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Hey all
I have a problem with my car recently. I have trouble starting my car the past few days, but my alternator was just changed 2 years ago. My battery is less than 4 years old, and my dashboard warning light is not on. Today after work, suddenly the Engine RPM went extremely low and the engine sounded like it was struggling to keep going. It was the first time this kinda of situation happened before.
Anyone can help here?
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well it couldve been just a fluke, but you said youve been havin trouble starting it for a few days. if it keeps happening id go thru the trouble to get it into the shop, tell them whats been happening as detailed as you can, and let the pros sort it out. one thing thats often true of cars when something isent operating properly, the longer you wait the worse and more expensive it will be. an nothing irritates me more than knowing id have saved a hundred bucks if id just quit driving it and taken it in. also the newer the car the more stuff is computer controlled, but anything (older the car the more it could be)thats not hooked into the onboard computer isent likely to give you a warning light.
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my friend's boyfriend has been harassing me since last year. He keeps doing things to my locker such as smashing a banana on it, putting tape all over, writing all over it, leaving long notes, putting signs with names such as boob girl or b***h etc. He would also spread all these rumors about me and call me all of these names. when my friend tells him to stop he refuses and he said that he wants to hurt me. she wants to protect her boyfriend from being suspended and she is trying to stop me from telling the GLC. He has been doing the same things to other people but they are too afraid of him to speak up. I really want to tell the GLC and take action but would I be doing the right thing by doing that even if I probably won't be friends with her anymore? also, I know that the GLC won't believe me since I don't have enough evidence to prove what he is doing to me. what should I do in this situation? (link)
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well i think you need a new best friend for starters.she sounds pretty selfish to not get rid of her jack@$$ boyfriend,when hes harrassing her best friend. tell whoever you need to tell to get it stopped, if its evidence you need get some. use a disposable camera to take pics of the crap he leaves on your locker and take the notes home and make copies.once youve gone through the school system a few times if they cant or wont put a stop to it, tell your parents and contact a lawyer. no one should be harrassed like that. if he gets suspended, so what? your friend wont take a stand for you,dont put up with that sh*t to keep her loser in school.
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I'm a 21 year old Female and I have a very big issue with my weight. This issue is affecting my happiness and love life. My question is how can I NOT let this affect me? (link)
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well, im sure the thought of loosing weight has crossed your mind.lots of positives there. the boost in confidence would go along way in your happiness and your love life. on the other hand i think you just need to learn to take pride in yourself. there are very beautiful curvy women out there. an whether you know it or not theres a lot of men out there that prefer a curvy woman. i think if loosing a little weight would make you feel better about yourself, you should go all out to achieve your goal, but if its just acceptance you want, sit down each day and go over the things about yourself that you are most proud of,like maybe you have great hair, or beautiful clear skin. if your seeing someone ask him what he likes best about you.try to focus on the things in your life that make you feel good, maybe your extremely intelligent or kind hearted. i think all you really need to do is find every little thing in your life and about you that you take pride in. spend some time each day just thinking about how good these things make you. keep in mind as well, that the person you are inside doesent show up on the scale.good luck!
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what's a way (that i dont have to buy anything for) to make my sagging boobs... not sag anymore. no stupid answers.
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well to be honest with you, short of surgery, theres not much you can do. however, loosing weight can make them smaller and give them a perkier apearance. another thing that can temporaily give them a lift,is to "bind them". you may notice after taking off a verry tight sports bra they dont seem as saggy for a couple hours. another option is to try different types of skin firming lotions, that have collagen to help tighten the skin. also if you do the muscle building excersises for the chest, (like guys pecs)to build up the muscle under your breasts can make them look a little firmer. i felt the same way for a long time, but hell once you throw on a push up bra, they just look bigger.an i dont know about you but bigger is fine by me. good luck!
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I have a horrible sleep pattern. It never used to bother me much, but now the realization of how much it can hurt my body has kicked in. I really want to change it, but it's really hard for me.
12:00AM/1:00AM - 5:30 AM
SLEEP
6:25AM - 2:17 PM
SCHOOL
4:00PM - 8:00 PM
SLEEP
Then the whole cycle restarts. I really want to change, but changing a pattern completely out of nowhere is very hard to do. Any advice? I would like to start sleeping around 10:30 or 11:00, but since my body is so used to how I sleep now, those times are too early for me. Plus, I also have a lot of homework and fitness I need to fit in too. Help, please?? (link)
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well i have the same problem, im 21 now and ive been like that from the crib, still havent gotten it quite right. however i can control it when i need to for work and school,when i have to get up the next day, i dont nap, no matter how tired i am. thats the 1st step, because if you dont have that nap chances are youll be more than ready for bed at 9:30 ish. also if your havin a real hard tme with it melatonin is an all natural supplement you can get at the drugstore you take one 30 mins before you want to crash and itll make you sleepy. also note: it tells you on the bottle but ill say it anyway only use it occasionally or for 1 week straight. you can become dependent on any sleep aid. good luck
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are there any products that have been found to be both safe and
effective in treating excessive underarm perspiration? (link)
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try arm an hammer, it has baking soda which is one thing they used back in the day, when there was a lot more to sweat about, but if your having trouble finding anything to work you should see a doctor.excessive sweating can be caused by overactive glands, and im pretty sure they can cure it, but at the least i know they can treat it.
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There is this boy that I'm having a real problem with. I know it's not the right thing to do, but I need a plan. A one time plan just to get back at him. The only thing I cant do is use pictures and violent. We're in highschool if that helps. (link)
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if you guys cant verbally work it out, do this, but you better not get caught, and dont blame it on me either, get some condoms, pour white lotion in them an slip them into his locker. if your not up to that, a little more innocent put peanut butter on his locker handle and or in his bookbag if you have acsess. gee i feel so guilty now...,oh well if this guys pranking you what the hell, have fun.
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okay well my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow for our anniversary and i want to do something special for him. something sexy that he will like. anyone have any ideas? i rate 5's (link)
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sexy....hit the adult shop (or spensers if your shy and your mall has one) get handcuffs and flavored warming massage oil. throw on something skimpy and meet him at the door cuffs in hand. you can imagine everything following. get water soluble oil so itll rinse right off in the shower, and wont stain your sheets. also if you have a sheet of plastic and your willing to get a lil wild, its great fun to oil up and "play wrestle", just be careful it is slippery.the warming oil gets very warm on your skin as its rubbed in,licked, or even if you just blow on it, very pleasurable for guys and gals.happy anniversary and have fun!
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Symptoms of Depression .
Prolonged sadness or unexplained crying spells
"Some nights around midnight, I start crying thinking of how much i dont want to be here anymore. How much i miss my brother, and How much my dad bothers me. And how i feel so alone."
Significant changes in appetite and sleep patterns
"I can never get to sleep, i have such a hard time."
Irritability, anger, worry, agitation, anxiety
"I get mad pretty fast, and I worry over little things. And i think i have anxiety, early in the morning before to school, like about going to school."
Pessimism, indifference
Loss of energy, persistent lethargy
"I dont like many things, most of the time I'd rather just sleep away."
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness
"I do feel worthless, specially when im crying. And when i think of my brother, or see people in love, and i know I'll never have what they have."
Inability to concentrate, indecisiveness
"I think i have this some what, I can only concentrate when im intrested, but usally i cant just beacause im tired."
Inability to take pleasure in former interests, social withdrawal
Unexplained aches and pains
"I get sick to my stomache Alot, and headaches alot."
Recurring thoughts of death or suicide
"I think of suicide when im crying, or feeling really bad about something."
so yea, I dont think im depressed, but i have a few of the symptoma, do you think i have depression? (link)
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well..it sounds to me like your depressed, but of course if a doctor diagnoses you with it,he can then send you to a shrink and together theyll likely dope you up on happy pills. chances are that your going thru the same depression most teenagers do. try finding a new intrest such as reading, music, or a sport. whatever makes you happy, but i speak from experience if a new fun hobby doesent help and the urge to cut gets stronger and more appealing, please get some medical help. if you cant talk to your dad, talk to a trusted aunt, or even a best friends mom. either way get help, i dident, and now im covered in pretty horrible scars inside and out that will never go away, and unfortunately it does effect your relationships, no one likes to see someone they care about bearing scars of thier own doing. also try to remember that even tho the whole world can seem pretty damn crappy at times, it will only make things worse if you hurt yourself for things you cant change, try to find something, anything to look to for the strength to go on. sappy as it sounds a great sunset all to myself saved me from myself more times than i care to count. there really are awe inspiring things in nature, and on earth, it may be awhile before you find them in people but true beauty is out there if you only look for it. so again i say, if you keep wanting to hurt yourself, please get help. good luck sweety.
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im a girl. im trying to lose 10 pounds. i was just wodering what some good foods that would help/allow me to do this are. is there anything that will make it go faster or help me out more? what foods should i stay away from and what food is good when trying to lose weight? thanks. (link)
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cut out the soda pop and try to lower your sugar and fat filled foods from your diet. fresh fruit, vegtables, whole grains, poultry and fish are all good. (not fried of course) also adding a little more exercise 4xs a week would really help. not alot, just more than you usually do. 20 mins of dancing would be great for reaching your goal.good luck!
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Is there anyway i can get old AIM convo's off my computer?? im using my old computer & i was wondering if your computer saves any old convo's you didnt save yourself?? er chat room convos?? maybe in 'my computer' er something.
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sorry, if you dident save the conversations, the computer wont do it automatically.so if you closed the chatroom, or IM box, without saving your kinda struck.for future use remember you can always copy paste any convos and save them in your notebook.
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what are some teen/women workout magazines/fitness magazines besides shape and self? i love both of those, but what other ones are out there? (link)
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theres one called fitness,to find more magazine titles check out pch.com(publishers clearing house) it sells a lot of magazine subscriptions at a discounted price. good luck
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Well, my parents are smokers. My dad has been smoking since he was a kid.. middle school and now he is 39. My mom has been smoking pretty much since high school and now she is 37. That's the background info.
My dad really wanted to stop and he tried 3 or 4 times, but failed. Used Nicoteen and whatever there was. He couldn't. My mom has done the same, but she doesn't belive that any products or pathches work.
I'm really scared they they will get cancer and die. I know you'll die when your time is up, but my parents are only middle age and I don't want them to die .. anytime soon !!!! It scares me to death, and I also don't want to have lung problems because I'm always around.
Now my question, how can I convince them to stop?? I talked to them SOO many many times, nothing has worked. Any adive on this?? Thanks so much, and if you want me to rate you, just say so. I'm very fair.
♥ Thank you. (link)
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if both your parents really do want to quit smoking have them get in touch with the american lung association, for support and the latest on products and services.you can find contact numbers online at www.lungusa.org also quitting smoking is verrry hard, try to understand that most people who've become smoke free tried and failed at least 5 times. just attempt to be as supportive as possible, keep gum and pretzel sticks around the house and in thier cars. ive also heard good things about a pill called smoke away, check that out as well.no prescription needed. if worse comes to worse pressure them to only smoke outside, for your health, but remind them often, countless failure does NOT mean you should quit trying. id like feedback as to how its going. good luck to both you and your parents.
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How do I get rid of bags under my eyes? The bags are not serious, and I doubt I need medical treatment, but it is definetly notceable. And I do not want to wear make-up. I do get a lot of sleep, at least 9 hours per night. Do you know any home remedies to get rid of them? (link)
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this always worked for me , try dipping tea bags in cool water and stick em in a baggy, then into the fridge before bed, when you get up in the morning lay them over your baggage,let em sit on your skin for 15 to 20 mins, the caffine will help tighten the skin. it wont change much at 1st but give it a week or so.good luck!
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I am 13 and a girl who's bestfriend in danger. This is how it goes. Well before my friend and I went into this big show thing called "CaSPA". It's when all these different school's from one surburb do one big show together. Then my friend saw this boy and "Fell in love" with him. She became obsessed with him and got a hold of his email address(or so she clams). She's been talking to him on msn and wants to skip school just to meet him. Not only does he leave way far away but how do you know if it really is his email address? It could be some desperate nerd who's 45 and still living with there mother who works at a video store and thinks there a wizard or a cereal killer. I mean it's the internet it's got it's reputation of leading to danger when it's got to do with chat rooms and stuff. I told he could be lying but she said that he told her that he doesn't lie. Then I told her he could be lying about lying but she still didn't believe me. I told her all the dangers and stuff and still didn't believe me. So please help me and tell what should I do? (link)
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tell her parents. if this guy is really who he says he is he wont mind meeting her AND a parent in a public place.dont hesitate even if it hurts your friendship, very bad things happen to young girls thru the internet all the time. its not worth the risk. her parent can stand in the background just to check it out if neccassary. plus this guy would be in school when she plans to skip. if you really care for her safety tell her parents.
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As all great stories begin, mine starts the same way... There's this girl. Well anyway there's this girl I work with that I like but I know I can't have. She's really beautiful and cool, so I'm not suprised that she has a great bf that she absolutely loves. They live together and all, so I know I have pretty much zero chance with her. I guess I just like her most b/c she's cool. I guess my question is not "How can I be a homewrecker or How can I be a knight in shining armor?" It's more like "What can I do to get her out of my head?" I know she likes the other guy and all that shit. She likes me and everything, but only as a friend. Don't you hate that phrase? Oh well, I don't care if this doesn't get put up or answered in a stupid way, I just wanted to write out how I felt. Thanks for reading and good night. (link)
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i dont know if you wanted an anwser or not, but seriously the best way to get someone off your mind is to fill it with someone or something else.also if you find you cant get her off your mind, if your not acting on your thoughts, think about her to yourself all you want, no one needs to know about it. then when someone else comes along that your into youll have someone else to think about an she will rarely even cross your mind. good luck
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So since yesterday, I have been throwing up food. It isn't actually throw up. It's more like my stomach expelled whatever it is I ate in small amounts.
Yesterday, I had a Cosmopolitan and I started throwing that up in my mouth. It was just like saliva came up, anyhow I just swallowed it back down because it was only a few drops.
Today, I drank hot chocolate and while I was drinking, it came up again. This time I took it into my mouth and it had small pieces of food mixed in with it.
This doesn't feel -quite- as disgusting as the throwing-up-in-my-mouth but it's not normal. Does anyone have any idea about what's causing this, if it's serious and what can I do to make it go away? (link)
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well all i can say is your stomache is prolly havin trouble digesting something you ate, it shouldent continue, but if it happens for more than a few days see a doc, because i agree although it may happen every great once in awhile its not normal when its happening that often. a check up cant hurt.
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I am East India so my hair is very very dark. A few months ago, I streaked it copper. I want to try to temporarily change my hair colour (I'm partial to reds) but I'm not sure if it will show. I used a red Colourpulse last time but it tinted my -highlights- redder (just by a bit, though) and I want a more dramatic colour.
Usually, at the side of temporary colour boxes, there is a sample of before/after hair and the darkest shade sampled is "dark brown" which isn't really dark brown, it's more light brown if anything.
Is there a shade in Colourpulse, Colourflirt, or any other dye that washed out in 8-12 shampoos that I can use? Is there any technique that will make the shade deeper? (link)
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ok, with hair thats really dark, the only way to get really dramatic color, is to bleach streaks and then color the blonde. but this is NOT easily done at home, possible but not easy, so if you really want dramatic highlights, hit a coloring solon and let them do it, and dont go to cheap with it,no student salons, you really do get what you pay for. it may not be what you had in mind, but a salons better equipped to give you what your looking for. good luck!
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what are some really good, meaningful, short poems?
or some great poets? (link)
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robert frost has a lot of great short poems. a classic of his is the poem, " nothing gold can stay"
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does anyone know a good exercise for like that area and suff because i have like a big butt & theighs and i it and i wanna find out how to get it smaller if thats possible ...thanks (link)
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pilates is great for long lean muscles in those areas, add some faster paced cardio like dancing to help lose fat an let the lean mucsle show thrugh. good luck!
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