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okay, i know for stomach you do crunches, for legs you jog, but how do you lose that flab on your hips?
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Lose the weight everywhere else, then with your hands or whatever, just grab the flabby part and try to roll it to one of the other areas you know how to rid yourself of.

Hope I helped!


Ok..So i like this boy!my friends know i like him and almost everybody does that i know!Well my best friend has a locker next to him and she wants me to talk to him on Monday!I've only said Hi to him so far!I dont know what to say!Can somebody tell me what i can say to him!i dont wnat to say anything stupid cause its love!No stupid answers!
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Completely agreed with the previous poster. If it is 'love' then you are shallow, and have a bad concept of 'love.'

However you met him, however you developed this want for this man ~ you obviously have to spend some solid part of the day around him. Make the best use of the environment to initiate a conversation. The locker idea may be alright, but if you put it on too thick, it becomes obvious and may make him (hell, it'd probably make anyone) a bit uncomfortable. You are best off just trying to start small talk and gradually increasing the length of the conversation each time. Treat him like an average person until you get to know him better, don't become intimidated by a person you don't know.


I am so depressed because there's no christmas weather yet like rain and stuff (Orange County, no snow) How can I feel better (link)
Go to the corner store and buy a couple bags of ice. Pour them into your bathtub, climb in and get frostbite. Then you can get into the winter spirit.

Meh, I don't know why you want 'christmas weather' in the first place.

-Resident of the Midwestern reigon of the United States ~ we get snow and cold weather like you wouldn't believe.

Maybe that's why I just don't understand.

Meh, not much you can do. Turn the AC up or something.

Or throw laundry detergent into the fan.

Whatever you want to do.


I heard that masturbating makes you feel more comfortable with yourself and gives you more confidence. Is this true? I have tried it before, but I couldnt find my hole even though I wear tampons, so it wasnt pleasureable at all. (link)
Masturbation can be plenty useful. I'm not sure that it gives me any more confidence ~ or makes me any more comfortable with myself (other than not having to worry about an erection for awhile) but in talks with some of the women folk i've found that it helps them with those sort of things. I've found that females don't really have a problem with it ~ but just don't become addicted.


Ive gott a complicated situation. the boy i like he has a girl...but when hes around me he doesnt act like it....i try to stay away from him because i dont mess w. other girls mans..but i always bump in to him....help me..whut should i do???


Signed,
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Just act the same way you would around any other person. You don't have to avoid someone completely because they are in a relationship. You can be friendly without trying to convey more.


okay so guys are like.. weird.. all of them like want sex from me and i dont want to be like no go away.. but i also wont have sex with them.. whats something i can do to try and tell them i dont want to have sex.. im not mean or anything so please dont put anything mean to say! thanks a bunch! (link)
Well, tell them that involuntarily you had an anti-rape system place inside of you.

Tell them to look up 'Vagina Dentata' online and they will be flaccid for probably a week straight.

They won't ask for sex anymore, but they will enjoy you as the good looking female friend which they will never get any from.

Which may be good because then you have people using you for something other than sex.


How serios should a 13 year old relaxion ship yet? (The guys older)?? Let me know.. Weve been together a while i donno if its gonna work anymore though.... nothings the same (link)
Nothing sexual, don't try to elope (which you can't anyway) and don't even try to move in together.

5 years is plenty of growing time.


There is this white wiger at my school and friday the dance he kept bumping in to me and when he did he would say what punk u want to fight. i want fight him but there is cameras and teachers so i dont know where i should fight him??? (link)
Break the camera and fight him right there, if that wigga' gon' be gettin' up in yo' shit then I say pop a cap in his vanilla ass.



What was the significance of calling him a 'wigger'? And moreso, what was the significance of saying he was 'white' if you called him a 'wigger'? Since 'wigger' is a derogitory term which can only apply to white people.

Just let it go, so he kept bumping into you, he was trying to start shit. Don't even bother confronting him ~ it will only inflate his ego. Just don't let it bother you, which is the best thing you can do.

Why risk getting the hell beat out of you for something as stupid as getting 'bumped into'?


Has anybody masturbated when they were 12? If so, what did you do? (link)
Yes? And the same thing I do now.

But like the person before me said ~ it may be easier to get into detail if you present a gender (even though I don't think you will get much for detail at all)


all of my friends, even people younger than me have kissed a guy/girl. i havent! i only kissed little boys that i babysit. lol PATHETIC!!! dont be like "dont worry, my first kiss was when i was 20 or 14" or something. i want to know how i can make it happen soon to a cute guy nd dont say "it will happen when your both ready" cause that doenst help me! (link)
Who cares? It's a kiss.

If you are running around looking for a man just to kiss.

I feel horribly sorry for you.

You need to realize that relationships are an emotional thing, it doesn't matter 'who kissed who when' the things come in time and no sooner. And if you force them, then it's meaningless and you've basically accomplished nothing.


What is your opinion on PDA? Does it bother you when couples at school kiss? (I'm not talking about making out and getting all over eachother.) What do you consider acceptable to do in public and what should be saved for behind doors? (link)
I really don't care. Here you practically have dry-humping in the hallways ~ so i'm not sure what it's like there.

As long as you don't rub up against me - whatever.


hey this is kinda embarassing but im 18 and im a virgin! most girls my age have lost there virginitys at age 14! i feel so lonley and left out! so i lie and say im not! its not that i cant find someone its just that im so picky! i want it to be special and want to be in love! wat should i do? should i lose it with some guy i dont know? or wait for the special one? and is this wiered? i really need some advice! i lie to so many ppl and i feel bad! i want to be honest with my friends but im to embarassed!
-HELP
babyll873 (link)
Don't worry about it at all. You've played it safe and are waiting for the right person.

What happens if you give your virginity to some random guy, and you get pregnant? Do you want to trust that person to help take care of the things to come? I'd hope not.

And even waiting until you are 18 for sex is good, because that is an age which you can start working to actually support a child in case you became pregnant.

Don't lie to people, I am somewhat in the same boat as you - I really don't find a need to lie, I just try to stay away from the topic of conversation.

Something good and bad comes out of telling the people that you are still a virgin.

The bad is that they suddenly feel some great obligation to 'get you some.' And will round up everyone they know who has ever contracted a variety of other sexually transmitted diseases.

Which they don't neccescarily view as a bad thing. Here is an example of a conversation (which is a bit extreme, but i've heard a few somewhat close to it)

"How's it going?"
"Not too good."
"Why's that?"
"You won't tell anyone?"
"Of course not."
"I got herpes."
"From who?!"
"Hallie."
"How was the sex?"
"Until this part it was fine."
"You lucky bastard"
"How am I lucky?! I have herpes!"
"But you had sex with Hallie"

Just ignore people, if they want to be a whore - not much you can do but let them.

Like said before, virginity is not a hot potato.

Giftwrap it, give it a card and all that lovely jazz and give it to someone important.


I am a Christian and so is my family the "Bible" aays it is bad to mastabate but i have a hard time not to what should i do (link)
Catholic church views it as destroying human life, to just masturbate. They view it as basically every ejaculation should be an attempt to create another human life.

Ironically enough, there are intense amounts of sperm which don't fertilize ~ and those die too. Even in sexual intercourse.

So, are you killing that many people because of a flaw in design?

Catholic church better start trying to remedy that.



Masturbation can sometimes be a good thing, it is a far better alternative to random casual sex and is a safe way to vent sexual frustration.

And if you are a male (which i've been rambling on, assuming that you are) then you can soon learn the benefit of doing so before certain other things to make events go by much easier.


ok what should i do if someones mad at me for a gayass reason and you really dont wanna be mad at that person but ...... you feal like you wanna rip their heads off. the problem was that these 2 girls thought i copied there hairstyle, and other stuff. but i really didnt, i didnt even see them when i styled my hair like that. its a really common hairstyle so thats a stupid reason to be mad.
What can i do for revenge, or say to them, etc. (link)
Ponity drives a good point. You should resort to intense amounts of physical violence.

The best revenge is a brutal attack which may scar them for life, right?

Pull out their hair? Or just assault them with Nair or something.


I cold always talk to my cuzin. About everything. but one day she just broke down about everything. Now i dont think i can talk to her anymore what should i do (link)
Uhh... Talk to her about her problems for once? Maybe she felt that you put enough trust into her that she could have that kind of mutual relationship with you, and thus tried to get you to help her with some of the repressed emotions that she has had.

Talk to her about that, do for her as she did for you. And then your relationship will get stronger?

The General Mills corporation states that your relationship will get stronger.

*Disclaimer: General Mills didn't say that, however they paid me to say that they did so they appeared involved in the betterment of society to try and save their image to turn the court case more in their favor.


heyy everyone! does anyone know any great websites where you can find stuff for your AIM profile/away messages? In particular, I'm looking for cute quotes and fades. Thanks in advance! I'll rate! (link)
Sorry for the irrelevant post here, but I have to say you've added another tally mark to my list.

"Is Unoriginality Cute?"

Yes
129893589819583915981958
No
0


That is according to this site at least.

Thanks!


can someone help me out why do good things happen to bad people ? (link)
Because your concept of good and bad is off.

The people who have bad things happen to them are actually bad as well. The people who you percieve as bad are in fact good.


101 ok this is goin to sound slow but please dont judge me for it.
i rilli want to be a doctor.
the proble is tat i dont know wat kind.
i luv kids, but than i am also interested in plastic surgry stuff.
and money is kind of a factor.
so can sum1 please tell me how much or about how much each one makes, and wat u think i should b.
!!!I HATE 5'z FOR GOOD ANSWERS!!!PLEASE HELP!!! :) (link)
I hate 5's for their good answers too.

Fly airplanes, that way you don't have to make the difficult decision between what kind of doctor you have to be.


So i hang out in the small quad by myself because i dont have any friends and i wear glasses and im 5'2" and kind of have these roll thingys on my sides. but i think im really cute. and theres this guy Todd and he is so cute. hes a senior and im a freshman. he plays football and baseball and hangs out with all the popular group. i really love to watch digemon and i think he would like it to only if we got the chance to hang out. do you think if i talked to him he would like me and ask me out and we could get married.

love molly (link)
This is obviously a question fishing for insults.

But the other responses it recieved were sickening.

You people should be ashamed of yourself for being so materialistic.


Go for it, what the hell.


Hey! okay so i like this guy named zach. he's my best guy friend's friend. I barely know him at all. He doesnt really know me.. So what do i do? (link)
If you barely know him then how do you know you like him?

What to do? I suggest getting yourself in a situation where you can learn more about him.




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