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I really want to decorate my room in an hawian kinda theme. I don't live in hawaii or anything, I just like the look of palm trees and stuff. Well, I was wondring where I can get some cheep things. Eaither on the internet or at a store. I have a few things from Claire's and Icing. But I barly have anything from there. Thanks!!!!! (link)
You could find alot of Hawaiin items many places. I have a hoola skirt you could fin done and tack in on to a door or wall. Yes you can find some stuff at target. Or maybe if Hawaiin stuff isn't at Target you could go to google and ask where can I geat cheap Hawaiin items?

Hope I helped.


I don't think my friend understands that you can be best friends, do things with other people (seperately) but still be best friends. Any advice? (link)
Tell you're friend that you need to be seperated from time to time. Tell her what is on your mind...



i want a new ringtone for my cellphone but i'm not sure what to get. any suggestions? (link)
JESUS WALKS. LOVE THAT SONG!!!!!!!!!!




my friend and i liked the same guy but he didnt like me back. He confused me sometimes because i wasnt sure if he liked me or not, untill last night he asked my friend out. Now she is all happy, and i am left hurt. IT absolutely kills me inside how he picked her over me b/c of the age difference (she is 2 years younger) she is 15, and how i am his age. SHe even knew that i liked him, and we made a lil truse that we wouldnt be obssesed with him, now she's with him. (link)
Ok I don't have the kind of advice you might be looking for. But here it goes. You have to get straight up with your friend and tell her that she really hurt you inside and right now you are very upset. You need to say you know I liked him so why did you have to go and go out with him you really hurt me. Or if you don't want to say that saywhat is on your mind as long as you get your point across to her so she knows that she really hurt you inside.



i think im ugly!! i hate how i look, very much...i want to look hott..but i know i need surgery for that...how do i deal with my ugliness any longer..sometimes i hurt my self trying to make my looks better... (link)
omg you should never ever hurt yourself because of your feelings. what you think might be different from what someone else thinks. and if you still feel that way then you should try some mascara and some lip stick. but you should nevere ever hurt yourself. i knwo some people who are very ugly, bushy eye brows, fat lips, guy's voice. just think of the better side of things.



Well I started dating this guy and we've only been dating 4 like 2 weeks but we talk less now than we did b4 we started going out and I hardly ever see him..and then theres this other guy I like and talk 2 like everyday and I see him more than my bf so I'm thinking about dumping the first guy 4 the 2nd one...but how do I let him down easy?? or should I just stay with him and see what happens??? Thanks! (link)
Follow your heart!



When ever I am doing somthing i always hear music in my head, even during the most important exams before I used to be a straight A student now i'm failing my freshman can someone some advice to get my life back thank you (link)
I don't mean to scare you but I might with the news I bring to your presence. My mother's friend's brother's daughter had a brain tomber. The reason they found out was because she would hear music in her head and she would see people standing there when nobody was even there. Not to be a scarey person but I suggest you get that checked out by a doctor. BEST WISHES!!!



if you put your hair in 4 braids before you go to sleep will it be wavy when you wake up? like good waves, or will it look crimpy and bad? does it help if your hair is wet, oe whatever? i want to try it for school.
thanks

btw, step by step would be nicee lol (link)
1) take a shower
2) frech braid it tight
3) go to sleep
4)take it out
5)brush it out very gently so that it wont lose the waves.



PLEASE HELP IS NEEDED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.


14/f- lives with mom, aunt, grandma, grandpa, dog.

today i went over to celebrate my 2 month anni with my boyfriend. we were going to go swimming and then out to dinner at the mexican resturant guatalajara. my mom dropped me off about 11am. about 2pm we get a phone call at his house saying that my grandpa was mad and wanted me home at 5:30. i asked if i could stay later so we could eat dinner. he said flat out no and that he was going to pick me up right away. i was lke then can you wait til 5:30. he said no. my mom came to pick me up from his house in tears. he had pushed her out the door to pick me up. once we got home, we yelled an cussed at he which led up to him hitting me, my mom, and my aunt, who had to separate me from my grandpa. he hurt my aunt and broke 2 of my mom's fingers. the reason he is so mad is cuz i was out with a boy. just that. nothing else. he yelled at me and told me to move out. like he wants me out on the street without a home.

does he have the right to hit me like that? why would he be so mad that i was out with a boy? what should i do? should i tell someone that he hit me, enough to possibly cause a bruise? what should i do? (link)
Who cares if you are out on the street at least you are away from the maniac. Being on the streets is better then having him in the same house as you. Maybe you could rent a place. Think about it God did this for the right reasons. God will help you all the way through thick and thin times.



I was never baptized but now I am looking into it. However I do not want to be baptized infront of the entire church during sunday mass. Is that out of the question? (link)
I was never either. But my parents do say the best time to get baptized is when you are older so you will remember it. I want to knwo why you don't want to in front of a church. They are your family and you should be able to do anything in front of them without being embaresses. However if you still don't want to then you cant get baptized. Just think about wht I said.



My girlfriends mother, well I don't really know how to explain it but she expects her to be perfect I guess. But, prefect when it comes to the way she looks. She lets her know when she's gaining weight, she doesn't let her eat past 8:30, she tells her if she looks like shit, etc.


The big thing her mom cares about though, is her weight. She's pretty thin (5'4 and WAS 118 lbs and she's a C cup so apparently those are heavier?) but her mom still constantly is on her case about it.


Well, I've recently noticed a drop in her weight. Clothes are getting bigger, she's buying smaller sizes, her waist is smaller, and her boobs (UGHHH!!). It seems like she's lost I don't know, 7 lbs? And I know the only reason she's losing the weight is because of her mother.


Don't get me wrong, I have the utmost respect for her mom and she's like a mom to me as well, I'm just concerned about my girlfriend. Should I bring up the subject, or what?
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YES! If it comes down to it her mom could her work your girlfriend over the top and she could become anorexic. Have you noticed her throwing food up right after eating it? Well if she did that is not good that means she needs to eat more it means she has come bulemic if she throwns up the food she just ate. I think you should definatly bring up the subject but do not yell at her mother or at your girlfriend for listening to her. You need to bring up the subject subtly. Or something you could to if you are to afraid that something might hapen to you bringing up the subject is you could have her sleep over and then give her some junk food and stuff. Because if she starts losing more weight her next road is anorexia or bulemia so you need to get help fast.



Is lipgloss, lipliner, eyeliner, eyeshadow, mascara, foundation, and concealer too much for a 10th grader?

I haven't seen other girls wear this much makeup.

Is this too much makeup for my age? [15]

It's not caked on or anything... I'm just wanting your opinion. (link)
I think if you start with a subtle gloss and eye shadow. Then lightly do it around your lips and eyes you should be fine. I do blieve that you shouldn't need concealer and mascara.



well ive always wanted to shop at abercrombie and i wanted to know if their jeans run smaller than other brands? (link)
One thing you do definatey need to know in advance that it s really expensive there. No their jeans do not ruun small.



hey im a 13/f
what should i do for my birthday party??
i dont have a pool or a trampoline or anything and i just need some ah-mazing ideas please and thankyou! (link)
Well i think that u should put on some moies and have some friends sleep over. You can also have maybe your parents rent a " Moon Bounce " or somthing like that.



Okay, well, I'm usually an optimist. I love and appreciate all that I have. I just have one little problem.
Since school started, it seems like all of my friends have had guys who have liked them, or have gotten boyfriends. It all seems so perfect for them, but look at me. I've liked this one guy for a while and he likes me as a friend. I guess I'm still hoping he'll come around and realize that he could like me.
It hurts when all of your friends talk about getting kissed and going on dates and you can't.
What should I do? (link)
Well firsy of all i think you shuld get over it. So what if your friend s have uys and you don't You should still be an optimist and not be put down by the fact that you dont have everything that you friends have. You sound like you are a littler jealous. So teh guy you like doesn't like you but it is not the end of the world. Since he doesn't like you then you should just be friends with him because he doesn't like you the way you lie k him. Maybe some day he will like you tha awy you like him but for now you wil just have to wait. You shold tell you r friends that you do not like it when they talk about their dates and stuff infront of you. They should stop if they are truly your friends and care about your feelings. Werll hope I helped and i am sorry about the spelling.

Alli


ok so i'm in a long distance relationship and he has not seen a pic of me but i wanted to wait cause i am a little overweight how can i loose some weight fast??? cause i really like him but i dont really think i'm pretty at all is it normal to feel this way is it just self conciousness?? how can i feel better about it??? please help me
what do i do?? (link)
1) Just take a pic of your head you don't have to have aful body pic. But if he wants ful body pic then you should do it. I do think that if he really likes you though he shouldn't care if your fat or not.
2) If you want to do a ful body pic and give it to hmi. Try eating fruit with every meal with some veggies. Try cutting back on the junk food and maybe only have one sweet a day. Try drinking milk with dinner every night because milk is healthy for you. Yogurt as well is good fro you but it has to ave fruit in it to have the good amount of healthy a day.




my friends birthday is coming up and i need some ideas for her birthday present. she is 14/f and LOOOOVES things that are black and white checkered and jsut plain black and white stuff but i have no clue what to get her, help is apprecated, thanks!! (link)
There is black and white shoes that are out there and they are checkered. Maybe try getting her a stuffed cow. Or buy her the movie racing stripes.

Hope I helped!


so i went to this camp with my best friend alexa. we started hanging out with a bunch of guys.in our bunk at night we were talking about who we liked and we realized we both liek the same guy steven. a few nights later we found out steven might like alexa. but she told me she wasnt gunna go out with him or anything cause i liked him. throughout camp he made some moves on her but she did nothing. then i told her i didnt like him so she would have her first hookup. towards end of camp she still did nothing with him. then he told my other friend christina that he would have rather gone out with me. i do still like him but idk if i should go out with him cause that would be really mean to alexa.

please help =] (link)
Yes that would be really rude. Your friend Alexa liked him but because you also liked him she didn't go after him. I think that you should be a good friend not try to get the guy because your friend did that for you and she should be able to think that you will do the same for her.
Alli


Okay I really need help. I am having my birthday in September and I can't think of anything fun. It needs to be cheap and fifteen girls are coming. Ideas please! (link)
Try having it in your house and maybe decorate it with some hawaiin stuff or any theme of your choice. Next maybe break out a couple movies and have some of them sleep over. Heck order some pizza or chinese. Hope I helped.



if i wore white pants, a black shirt, a silver belt, and a black jacket with white daises is that just like too much white and black?? it looks good but i dont want to look like some freak whos afraid of colors or something. (link)
yes try mixing up your trends. try a knee length skirt with a pink blouse.






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