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the boy
hey before you answered my question about the guy because i couldnt tell if he liked me or was interested. and you said i should talk to him. im really shy but i want to talk to him. because like if i dont know. if we ever do become something i wont be able to then because well i cant now. so what are some things i can do or say to him as a astart? i have no classes with him so i cant talk to him there but i do have lunch with him. he eats with one of my friends.
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well ask your friend if you can sit with her at lunch- she'll most likely say yes. make sure you sit somewhat near him (in talking range). he'll prob. say something to you because since before he was scared about the whole "group thing", well now he knows what type of people you hang out with - and guess what? hes one of them since hes hanging out at the table! if he doesn't- then he prob. is scared or shy or something like that. and since your shy you have to try to be outgoing and act the way you do when your with your friends (im guessing your louder and stuff because i know i am). since your sitting with a friend you prob. will. i know my best friend gives me courage to be flirty with guys and stuff so maybe it will for you. things prob. wont be awkward because people at the table are always going to be talking and having conversations. your friend is probably friends with him. and if she doesn't already know that you like him i would tell her because maybe she'll somehow get you guys to talk or introduce you to each other and things will pretty much go from there. if she doesnt introduce then im guessing she'll probably be talking to him and having a conversation - && then have her ask you something like...
her: omg that movie was so good blah blah balh .. dont you think *amanda*?
you: yeah...blah blah blah blah blah blah you know whats a really good movie ___ *hisnamee* did you ever see that before?
(haha i just made up something) but like if there in a conversation have you friend bring you apart of it and make it a comfortable and relaxing conversation. to start a conversation up with him.. just make sure hes looking at you and like eye contact type thing and be like hey. (hey) im ____ and your (lets say his name is kevin) kevin right? and then he'll answer and start asking questions and w.e. you know?
heres some examples:
you: hey im _______ and your _____right?
him: yeah
you: yeah i thought so. i like see you in the hallways sometimes
him: after what periods?
you: 3 4 and 7
him: oh. ha. yeah i see you sometimes to. (something like that idk)
you: what team are you on?
him: 3
and so on... of course the convo might be diffrent but thats how they ussaully start. and then later in the conversation like start having it get more interesting. maybe even ask him if he wants to come with you to go get a snack or w.e. =]
haha im weird at times ill ask like crazy questions sometimes. like out there. only if i dont really care who the guy is.. sometimes they find it funny. like i was at the movies with some guys i know and they had a friend and i was sitting next to him and he was texting some girl named julie and im like .. having some girl trouble? and hes like kinda. im like yeahh. need my help? and hes like nahhh. im like okay i bet i can guess her name because im like physic (i knew he wouldnt believe because ha im not but i kinda made it obvouis i wasnt) and hes like no your not and im like her names julie and hes like no way howd you know that. im like i told you i was physic and hes like you saw her name... im like hahaha yeah. and we started talking. like once i get to know i guy ill start asking weird questions like what would you do if i was 500 pounds? haha im weird but they find my questions funny and something to talk about. i dont know if its like the best thing to do if you really like a guy and your nervous because i dont know what i would do.
but the point of that was like.. i was outgoing and loud and i was comftorable and MYSELF. i didnt change. so just when you talk to him .. treat him like any guy. and be who YOU are. because thats what is important. and if your outgoing and loud well more power to you but if your shy you might want to over come that because thats just not going to make anything comfortable. you know? so my suggestions would be:
-be comfortable
-outgoing
-smile a lot
-laugh
-be nice
-be YOU
-if you can be funny but dont say anything stupid haha =]
and if he doesnt like who you are then you know that hes not the right guy. but i wouldnt worry about that because he prob. will like you beacause he wouldnt still be interested in you still after finding stuff out about you (you said he was asking your friend alot of stuff about you) so im guessing hell like you. just act as if you were talking to your best friend.
=] hope i helped. any thing else ask
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