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OK when i wake up i have really bad bags under my eyes. Anything i can do thats easy and doesnt take awhile to get them to go away in the mornings? PS i dont wear fondation so dont suggets it. (link)
well sleep more or go to bed earlier. ha. and at macys they have this cream that gets rid of them but i think it like expensive. try looking on google. type in something like "bags" or "get rid of bags".
or go to askjeeves.com and type in question format "how did you get rid out bags?" ect.
hope i helped.!


Does anyone have any tips on how to do well on the AP Chem or AP Stat exams?

The AP Chem exams look impossible! The questions are all vague and I have no idea what the heck I am supposed to know. Nothing looks recognizable. Plus, my chem class sucks and I haven't really learned much. (link)
umm well ofcourse study. alright. im ganan be traking the gepas soon so there both kinda a big deal... my teacher have been drilling tips into our head. ill give you a couple if you want more tell me because i have bunches::
- have a breakfeast
-be on time for the test
-keep your eye on the clock
-have pencilS & easers
-relax
-stay focused
-sit in with your feet on the ground and back 9sit up)
-write in cursive because its faster then print and makes you save time

sorry if those didnt help but all i know that ur taking a big test soooooooo yeah. i have ALOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTt more of those but those were just a few

um. try looking up any tips on google.con too.
and theyre might be books on it-tips you know. it seems like a big thing so id check out if there any books that have some info about that and tips because.....theres alot of books out there.
hope i helped.
need anything ask,


in the trailer for The Hills (season 1) there is a song that plays and it's like "la la la i gotta believe, i gotta believe in me' anyone know what song that is? i've looked it up on mtv.com but cant find it. pleasee help (link)
at least i answered your question ha w.e. dont care if you give me a one. so yeah. and umm heres a little "advice". go to GOOGLE and type in the lyrics or some lyrics website were you find lyrics. and WOW. a bunch of songs with those lyrics come up. cool hu? yeah okay so what ever. i went to google and looked it up. have funnnnnn. =] ....
whatevssss.


So yeah as you can see from the title my boyfriend has mono. When i found out i was wicked upset. I didnt give it to him and im getting tested for it next week because when he had it and we didnt know i madeout with him, but thats not the point. Im so scared somethings going to happen. I know he can die from this but im so confused. Everyone is telling me different stuff and like now im not sure how he can die. And like i've been like really upset and miserable since i found out on monday and i talked to him and he says hes in a lot of pain and ive been trying to pretend like he doesnt have it and treat him normally on the phone. My mom and my friend told me that he's going to be alright but they dont know that. Everytime i bring it up to my friend she says hes fine and starts talking about some guys she likes. Im getting really annoyed. And im getting wicked scared that im going to lose him. But are not showing or telling anyone this.

Am i over reacting?
How could mono kill?
Im not really sure of anything at this point
Im worried, scared, confused
Someone help me! Please!
Anything helps :\

Sorry it was so long

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-no your not over reacting you should care.
-http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=SEO&q=facts+about+mono&btnG=Search
-http://www.ask.com/web?q=how+do+you+die+from+mono&qsrc=1&o=0&l=dir
-you cant do much. just pray for him and pray for his family and pray that you can get through this. talk about to people you find will support you and will help you. i kno someone who had mono but calm down, most likely everything will turn up fine. continue talking to your bf too and tell him that your really worried about him because he might think that your not worried or dont care. dont spend all your time about it because it might make you upset.
best of luck =]


A girl who I thought was my best friend, Sarah, has been talking about my other best friend, Amanda, alot lately and I got so tired of listening to it, so I told Amanda everything. Sarah was acting like a jerk to her and Amanda wanted to know why, so it's not like I just told her to get them in a fight. Sarah had called her a bitch, a slut, and told me that she hated her because she always says she can't come over because she is busy. I honestly thought that was no reason to call her those things. Also, she had been purposely leaving Amanda out and making fun of her. She had said alot of other bad things about her too, but I don't feel like listing everything and I didn't tell her them because I knew she would get too upset. I told Amanda almost everything today and in return, she began telling me what all she has been saying about me behind my back. Sarah had said the same thing about both of us, including all of her other "friends." On myspace, Sarah's profile says, "If you're mad at me, get over it," just talking to everyone in general and plus every other time I've gotten mad at her for something, she turns everything around and blames me. So, I know I can't talk to her about any of this. What should I do? Did I do the right thing by telling Sarah? (link)
well i dont know if its the right thing to do but its pretty much what any girl would do. it seems like sara is a backstabber. no offence- but i wouldnt want to be friends with her since she talks crap about everyone. and eventually thats all going to catch up to her and bite her in the ass if you understand what im saying.ha. but really, sara said those things about her for a stupid reason and your right, there is no reason to call her that stuff. if i were you i would talk to sara about this.. and if you have before (in a similar situation) about her backstabbing you (i know thats not the reason but i would do that) then i would stop spending your time with her because shes not a true friend if shes saying that. especailly if you have talk to her about her backstabbing beofre and she told you that she would stop talking about you.
and if i were you.... and im trying to do this myself because this helps SOO much not causing fights. is (sorry i just feel like listing):
- if someone is talking about another person stop the person who is talking about them and say something like "shes my friend and im not ganna talk about her so.. yeah anyways..." or like "sorry but i dont talk about people behind there backs" say it in a kind way tho but serouis to so they dont think that your being rude to them and so that they know your serouis. that way the person that they are talking about cant say that you have ever talked about them because you stop the whole thing.
-also dont tell the other person that someone was talking about them. because if you do then the person who was talking about them will get mad at YOU. BBUTTTTTTTTTTTtt if you listen to the first bullet then you wont have anything to tell the person that was getting talked about the things someone was saying about them. get it?
- and DONT TALK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE. that will just cause problems because who never know whos ganna tell the other person.

so basically if follow those three things.. and youll be known as a good trustful friend. and people will like you more.

hope i helped.
any questions ask. or if you dont get something i said...=]


hey before you answered my question about the guy because i couldnt tell if he liked me or was interested. and you said i should talk to him. im really shy but i want to talk to him. because like if i dont know. if we ever do become something i wont be able to then because well i cant now. so what are some things i can do or say to him as a astart? i have no classes with him so i cant talk to him there but i do have lunch with him. he eats with one of my friends. (link)
well ask your friend if you can sit with her at lunch- she'll most likely say yes. make sure you sit somewhat near him (in talking range). he'll prob. say something to you because since before he was scared about the whole "group thing", well now he knows what type of people you hang out with - and guess what? hes one of them since hes hanging out at the table! if he doesn't- then he prob. is scared or shy or something like that. and since your shy you have to try to be outgoing and act the way you do when your with your friends (im guessing your louder and stuff because i know i am). since your sitting with a friend you prob. will. i know my best friend gives me courage to be flirty with guys and stuff so maybe it will for you. things prob. wont be awkward because people at the table are always going to be talking and having conversations. your friend is probably friends with him. and if she doesn't already know that you like him i would tell her because maybe she'll somehow get you guys to talk or introduce you to each other and things will pretty much go from there. if she doesnt introduce then im guessing she'll probably be talking to him and having a conversation - && then have her ask you something like...
her: omg that movie was so good blah blah balh .. dont you think *amanda*?
you: yeah...blah blah blah blah blah blah you know whats a really good movie ___ *hisnamee* did you ever see that before?
(haha i just made up something) but like if there in a conversation have you friend bring you apart of it and make it a comfortable and relaxing conversation. to start a conversation up with him.. just make sure hes looking at you and like eye contact type thing and be like hey. (hey) im ____ and your (lets say his name is kevin) kevin right? and then he'll answer and start asking questions and w.e. you know?
heres some examples:
you: hey im _______ and your _____right?
him: yeah
you: yeah i thought so. i like see you in the hallways sometimes
him: after what periods?
you: 3 4 and 7
him: oh. ha. yeah i see you sometimes to. (something like that idk)
you: what team are you on?
him: 3
and so on... of course the convo might be diffrent but thats how they ussaully start. and then later in the conversation like start having it get more interesting. maybe even ask him if he wants to come with you to go get a snack or w.e. =]


haha im weird at times ill ask like crazy questions sometimes. like out there. only if i dont really care who the guy is.. sometimes they find it funny. like i was at the movies with some guys i know and they had a friend and i was sitting next to him and he was texting some girl named julie and im like .. having some girl trouble? and hes like kinda. im like yeahh. need my help? and hes like nahhh. im like okay i bet i can guess her name because im like physic (i knew he wouldnt believe because ha im not but i kinda made it obvouis i wasnt) and hes like no your not and im like her names julie and hes like no way howd you know that. im like i told you i was physic and hes like you saw her name... im like hahaha yeah. and we started talking. like once i get to know i guy ill start asking weird questions like what would you do if i was 500 pounds? haha im weird but they find my questions funny and something to talk about. i dont know if its like the best thing to do if you really like a guy and your nervous because i dont know what i would do.
but the point of that was like.. i was outgoing and loud and i was comftorable and MYSELF. i didnt change. so just when you talk to him .. treat him like any guy. and be who YOU are. because thats what is important. and if your outgoing and loud well more power to you but if your shy you might want to over come that because thats just not going to make anything comfortable. you know? so my suggestions would be:
-be comfortable
-outgoing
-smile a lot
-laugh
-be nice
-be YOU
-if you can be funny but dont say anything stupid haha =]

and if he doesnt like who you are then you know that hes not the right guy. but i wouldnt worry about that because he prob. will like you beacause he wouldnt still be interested in you still after finding stuff out about you (you said he was asking your friend alot of stuff about you) so im guessing hell like you. just act as if you were talking to your best friend.
=] hope i helped. any thing else ask




how did it go =] ?


so confused. okay so i like this guy.of course. and well my friend was talking to him. and shes like oh yeah by the way my friend likes you. and hes like oh ok. shes like yeah. then they continued their conversation on i dont know what. and then she said hes like oh is she blonde? and my friends like yeahh why you know who im talking about? and hes like i dont know. then like maybe the next day or so hes like oh is her name "polly" and my friends like whos "polly" and hes liek the girl that likes me. and shes like umm yeahhh how you know? and hes like because shes your friend. and shes like um ok? and then like my friend is like yeah ok so what oyu think of her? and hes like shes cute. and shes like haha yeahh. and then like she now says that he is always mentioning me and stuff. but like he never talks to me. and i went on vacation but he told my friend that he wouldnt talk to me because he couldnt figure out who was who in my group and he didnt want to embarass himself. so i dont know. does it seem like he may like me or? (link)
i think hes like interested in you. im mean like im pretty good with figuring guys out and stuff so (ESPECIALLY since i live with three). but yeah. i think that hes interested. cuz like. hes asking about you adn stuff and wants to know what your group is and more about you etc. if you really like him you could go up and talk to him..maybe thats not your style. if it isnt then wait for him but make sure you just do what your doing now and if he looks at you or anything then smile etc.
hope i helped.
and if you have anymore questionss inboxx mee. =]


On myspace, i see people that have captions under their pics saying things like " Zelophobia- Fear of jealousy" and also " Mnemophobia- Fear of memories" Where can i find these? (link)
http://www.trancework.net/a-z%20phobia.htm#phobia

thats like a HUGE list of phobias a-z


What store can I find cute/flowy tops that go down over the butt, that i can wear with leggings/cords/jeans. Not more expensive than $60? (link)
umm well those all those other stores that everyone else wrote but you could always try hollister because sometimes they have that. also even simple stores the khols or macys. i kinow express for woman will have something like that.
hope i helped=]


this guy i liked, i dont really like him no more, i like this other guy, but how can i tell the first that i dont like him no more.
- NO suggestions about passing notes in class or anything.
- i'm telling him online.

thanks xx

btw im 13/f (if that helps) (link)
umm yeah i agree with not giving him a note or anything..never put anything down in writing because then they could always show it to people and stuff. umm well you could call them and be like:
YOU: hey.
Him: hey
You: are you around anyone
him: no

then tell him. umm or you coudl just tell him in person in the nicest way possable that you dont like him anymore.

hope i helped. if that didnt help then tell me because i can always think up more


Yeah i like some of those, im more into like somewhat screamoish. you know?
know any other bands? (link)
heres some:
norma jean
drop dead gorgeous
the bled
dance club massacre
the fall of troy
it dies today

hope i helped =]


Last summer I noticed that my body tanned really nicely, but my face was still pretty pale. My mom said that she had the same problem when she was a little older than me for a few years. I hate it though does anyone know why this happens? I don't want to have to wear makeup to feel good about it, especially in the summer when I will probably swim a lot. Any idea why this is happening and how to fix it? (link)
try using sun tanning oil on your face while you use sun tan lotion or sun block (same thing) on your body. sun tanning oil makes you even tanner so then theres a good chance of getting tanner on your face then you did last year. also try some tanning lotioain like...something that says like.. gradual tan sunless tanning because it wont be so ovoius when you put it on because you just over time add it on.
hope i helped.
anymore questions? inbox me.



I love music. I don't really like rap or country or pop though. But i like stuff like, bullet for my valentine, underoath, silverstein, etc. Can yoou name some good songs? pLease? (link)
im ganna give you some names of bands/artists that i LOVE. LOVEEEEEe haha. okayy umm and then you can look them up but there all like classic rock and like have made it bigggg time because alot of people still listen to the today.
acdc
guns and roses
lynard skynard
led zepplin
bon jovi
the darkness
the doors
queen
rush
talking heads
van halen.

hope i helped =]
if you dont like those or just want anymore.. inbox meeee =]


13/f. i loved butterflys 2 years ago and have never had a boyfriend so my mom said i was a lesbian. and she wasnt joking or anything. now i like black and dark colors she says im gothic and she says goths like peircings~i have had both my ears double peirced for about 4 years~and now since she says im gothic which im not she took all my earings and made me take out my earings to make them close up. she reads my diary and makes sure about wat i do or think or anything my friends do or just everything and makes sure i do nothing bad. so one day i wrote in my diary 'mom since your reading this and i no you will leave me alone i hate you i always have u give me no space' i got grounded for a month and she told every1. she doesnt have to read it and espesially not tell my whole family and cusins. its my diary shouldnt it be private? did i do sumthing wrong or what? (link)
no this you arent wrong. its wrong of her to do what shes doing. talk to a school guidance counler and maybe have her call her in and have a "family talk" with just you your mom and the quidance councller because serousily what your mom is doing is EXTREMLEY wrong. like calling you a lezbain because.. YOU LIKE BUTTERFLIES? sorry but thats f***ed up. and then the whole goth thing is crazy too. i understand she wants whats best for you but getting to into your personal bussiness is wrong AND THEN sharing it with everyone else is worse. its like what a child would do- no offence. but im just getting angry right now knowing that shes like making up crap about you and sharing you stuff with everyone. AND SHE YOUR MOM. have a meeting or something WITH another adult like i said therapist or guidance or w.e. because maybe then she'll understand where your coming from and understand your point of veiw AND possibly start having limits on personal space ect.
sorry if that sounded mean.. i didnt try to make it but thats just what i feel about it. and trust me.. if you have anymore questions tell me!


okay well as a christmas gift this past christmas my parents got me christina a. concert tickets... well just recently, heather (24 years old, so my mom approve of her responsibility, really nice, etc) mentioned it would be at TON of fun if we went together.. well im sure my mom intended for me and HER to go together but i brought it up anyways. i said to her "hahah yesterday heather was like 'IT WOULD BE AMAZING IF WE WENT TOGETHER, WOULDNT?!!??! ASK YOUR MOM' shes so funny" and my mom said i could bring her cause they were MY christmas gifts... and she seemed kinda sad but she said she didnt mind...

Wellll, i reallyreallyreally want to bring Heather, but i fell terrible. and plus i know that if my mom goes we'll get into a fight... AND she already has a musical planned for us to go to together next month... so is it that big of a deal?

so here are my list of questions...:

-who should i bring? (i want to bring heather but who SHOULD i bring)
-if heather, then how do i tell my mom
-if mom, what should i tell heather.... ):


THANKS AND SORRY IT WAS SO LONGGGGGG. (:
xoxo (link)
if i were you i would take heather because like you and your mom are already gong to a musical. and also its you gift and YOU should choose who you want to bring... PLUS its kind of weird having you mom standing next to you during a concert when you could have your friend whos younger and like your age. i mean what if you meet some cute guys there? like are you ganna hang out with them with your MOM standing right next to you. umm yeah. so i would bring heather. but thats just me. hope i helped..


i have a bf that im a sure im going to marry some day because we have talked about it and our families would love us to get married.he is soo cute but the thing is i dont want to have sex with him intul i get married . it just seems like the right thing. the problem is he doesnt want to wait becuase like i said we know we r going to get married to each other. we do make out some times and its great but some times he wants to go further like trying to unbotton my shirt or un botton his pants. so how do i say no? (link)
just tell him in a sturn serous voice that you not ready and you wont be until your married. and if he starts saying but baby i love you then say if you love me then you will respect my dissision and stuff like that. and if he says to you that your probably going to get married, then say good. we can wait untill then or something like that. you just have to be serous about it and you cant let him persued you into it. and if he still does and cant respect you decision then... you need to think about your relationship.
hope i helped


im a freshman and this gurl from 2 lockers down talks to me sometimes and we sometimes walk to classes together. Anyways, im not that close to her and shes in 10th grde and seems more popular and i don't feel comfortbale "hanging out" with her. She gave me her phone number written on my hand to call her but i honestly dont like her that much and she seems like trouble i dont really want to ahng out with her, how do i tell her without hurting her feelings or getting her mad at me becuiase i still want to tlak to her in school (link)
umm well ... i dont know what i would do. i would prob. talk to her and not tell her because i mean.. it will be awkqward to tell her and she probably WOULDNT be expecting that. at all. and remember how you said shes popular.. well you might not want to get on her bad side. i would just say continue talking to her and just not call her. and who knows maybe she isnt "bad". you could always give her a try and if she isnt the type of person you want to hang out with then just kind of lessen the time with her and eventually stop talkling to her.

if you really want to not talk to her... just aviod her in a way & show that you dont really want to talk to her by walking to some one else to class with and stuff. if you need anymore advice or you didnt find this helpful then just inbox me and ill give you some more. =]


this is really gross im not going to lie. My vaginal area has been giving off a really bad odor since yesterday. Im not dirty i shower everyday and i dont have sex with dirty people, im a virgin. Not only does it give off realy bad odors but it leaves stains in my underware that are slightly yellow mostly white and a little bit gewey and clumpy. I will be completely honest becasue i need someone help on this i i was fingered by my boyfriend yesterday and i think it might be becasue of that but hes not dirty and im not either. Whats wrong why am i producng this and how do i stop it from happening? Please help me and thank you (link)
its natural. every part of it. im sure if you look in a drug store theres probably something for the smell. if not then you could just wear perfume. && where a pantyliner or pad if it ruins your undergarments. ha.
hope i helped =]


hey can someone please write me a list or tell me any books that have ALOT of twists and turns in them. like the best novels EVER.

thankssss (link)
well i dont know if this has a lot of twist and turns but what is a REALLYY good novel is the book speak. theres even a movie about it. if that doesnt help you then just tell me and i'll look some up for you. =]


Okay, well Im 16. I'm 5'6 and 130lbs. The doctor tells me my weight should be 140 for my height and that Im actually underweight, but at the same time, all my weights concentrated in my stomach, hips, and thighs, so I think I'm on the chunky side. Anyways, I just recently started going to aerobics class and trying to eat healthy. I want to lose 10 pounds, like within 2 weeks if possible. Does anyone have any suggestions. [starvation and pills and puking aren't something Im interested in]. I want to lose weight and keep it off. Thankss (link)
just do sit ups everyday(100 then kick it up when your ready) and run. it works best.
and join the local ymca if there is one.
oh and eat foods like lean meats and yogurt.
hope i helped




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