HOUR TO TYPE. I mean, I realize that he's a baby, but he drives me insane. It's not easy when you're 13 years old and just want to enjoy being a teenager. I constantly have to take on responsibilities of a 20 year old by watching him.
I watch him Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. My mom is a waitress at the local restaurant so I watch my baby brother from 4 PM to 11 PM. That's 7 hours. I mean, my mom gives me money for watching him. But sometimes, it's not even about the money. It's just much emotional turmoil I'm going through. He needs constant attention. The only free time that I get to myself is when he's sleeping. I have to change his diaper 4 times a day. I have to feed him. Its like he's MY baby. We need the money [my mom sometimes works double shifts] for Argentina because we will be going for a month and my parents obviously won't be getting payed. Anyways, it's just like sometimes I feel like ripping my hair out and screaming at the top of my lungs because this is how much Viggo makes me crazy inside. I've tried to breath and not go crazy, but it's hard if you're stuck watching him for 7/8 hours a day. Even when my mom is here, there is always SOME way I have to watch him.
hey, well im sorry you have to deal with this at such a young age. i give you props for it because i myself am thirteen and i know that if i ever had to do that i would loose my mind. anyways ask your mom if you can maybe bring over another relative to help you babysit. maybe a cousin or something. just explain to her that watching the baby all that time alone can get pretty lonely and hard. i wouldnt ask your mom to bring a friend to help babysit because she would probably think that you guys would goof out and not watch the baby. so i think that you have a better shot with asking about a relative. good luck =].
This is going to sound completely crazy maybe, and I'm only 15/Female, and I dont plan on having sex until I'm married. But it hurts for me to wear tampons even, and even if I get the petite size, it doesnt go in all the way and like an inch of it sticks out. Its embarssing because does that mean sex will hurt really bad? I know its supposed to hurt either way. But i think my youknow.. is just .. small? i dont know it this makes anysense at all.
hey, well are you a new user to tampons? if so than the first few times that you use them there suppose to feel uncomfortable because you have never had anything stay inside of you before. are you inserting the tampon in right? a lot of the petite size tampons have directions on how to insert tampons in the boxes. try reading it and see if your doing it correctly. if the problem is neither of those and your vagina is just tight and little then you could try using the regular sized tampons to make your vagina bigger for a more comfortable insert. good luck =].
Okay this might be a little confusing so I'm sorry if you dont get it. Okay I have three best friends N and CR are girls and L is a guy. CR is in love with C who she's had a weird chemistry since they were four. C likes N and N is starting to like C which makes CR really mad so she started using L as a distraction and she knows that I've been like in love with him for two years. Now when CR found out N and C kissed she asked L out and she's just using him!!! She told me herself she doesn't like him like she likes C and I don't know if I should tell L or not because he's so fricking clueless he's doesn't even know I like him!!!!!!
What should I do?!?!?!?!
(I need something)
hey, that is very confusing! i want to help you tho. if you change the c and the cr and the ls to actual names [like bob and fran], then i will be able to help you. if you want to resend it to my inbox! =].