Member Since: October 23, 2003
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DOES IT HURT TO HAVE BRAINS THE FIRST TIME IS THERE ANY PAIN FROM THINKING? (link)
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Sometimes... it depends if you've already broken the meningeal barrier between brain and body, through thinking-like activity, exercise or psychotherapy. If you haven't, there may be a little bleeding or philosophizing, but it's over pretty quick.
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MY EX BOYFRIEND BROKE UP WITH ME AWHIEL AGO AND I PROMISED MYSELF I WOULD FORGET HIM AND YET EVERYTIME I TRY I SEE ALL THE GOOD MEMORIES OF US AND WE STILL TALK SOMETIMES BUT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND NOW AND IVE HAD OTHER BOYFRIENDS BUT I STILL THINK OF HIM IN THERE PLACES AM I JUST PATHEIC OR WHAT? (link)
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Not pathetic, just human.
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i like this boy but im not sure if he likes me back should i ask him? but im like really shy he comes over everyday to see my baby sister which is 9 months old but i think his excuse is to see me i mean he is kind of skinny and plays football and im really in love with him but im bot to skinny im 130lbs but im losing weight and he is like 110lb i think im too fat for him cuz he likes girls like paris hilton and i want to be skinny like her andi have a few months to go to be like her so he is always looking and talking to me does this mean he likes me?please help (link)
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Weight differential is probably not a good way to plan out your love life. If he's making excuses to see you, talking to you a bunch and paying lots of attention to you, you might assume something's going on... with you in your present shape.
How do you know he likes girls like Paris Hilton? If you're just assuminging, well, not every guy likes "accidental" porn stars, y'know. If he's gushing about her to you... that's a bit crude, eh? Just because he's hanging around doesn't mean you have to fall for him.
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I LKE MY NEIGHBOR ANDI THINK HE LIKES ME BUT HE DOENST ACT LIKE I MEAN HE ISNT VERY OUT GOING OR HE DOESNT FLIRT BUT HE IS REALLY SMART SO DOES HE LIKE ME DO U THINK? (link)
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See the "signs" question... but no signs are no signs, right?
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WHAT ARE SOME GOOD THINGS TO TALK ABOUT WITH YOUR CRUSH? (link)
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Stuff you're both interested in. The news around town. Deep philosophical questions. It should become apparent.
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WHAT ARE THE SIGNS THAT SHOW A BOY LIKES YOU? (link)
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Reading tea leaves is one option.
If you don't drink loose tea... is he paying lots of attention to you? More emotional than usual? Does he seem like a deer caught in the headlights when you walk into the room?
All of these are signs of an infatuated boy.
But try the tea leaves!
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HOW OLD R U? (link)
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Younger than MFS, roughly the same age as Spacefem and older than Fern Gully.
You can check my column if you're really curious!
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if the boy i like doesnt want to do anything when he is older for a job except sit on a computer and do his job there should i keep liking him or move on? i mean he is great around little kids and comes over everyday to see my baby sister and i think he will be a great dad and i want to be with him for eternity but i mean if he is going to be lazy and never do anything with me should i find a better man? iv liked him for 2 years and i think he likes me but im just worried he is going to sit and watch football allday... we are only 13 and 14 but im in love and dont know what to do please help me (link)
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Hey, there are perfectly good jobs that stick you in front of a computer and require you to think/edit/create.
He doesn't sound lazy now, do you suppose he'll degrade that much?
But if it bugs you, then it bugs you, and you'd better bring it up with him rather than let it fester.
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if the boy i liked forgot my age and thought i was 12 still and not 13 is that a bad thing? and does that mean he doesnt like me? or do boys tend to forget girls age? i have repeated my b-day a lot of times in front of him (link)
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At least he didn't forget your name.
I'm still awful with birthdays and ages, so yeah, some guys are clueless WRT that kind of stuff.
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I JUST GOT BORED THAT Y I PUT IT ON THERE I DONT WANT TO DO IT I MEAN ME AND HIM ARE ONLY 13 AND 14 IT WAS A JOKE (link)
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I can't tell anything about you except what you give me... and it's a perfectly plausible question (I assume this is the prom/condom person speaking) for a high school senior.
Maybe someone else will be thinking the same question in the next few days and you'll have done the community a service.
Happy bored-ness, I guess.
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the boy i like well his mom says that he doesnt like any girls but is always hanging around me doe that mean he likes me?we do a lot of stuff like make jumps for my romote control car and we jump on my trampoline together and ride my scooter together do u think he might like me or is he trying to be friendly please tell me (link)
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Parents don't always know everything about their kids...
He sounds friendly in any case, but it's hard to tell from here how he feels. You could try kissing him, if he runs away screaming or just sits there or says "oh," then I guess he was just being friendly, and you have some explaining to do :)
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i want to do it on prom night but what if my boyfriend forgets a condum i mean should i wait till he gets one or shouldi go make him buy one? (link)
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i) It's January. That seems like planning a bit far ahead to me...
ii) You could always bring a condom yourself, just in case. Does your boyfriend know of your plan? If he does he'd be pretty irresponsible not to bring one... but better safe than sorry.
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See grandma and me and mother got into a fight and they told me they decided to ship me off to school as they put it. I talked to mother about it and she also wants to send me to school but i dont wanna go I like homeschool even if it is loney having no friends and im scared if i got to school Ill get talked back beind my back and have no friends. what do i do? (link)
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School isn't all about gossip and ostracism...
Keep your head up, meet people, try non-home-school out, you'll have more of a case to return to homeschooling if you've tried the alternative. But you may like it there, too... school does tend to collect experts, and have neat equipment, and promote fun group activities (even if it's not perfect).
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Ok see here is the problem,I really want a boyfriend but I am afraid I will not get one because i am what some people call gothic and what other people call punk or a skater.I dont know what to do!I really want a boyfriend i feel so lonely without one what can i do to get one without changing who i am or what i belive in? Also i dont like getting rejected i think it is akward. (link)
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I've seen couples of very differing styles before, and very different outlooks... sometimes they even work out... well, head over to Spacefem.com, do the boyfriend quiz, then I wish you the best in your endeavour. If it's any consolation, I'm definitely unGoth, nonPunk and skateless, and there are girls with those styles here and there that make me forget to breathe.
As for getting rejected, you kind of have to be ready for that. In the vast majority of cases, it will happen from time to time. But most of us don't like it either... although it is better than being left in suspense for weeks and weeks.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. Lately I have been really distant and detached from everything, and I don't know what makes this attractive or if the moons are aligned or what, but all of the sudden I'm getting all of this attention from guys at school. Any other time I'd be thrilled to death, but right now I'm just kinda like, "Eh." The guys that have professed their feelings, indirectly or through my friends, are great as friends, but I'm just not interested in them in a romantic way. A month ago I'd even be happy to go out on a date with whomever, but now I want to be boyfriend-less and have a good time hanging with my friends and concentrating on school.
The one guy I do have a little bit of interest in is currently into someone else.
How do I turn these guys down without hurting their feelings or making an awkward situation? I still want to hang around with them with my friends, just not in one-on-one sessions.
Ugh. (link)
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Ah, you are living, breathing evidence of my "get on with life and they will come" thesis. Although once you're on with life, the boys have to be a little more fantastic, eh?
I'd use the paragraph before the "ugh" as a guideline: "I don't want to hurt your feelings or make stuff awkward, but I'm not up for romantic stuff right now... friends is still good though" or something like that.
As for the other guy, well, he'll become available or he won't, and it'll matter or it won't: but most importantly you've got better stuff to do than worry too much.
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Why can't he see all the signs I try to make whenever he looks at me I try to look back and make eye contact but he always turns away too quickly. . i really love him! I cantt ake my eyes off of him. . and soemtimes I think he gets annoyed because I stare at him so much. . I just melt wheneerI try to go talk to him I cant do it. . im too nervous I dont have anything to say I men we could talka bout his football. . ugh and well I dont think hed like me. . and Im so negative. . Are his looks of anger? or for love? I dont understand if he likes me or not. . I rlly like him and I wish I could have a chance with him. . we never get to talk anyways except 4 lunch but he is with all his friends. . and so I just want to atleast be his friend! My life is so horrible MAKE IT STOP! HELP ME! Iw ant to ask him out. . should I I mean I have known him 4 4 or 5 months already. . but I only know that hes funny, sweet & really cute. .HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Lick his forehead.
He'll have to say something, or you'll have to say someting, or he'll just run away screaming.
In any case, things will change, right?
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I haven't had a boy friend yet but I feel like I could just pick any boy and have sex with them but i'm afriad to ask to hook up with the guy.
I just REALLY REALLY REALLY!!!!!!!! need sex do you think i'm desperate HELP ME (link)
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I guess it's a plan... but it sounds like trouble to me.
Rushing into sex is liable to get you all kinds of complications... whether it's the physical stuff (possibility of pregnancy/STDs) or the human factor (weird attachment issues, choosing a crummy guy, etc.) ...if nothing else (and there are other benefits, from honour/religious reasons to concentrating on school or other parts of your life), waiting lets you get a guy somewhat figured out.
You might wander off to somewhere like scarleteen.com, where you can read about people wrestling with this kind of thing, get perspectives and think about taking alternatives "in hand".
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I want to make my best friend a care package to cheer her up because that's just the sort of thing we do for each other. I guess I should put candy in it and maybe some fun little toys but I want unique little fun things, not stupid redundant little things that aren't really that fun. Anything you can think of that's surprisingly entertaining yet fits in a lunch bag? (link)
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A paperback book from an author your friend likes, a roll of film with development included, a little packet of coffee/tea/hot chocolate, duct tape, prints of photos from some fun trip or activity you did together, brightly-coloured or otherwise kind of fun socks, a recipe along with the key/hard-to-find ingredients, a mix CD in a case with liner notes you've done yourself.
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please can anyone tell me things to avoid on a dates ( mention whether it's for the girl or the boy) because i am starting a caution notebook on dates. (link)
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Avoid being late.
Avoid dating a psycho.
Avoid awkward silences.
Avoid monopolizing the conversation.
Avoid taking it too seriously.
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Hey, it's Here To Help...I was just wondering, what does everyone think of my answers and advice...because sometimes I think I'm doing very well answering everyone's questions and other times I think I'm slacking off. So, by observing my answers for other people and if I've answered any of your questions...do you think I'm a good advice giver? (link)
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I don't always agree with you, but you're civil, you try to address the question, and you use proper spelling, punctuation and grammar... so you're doing pretty well!
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