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Girl, 16: I broke up with my boyfriend three months ago. It was a very serious relationship, he's 18 and we were together for a year and a half. not very long but it felt right. but as all couples we had our share of problems and eventually we broke up. We began being friends but i guess it was too early. he told me that he still had feelings for me and we slept together. but thats when the arguements started to occur again. In the end i told him that i still love him, and i would be willing to make an effort in making it work, if he wanted. I asked him whether i was wasting my time and he told me that i moan at him constantly. I took that as a yes.
Time has past and its been hard. I got involved with another of my ex's. He told me that he loved me and by this time i had been feeling so alone. He was a year younger than me. Eventually i realised i had no feelings for him. But, unfair as it was, i carried on, hoping they would develop. This continued until new year's eve. Where I hadnt been seeing much of this person because i had been feeling bad about the first guy i spoke about. I was at a party and there was an old mate. He's 19 and gorgeous! Besides, I say mate but really i had obsessed about him from when i was 11 to when i was 14. I then bumped into him when i was with the first boyfriend i mentioned. We talked for ages and we have EVERYTHING in common. Some of my old feelings started to come back but i soon realised that it was the old me that was feeling them, and all it was was old feelings. I didnt see him again till this night. We talked and flirted the whole time. We left and walked to the park to watch the fireworks and when we were walking back we were walking through an alley and we made out loads. He kissed my neck and... it was everything i imagined it would be - after all that time.
So thats been life up to now. I broke things off with my ex (the second one). I told him about me and this guy and he forgave me instantly. Thats when i realised this wasnt fair at all and i should end things.
I have been feeling really good recently. Its because of this new guy i know it is. Problem is, well. I dont plan to fall for guys. I really dont. When i do it feels so good. Im really happy. But then something small happens. I basically find out that hes not perfect. I have no problem with that at all. I mean, its not like i expect him to be. But soemthing happens and it hurts a tiny bit. And the pain is enough to remind me why i dont get involved with guys in the first place. I mean, the vunerabilty, the jealousy the pain. I hate it all. It wasnt anything bad this time. I was talking to a friend about a girl my brother (20) went out with at some point and my friend mentioned she had slept with the guy i like. Obviously that happens and it doesnt bother me - but it was enough.
I dont have a question. I mean, until now my life has kinda been a big cloud of blurr and ive lost the will to complain. This is basically my last shot before i except it all. I dont know my problem, i dont have a question. Im just hoping that someone out there can give me some advice on how to sort this out, how to sort me out, and how to fix my life.
Sorry! and thanks xx
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hey, i say that you take a break from all guys. just stay single for a little until you know what you want. this doesnt mean that you can flirt with any guys or anything. good luck =].
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Hey,
i am so sorry for everything you are going through.
Here is my advice from personal experience. I am not trying to tell you what to do so by all means do as you will. But my advice to you is leave all guys and get to know you! What i did is i moved, but you dont have to do something so drastic. Make a pact with yourself, no guys, until you know you and what you want.
Just take a break of all the guys and the drama and the pain... Be single and mingle! Learn who you are and the right person will come. Even if you feel alone, do not give in.
By doing that you will be over the past feelings and have a fogless life!
Hope i've helped!
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