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My older brother's birthday is coming up and I have no idea what I should get him. He's turing 24 and I want to make this gift a good one. Not one of those younger sibling gifts which are cute but are never used or kept as an important gift that he actually likes. Last year I got him a pocket knife and he carries it around all the time. (wasn't cheap) (recently got him shot glasses so that's out of the question) I want to get him something good that he'll actually appreciate and tell I put some thought into it. Cost doesn't matter as long as it's under $300. Please, what should I get him??? Any ideas???
First I must say that you sound like a wonderful little sister! He is quite a lucky guy. At the age of 24 guys are hard to buy for. It really depends on his interests. Does he like football? If so maybe you can get him a pair of tickets to see his favorite team. Even though it's not 'in season' yet, it will be soon and it would be something he would look forward to. If he's not into football maybe concert tickets to his favorite band. If this doesn't help, let me know some of the things he enjoys to do then I will be able to help much better. Good luck girlie =)
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hello, a few weeks ago i was dumped by my girlfriend and i hardily ever get to see her, i brought her a valentines present and its a quite expensive neckless.
i now hav found somone else i like but she has a boy friend and its her birthday friday and i was wonderin if i should give her my ex's preasant or wait until i see my ex and give it to her. if i choose to wait to give it too my ex i wont see her for months anyway. but it might be pointless giving it to this new girl i like because she has a boy friend
hope you can help thanks x
My advice to you is to hold on to the necklace. Don't give it to this girl (the one with a boyfriend) right now because it's probably bad time. A necklace like that is something you give to someone who you are in a relationship with. I wouldn't necessarily suggest giving it to your ex either. Hold on to it until 'that special moment' with 'that special girl'. It may be neither of these girls. I wish you the best of luck dear! You seem like a great guy who is definitely going to make some lucky girl happy. Hold on to that necklace because I know that one day you will be happy you held it for the future person you are to be with =) Good luck and let me know how things go!
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i have been trying lots of things for my under-eye bags, and nothing seems to work. Ive tried cucumbers, cold tea bags, cold spoons everything. I cant really get a good sleep, because i have to wake up really early and it gets dark at like 9:30 so i cant really go to bed earlier. ANYWAY I was wondering if I put tan cream under my eyes, would it just turn orange and not cover up the purpleish-blue, or would it help??
Thanks:)
I personally would suggest putting a tan cream under your eyes. I have the same problem with dark circles (it is hereditary in my family). This is a website I used to help me. The blistex thing (under tips) really worked well for me. Check it out and see if it can maybe help you too. Let me know =)
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Black-Circles-Under-Your-Eyes
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My sister is 12 years old and is the biggest BITCH everrr. OMG she has a huge bad attitude. It’s soo annoying..i’m 15 and I’m nice to her and everything. And when she asks me for something and she’s keeps saying please I’ll let her…but omgg she is such a bitch, like if I’m like hey can you get me something…she’s like “no, you never do anything for me”..i’m like WTF I do soo many things for you…and if she gets in trouble for doing something and I did something a while back that I was’nt supposed to she’ll rat it out to my parents that way both of us are in trouble. And I’m the one in more trouble to…she’s also a spoiled brat…like she has a cellphone and contacts and she’s only in 6th grade….i had to wait till 8th grade to get mine….so basically..she’s does’nt respect anyone in my family…like she does’nt have respect for me, my mom, my dad, or even my grandma…like we don’t really ever do anything to her…she just does’nt have respect…I don’t know what to do with her…like I really don’t know….i tell her she has a bad attitude and all she says is so do you…and if I raise my voice at her she’ll be like don’t raise your voice at me and just backsass..it’s sooo annoying..ugh when she’s on the phone…she starts to have an even bigger attitude…I think it’s cause she wants to be cool in front of her friends…I’m trying to ignore her but it does’nt work…like seriously I need help nothing works….oo..and my parents are tired of her attitude also..and I know most people will be like it’s her age and stuff..and I know…but I don’t think that’s the only reason why….when she was little she was soo cute and adorable…now I just want to rip her head off…PLEASE HELP!!!
First I'll say the cliche...it does have a lot to do with her age AND the fact that she is a 'little' sister. Prepare yourself honey..you haven't even gotten to the bad part yet. Once you hit 16 she's going to do everything in her power to not let you drive anywhere without her in that passenger seat. Even though it doesn't seem like it, she's envious of you, she wants to be like you. Her acts of disrespect are simply to get attention. (Not a great way to do it, but normal). Instead of getting mad at her for always being a "b***h" why don't you try and include her in a few things you do. If you include her than may she won't fight so hard to put a stop to it. As far as her being spoiled...that's a lot of the reason she doesn't respect anything or anyone. You are her big sister and it's amazing that you are trying to get help for her, but your parents need to put a stop to the spoiled attitude. They need to make her 'earn' the things that she receives instead of doing things just so she'll stop asking. I think you are a great big sister and in time you'll learn that she isn't as bad as she seems now. I hope that things work out for you!! Let me know how they go.
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[15/f]I've had this recurring theme in my life recently. i met my first bf at the mall and then we started talking on myspace. pretty soon we became really close and developed a liking for each other. then we finally saw each other a month later and the second time we hung out we kissed. the next week he asked me out. it only lasted about a week, because it was a shallow relationship where we both felt awkward. the next month i met a guy that i thought was really cute and my friend found that he thought the same about me. i haven't seen him since that day when i met him because he broke plans with me so i figured he wasn't worth my time. that was a few weeks back. but this weekend i hung out with this other guy who's friends with my best friend. he was so funny and sweet, kind of like no other guy I've met before. we had long conversations that day and i feel like he and i get along so well. the next day i hung out with him and some other people and by the end of the day he kissed me. and it was a cute kiss, not all forced and sexual, just nice. the problem is my best friend used to like him and never got completely over him. and i think that now she is feeling upset about the fact that we like each other. but she told me that she didn't care and that it didn't matter to her. and i feel like something is wrong with her but she wont talk to me about it. but mostly i feel like i keep making the same mistake and maybe the reason i do it is because im afraid that im going to get hurt. ever since i was little i used to be weird and no one ever "liked" me until recently when i built up a lot of self confidence and changed my look a little. i went through long periods of depression in my preteen years and now im 15 and feel like im jumping from one hook up to another. but im so tired of it and the day i meet this amazing guy it seems like once again im just going to end up losing him because i don't go to the same school as him so it would be hard to see him. this happens every time. i even tried avoiding guys but they come into my life and i cant stop it. i wish i knew exactly what it is that i am doing wrong. i am a happy person and i always have this free spirit but this is the one area of my life that is so hard for me to understand. thank you if you've read all of this and hopefully someone can help me somehow.
thanx =]
I agree...it sounds as though you might be scared of getting hurt, but also of being alone. So in turn, you keep guys close enough to keep you from feeling alone but you find a reason or make up an excuse to get rid of them once they get too close. I think the main reason you do this is because of the hard times you had in your preteen years.
Take some time for yourself babe. Pick up some hobbies that will keep your mind off of being 'alone'. Fill your life with friends..but don't stress being with a guy right now. Sit down and write down ALL of the pros to being single. Study these, realize these, then once you see single as a good thing you can enjoy that for a while. I hope that I could be of atleast a little help! Good luck girl and let me know how it works out.
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k im 15 & i wear tampons but everytime i wear it i need 2 wear a pad 2 but it still leaks i wear a regular absorbancy does this mean that my tampons sucks or that i need a bigger absorbancy
Has it always been like this? If so maybe you should move up to a higher absorbancy. Also try to change it more often. Every box of tampons I've seen says that you can leave it in for extended amounts of time. I personally change mine atleast every 2 hours (or when I go to the bathroom, whichever comes first).
I hope that I could be of atleast a little help.
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SO theres this great guy who i really like (14/f). Hes amazing and I've liked him forever but my friend has this thing for him and he kinda had a thing for her and they went out for a while. He made out with her and she was his first. Well i really like him and i think i might have a chance. Now heres the difficult part. Theres this great guy who i think of as an amazing friend that i never want to lose as a friend. He comforts me when im scared (hes a big guy and beats up any kid that is mean to me) and i love him. LIKE A BROTHER. nothing more. So he likes me, and i found this out from people. Now i cant even talk to him! I'm too afraid and i don't want him to like me but i don't want to hurt him! So should i tell him i know? or just let him get over me? OR WHAT?! ah i want to try to move on with guy one but guy two is too important and i don't want guy 1 to get over me. what should i do? thanks for reading
Oh dear..you are between a rock and a hard place huh?! Ok lets start with guy 2 (the friend). If he is truly your friend and you don't want to hurt him, you need to be honest with him. If he hasn't acted towards you like he wants to be more than friends, then I don't think that there is need to bring it up. However...you need to stop trying to avoid him. Is this a guy that you can talk to about anything normally? Maybe mention that you kind of like a guy (then atleast you can scope his reaction). If nothing else, ask him for a 'guys point of view' on how to approach a guy. This way he can 1)take the hint that you like someone else and 2)you are allowing him to be a part of this relationship proving to him that nothing will change with yours and his friendship.
I wish you the best of luck girl! If he is truly your friend than he will want you to be happy!
Good luck!
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ok so there is this guy at my school who i really like and i think that we have a "connection" unfortunetly i learnt that he didn't like me and that he liked my sister (were twins) and my sister doesn't even like him so do you think i should just let it blow over he changes crushes quickly?
I would let him do his thing for now. You say that he changes crushes quickly, so whose to say even if you all were to get together he wouldn't 'change his mind' yet again? I don't want to see you get hurt. I personally think you should look elsewhere, but if you choose to attempt to pursue a relationship with him, just be careful. Look out for you baby girl!
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ok so i liked this guy chris for a while and i guess recently his best friend started likeing me. so on a survey on myspace i wrote that i did like someone, but didnt write who. so chris's best friend IMed me asking who it was i liked and i said i wasnt going to answer because i could tell that his best friend liked me too and didn't want to hurt his feelings. anyways, his best friend ended up getting very mad that i didnt tell him and yelled at me and was mad at me for 2 days. does anyone know why he would get so mad over this ? and now i'm starting to realize that his best friend is the person i actually do like but i think he doesn't like me anymore? i don't know. help!
Sounds like you may be a bit confused as to who it is you like. Before you put yourself out there..make sure it's for the right reasons. He's probably not so much mad as jealous. You've already said he likes you, so maybe the thought of you liking someone else bothered him. Some people have trouble sharing their feelings and in turn result to anger to cover them up. Be straight with him. If you do like him, let him know. Worse case scenario, you are right back where you started =). Good luck babe!
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on the show The Hills, do they talk off script or is it really that real?
It's reality tv...although it's supposed to be based on...you guessed it...reality it's not as real as one would like to think. I wouldn't say it was scripted (although it seems that way at times) but the producer definitely displaces scenes when editing. By changing the true location of a scene they can change the entire story. Also I saw a 'reality tv' special and it said that even on Survivor they have asked people to 'reenact' scenes because they didn't capture a particular thing on camera.
I know I probably am not making any sense..I know what I want to say, but getting it to sound logical isn't easy lol. Hope I could atleast help a little.
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I have been dating a guy for five months. He is nice and all, but I have feelings for my "1st love". We were together for eight months off and on, until I finally broke it off. I just couldn't take it anymore. He was lying and cheating. For five months now I have been in this nice, safe relationship and my ex has been texting me and asking me to break up with my bf and go back out with him. First I thought it was just a joke, but a couple weeks ago I was out of town and he text me and called me and apologized for all the things that went wrong when we were together. He told me that he just knew he was going to marry me one day and that he loved me more than anything in the world. He had never been so honest with me before. After much thought I broke up with my current bf, although I'm not ready to go out with my ex or anyone else right now. The day I broke up with my bf, I ran into my ex. We talked and he told me again how he just knows that we are going to be married one day. He told me all kinds of stuff, and then he asked how things were in my relationship with my bf. I told him that we had broken up. He tried to not look "too excited" about it, and he asked me if I was okay. I told him I had to go, and he hugged me and told me he loved me so much. That has been over a week ago and now my ex is just ignoring me at school. He hasn't text me or called me since that day. Why do you think this is happening? Did he just like the chase? Did he just not want me to be happy with someone else? I am so confused. There is no way I would go back out with anyone anytime soon, but I don't know what to do about him. I thought I had almost gotten him out of my mind, but I'm now back to the way I was the first time we broke up. I'm moody and crying over the simplest stuff. What should I do?
First can I say that you are brilliant to not have started a relationship immediately after leaving your BF. Most people don't use their head like that...it's very impressive and shows that you have a good head on your shoulders!
Ok so here goes:
Sometimes it's best to leave the past in the past (it's there for a reason). I don't know if he was just enjoying the "thrill of the chase" or if it was a case of wanting what he can't have, but either way it's too much for you to be putting up with. It may even be that seeing you with the "other guy" made him remember what you all had. Don't try and contact him, don't text him, don't call him. Let him do his thing and you do yours. You are single now..this is a perfect time to become more independent. Learn to love being with you and I promise every relationship from here on out will be 100 times better! Good luck and let me know how it goes!
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Okay so it was April Fools...keep that in mind.
My mom is always pressuring my sister and I about losing weight...and always calling us fat and she makes us feel horrible. We're not over weight either. I'm 5'4 and I weigh 147, and she's 5'8 and she weighs 160.
It was April first and my sister said she wanted me to walk to walmart with her so she could steal some diet pills. I thought it was an April fools joke. We would walk over there go to the diet isle and she would say April fools.
So we got to walmart and walked over to where all the diet pills are. And she picked them up and I asked her what she was doing. She said "I told you" and she walked away. There was security cameras there...you could see youself in them.
So she walked away and I followed her and I tryed to get her to admit it was an April Fools joke but it wasn't...it really wasn't. She went to the dressing room, took the pills out, put them in her pocket and put the bottle back where it belonged. I couldn't stop her...and I couldn't tell anyone...she's my sister...I tryed to convince her not to.
(There are security cameras and telivisions in every isle)
Anyway we got out of walmart and I guess no one saw...but I'm freaking out. I know the security cameras got all that footage because we could see ourselves on the screen. It's been a week since then, what are the chances of getting caught...
I really did get dragged into this...I've never done anything like this before and I never want to as long as I live. What do you guys think the chances are we get caught? I'm really worried.
To put your mind at ease, I don't think getting caught is an issue. However, I think that the issue is your sister taking the diet pills. You'd be surprised at what those can do if not taken properly (and how can she take them properly if she doesn't have the bottle)? She needs help (and it sounds as though your mother could use some counseling herself!).
She's out of the store now. Odds are that if they did catch you all...you will be watched carefully the next time you enter that building. Don't let her make this mistake again..she won't be that lucky the next time.
It sucks getting drug into this and I can tell you have a good heart or you wouldn't be stressing it now. Good luck and let's not let her pull this one again. Tell her straight up that if it happens again in your presence you will say something. She has to respect you enough not to put that burden on you!
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i think i may have found "the one" but how can i be sure?
The one...wow..that's so hard to describe. Can you tell me now exactly how you feel about this person? If so...they aren't the one. I think it's when you love them so much you hate it. You are so secure that you're scared. When you look years and years down the road and don't see yourself with another. It's the highest of highs and can be the lowest of lows. It's not that person who you never argue with, but the person you argue with just so that you can make up. It's by no means perfect, but the imperfections make you love it so much more. It's sitting home on Saturday night just to watch a movie and enjoy eachothers presence. I think that if it's the one...you'll know it =)
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all i know about the lyrics is..
'shorty is a killa' and it's a girl singing it, and it's real popish and danceable. thankyou.
I think the song you are talking about is called "Killa" it's by Cherish
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so i always hear my mom have sex...shes really loud. it really grosses me out
the sounds she makes are really annoying, and when i have sex, i really dont want to sound like her bc id be embarrased of the noises coming out
is that normal to sound weird? or is it just her?
and what do guys think when a girl is really loud
So the question is..is it normal? Well I don't know how to define normal really. It's definitely not abnormal. Some guys not only like but prefer the girl to be loud. It gives them some strange since of pride if you will. While other guys are more for the quiet whispers. Either way it's not normal nor abnormal. To each their own as they say =)
Hope I could be of atleast a little help.
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ohkay so im on this softball team and i have no closer friends on there. i one of the only freshman and i want to become better friends with the girls on the team. i just dont know how.. what to say or do. like its not that they dont like (i think) they are nice to me and everything they say hi to me when they see me around town or even at school but i want to have a better relationship with them. im not new to the school system. ive lived here for like 3 years. i just want to become better friends with them so what do i do??
Take the extra time to tell them what a good game they played. Maybe one of them hit a double..let 'em know they kicked ass on the field =). Ask them one day after a game what their plans are. Maybe after a winning game ask them if they'd like to go celebrate. Do you have classes with any of them? Ask one of them if you can borrow their notes or ask how they did on an exam. Just take the time to initiate more conversation and hopefully you will become better friends with them. Befriending girls was never easy for me until recently. I finally started coming out of my shell a bit! =) Good luck and I hope that all works out
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i basically only had 2 friends a week ago. a guyfriend , Bob. and a girl whose a friend, jane. well jane and i go to the same school. bob doesnt go to our school and i usually went to his house every friday to watch movies and hang out. but he and i both really liked eachother. he had asked me out a few times and i turned him down each time. then he asked me out again last monday and we've been going out ever since. but i asked him if we could still be friends even if we are going out. he said yeah, but its not the same. i want it so badly to be the same. but thats impossible. hes always sitting so close and putting his arm around me and we kiss and stuff. and i know thats what your supposed to do with a bf, but i miss what we used to be. im happy with him, but im a changephobic. and that huge of a change for me? i cant take it. he was my best friend and now i only have one friend! can someone gimme some advice on how to either accept things and get used to it? or do you think i should do something else?
Babe..NEVER just accept things. Not something like this. You need to look out for you. If he truly cares for you than he will still want to be your friend (although it may take him time to adjust to the change also). I have to tell you thought that it is hard to go from relationship back to friendship, so brace yourself. It's what you want so it won't be as hard for you as it will be for him. Either way you can't keep yourself in an unhappy, yes i said unhappy, relationship. I know you care for him and are happy with him per se, but you aren't happy with the current relationship (am i right?). Once you tell him you just want to be friends, you'll have to give him time to get through that before things can start to go back to the way they are. They'll probably never be exactly the same (there is that change you long for...even if it's not the right circumstance). Good luck and I hope that things go well for you. For your sake I hope that he realizes he'd rather have you as a friend than not at all.
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ok so me and this one guy have known each other for about four years. up until the beginning of this month we had been talking every single fday pretty much. we had a good friendship going on.
he has told me plenty of times that he wants to take the relationship up a step, but i tell him i dont want that.
lately we have been fighting a lot and bascially he has told me he wants nothing to do with me anymore. everytime i texted him or called him he is very short worded with me. he even said that i was pretty much gone from his memory.
the thing is, about 2-3 times a week he will randomly text me.
i dont know what to think of it, bc he said he wants nothing to do with me, but then he turns around and starts talking. [btw the conversation doesnt last as long as it used to, but its still something]
i tell myself that maybe he really does still have feelings for me. i dont think its fair that he knows that he can come back to me any time he wants and ill always be there with open arms, bc i really care about him as a friend. but whenever i try to work things out, he gets his way by making a rude comment.
what should i do?
should i just never be the first one to text him and always let him text me?
he already knows ive put in effort to make it work, he knows that i want to be friends so theres no need to remind him anymore.
could he possibly realize that he misses me in his life?
sorry this is so long but id apreciate all the help i can get.
thank you!
Don't worry about the length of the post silly! I'd rather you give us all the information. You said that he wants to take the relationship to the next place but you don't, correct? Maybe it's just hard for him to be around you knowing his feelings are stronger friendship. As long as you know that he wants to be friends, don't contact him unless he contacts you. He has to find his own way to get over this. I don't think for a second that it's because he doesn't want you in his life, I think he may just be scared because he wants you in a way you don't want him. Give him time to heal in his way. He'll come back around, I'm sure of it =)
Good luck and let me know how it works out!
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14/f
I have taken 10 quizzes online to see if I have depression. Each of them said I was depressed.
Most of them said to see a doctor, but i dont want any one to know and my mom will find out if i tell my doctor. And i can't see a therapist because i dont have a way to see one. and i dont want to talk to any one at school because theyll judge me and stuff and i dont want them to know.
What can I do to handle my stress? Because I know I am I've been through a LOT this past year and stuff is still happening and i feel as if i cant handle it anymore.
**What happend this year**
*evicted, then moved (into a small crappy house.)
*step dad in jail
*loss of a very close friend
*lost job(owner moved away..)
*dad moved away (i have 2 "dads" and 2 "step dads"..long story)
*real dad wrote me for the 3rd time
*lost a best friend because of moving situation
*had a love triangle
*best friends betrayed me
*became basicly a full time babysitter for my mother when ever she asks i have to babysit..basicly a (teen) mother to a 1yr.old and a 7yr. old (and the 7yr old my have adhd or add)
*ETC.ETC.
(I cant talk to any one, and i dont have to for yoga or meditation. and i dont feel like crying anymore.)
So any thing to relieve stress?
Thanks in advance!
I keep a journal when I am upset. Not just your average journal though. I write a letter to the best friend that made me mad (just keep it in your journal--no need to deliver it, just get your feelings out on paper), I write letters to my friend Jason (who passed away about 7 years ago), I write to the one I love but refuse to tell, etc. Sometimes I just use it to jot down every feeling going through my head. Give it a shot, you may be surpised.
I know that you don't want to talk to anyone, but I'm wondering if maybe you should atleast think about talking to a counselor. They are not obligated to tell your parents unless they feel you are a physical harm to yourself or others. Atleast think about it. It sounds like you need to get this stuff out!!!
I wish you the best of luck babe! Keep me updated!
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Hi I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and have been best friends with this girl for 4 and they kinda get along, but i mean they aren't best friends or anything. But my boyfriend one day made her really mad by saying that she cant come eat with us at prom and now she is mad at me because I can't change his mind. I dont know what to do about either of them! Please help!!
Do you want her to come eat with you at prom?! Well it's my understanding that this is your prom too. Your boyfriend needs to understand this! It sounds to me like your boyfriend and best friend both need to learn to coexist for the sake of your relationships with them. Let them both know that you refuse to choose one over the other and even either of them are asking you to do so than they don't care about your happiness as they claim.
There is NOTHING wrong with a girl going to dinner before prom with her boyfriend AND her best friend! You are doing nothing wrong by wanting them both in your life.
Good luck babe!
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