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I've been with my bf for nearly 3 months now, I like him alot but I'm starting to think it may just be in a friendship manner... We hang out alot together and with my friends..his friends, we were friends before we took it to the next level and ever since we started going out it's basically the same but we see each other more... I like spending time with my bf but sometimes I feel it's excessive and get tired and just want to go home! We cuddle and hug alot and kiss when the times right (he's not a great kisser lol) but the problem is I'm not physically/sexually attracted to him as a person.. I like the closeness of the relationship but at the same time I feel confined... I don't know what to do because he's such a caring and sensitive guy and I do like him alot and we connect in alot of ways but is the attraction thing going to be a problem? I don't have any intention of breaking up with him anytime soon but I can feel it'll happen eventually, inevitably.. I'm really confused because I'm feeling such mixed emotions towards him! When I'm apart from him for long periods of time I miss the hugs and kisses and general hanging out, but when we're together I can get restless and tired and little things about him can start to annoy me!
Basically... I'm confused... Any help with how I should handle this or anyone who's been in/is in a similiar sitution? That would be very appreciated! xxx

...hmm. you should probably talk to him about this and since he's a sensitive guy, he should understand. if it doesnt work, leave a message in my inbox and i'll try to help.


*hope i helped*
~*Julie*~

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what does emo mean??

emotion emotionally

hope i helped *~Julie*~

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On a typical day I eat one meal. I obsess over food. I weigh myself at least once a day. I lost 35 lbs. in the past 4 months and I have this addiction to losing more and more weight. I don't even like to drink water. I do have OCD and Anxiety. Do you think I could be Anorexic?

well you SHOULD eat 3 meals a day and some snacks in between. and you need water every day. your body can't go on very long without enough food or water. You could be anorexic. Please just eat and drink water. You need it. 20 year olds are fine to weigh 101 lbs. it's normal.

hope i helped
*~Julie*~

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heyy well I just got my period and I was wondering when do you know it is ending? because..it has been the same flow since the first day. I had it for four days so far. Also does your stomach bloat when you have your period? Also my friend said all your fat goes to your legs is hat true? thanks

it depends on who you are...it is normal to last for 4 to 7 days. and your stomach DOES bloat when you have your period. all your fat does not go to your legs. :) hope i helped. if you need anything else, drop one in my inbox.

~*Julie*~

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Can anyone give me the recipe for a homemade face mask?

mud. I'm serious!! You could use mud. That's what they put in Mud Masks that they sell at stores. Mud and soap. make sure you don't have any cuts on your face. Well, it really doesn't matter if you add the soap in there. But i would, just to be sure.

*Hope I Helped*
~*Julie*~

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Okay, I need to know if this outfit matches for a party coming up, and if it doesn't, let me know.

1. First of all, do BROWN and BLACK match with eachother? (I hope so)
2. My whole outfit has to revolve around my BROWN sandals that I just bought.
3. And I want to wear my BLACK cardigan sweater (REALLY BAD!)
4. Can I wear my brown sandals, a (white or brown?) shirt underneath the black cardian sweater? And a skirt...but what color skirt?

Tell me if any of that matches. Basically I want to wear my black sweater and brown shoes, so what color shirt and skirt should I buy?

THANKS!

well, I think you should get a totally different outfit...:-\ Brown and Black don't really go together. You should go to Old Navy and buy a white blouse, blue skirt (longer kind) and blue shoes (the same or almost the same color skirt) doesn't matter if the shoes are sandals or whatever. Hope I helped!!

Hope you Have a Great Time at the Party!

xoxo ~*Julie*~

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My friend is very mad at me, so she said since i didnt do anything and it was all my friends, if i didnt talk to my friends for friday, saturday, and sunday, she wouldnt be mad at me anymore. So i did it. This girl that asked me not to talk to them is on my softball team ALL summer. well i didnt talk to them, and they got REALLY mad and walked off, they told my other friend that they thought i was a BITCH because the only person i care about is me and nicole(shes not mad at me and not the person i wanst supposed to talk to)!So they hate me now!!!!they are my best friends and they arent talking to me!HOW CAN I GET THEM BACK?

well, you shouldn't of done that in the first place, but you should try talking to your friends saying things like "im sorry!! i wasnt thinking when i did that!" (no offence) all i can say is, GOOD LUCK!!

xoxo ~*Julie*~

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K, so theres these kids thta always calls me flat, my crush hears that. Ok so i bought this bathing suit thta has padding in it, should i waer it even tho thye will now theres ometihng in it not noticeable but the bathing suit just makes me look big


Thnakyou
And any helpful advice ill give a 5!

if your crush will be wherever you swim, then i say go for it. but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't wear it. I say go for whatever your brain tells you to do. Listen to yourself! Or tell a friend about it, someone you can trust, and maybe get an opinion from them. But whatever you choose to go with, i hope you have a great time!


~*Julie*~

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I've always wondered this...
Why do teens think that they "need" a boyfriend or girlfriend? What's so great about it?
I follow that at least in high school and college it's kind of a time to experiment with relationships and all, but I just don't really follow why teens think they "need" someone, especially since a lot of it seems to end kind of painfully for people.
Anyway, long story short, I'm confused about why people think it's something they need, why they seem to look so hard for it at a young age, and what's so great about having a boy/girlfriend.
Thanks.

Because they don't want to be left out...like if their best friend got a boyfriend/girlfriend and they look so happy together...the person without a girlfriend/boyfriend would become jealous and lonely...Let's say (lets call her Cassy) Cassy got a boyfriend and her best friend Jenna got jealous because Cassy was leaving her out of things and she won't stop talking about this boy..then wouldn't you agree that Jenna would want a boyfriend too? ~*Hope I Helped*~


~*~*Julie*~*~


if you need anymore answers to anything, leave one in my inbox.

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Hi!
I had sex for the first time 2 weeks ago, and it felt fab, my boyfriend enjoyed it so much we did it for about an hour in some local woods. we didn't use condoms and i had sex durin my periods -do u enjoy sex and do u think i'm pregnant?

well i think if you didn't use a condom, then theres a 72% chance you might be pregnant.

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Where would I insert CSS for my advice column? I see alot of columns with it so I know it can be done but I'm not sure where. They aren't paid accounts but they still have it on there. I tried putting it in the "About Me" section since it says HTML is allowed but that's not working. Please only answer if you know. I will rate 5's to people who tell me.

put it on the top one. not the one with the browse button

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i really need help. I want to break up with my boyfriend cuz im tired of him hurting me and feeling like he doesnt care about me. but... I dont want him to hurt himself / commit suicide. Im talking to him on AIM now and he says i should see all the blood and that it hurts and he doesnt want to live. I havent even told him that i want to break up with him but i think he figured it out.

i want to break up with him but i dont want him to hurt himself. But i think he already has =\. What can i do? I know i should tell somebody about him hurting himself, but i dont really know what to tell them...?? please help me!

tell him to stop hurting himself and thinking about commiting suicide or you'll break up with him...or tell the guidence counsler.

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everyone i know has a different interpretation of what the "bases" are. i always feel stupid when what i finally decide is right..isn't according to someone else? what are they?

bases in baseball...are just bases. They make it so baseball is complete and easier. their for batters who hit the ball with the bat, run to the base to be safe from getting out.


I'm sorry! i dont know much about baseball but i hope i helped! (that is true though)

send me more!!!! just leave some in my inbox about anything.

xoxo Julie

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how do make a guy that u like notice you without looking stupid?

just be funny around him. talk to him or something. talk about a subject u both like. find out what he likes (for example, skateboarding) be all like "hey, wanna go to the skatepark this weekend?" to a friend making sure he overhears. Then you could also go up to him and say "hey, do you kno the assinment? there was no one else to ask." and he'd probably reply! haha. you could also, drop your pencil by him and when you go to pick it up, say hi. I'll probably think of more so watch out for more replies from me. lol. welp, hope i helped.






leave any message in my inbox. i keep all your questions a secret...unless you dont want to. anyway, just leave some messages in my inbox if you aren't sure about something..


xoxo Julie

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i know this sounds so mean, but really have to dump him. i dont no how to break it to him. we've been going out since may of this year. he told me that he kissed a girl at school, but he told me that he was drunk or something. i dont beleive him, becuase he is 12, 1 year yoiunger than me, and peopledont get drunk in my school. now he likes this girl diana, and he made out w/ her yesterday...i really like him... he is my first bf, and the 1st guy i kissed, hugged, held...ect. so he is going to call me in an hour to find out from me whether it is okay to have 2 girlfreinds. i am going to say no... but i just cant. i am sorta shy, and cant be mad at or mean at anyone for long. how should i tell him?
please help me, i know that you hate these type of questions, but plz try...
-thanks
-confused

ok...i suggest you should just tell him if he wants to have a girlfriend, he should go with the other girl. and be all like "well, if you want to cheat on me, then this relationship shouldnt be." then hang up and dont wait for his reply. its ok to be like this. i kno its hard. but this is just the way life is. Life goes on.


hope i helped


xoxo Julie

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I am looking for some web sites that sells clothes/shoes/bags/jewlery/etc. I am into alot of different styles--so any suggestions about where you shop online would be appreciated! thanks!

try hottopic.com (if your punk or goth)

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I'm 17, and so is my girlfriend, though most of the time she's a lot more mature than me because she's gone through a lot more. I've messed up a lot in my relationship.. nothing extreme, theres just a lot about me that bothers my girlfriend, and she's gone through times when she puts serious thought into breaking up with me, and truthfully i dont see why she hasnt. but what bothers her is basically just a lot about me that i can't help much, like things that i do without thinking about it, and the fact that i use to be a big flirt and sometimes have trouble stopping that.
she's always been more than faithful to me, and has never strayed away.she's debating giving up trying with me and i love her more than anything, she's perfect for what i want to be and am trying to be. but i need to know whether or not i should just let her go and live without my complications or not. please respond quickly.

i think you should be more romantic but dont overdue it. You should be more like her but not exactly like her. But do everything she looks for in you. I hope everything works out.

xoxo Julie

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i was on myspace and i was reading my boyfriends comments and i noticed a new one from a girl in my grade. it was saying thank you. so i go to her page and i see that he commented on hers saying that she was beautiful and he thought she should know. is this weird at all? should i be mad? he is a very good boyfriend and always there for me and this is the only thing i have ever had to question about him..help!

well, um...i think you have a reason to be angry with him. i would be angry if my boyfriend said some other girl was beautiful. but then i think you should just call him up right now or IM him or something and then ask him why he was doing that and i hope everything goes good from there! :)
*hope i helped*

xoxo Julie

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I've known this guy for years. We were also friendly towards each other. He's a senior and I'm a sophomore now. I really like him and have always had a thing for him, and I think he might like me, but I'm not sure. I'm afraid to tell him how I feel because I always get taken advantage of every single time I do with no exception ever.

I think he likes me because he says things that just make it sound like he does. He told me that a friend of his said once years ago we'd make a cute couple but he thought that I didn't really like him much. He made it sound almost like a suggestion. He picks me up and gives me a hug everytime he sees me. He also said admitted to hitting on me all the time and thinks I'm the best looking girl in the school.

Still, I'm not sure. I'm afraid to tell him about my feelings no matter what he says, unless he said something first and it kills me because I love him. He's the first and only guy I've ever loved and I'll never forget him. He'll be graduating soon... I'll lose him if I don't act but I can't do anything about it. I've tried and end up babbling about something stupid that ends with us both laughing.

What do I do?

I think you should just drop some hints when your with him like flirting. or just tell him you like him and see what happens.

*hope i helped*
xoxo Julie

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Okay so I like this guy who just happend to be one of my best frineds and Ive only been hanging out with him for a month so its sort of sudden. Anyway about two days ago we got kind of close on the couch. It was in more then a friend way. We didnt kiss or anything but we have as a dare. The thing is we havent really talked since. Like he IMed me saying hey and whats up? but thats it then he was just like Cant talk. so I dont know what to do any ideas? And dont say talk to him becasue thats what Im trying to aviod.

i think you should let things sit and wait and when the time is right, you guys will talk.

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