Hi..my name is Skyla. I'm 18 and I luv 2 give and recieve advice and just luv 2 talk. So, if you ever have a question or need advice, i'd luv 2 hear from u. I'm not the brightest person in the world, but I'll try to fill u in on what I know... or if you ever wanna just talk, you know where to find me!! =)
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i've been shy forever
but it's my sophomore year now
and i'm willing to do anything to make this year great
i've never had a real boyfriend, i want one
i want more friends, i wanna go out every weekend and have fun
i just want to enjoy my life, i'm content now but i want more out of life
i'm definitely no doubt about it going to join some clubs, MAYBE do a sport, if i find one i like and just be more outgoing around others.
unfortunately this year, i dont have lunch with my 2 best friends :[ and i sit with this girl im friends with and her friends. so it's good-im gonna try my best to become friends with them. except what do you do when they're sharing inside jokes and talking about stuff you totally have no clue about?? i just like sit there. i wanna show people i'm funny and talkative, cuz i really am. but it doesn't show. what do i do/say??? especially when stuff like that happens. thanks so muchh!
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Well..souds like your starting off pretty good and making really good steps toward making friends. You don't have to just throw yourself out there though just so people will like you.. Always remember to be yourself around others and you'll make better friends that way.. About the guy, you can't make him like you...again, just be yourself to him and if you he starts talking to you then that's a good thing and a good start. But, there is gonna be times where you have to start talking first and kinda just hang out with random people, well people that you would be interested in being friends with, and somebody's gonna take interest in you!!! trust me ... well hope I helped alittle lol..... 16/f * Skyla *
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i know i should have a condom whenever i have sex to prevent STD's and other things, but is it okay to have sex in the shower? (link)
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well, i think it'd be the same as having sex anywhere else...i think anyways haha..shower????haha j/k hope my very little piece of advice helped hehe 16/F * Skyla *
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Am 15&female and real mature 4 my age I have a bf and me and hem been togethere for 9mons s0 for and me and hem been thorugh s0 much but the problem is that I now this boy and I chilled with all last summer and he likes me and before I went out with the boy I go with now, & he want to be with me and I did t0 I just didn't know if he was gonna be fathful but I talked 2 hem yesterday and now I no hem more then before and he's more mature then my bf& I feel like he can b fathful but the thing is I d0nt know if I should leave my bf 4 hem cause my bf really loves me a lot ,( Wat should I do ) ?? (link)
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just follow your heart. If you really know this guy and truely know that he will be faithful to you and he really wants to be with you now, then go for him, only if thats what you feel like you should do. Make sure he still likes you like that because that would be really awkward if you show him that you really like him and he isn't into you anymore. But, you said your bf really loves you, so is he ready to let you go? Is he faithful? This choice is going to be totally up to you. Choose the one you'd rather be with, either way, you might end up breaking one of their hearts. FOlLoW yOuR hEaRt hope i heled 16/F * Skyla *
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18-f
when i was 13 i was medicated more then what i think i should of been until the age of 15 when i refused to take any of it anymore. i smoke pot daily because it feels like somethings missing i feel so empty inside and i dont know what it is i need to get that feeling of nothing away. i just sit there smoking pot and staring at myself in the mirror and occasionly i see myself in some ones elses body which freaks me out i dont know whats reality i feel im dead imaganing and living my life as tho i was still alive i dont know whats wrong with me please im desprate
and if im still alive i blame the doctors because theyd caused this problem. (link)
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Wow..what a story.. well, i agree with the other person, sounds like you have low self-esteem or something or that sort and you feel like your life isn't worth anything so why not just waste it on something that can kill you. Now, usually I would say something like, you need Jesus in your life because we all try to fill our hearts with something like drugs, sex, and junk like that and it never fits, so we just continue to try other dumb things. But, in this situation I don't wanna just throw this out at you and you not take my advice. But I am going to tell you that you need to talk to someone that you can trust, if you don't feel like you have anyone close enough to talk to, then try consider talking to a counselor and they can try to help because it's their job. If they suggest therapy, then take it.. It'll help you both for now and in the long run.. I know I can't say that getting rid of pot is just going to be easy but try really hard not to think of it anymore and focus on something else that you can do that will eventually overlook wanting to smoke pot. I know this wasn't much, I really hope everything works out for you and that you get the help you need!! I'll be praying for you and hope you feel better soon!! Write me back and tell me if you get help, because I'd love to hear from you again!! 16/F * Skyla *
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recently i took a pic of myself and in the back ground it looked like some one standing like 5 metres away from me i was home alone i zoom in and its got like a demon scary face i showed my sister and freinds and they say it looks like the grim reaper one says its wearing a black cape ive felt for a while like a ghost or something is following me how long do you think it is til i die? (link)
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Yeah, I think your just scaring yourself. I mean, it's easy for us to get scared or scare ourselves, especially when we're alone. Yeah, I don't believe it was the grim reaper or anything like that because I don't believe in that stuff and that they could show you how long you have. Only God himself knows when your day will come to either spend eternity in heaven or hell.... hope you don't scare yourself this bad again...=)
16/f * Skyla *
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I would prefer Christians who are strong in their faith to answer this one, particularly those who have gone through what I am experiencing now.I was raised by a Christian mother who puts her faith completely in Jesus. I never doubted God and was saved at the age of twelve at VBS. I was baptized at 15. Since the day I was saved, four years ago, I've prayed to God every morning, night, and whenever else I felt like it. I read my Bible every morning and night and have almost finished it. I attend church every Sunday and do a Bible study with my family every night. I also attended a small Devotion before school every day for three years. I was certain that I had a personal relationship with Jesus. Then, one night recently, I started thinking. I was just laying in bed and all of the sudden, a wave of doubt hit me. I started questioning everything, including my belief in Jesus. I've prayed and cried so much about these things that I've made myself sick over worrying about them. I've been reading the Gospel again and again trying to find solid evidence. Then, I started wondering if everything in the Bible was real. Please, someone help ease my mind. I want to reccommit myself to Jesus, but first I need to put to rest all of these doubts and rekindle my faith. How can I do this? (link)
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Well, this is all Satan.. Satan tries to fill our minds with doubts that God isn't real and that he doesn't live within us. Remember, Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy, not to bring us life and life abundantly, that would be Jesus Christ. See, I'm 16 and always known that I was missing something in my life 'till I was about 11 or 12 and I became a Christian. Almost every day, Satan fills my head with lies and doubts that my parents are never gonna get saved and that I should just forget about it. See, I'm the only one in my household that's saved and it is so hard for me, but since I believe in God firmly, I keep my mind on him and seek him every chance that I get he lets me know all the time that he hears my prayer and that he is real and he's promised me that he is going to save them.. I continues to pray that he would give me a sign and ever since then he has given me so many signs in so many ways.
Example: Last Friday we went to a youth rally out of town and we were up in the front of the Church and this guy came up to me after I got through praying and asked me what I wanted.. I told him that I wanted to see my parents saved and he told me that God wanted him to come up and help me pray because God is gonna save them but I have to keep my faith in him and continue to believe and that he would help me to continue to pray for them.. See, that was God working in one of his mysterious ways once again.. he knew that I was still praying 4 them every chance I got, and let me know that he still is real, he's the same today as he was yesterday or the day b4, and that he hears my prayers and that he's gonna continue to let me know that he is real and he is gonna save them soon!!! well, write me back and let me know everything, and if you ever need to talk just im me at skylalou_1 i'd luv to talk hope I helped * Skyla *
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24/f. I am in love with a man who is married to another woman. He is in love with me (I honestly believe we are soul mates, but it is not meant to be because of our situations), but he also loves his wife and does not want to hurt her. I believe he will never leave her and I would never ask him to.
I am leaving the city we both live in very soon, and we want to have sex, just once, before I go (we have kissed before but nothing else). We want to do it because we each fear the connection between us is one in a million and we will regret not doing something about it forever. I love him so much and I desperately want to be close to him, even just for one night. In the back of my mind, I also think it will help me move on from him - "The time I spend with this man was amazing and I will remember it forever, but it's time to get on with my life".
I know it is totally wrong of me to want to do this, but if his wife doesn't find out, what's the harm? (link)
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Yeah, you may think your in love with him but the fact is he's married to another woman.. If he really loved his wife, he wouldn't have sex with you.. He's supposed to be commited to his wife, I mean, you may think you love him and he's really into you, but honestly he should be more into his wife because he's married to her, not you.. I mean, you may think having sex with him will help you get over him and get on with your own life, but honestly it really won't. If ya really did it, yeah, there is a chance his wife won't find out, but why would you want to do it, when you may later regret it because you slept with a man whose married to a woman he supposibly "really" loves but slept with you while still being married to his wife. Later, he could feel bad because he wasn't loyal to his wife, but you may never know this because you aren't gonna be around him because your leaving the city very soon and you may not see him again, there's always that chance... just don't have sex with him, trust me, you'll be glad you didn't have sex with him in the long run....look at it like this.. "say you are his wife, your husband goes off and cheats on you and you've devoted a whole lot of your life to him and to see him have sex with another woman while suspposbily loving you at the same time, wouldnt' that hurt you..well it should, so just imagine how his wife might feel if ya really did have sex while him still being married.... hope I helped * Skyla *
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on monday and i wanted to send him a message on mypsace before he leaves, we're not close at all but i just wanted to send him something before he leaves. and i really dont know what to say .. i dont know if i should say good luck or what not so, ideas on what to say would be highly appreciated :) (link)
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just tell him that your praying (or hopeing) that he makes it home safely and he's really gonna be missed and thought of a lot while he's gone... it's not the fact on whether ya are close or not, it's the fact that once he reads it and realize that you actually care about his safety and everything b/c you took the time to write him a message.. that's what counts the most!!! so just tell him how you feel and everything will turn out just fine..!!! hope I helped and write back if he write you back and tell me what he said...if you don't care, you don't have to if you dont' want to ... your choice...
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14/f
i'm not really religious at all. my family doesn't go to church or anything and one day my parents found out i don't really believe in god. and they kinda like freaked and said we're going to start going to church and stuff [we never did]/ k so i have some questions about all this religion stuff.
-who wrote the bible?
-i mean really how is it possible that theres some great god up in the sky?
-who all thought of this? like there had to be someone who came up with this?
-who created these so called sins?
-if being gay is a "sin", why did this god create them?
-how do people know anything of what they looked like or did?
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well religion is all about faith.. what you believe in should be very important to you..
- Jesus' disciples wrote the bible..
- well.. again.. faith is what get's you places..
God thought of this all, he was here first, he's the begining and the end, the alpha and omega..
- the devil created the sins, 'cuz remember Satan tempted Eve to eat from the tree of Life that God plainly told her not to do..
- well God didn't create gay people, us humans did..in the begining God created Adam and eve, he created man and woman to be together not man and man or woman and woman..
- technicaly, we don't know everything that went on in the time before we were here on Earth, all we can go by is the bible that God has left us to read of him and his son in which his disciples wrote..
well, i'm a Christian, so I tried to answer these questions to the best of my ability so you would get to where I was coming from.. It's all up to you on whether you should believe in God or not, but if you wanted to try to learn more about this subject, maybe you should try and talk to your parents about going to Church and if ya, or you, like it then you can continue to learn about what your interested in. It's all up to you on whether you believe in God.. I hope this didn't sound like I was pushing you toward my religion b/c that wasn't what I meant to do, I was just giving you my advice.. but I would like to leave you a small piece of advice from me.... * would you rather live to the end times believing there's not a God and just die or believe there is a God and recieve the gift he's promised all of his people, eternal life with him and his son Jesus (*the one who died for our sins*) in Heaven, where there's gonna be no more tears or sorrows up there, but to live freely with them forever and ever...?? just a thought.. but write me back and tell me what you've decided to do, whether just continue to not have a religion or try the Church idea..but really i'd luv to hear from u again.... hope I helped * Skyla *
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13/f (I am going to use nicknames)
So, I have a friend, Murray. She and I hate this girl, S. S and I used to be friends with Murray. Well, I'm not friends with S, but with Murray. Murray said she hated S like me because S did rude things to me and her. Well, S called and invited me to her B-Day party Friday. i said I was busy because I was, Murray was coming over so we could watch Naruto. Murray said we should go to S's B-Day party because she said that S had changed. Now, I am so confused. First, Murray hates S, now she wants to be her friend! I never trusted S and my parents don't like her. Neither does my boyfriend. I want to know what to do at this point. Murray keeps sayign I have done bad things to S to make S do bad things to me. I did not. I did bad things to her after S did bad thigns to me. It's called revenge! I JUST NEED HELP!!!!!!
If it helps, I kinda used S after we got in a fight. I was going to use her to get some money cuz she shares money with friends all the time. Murray was in on it too, until she got her bad feeling. Now, I am confused. Please help!
Thank you!
Izzy Uchiha &hearts (link)
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Well, I believe in second chances so maybe you and Murray could go to the party and see if she really has changed, that way you'll know for sure. People can change, whether it be for the good or for the bad, that's something your going to have to decide, but this is your decision, i was just saying you could go to the party and see if she really has changed, then you'll know whether ya can be friends or not...hope I helped
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do those really work?
are they bad? (link)
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well i don't mess with stuff like that because it's witchcraft and i'm a Christian in which i'm not supposed to mess with that kinda stuff....
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Its really hard to tell with me because of my weird body habits.
So about a week and a half ago i had sex,with a condom and for a little time without one ,i am fully aware that its extremly risky.I feel dumb about doing it ofcourse but there is nothing to do ,to take away my dumb actions.
He cummed partially in me and partially on the floor and ofcourse i was scared.
Now ,my body doesn't usually get a period each month.
I got my first period about 2 years ago,and ive only gotten it maybe 4 or 5 times since then.
The first time I got it was in June of 05,and then i got it August of 05.I think I may have got it again June of 06 and again August 06.
And I had gotten it June of 07 and it is now August of 07,so i think you get the point.
I have been having weird symptoms such as one of my nipples is clearly twice the size of my other one,ive been having those crying episodes at night and mood swings.Ive had a racing heart rate,and ive been bloated ..ofcourse.Also,the gross smell down there.
Ive also had this weird discharge,it smells horrible and its like a brownish bloodish and clearish liquid,I know you get that before your period but i didnt know if you can have that during pregnancy as well.I took a test about 3 days ago and it came out negative but I know that if you take the test too early,it will not be accurate so im planning on taking another one soon.
I am extremly young [14 to be exact]and I dont want to be lectured on my poor choices,i apparently realize them i just need help because I am trying to solve this problem as quickly and easily as possible,thank you for your help! (link)
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well i know i'm not going to be much help..but the only thing that I know for you to do is wait alittle while longer to take the test again b/c it probably may have been too early (like you already stated) if you and your mom have a good relationship and you can tell her just about everything, I'd go ahead and talk to her about it, she may try to help and be calm about it, all you can do is try.. i mean, yeah it is too young, and i'm not going to lecture you or anything, just take the test again later and see wat the results are then. but just contintue to be aware of signs such as the ones you are having now, and i don't know either if you have that during pregnancy either... i know i wasn't much help and i'm sorry.. but let me know if the test does turn out positive when you take it again....
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I have been dating my girlfriend for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know she is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to my girl friend and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game my girlfriend brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. She broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back? (link)
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wow, wat a story.. well, there's really only one thing you can do and that's to ask her if you could talk 2 her one on one and explain the whole thing to her.. don't just tell her wat happened, tell her how you really feel about her and if it was just a big mistake and you love her like you say you do and she really loves you she may be willing to work something out.. well maybe... it may take her awhile because whether it was a mistake or not, it's gonna really hurt her and she's gonna need some time to heal. all you can do is give it your all and hope for the best. hope everything works out for you and her!! if so, write back and tell me how everything went!!!!! hope i helped =)
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