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Q: ok im an italian and so i kind of have a mustache [im a girl] will nairing it make it come back darker?

nair isnt a good idea to use on your face. if you have like an allergic reaction its easier to see. plus your face is more sensitive so just because you used nair on other parts of your body doesnt mean there wont be a reaction to it if you use it on your face. getting it wax is a better idea jsut because it takes the hair completely out so you it shoudlnt come back too much darker if it does you can bleach it or get it waxed again =)

Q: When i read in the car, i get sick. well, i feel queasy. what can i do to stop this?
thanks

it might be the lighting. you can buy things that attatch to your book with a little light on it. it could also be car sickness.. possibly. you should take medincine for that too. =)

Q: my hair is really thick so if i tell them to thin my hair will it actually make it a lot thinner? advice please. thnx

it will make your hair thinner depending on how much they thin it BUT i dont know what type of hair you have but mine is curly and thinning it made MY hair frizzy. my other friends with straight hair have done it and it jsut makes it thin. the frizziness isnt like XTREME friz but its jsut a downside. But it only happens with like really curly hair (or so ive noticed)

Q: So... yeah.

I'm 16/F.. i'll be a senior next year (yes, i'm young for my grade.... 17 in september) and i've never had a boyfriend. I sort of had one freshman year, but it wa more of a... nothing, really. it was like we said we were going out, but we couldn't drive and we were like 14 and whatever. it was dumb.

Anyways, so i've only kissed two guys in my life. One was that not-boyfriend in 9th grade... and it was pretty much him jumping down my throat and i hated it. And the other was spin the bottle. Which was a good kiss, but it obviously didn't mean anything. The bottom line is, i really want a boyfriend.

And that sounds shallow, i know it does. I've always been the girl who's always saying, "i don't want to have a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I want it to mean something." And i still want it to mean something... but i just want it to happen sooner rather than later.

My friends always talk about who hooked up with who, most of them have already had sex, (with at least one person... in several cases more than that) and i really feel like i missed the boat. I'm not gorgeous. But i'm not ugly...i see weirder girls with boyfriends. And i mean, i'm not the most confident girl around, but i'm not completely introverted. I'm just not sure how to go about meeting someone and having a relationship that will last... at least until i go to college. Another problem, more like inconvenience, is that i don't drink. so i don't go to a lot of the parties everyone else goes to.

I know what i like in a boy. Funny, clever, smart, goodlooking... perfect? is that too much to ask? I had a dream last night. I was rooming someplace... a hotel or a dorm room or something. And there was this slim boy with dark hair next door. He brought me to his room and we just hung out. Played video games.. whatever. I dont' remember a lot, but there was a lot of laughing and smiling... a some cuddling. And i was so happy... probably the happiest i've been in a long time.

Is it so bad to want that feeling to be real? Am i too picky? am i asking too much?

How can a meet the boy of my dreams? litterally.

Any advice?
Thanks.

i thought when you said you knew what you were looking in for a guy adn you said perfect am i asking for too much was funny. ohkay so back on track i understand exatly what you mean, alot of times people in my school go out with people that mean nothing to them and it kills me cause i want a guy who i like.

so anyways you need to gain confidence. theres no reason why anyone shouldnt have any, i mean you have one life to live so take every chance you get. When you go to parties you dont HAVE to drink now that yor a senior your old enough to not have to deal with that pressure (people might try to pressure you) but you can deal with it. you can talk to guys at the parties.

YOu should talk to anyone who catches your eye, crush or not just cause you never know. if you get to know someone they could end up being perfect. it might be a little nerve racking but the worst that can happen is he wasn't who you where looking for. ive read in many magazines guys like girls who come up to them talk to them. (just saying)

to meet the boy of your dreams i think you just need to be more open, talk to people (ik ive repeated myself sorrry) maybe that was a premenition(SP?) it could be. maybe you wont even have to do anythign maybe someone will come to you (people admire from afar) ik cheesy but what ever. all you have to do is show poeple your personality and be yourself. hope i helped a little =)

Q: okay.. soo.. im 16, my birthday was june 6.. im having a party this weekend. we waited so long bc i had basketball camp. okay.. so im a cheerleader and a basketball player. for my party im inviting the cheerleaders and basketball players. im not friends with to many guys, bc i have a boyfriend and like all the guys are scared of him bc hes a football player and hes strong looking and all. but im not sure if the cheerleaders are friends with the basketball players. im closer with the basketball team, but i dont want the cheerleaders feeling left out. so do you think its a good idea to have both come?..
and its a swimming party, what are some things to do? i have a HUGE yard, ideas?(( and im inviting some guys, but not a lot. only ones im friends with.))

Invite both teams. i think people from both teams will get to know eachother and can become friends. some ideas hmm maybe you can set up a net in your pool and play volley ball or set up a pool basketball net and play a game. you can also have like a contest to see who has the best bathing suit. funniest bathing suit etc. have fun and happy birthday. hope i helped some =)

Q: When did you make your acount??

i dont know understand what you mean. If your talking about advicenators then July 30 or 31 of 2006. i hope thats what your talking about cuase if not im going to feel stupid haha

Q: i had a really bad day yesterday. and in addition to that, i got my report card back.. and most of my grades were C's. i cannot believe this. i got honor roll for the first 2 marking periods (im 13/f going to 8th grade next school year) but the next one slowly i got some C's and now like my whole thing has C's! my parents will never trust me again! all the years before 7th, i'd always get straight A's with a few B's. but my grades are slipping now...? my dad saw my grades and he was dissapointed and i havent shown my mom yet but i know she'll be even more dissapointed in me! and i feel horrible now because i think i've let my teachers and family down! because they saw potential in me.. but i got stupid C's! i even got a B in home ec! i guess my life was really crazy then.. and i had bad work habits. i'd start my homework late at night and would procastinate on the computer or watching TV before. then most of the time i'd fall asleep and plan to finish homework the next day, and then i'd have to save for doing my homework in school when i realize i didnt have enough time to finish my homework. but i cant do a good job at the hw usually at school, so then my homework would like always be late or incomplete. and i never studied at home, i always did it a few minutes before a test in school. i'd always know i had to get stuff signed and then i wouldnt get it signed for days due to procastination. and cause i'd do my hw in the morning, alot of times i missed my bus.. i had to stay home twice cause my mom was sick of driving me to school all the time. i would have had perfect attendance if i never missed my bus. i didnt get to play sports in the winter and spring cause my mom didnt think i could balance work and sports when i could the years before. i really wanna do sports next year.. so how can i get my parents trust back before school starts? what are ways to develop good work habits which i sometimes lack? like everyone says im really smart but i also take a long time to finish my homework. like i'd write a long essay and get 100% but its late, so like 10 points get taken off for everyday late. then i get a 90% when my paper is better than that. how can i write less for essays? how can i manage my time better and not get distracted? what are ways for me to get concentrated fast so i dont lose interest and go do something else other than homework? but basically.. i just wanna gain my trust back and stuff like that. :( thanks for answering it means the world to me!

wow thats long hah. well first things first you need to rethink your prioities.whats more important tv or studying. Next C's arent so bad it's average you and your parents probably think you can do better(same here for me) anyways it sounds like you jsut got lazy. i think you should take sometime this summer and catch up on things, for example look over past test you didnt do so good on and let your parents in on what you are doing. You can even have them make test that have to do with the test and then them test you on it. It might sound geeky but its true. Another thing is that Sports can actualy help you mantain your homework and studing. Because you have to manage your time better when you have practices or have a game. You have to think ahead, like when you are going to be write an essay if you have practice 3 hours after school, that type of thing. I think you should jsut show your parents that you know what you did was wrong and you shouldn't have done it. Let them know it wont happen again and keep your promise Im going to be a freshman next year and if 8th grade is anything like it was here itss hard. and its going to make you work for your grades dont go thinking your going to have a hard time adn not make it because you will as long as you try. think of it this way at least you have time to get ack your good work habits before you get to high school =) hope I helped you.

Q: My mouse just gave birth but shes eating the babies. What should I do?

The mother might be eating them because she can smell something on them and thinks its something/someone else. (at least its what hamsters do) they are every protective of thier children so what ever you do dont touch the new babies for a while, and if you HAVE to make sure your hands are clean, or you can use gloves which would be ideal. make sure wherever they are liekin your room or whatever that you dont spray anything in there while they are around. hope i helped =0

Q: i wanted to see this movie but my parents wont allow it. whats in it thats so bad? explain please.

well i dont know if you know the story but these teenagers fall in love over the summer allie and noah and then they are split apart at the end (of the summer)(her parents dont like him) anyways years later she finds him, and they have sex even though she is engaged, and its not like explicid (sp?) it just might be why your parents dont want you to see it.

Q: ok so you know how people get made fun of and other stuff and then they get low self esteem and what not well how do you get a better self esteem ????like be happier with your self

If i were that person getting made fun of its good to knwo what you like about yourself. for example if its appearance, look in the mirror for one or two things that you like about your self, like your hair or your eyes. if its about things like things you like, for example computers.. i would shrugg them off. peopl only make fun of you because your different. and being different is ohkay. if you were that person and your saying things back to them then your not helping the situation, they know it annoys you so they are going to keep doing it. Another thing you cna do is surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. i mean i understand that sometimes your going to have to work with people you dont like but for the most part, be with people who liek you for you and are putting you down. hope i helped

Q: basically i suck at holding a conversation. whenever i talk to someone, i come up short for things to talk about. and when i do talk, its usually about something boring lol. so what im asking is for advice on how to create conversation and keep it going so im not boring. thank you!

if its someone your comfortable with you can be random. say what ever is on your mind. or if its anyone for that matter.

Q: i guess this is under the right subject? anyways i just wanted to know what karma is? like i know its "what goes around comes around" but i dont really get it..? && people have it as their religious views...&& i dont see how its a religion.

-thanks.

its just saying like if you do something to someone isnt "nice" or someone does something "mean" to you. it will come back at them. like since they did somethign to you, something will happen with them. in all movies when theres a "bully" the main charater normally gets back at the bully for what they did to them. like in max keeble's big move. its a disney movie i think thats the name. so yea. i hope i explained it, if you dont understand i can try again?

Q: hey i'm a guy hust wondering what kind of hair girls might like- long, short, spiky, whatever. Just say what you would like thanx!

curly short blonde. i think long hair is gross.i alot of girls nowadays have this thing abotu skateboarder/surfer style but i think guys hair can have that look but shorter. alot of times guys (at least in my school) have long hair and dont take care of it, so its always greasy and nasty. but either way long or short i like curly blondes. (jsut keep it clean) :)

Q: honestly, i'm a 15 year old girl, and i suck at putting on makeup and doing my hair. are there any websites i could go to for instructions on how to do my hair and make-up? i generally wear only mascara and wear my hair down. i dont do anything else. what else could i do to look cute. i want to look different for when the new school year sarts, and i want to start practicing now.

Seventeen.com. they have videos there that show you how to put on make-up and do different things with your hair. and each month they this thing where they pick a topic like "get awesome summer hair" and then teens give their advice on how they get perfect summer hair. if you look on there and cant find anything just ask again in my inbox or in a feedback comment and ill get the exact adresses

Q: i'm so bored!! I have NOTHING to do! seriously!

I'm home with my grandma all day and we have nothing to do. My grandma doesn't have time to play around with me. (she always cooks, cleans the house, in the garden etc.)

It's really nice outside (85 degrees and sunny) but I'm on my period now, so I can't go swimming (don't tell me to use a tampon because I can't) My friends are gone away. I'm sooo bored.

Oh and also since i'm on my period, I have a lot of fatigue, so when my grandma gives me something to do... i'll be like "no, I don't want to do that"

all I do is watch TV and sit in front of the computer all day.

What else is there to do that I can do with my period?

Oh and I just got done with sports camps so I'm really sore too... so I don't want to go biking, camping etc.

HELP! Sorry for all the trouble. I'm just super super duper bored

i dont know how old you are, but you can look into a job for teens, maybe bagging groceries, or volenteering at your local hospital. I run into this problem all the time (i dont have anything to do in the summer) to me it seems like during the school year you never have time to do what you want and then when you get to the summer you have all the time in the world, and dont know what to do with your self. normally i make list to remind myself what i want to do, if something seems interesting painting my nails um taking walks.. making list of what i want (like clothes) never too early to start a christams list. You can read (i dont know if your in to that) Sarah Dessen AWESOME author. my favorite books by her dreamland, truth about forever, and this lulaby (Sp?). So yea. hope i helped

Q: Well wen i was 10 i was raped and all of my friends know well one of my friends told me that she wants 2 get raped(she's a virgin)just so she doesn't have 2 be the only virgin in our cliqué and so she stays on her myspace talking 2 perves im scared 4 her she says on monday she is going 2 meet somebody and im scared she is going 2 get raped and that the person is going 2 kill her so i need advice fast before i might not ever see her again

you need to tell someone maybe her parent.. um an adult thats close to her, it might be awkward maybe even your paretn if you are that good of friends. ik it might be hard, but if you want to see her you need to tell someone. you need to have a serious talk with her, it might be hard but maybe if you explain to her waht it was liek fo you and the person below me was right, its not rape if she is willingly asking someone. im not a religious person at all but god bless her. i hope you can talk to her.

Q: well, i just downloaded limewire, and i'm worried i'm going to get arrested! everyone i know uses it, and no one has ever got in trouble. my question is, how would they find out im using it to get me in trouble? would they arrest me? give me a fine? how much? andd, what are the chances of them finding out?

theres liek no chance of you getting caught unless someone has a warrant to search your hosue and/or your stuff. other than that no one has the right to come into your house adn look at your computer. you really cant get caught by downlaoding things.. theres really no way cause theres no account and theres not a tracker on your computer. i wouldnt worry about it

Q: I just watched "Hide & Seek" the other day with my friends. Well, in the end, it shows a picture that Emily drew of herself and her new guardian. In the picture, Emily has 2 heads. Did she draw it this way because she has a personality disorder like her father? Also, what is this multiple personality disorder caused? Lastly, Emily and her dad's neighbors - what did they have to do with anything? Why were they even in it? Why were they important? And why was the wife neighbor like, "You have to leave. My husband makes it very painful." or something and why was the husband crazy-looking/sounding? THankkss so much.

i only know the first question, i havent seen the movie in a little while, but yea emily has a personality disorder liek her dad. i thought it emplied she might have a crazy side to her too. i dont know what you ment by what is this multiple personality disorder caused? the only thing i can think you ment was what is it called. being Bipolar means you have a personality disorder.. im sure theres more but thats the only one i know..hope i helped

Q: what is the number one way you can tell if a girl likes you(besides hearing it from her friends because they can lie) like visual, body action, stuff like that. question would probobly be better answered by the ladies: what do you do to come on to a guy and show him you like him without saying it. this way i can look for those signs in her. 14 M btw

if she smiles at you. if she makes an effort to talk to you when she doesn't have to, or need to. look for if she moves close to you, or go where you are. umm things like that. think of it as the same things guys to to girls they like.

Q: So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.

But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?

Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!

Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.

this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)

thanks

i think alot of girls like the idea of having a boyfriend like you. when you ask a girl some might say they like those types of things but then when it comes down to it they realize they dont. i think that maybe it was a little too much, which i think is funny considering the sterotype that girls are the ones that liek to have those nice relationships. but anyways just tone it down a bit and see what happens. im sure you a good looking guy.

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heyy my name is samantha. I like to help anyone who needs it. I don't have alot of experience in some of the categories, but if you drop a question in my inbox and I don't know the answer ill be sure to find it one way or another. And no question is dumb so don't not ask something cause you feel that way!!! =)