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We have been together for a year and a half, things are slowing a bit. We both know it and neither of us want it. I would love some great ideas for nice surprises. I have done flowers and letters and all that jazz but i would like something different. I am going to sneak letters and treats into places she may find them, just to give her a nice thing, but some ideas for days or things.
BTW it can't be something over night as her parents are very strict, have to bare that in mind.
Just gonna throw 'em out there bud.
Indoor picnics, or outdoor.
Cook together, make cookies, or stir fried rice.
Watch some movies together.
Go to the zoo, museum, aquarium, theater, carnivals, concerts, conventions.
Play some basketball, or soccer at the park.
Like animals? Go to a petstore together, look around and buy some fish maybe.
Go out to eat, nothing flashy but, maybe some frozen yogurt.
Teach her something you can do that she can't. For example play an instrument.
Just goof off together.
Don't try to plan everything, just go with the flow y'know.
Ok,so i know asking this probably isn't going to get me anywhere as people feel too morally obliged not to answer a question like this but i'll give it a go nonetheless. The thing is,i am considering the possibility of claiming my own life very serious as of late and would like to know what would be the most efficient way to go about it.I'm not going to try and justify my considering this but i would really appreciate an honest answer.I realise asking this puts anyone who reads this in a very awkward position and i am very sorry for that,all i need are just a few simple suggestions.
I suggest, you don't. It's very hard I know, I have these thoughts often. But it helps to talk. If you'd like we could. But I'm pretty sure no one is going to tell you how.
alright im gonna start of saying i know im a dumb guy who dosnt think right. i wen out with a girl sophomore year. she was very pretty. i can honestly say i loved her.. and up to this day i still do. she was amazing.i met her freshmen year. she was adorable. but we never really talkd. well we aventually broke up. well no couple ever stays together.. i mean some do. but not forever. and if they do. then thats something special. i though i was gonna last with this girl. but as you can see we didnt. i know she still loves me. im pretty sure she still dose. problem is we dont talk to each other.at all i wanna talk to her but im scared of falling for her if i do :( not dat thats a bad thing. believe me its not. but im scared im gonna get hurt by her again. well im in my junior year now. i have a girl named christiana sandoval. and i like her alot honestly ido. but shes nothing compare to my other girl. my ex :/ i miss her. i wanna talk to her but theirs a rummor at school that she got pregnate. i dont know if its true. but alot of people are saying its so. i know not to believe stupid rummots people make up but who makes up stuff like that?? and well thats whats holding me from talking to her again.cause if shes really pregnate. then i want nothing to do with her. semse to me she found a guy who treats her right. and i know that even if i talkd to her knowing she was pregnate it would be hard for me not to be upset about it since i still love her. and knowing thats shes pregnate from another guy basicly lets me know that ican never have her in my arms ever again.. what should i do? should i believe the rummors? should i still talk to her even if she is pregnate? im so lost. HELP!!
Oh damn...well rummors are always spread. Anyways, if you really love her. And miss her then...why not talk to her? As for the rummor just ingnore it for now and TALK TO HER...this way you can find out what you want with out having to go bassed off rummors. Don't be held back 'cause you think she has another man. You're not sure about that...so just find out for yourself. And don't worry we're all human we all make mistakse. Now if she is pregnant or she has someone else, don't worry about you're still young and love comes and goes. Unfortunately it doesn't last for ever, it is rare.
I looked up most of my dreams, but there was one I could not find. I need help, I want to know what it means. Someone broke into my house and stole my clothes from my closet, my sister, boyfriend, and her boyfriend ran off and caught him and everything. He apologized, and I expected to see my clothes when I came home. Turns out that, the clothes I don't even wear where back in my closet. But they went off to sell the rest of my clothes.
What does this mean???
I'm not certain but here's what I get...
Your clothes are a symbol of something close to you, as in attachments. Whether they're material or emotional or a person.
There for the new "clothes that you use more" were sold away and the old remained. Maybe you've been thinking on something past some old memories that have been holding you back in something, or that has been pushing away your newer "clothes".
Your sister and her boyfriend caught the theif so that's good, you'll be gaining something lost back.
The theif apologized, there's been maybe regret on your mind, or maybe someone has done something to you and now they're feel sorry.
You expected to see your clothes mostly the newer ones that you have more use of. You're expecting for the new attachment to come back to you or to stick around while you still hold on to the old ones.
So yeah...that's what I get short in simple, something old is standing in the way of something new. Old memories so to speak are preventing you to move forward....or to progress in some way.
This might not be what you're looking for or might not tie in with what's going on but this is what I can "perceive."
Hope I helped, f/17.
16/F
So for the past 8 months I've been talking this guy on twitter. We used to roleplay as a fake couple. Well five months into talking with eachother I confessed I've grown feelings for him. He admitted the same to me. Then we started talking about real life stuff like our friends, family, school, and our past. Everyday we would talk about the most random things. Soon its been 6 months and we start saying "I love you." And I know the internet is never safe because you dont really see the person behind the screen and it could be some online predator but something felt right. I mean after seven months why hasn't he made a move if he is an "online predator?" He never asked me about my town or school or my last name. He straight up told me everything but never asked me once. So I told him everything and he put "Why did you tell me that? You didnt have to." sooo yeah. He always talks to me about school and homework and how he took his best friend to the dance for fun. And he always asks me to help with his math homework (lol) and I always do. I mean if this guy is a "predator" he's really good and sneaky and patient to meet me. I told my mom about this cause I thought she should know and she wasnt to happy about it. After everything I told her she is still uncertain..but I told Forest,the boy, that my mom knows and he did nothing...wouldn't he be scared and stop talking to me if he know my parents know?
I want to meet Forest cause its killing me inside, I live in Iowa and he lives in California. She says she will believe this when she meets him in real life and well I dont blame her. But how can I convince my mom to get us to meet him?
Sorry if this is long and makes no sense
I've dated online before only twice.
My personal experience, long distant relastionships especially ones from online didn't work out. But that's my experience, I'm just a bit clinggy and need that special someone closer to me. ANYWAYS!
I don't think he's an online predator from the way you discribe your online "relationship."
But there's always that slim chance so don't let your gaurd down. Atleast see if he has any pictures of himself and hope that they're really him and or that he really looks like that too. e_O" One of the guys I dated online looked really hot "online" but in person...yeah not so much. Lmao, but what ever he was sweet and sooo funny which made him sexy in my eyes (; lol. [Back to topic] You did good in telling your mom, with my online relationships I found it hard but I did tell my parents too they weren't happy. I just think that's an overall feeling.
compare their new girls to their ex's ,whether it be recent or not.I was an amazing girlfriend and my ex even admitted that and there's not many girls at my school like me and even his friends loved me and thought he shouldnt break up with me.I just feel as though when he finds a new girl if he compares her with me,he will realize what he lost!
I'm almost certain they do!
I know us girls at one point or another compare all our exs. So what's not to say they do the same!
If you were such a great girlfriend and he even admitted to you that you were, and if the reason he broke up with you wasn't because you were a bitch or annoying or such things. Than I'm sure he will realize it. As the saying goes..."You don't realize what you had, until it's finally gone."
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My bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago,it wasn't a bad break up at all and he just said he needed "space" and we still have hungout,talked,etc.For the last two weeks,we basically acted like we are just ffriends and nothing ever happend.Ofcourse, we flirt a little bit and I'm still crazy for him ,but I only talk to him if he talks to me first.He told me I was the most amazing girl ever ,and the coolest girl he's ever dated,but he just got "sick of me" so that ended our relationship. So,lately ive been giving him what he wants...SPACE.i wont text him ,i wont go up to him in school,i wont talk to him etc.unless he does to me first.We hungout a few times last weekend,but this weekend I did something different.Last night he texted me and asked me what im doing ,and he called my friend i was with because he knew we were all together,and i told him we were "going to this kids house to have our own little party" and i named the people there (all boys !) and didnt invite him to come... I'm hoping i did the right thing to maybe make him jealous or if im pushing him further away from me? Usually I would have dropped everything to go hangout with him,but last night i didnt! (obviously i wanted to haha) I just want him to miss me,but it's so hard since we have the same friends and i have a class with him.Help! I really want him back!
Well...first off, I just want to say. You can't force someone to love/like or I guess miss you.
Those feelings develope on their own...BUT! You are going on the right way of helping him develope them, by trying to make him jealouse, theres nothing wrong with trying to do that. And if he said all those things about you than maybe he does still have feelings for you but like he said he got "sick of you." Maybe you were spending too much time together, or maybe you were a bit too affectionate, I dated a guy who didn't like PDA, and well things didnt work out obviously. So what ever it was hard at first but I eventually moved on. He'll probably wonder what your doing with all those guys (nothing dirty) but like, he'd want to be there to see if your flirting or stuff. So if you want him back I'd say keep it up, and when you're hanging out in person, don't be so intrested in him. Look at other guys around, it'll make him jealouse for sure! Now keep in mind if his feelings vanished, well then it might not work. But I'm sure that's a risk you're willing to take and by all means good luck!
There's this guy that I met at school (high school) and we've texted a lot and we sometimes talk at school as well. We've been trying to plan a time when we can hang out outside of school, but one of us always seems to be busy.
I finally found a day when I'm free, but I don't have anyone who could give me a ride, so would it be too much to ask him if he wants to drive to my house? I should probably mention that I commute to school (about a 45 minute-1 hour drive). I didn't if that is a little too much to ask of him to do... find someone who can give him a ride (he cant drive yet), sit in a car for that long on the way here and on the way back, just so he can see me?
Also, since we've never really hung out a lot outside of school, do you think it would be weird to have him out to my house?
Any advice would be appreciated:) (please no rude comments)
Well...since you two don't really hang out. He may be a bit bothered at first, but if hes a good guy he won't mind much. Let him know before you actually hang out, that way it won't catch him off guard. I wouldn't worry much about the time spans of the drive, it could work out as some extra time to get to know each other more in person than just through texting. Good luck :]
Hi, I was wondering if anyone knew how to get your period to come faster.
I'm a week late, definately not pregnant, and it's usually normal for me, however I've been experiencing PMS pains for the last 10 days! My stomach and back are aching, I've had fevers (which I normally get as well because my period makes my body really overreact).
Anyway, does anyone have any suggestions on making it come faster? I tried exercising (helped last time) but it's not doing anything for me.
Please & Thank You !
You can't make your period come faster per-say...however if you're usually late and want to take controll of your cycle, birth control is always an option! :)
There are also some natural herbs and or drugs.
That will make you regular ad make them shorter and less painful as well. :D
i'm a senior, and a lot of my friends on facebook are changing part of their names or last names so colleges won't search for them or something. i don't really understand why though. i mean i'm sure a lot of them have pictures that colleges wouldn't find appropriate, but do colleges actually search for people and judge them based on what they see?
They have no right to judge based on fotos, but if the person accepting the people is an asshole, then yeah maybe. But I wouldn't worry about it, if so you can always fight it. I'm sure you'd win the case in a prejudice type case, over som stupid party fotos, half nudy and so on.
I've had fake/acrylic nails for such a long time now (done by a salon). I'm just sick of going every few weeks, so my problem is.. is there any way I can get them off at home? I don't like it when the professionals take them off because it really hurts their way. Is there any products I can use or soak them in to get them off? I've heard soaking them in soapy, warm water helps but that takes forever! Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.
First you wanna cut the nails as short as possible, as close to your actual finger nails.
Then you need to get a bowl and some nail polish removal (the kind with ACETONE in it). Pour that in the bowl, then get some Vasaline (petroleum jelly) and put it around you fingers where there's skin, try not to get it dirrectly on the nail or under it, or this won't work. This to prevent skin irritation from the chemicles.
After that soak your nails in the bowl for 15 to 20 minutes, then pull out and peel them off. They should come off fairly easy, if there's any struggle dip for another 10 minutes.
There yah go =)
Can somebody please recommend a good scar creme? Something that will work quickly and do its job well.
This is your bestfriend! =)
http://www.bio-oil.info/en/uses.html
It's mine and it works wonders!
Bio-oil, sold in Walgreens world wide ;D
Sure no problem! It varies depending the size you buy and the ounces contained in the bottle, here see for yourself.
http://www.drugstore.com/templates/brand/default.asp?brand=50100&aid=336064&aparam=how%20much%20is%20bio%20oil&scinit1=how%20much%20is%20bio%20oil
A little pricey I know but trust me, it's worth it, happy shopping!
17/f, i recently discovered that i enjoy playing the drums. problem is, the friend who taught me some stuff, is not allowed to hang out with me anymore. (long story) but, he had a drum set, which was pretty cool & i don't know where to get my own, i need cheap and GOOD drums. and...i have to convince my dad to let me get them. we live in a trailer so it's going to be tough to get him to let me get them. i just really want to drum. my uncle has two drum sets, but he uses one and his son uses one. I could practice on those, but i have nothing to practice! I don't know where to go from here, please help guide me in the right direction!
thanks in advance, sorry it was long.
Use your common sense and look online...I'm sure you have a computer with internet acces since you were able to ask for advice, right?
Well here yah go; one site:
http://musical-instruments.pricegrabber.com/drum-kits/cheap+drum+set+sale/p/1702/
By the way all musical instruments are fairly pricy unless you get them at a used pawn shop, or a garage sale. :b
As for convincing your father, simply tell him, you love him and you'd love him more if he bought you a drum set...lol kidding.
Tell him you're serious about playing the drums and that you love it very much and would like a set of your own to continue playing.
Good luck and happy hunting!
i was wondering if i could get pregnant,when it was my first time having sex with my boyfriend when he egaculated before he put on the condom?could there be a possability of me getting pregnant?
Only is ejaculated inside you or anywhere near your hole, that would make it easy for the sperm to fow through the cervix and reach the eggs. Otherwise no, take a test and when you get the results, what ever they maybe think it over.
Keep in mind what ever happens it's your dissicion and no one elses.
Well i want to have so bad!!And i have this boy who asked me to do it with him but i dont know what to do!! I really want to tell him yea but im scared im goin to get pregent and im really scared my cherry is goin to pop!!! See this boy has a condom in his pocket all the time for whenever i give him hes answer but im scared!! Im not really scared of him and his dick im just scared my cherrys goin to bust or im goin to get pregent!! If i get pregent my mom and dad is goin to kill me and then bring me back to clean up the mess!!! Im so scared to have sex and im horney all the time!!! See i've been fingured and thats what makes me want to have sex cause when i got fingured it felt so good!!(LOL) Please Help me i dont know what to do!! Should i have sex with him and use pertection or not have sex at all with him and just let him fingure me??????
PLEASE HELP
If you're freaking out then you are obviously not ready for sex, especially if your spelling and grammar is this horrific. >.>
How old are you?
Stick to fingering and oral if you'd like, no chance of pregnancy there and you still get pleased!
The condoms in the pocket at all time, well as that other advisor said, it's a bad idea.
Have fun and be safe
well um i like this guy and we like always flirt we're always like hitting each other and staring at each other and we'll always smile at each other and we always get into those flirting pushing your buttons fights so what do i do and did i mention he has a girfriend eeeppppp i'm in a jam
If he has a girlfriend then you have no business chasing after him, unless he plans on leaving her and going out with you. So like that other advicesor said you should tell him to stop flirting since he has someone or to be serious and think of what he's going to do. Otherwise don't waste your time, you could find someone better that is single and on the market. ;)
ok so finally im commin out with it i honestly have not felt a single emotion other than anger or a good happyish kinda feeling when im drunk nd i have to have a gd buzz too, anger nd hate i feel nd it burns me from the inside but its a creepy im gonna explode nd be happy nd i serriusly start going crazy but i keep my sanity at the same time in a way but i mean i have to try to create emotions in front of ppl even if i couldent care less about them but i dunno
i just dont really trust people except like 1 guy who is liek my drinkin buddy so obviussly trust grows from random gd feelings but there r times when nothing not even death has fazed me a single drop of sadness... iv had pretty messed up things happen in the past with death but what i wanna know is y cant i controll my anger but styill stay sane?
y when i feel absolutaly nothing i start cracking inside nd start thinking of just psycho ideas aspecially how any1 would fall to my power??? and no i do not think im the best far from it but its somthing that runs threw my head im just so confused its anoying the hell outaa me there are other things but i dunno if its important anyway i hope some1 can help me out cus i want to have peace with me and my mom shes completely dissowned me and... i couldent give a SH*t...
You say you haven't felt any other imotion apart from anger in a good while, and that you've had past experiences with death and such. But now you can't shed a tear? Maybe you've been through so much, that your mind and heart have completely shut down, so you won't hurt anymore that you have been, or are. I also have to say drinking isn't wise, when you drink your body losense up abit and causes a feeling of relaxation "buzz", but when you're out and back to normal, the feelings you had before, i.e. anger. Will be more heartfelt and cause you to stress.
You don't trust people, except for your drinking buddy, you may want to see a spychologist and get your feelings out in the open along with any thoughts you are having. As for your mom, if she disowned you as you say, then go to another adult you know fairly well, teacher, guidence counslor or friend, or search the web for your local suicide hotline and they maybe able to help you with your problem.
You're not crazy, it's normal for everyone to go through something like this, not exactly like your case, but depression, anger issues are common in teens...Hope I helped.
i need to exactly know if you swim the day after the perm and you get all wet under water will your hair turn green
No, however your hair CAN turn green...but only if your blond and go swimming in water that contains clorine, say like a pool. :)
Evenso the green isn't that much noticible but yeah. Hope I helped :D
im 16/m
thers this girl who ive known for like a week. we've been talking alot and everything is going good, but i dont know how she really feels about me,rigt now its just chill.
but homecoming is like in 2 weeks...i asked her if she was going, but she said that she might be busy on that day, but for some reason i dont wanna let that stop me. i dont wanna give up.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Go for it, hang with her more, get her to feel more comfortable with you, as the time nears by more, drop suddle hints. Ask her, that's all.
Simple, try not to fret. If she says no well you gave it your best, but yah never know, she may drop her plans to go with you.
Most girls say they have other plans in hopes of avoiding the whole "gasp I have no one to go with!" Dx
But like I said simply ask her when the time is right, don't give up!
Best of luck =)
Does anyone know of some good adult stores that sells pretty cheap or reasonably priced lingerie and corsets? Thanks!
Not many stores that are cheap on lingerie, how ever they do have the occasional sales we all love!:D
We obviously know Victoria Secret has a great sexy line of hot lingerie, they tend to have sales, there's also Bare Necessities and Lingerie Diva. All have online websites were they have specials and sales and such things. Which I will say ordering off line you can save a few cents more then buying in person just an f.y.i! Hope i helped =)