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I'm feeling terrible. I can't stand my brother any longer. Actually, he lives in another city, and is spending his vacation time at home. Thing is that he won't do anything at home, he doesn't help us with anything and sleeps the whole day! I hate him! How can I cope with this situation? It's aweful, since I don't want to confront him either; I just want him to go away!
Thanks in advance!
(p.s please, I don't want ''adviceman 49'' to reply to this message, I mean it. Thanks again!) (link)
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I don't know how old he is so i cannot fully determine what you should, but from what i know, give him the choice to help or leave because he needs to know being on vacation doesn't mean you get to be lazy and selfish.
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I'm 22 and I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years now I want more than anything to be with him. But for a while now I've been losing serious feelings for him( 8 months) and I've been trying so hard to get everything back . He's absolutely perfect he doesn't get mad at me when we fight and he doesn't stress out about anything . I've been starting to flirt seriously with a guy at work and I always feel so guilty about it but I started losing feeling for him way before this. I just feel so bad because he's so amazing and I don't want to hurt him but I not only love him but his family means the world to me as well the problem is if I break it off with him he would move hours away from me to live this his family and right now he lives with me. I'm just at a total loss. I feel like if I don't stay with him I'll be making a huge mistake but ive been stressing myself out for months. (link)
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I think you need to communicate with him and tell him how you feel. Communication is the way to success in a relationship. If he feels the same way or if you guys can figure out why you feel the way you feel, it can help a lot. You shouldn't be stuck in a relationship that you're not happy with and he should understand or try to understand how you feel if he's a great guy.
COMMUNICATE!
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So recently my cousin came to stay with us for a while and we weren't as close at first but we became like best friends now he is 26 and I am 14(girl) a couple weeks ago he kissed me on the lips. I didn't think anything of it because I thought it was an accident. But now he started rubbing my thighs and back really slowly and kind of sexually then he wanted to kiss me but this time longer. I kissed him anyway because I didn't know what to do. I feel really guilty and dirty afterwards but he seems to be his normal self. Is this ok? Or should I tell someone ? (link)
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This is wrong what he is doing. You need to tell someone or push him off, be assertive. That is not okay for your cousin to do that to you and an older man that far in age, that is sexual harassment.
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I have just broken up with my partner of 5 years. This time last year I moved to Australia as I felt I needed to see the world. At first I wanted my boyfriend to come with me and he wanted to go somewhere else which devastated me, but when I got there I really loved it and I enjoyed being on my own. A month later though he moved over to be with me because he missed me too much. Since we moved in together over there, things werent the same. Were only 24 but we rarely had sex, which sadly I was happy about because I had lost sexual feelings towards him a year or so before. When I was out without him I always behaved like I was single and actively sought out other men to flirt with. I ended up meeting someone that I worked with and sleeping with him and very quickly developed deep feelings for him. After about 2 weeks of seeing each other we both told each other we loved each other despite us both being in other relationships. I left my boyfriend and went travelling with the other guy and friends for 3 months which just caused us to fall deeper in love with each other. I have told my ex that I have been seeing someone else but he just wants us to get back together. Even though we were apart for a while he always thought that we were going to end up together but it is just hitting him now that it is over for me. He is completly and utterly devastated, I have never seen him so down. He is usually so macho and composed but he is just crushed, he says he feels like there is a black cloud constantly hanging over him, and that he would rather get hit by a bus than feel this pain anymore. He is convinced that he will never ever be happy again because he will never ever find anyome that he is as close to as me, he talked about how he was going to propose to me and how he still thinks that we are soulmates. I dont know what to do. I am home in Ireland for christmas , seeing my family for the first time in a year and so is he but I am completly miserable. I am racked with guilt, I cannot stop crying , I wake up feeling anxious and panicky because I know hes not sleeping and eating at that he is depressed. He is begging me to just try with him one more time. I just want to take his pain away and I know I am the only one who can but I know my feelings for the other guy are stopping me because I really miss him and I know things with him are real even though it is too soon for me and I am not emotionaly ready I cannot stop myself from talking to him. I feel like I ll never be able to live with myself with all this guilt because I honestly feel like my ex will never get over this, he is such an amazing caring and sweet person but it takes him so long to open up to people, he only has ever opened up to me in his life. This is honestly killing me, my heart is breaking and every time he asks me to please try again I feel like I cannot continue to say no that I just want to say yes and hold him and stop him from all this because he does not deserve any of this pain . I Really hate myself. (link)
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That's a way complicated situation. It is partly your fault for the way you ended it. That is a very devastating way to end a relationship, but after a while, your ex needs to learn that he doesn't need you to be happy, he needs to move on and work on himself. I think you should have a conversation with him and maybe apologize on how things ended and show that you really cared and that things didn't pan out that maybe he wanted to, but that's life. At a certain point, he needs to stop trying
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I'm 19, I work full time during the week. I'm starting to do things I would have never thought of doing a year ago. About two months after my girlfriend and I broke up, I went online to find an escort, I met her and payed $140 for it. It was right after work at her hotel room. I felt so horrible afterwards, what a way to lose my virginity. Then I started going to parties at my friend's house, nothing crazy, a little drinking, making new friends etc. I meet this cute girl, we talk and text a bit for a few days. At the next party she's very seductive, then she tells me that she does services and has clients. It was so tempting so I did it, I snuck her into my house and it was $110. This time felt even worse because I kinda got to know her a little bit before. I don't know what I'm doing. Last week I drank so much I blacked out and threw up everywhere. Is it normal for guys my age to pay for sex? I feel like it's a thing that older married men do. And to know that to society I would be considered a "John" I feel superficial and shallow. There's one side of me that feels so wrong, and another side tries to justify it. I'm starting to question so many things. It's starting to feel like there really is no right and wrong, and that we're too scared to face it. It's like the only reason I think it's wrong is because I know the people around me look down upon it, and we're raised to think that way. If there were nobody around to say it's wrong, would it still be wrong. I just don't feel like the same person anymore. My family and my job would never guess that I'm doing this. What do I do man? I was going to parties to kind of avoid that ironically. I freaking run into a prostitute in person. And she was like my age. I remember like if I were in high school I would like girls and talk to them, now I have no idea if they're a prostitute or doing drugs and stuff. It makes me question what normal is. And it's like you can't win. If you're too sexual, you're a pervert, but if you're not sexual enough, you're a pussy. One person says I'm too emotional and sensitive, another person says I'm cold and have no feelings. It's really confusing and I'm starting to doubt and hate myself. (link)
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That sounds like a tough situation. There is many ways you can approach that, but what i suggest is to do what is best for yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and I know you may feel like you're in a difficult situation, but you can always learn from your mistakes. I think you should stay away from girls and focus on your job at the moment and not jump into bed with the first girl you meet especially if they want to charge you. Those prostitutes live a sad life and you shouldn't encourage them to like like that, ask them how they are doing and if they want any help, be the better person, I can tell from all that you've said that you are a great person
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