25 Female. Just a down to earth girl living life to the fullest. Ive had the ups and downs. Depression/anexity/family problems/sex life/relationships. I work in outpatient physc and love giving my best advice as possible.
Gender: Female
Location: Massachusetts
Occupation: Outpatient Pysc
Age: 25
Member Since: November 12, 2013
Answers: 69
Last Update: March 16, 2024
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Okay so I'm 14 years old and I'm a female. Recently (as in the last couple of days recently) my two best friends said they don't want to be friends with me anymore. Reasons given by friend 1 is that I'm not as good a friend as friend 2 and I'm self-centred and I brush off problems (despite the numerous hours I've spent trying to help both of them with their problems). friend 2 gave similar reasons. I have two other really close friends in our friendship group and yesterday they said they don't want to be friends with me because I'm too clingy. So in the span of two days I've lost literally all my friends. I've been diagnosed with depression, and anxiety- I'm on medication and receiving therapy. I have tried committing suicide once before and constantly think about it. I'm not in school at the moment because the mental health team think I'm not stable enough to be in school. Today all my ex-friends have messaged me about how they're worried about me and some about how they care, etc.
I'm pretty bitter about the situation. They knew I was off school for feeling badly suicidal anyway so I don't see how they thought telling me I'm an awful person in such detail then abandoning me would help. Like they could've just waited until I came back to school and was in a better mental state.
The fact that they've messaged me again has made me feel worse if I'm being honest, and I don't know what to reply. I don't want to reply anything but they probably think I'm dead or something so I don't think it's fair to leave them in a constant state of worry, even if they've hurt me. I'm not okay, I'm feeling really badly suicidal and I'm might be going into hospital- it depends on what they think is best for me right now. So I'd be lying if I tell them I'm okay but at the same time they're not my friends and I don't want to list off about how shit I'm actually feeling. Any ideas on what to reply if anything at all? Thanks
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Hi love, I am so so so sorry you are feeling this way. I have been in the same boat also. Not having many friends when I was your age and all I wanted was friends. I know so many people say it gets better but those are just words and you feel like that, that day will never come. It will. I promise you. I am 24 and all of my life was suicidal, self harmed. I Over dosed to try to kill myself and I understand what your going through. I need you to know that you are 14. You have SO MUCH life ahead of you. I am sure your family cares so much about you. I am so happy that you are on medication and in therapy. It takes time. As for your friends, girls are mean. GIRLS WILL ALWAYS BE MEAN. I think you should just be honest about how you felt. You felt as if you were being a good friend and if they cant accept you for the way you are then they are not good friends. They arnt good friends for cutting you off in the first place. Of course they are going to be worried because they feel guilty. If they want to continue to be your friend they need to approach things in a different way. Instead of being like I don't want to be your friend because your clingy is just mean. I have clingy friends and what I tell them is that I love you, And I know you don't mean to be clingy but I just need space. When the time is right you can reach out to them. As for now answering I would just say "Im working on it thanks for checking in" You don't need to tell them your doing bad, or good. If your friends don't accept you for being you they are not good friends. I remember feeling this way...I remember driving and being like I just want to crash my car. It is okay to feel bitter towards your friends. Anyone would be. If you don't want to reply don't. You need to focus on yourself and on yourself. You need to be selfish to get yourself on the right track. If you ever need anything at all, someone to talk to I am here for you. And so many people would be there for you. Everyone in the world goes through this. NOTHING is wrong with you. Please remember that. You are not alone. It may feel the end of the world but it will be okay. xoxoxo
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My family and some of my friends hate the guy I love for reasons that in my mind, end up being superficial. My parents told me I end things or they cut me off and won't help with law school. So I kinda did. I'm still in contact with my guy because I'm madly in love with him. I truly believe he's the one for me. The situation is heated with my family right now so I have to pretend I cut him out of my life. I want him in my life and I need my family and their help. What would you do or say to my parents and my guy if you were me? (link)
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This is really sad to hear. No one really liked the guy I dated for 5 years because he wasn't good to me. My family still supported me and loved me and helped me along the way. We eventually broke up. Your family shouldn't make you choose them over him. that's not fair. Are you acting different around him? What does he do to make them not like him? Does he change you? Is there things that can be addressed and fixed?
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should i wear a tampon during volleyball (link)
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It takes time to learn how to use a tampon, I remember it took me months. Just try and see the way you feel about it. It takes time to get use to. Tampons are great for using while doing sports. xo
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I am 13 and my grandma bought all her grandkids season passes to a local amusement park 1 hour away for my family 2-3 for the rest of my family and I cant get my parents to take me there are free passes that come with the season passes so money isn't a problem ways to persuade my parents to take me. (link)
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Are you close with your cousins who also has the free passes? Why don't you do a group chat or call someone and plan a day to all meet up. Choose a day and figure out rides with you cousins. Maybe one family will drive one way and another will drive the other way. Hope this helps xoxo
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im girl 17, im in 3rd year in high school... i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush that i like him, in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him bc , i felt really relieved after i told him...two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels , during school (we didnt study , we just played games etc), i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him, he repeated it 5 more times :D :D, he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him... then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)...and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church , ..and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and he told not to act nervous before him,
if he´s my classmate should i continue to be friend with him ? , should i ignore him when the new school year starts, or should i talk to him like we used to ?,
THE MAIN QUESTION: he asked the whole class if we want to spend some days on his family´s cabin, i like the post on fb he wrote about it, but i dont know if i should go, wouldnt it be awkward? i didnt say goodbye to him on last day of school, i just ignored him, but i met him yesteday and we briefly said hello to each other ...so should i go or not ?? please help me :)
i thought he liked me:/..thats why i told him..if i knew i would never told him...now i guess i ruined my friendship with him..
i also didnt say anything about rejection to my family or my friends..im just kinda ashamed..my one cousin and my best friend know that i like him but they dont know i got rejected :/
PS: he doesnt want to be priest or something like that he is just little bit more religious (link)
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Honestly! Its your highschool year. You should go girl! Not for him by for yourself. Go with a friend and if a lot of people from your class are going then you should too. You shouldn't feel the need to exclude yourself from these things because of him. Reading this I think he does like you. If he didn't, he wouldn't take the time to talk to you. Ignoring him isn't the answer, just simply be friends. He seems like he has a lot going on and isn't ready for a girlfriend and that's okay! Maybe the more time you spend together the more his feelings will develop. He gave you legit reasons and had good answers. He was honest and kind. It is okay to be embarrassed. Things happen but he was very comforting and that's great. He acknowledged your feelings and still wanted to continue your friendship. Then again, if you think this is going to be hard for you to be friends with someone you have feelings for, do not continue the friendship. I know the feeling of wanting someone you cant have. I say just try being friends and if it hurts too much just try and move on. I say go to the house and have fun don't focus on him/it too much. You have all summer to do what you want, you don't need to worry now what to do next year if you should ignore him just go with the flow! hope this helps xoxo
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I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 months and him and I have occasional sex. The very first time we used protection and went to the clinic and both came out clean. Every other time since then has been unprotected and he has came in me twice. I am on the Mirena IUD but my doctor has said she cannot locate it and I have an ultrasound appt soon. He says he does not have unprotected sex with anyone as he has not practiced it so why is he doing it with me. What does this mean? (link)
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I think that the guy in your situation got his answers about both of you coming back clean so he does not have the need to use condoms. Does he know your on the mirena? If he does then this is why im assuming he is not being as careful because he knows your being on birth control. Once you let a guy have unsafe sex once, and he cums insides you once its going to becoming a repeat. He is being very immature and not aware of his future. Condoms are always the best answer. For next time i would suggest using condoms for the safety of pregnancy and express your concerns. Hope this helps xoxo
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So my friend's ex-boyfriend and I talk sometimes a little bit. My friend and him remained to be best friends. When we talk, it's never casual. We don't text each other just to talk. It's either he has a question about something for me, or I have a question about something for him.
Anyway, my friend, me, and him are all in a group chat. And I posted a Facebook pic yesterday and he asked me if a question about it and blah blah but he didn't like the pic. So I told him to like it and he did and said "I liked it just for you." And my friend was like "Omg betrayed (link)
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In my take on this I think he is flirting with you. It is obviously going to upset your friend because what kind of girl wouldn't get jealous of their ex liking their best friend? That is a girls worst night mare. In this care I honestly think you should just ensure your friend and remind her that your not interested in him and you would never do that to her. As for him I would not feed into his bullshit. Him being "friendly" is flirting. If you had a boyfriend would you be okay with him texting your best friend for questions? weather hes an ex or not I don't think the friendship should remain because your friend obviously still cares about this guy. If he keeps trying to flirt with you I would just make it clear that you are not interested. By reading this I am guessing you are at a young age. Your friend is just jealous he is sharing interest in someone else and that someone else happens to be her best friend. It also seems like he is purposely doing it to make her jealous. Boys have no boundaries. Another thing to do is ignore him, this shows your best friend that your not interested. whatever you do just remember that boys will come and go but your friends should last a life time. hope this helps in some way xoxo
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I have a yeast infection and I still smell fishy down there and also it itches also. (link)
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I usually go to my doctor to make sure it is a yeast infection first! Sometimes they can perscribe a pill you can take and it goes away, you can also buy monistat at CVS
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I know how your feeling, i understand. I am going through the same thing myself but it is not worth it! I was self harming myself and thought of suicide all the time! Im 23 and i have everything i could want but i am just sad! After almost committing suicide i scared myself. I went to my doctor and i told her how i was feeling. I thought this feeling was normal because i felt like this all the time. Its not normal! and i understand the pain you are going through because i am going through it too. You seriously need to talk to your doctor your life will feel brighter. I have recently been put on zoloft witch is aniexty and depression and i am starting to feel better. I am not saying medication is the answer for you but if you are feeling sad and depressed you need to talk to someone, i held in my depression for so long and i wish i talked to someone a lot sooner so i could have better myself a long time ago. This depression could be genetic it is not your fault you are feeling this way.
Best of luck xoxoxo
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