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GRAPHIC I KNOW BUT PLEASE HELP! ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!

I've noticed for like a year now that I have this "growth" like thing practically comming out of my vaginal opening... from what I have researched, it appears to be my hymen. I will say that when I lost my virginity that "my cherry did not pop" (what people call it)... in fact, I've never experienced any bleeding during intercourse. No I haven't had sex much in 2010. Maybe like 10 times total and I haven't had sex since May of 2010. I've gone to the gynocologist several times (for pap smears and what not) and they haven't mentioned anything of it and it worries me. If it helps at all, I have PCOS, my periods are EXTREMEMLY abnormal (mestruate for MONTHS at a time), I am obese, and I have a tilted uterus. And as bad as it sounds and as nasty as it may be, I have not included a picture *this question is on answers.yahoo.com* .... PLEASE (women or doctors) preferably, I need serious help?

Also if this is my hymen, what is the most inexpensive way to pop it? PLEASE SERIOUS HELP ONLY.

Some women have big sized hymens, but that isn't abnormal. Also, it's not uncommon to not break your hymen the first few times you have intercourse. My sister had sex with a few different guys and her current boyfriend she had sex with for about 3 months and her hymen didn't pop until after. So don't be worried. All you need to do it ask about it. Don't just go for a papsmear, ask the doctor straight up if he/she can check you out and make sure everything is okay.
Also, if your mentruation is really painful and abnormal talk to your doctor about getting on birth control. It'll regulate your periods and make sure you have safe and protected sex :) two in one. :P
Good luck!!
xx

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he's about as weird as they get. i'm absolutely in love with him though. this guy is in a class of mine at school. he's not nerdy, he just doesn't go out, and doesn't really do anything about his social life, so we never cross paths outside of school aside from the internet where we talk. we've become good friends though and he clicks well with mine. i think he likes me by the way he smiles at me and talks to me differently than with other girls. he flirts with me like crazy and turns red every time we talk. he doesn't talk to many girls though. i try to make it obvious that i like him but boys can be stupid and i don't think he's getting the picture since he's never had a girlfriend or much experience, and i really want him to ask me to hang out. what do i do?

The best way is to just come out and say it yourself. Say something like "hey! we should hangout sometime after school!" Don't just be like "Hey! You wanna hangout tonight?"
If he still doesn't get the hint, don't worry. He is just shy and needs some help. Just go with it and give it a week, and then ask him to hang out yourself.
If he isn't going to make the first move, you should.
I'm proud that you still take interest in him even though he doesn't have much experience.
Goddess bless you.
xx

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So my friends and I are Curious, but to scared/embarrassed to ask our moms. How much do you bleed after your "cherry" has been popped? Is it like your period?

Depends on how your period is. If it is stretch enough (if you use tampons...) it is unlikely that it will even break. BUT if it happens to, you can't tell how much a hymen will bleed. Usually it isn't as heavy as a period, only a few dots and splatters here and there. Nothing to worry about. :)

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canyou still do it when you have a yeast infection

You can but you shouldn't. Having intercourse when you have an infection is dangerous and could make the infection worse or could make it into something bigger.
So...no, don't have sex with a yeast infection.

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Okay so at my school our cheerleaders are advanced.. Well some we have...
Advanced postitions:
flyers:2
bases:4
backs:1
fronts:all? Hahah
one of the advanced flyers is also a base... Well we can only do halfs (preps, elevators, etc.) at our school, we can twist and do libs and stuff but no extensions. My question is what are some really cool stunts we can do from halfs and how to do them? Thank SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!! I'm desperate lots and lots of answers!!!!

As you can see, no one has answers for a question like this. I would try googling it hun. :)
It is very difficult to explain stunts on a website.

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K so im going out with one of my friends cousins and hes a really nice guy and we both love eachother a lot but its a long distance relationship he lives in new york and i live in canada i met him when he came here to visit my friend and we had an instant connection and since then weve been chatting and talking to eachother on the phone but about a month ago he left to a different country for his brothers wedding and he said he was gonna go for 2 months and then he would come here to see me but now hes gonna be gone for a few more months because his sister decided to get married too and weve been chatting and talking on the phone while hes been there but just not as much as we use to we talk maybe once or twice a week and we use to talk everyday before he left i just dont know wut to do i really love him a lot but it just isnt working out for me i mean he hasnt talked to me for a week now and he doesnt seem to be bothered by it but i am plz help wut do i do.

Well first, quit worrying so much. It sounds like he doesn't see his family a whole lot, he probably is just spending a lot of time with them. Or maybe there is bad reception? Something. But it isn't because he needs his space. If he needed his space, he would tell you.
Just gently bring it up to him. "So, we haven't talked in a weekk...what is up with that? :)"
Have YOU tried texting him. A long distance guy always used to message me when I was on facebook, but after a while he would stop so I could message him first. You both have to put in the effort to keep your relationship going.

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ok everytime my gf fingers me she has long fingers lol,i pee all over the place, it doesnt feel like i need to pee it just feels really good but pee alays comes out, weve smelled it and it smells like pee. what is the problem bc its very annoying!

Haha, there is nothing wrong. You just are really excited, I would say ton it down a notch for a while so you can get used to her fingering you.
Hope all works out well..

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i love my boyfriend, hes my life and heart,
problem is, he lives miles away at the moment. hes everything i wanted and he matters so much to me.
I met this guy, he lives close but not that close, he is funny, actually hysterical, makes me smile hes cute and just have that crushon him.
me and my bf cant talk much, but when i talk to him i forget about this other guy, and since we cant talk i feel like im going to this other boy.
I dont know if he feels the same way though about me(the other guy), were at an awkward stage.
i wouldnt cheat on my bf. but i feel i need to get over this crush. no matter how much i dont wanna. he makes me happy.
What do i do?

It obviously is perfectly normal to have a guy friend that you can turn to in rough times.
You sound like you are feeling guilty. So i would come clean to your boyfriend (if you haven't already), it isn't like you have anything to hide. Tell him you two are just friends, and nothing more, and he is a REALLY good friend.
Make sure that other guy knows exactly where you stand friendship wise so you don't have any urges with him. You shouldn't have to stop completely talking to him, but maybe limit your talking to him....as much as you talk to your boyfriend maybe. Or maybe start talking to your boyfriend more. It seems like you really love your boyfriend. Talk to your boyfriend more, ...more or less than this other boy. It will all work out.
In the long run and you still feel a crush from this boy, try to cut off any attraction emotions with him. Don't think about his smile, or the way his eyes sparkle. Just. Don't. Think about your boyfriend. And, if necessary, stop talking to this guy so much.

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Okaii, Well I am a 12 year old girl && I'm kinda scared.): I haven't started my period yet, but I'm getting this discharge I guess you would call it, but my mom thinks I've started my period but its just a different color. I don't know what to think && or do. This is kinda personal && in your case *I'm sorry I'm telling you about this:P* weird but I wanna know if there is something wrong with me or what. Can you help.?

Discharge doesn't necessarily mean you are starting your period. Discharge happens with girls even before they start there period (and a lot after).
You start your period after brown or red stuff comes out. And you stop it like that too.
No, nothing is wrong with you. You could have any infection. If you itch down there, or it hurts when you go to the bathroom...I would get checked out. But other than that it is perfectly normal. Don't be scared :) every thing is alright.

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my brother saw me and mary kissing in a store and came up and said "i know what you did" and put the message on my facebook page and i locked my page but im afraid my mom might find me what should 'cause im freaking out and mary is trying to keep me calm me down.HELP

Well first of all your thoughts are jumbled. If you are afraid your mom will hurt you in any way, call the cops.
Your brother is immature and he shouldn't do the things he did, but you can't help that.
I'm not sure who mary is, or what you two did that is so bad, or why you are so afraid. But, I am here to help. If you would like to tell me additional information that I could help you with please contact my yahoo.
Thank you,
immortalfaith4@yahoo.com

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ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 months i see him every weekend but we really dont have much to talk about untill we are in person and it feels like he only wants one thing for me then it doesnt i feel that im am confused and dont know what to do . his the type of guy who really doesnt talk bout things but you can tell on his face his thinkin about it but i enjoy being with him i just dont want this to break off

Give it a few more months, you are still in the early stages of the relationship. He may not be warmed up to you yet. Try talking to him about things, and see where he stands in the relationship. Ask him what he wants from you and you tell him what you want from him. I'm sure you guys have a lot to talk about. How about your interests? The economy? How your day has been? Your family and what they do? Things like that will bring you guys closer together and he will start to understand that you guys have a lot in common!
Good luck.

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im 14 male and lately ive started to masturbate quite a lot it feels too good to stop sometimes i masturbate 4 times a day is that normal?
My penis is almost 5 inches long is that an ok size?

Hi :)
Yes, masturbating that much can be normal. Some people masturbate on a regular basis, while others only do it about one every few days.
I recommend giving yourself a break every few days because too much masturbation can wear you down a lot. And yes, five inches long is the perfect size at 14.
Good luck!

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so don't tell me not to do this because i'm really determined. i know it may be bad but i really need to do this

i need to hack onto someones facebook account. does anybody know a good website or even a person who will help me? also, i'm looking for a FREE source. i dont want to pay. i know that paying will help me better chances but i'm not willing to pay.

please dont go through the trouble to stop me because i really have to figure this out. i know its bad and i dont want to go into full detail why i'm doing this, but i'm just looking to see if anybody knows a person who is good at it, or a source that can help me? or at least instructions how to do it. THANK YOU SO MUCH!

also, if facebook hacking is too hard. i do know the persons email. so maybe try hacking into their email? they have hotmail. thank you so much!

Well first off, i agree with the person above. or below, which ever.
Yes, hacking is illegal, and if you hack someone the cops can trace you back and will come and pick you up.
Obviously, your immaturity is getting in the way of your better judgement.

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Hi, i am a Women, 16 and from the Netherland.
i met this guy and i realy like him.
one week later he asked me to watch a movie and we kissed. day after that the gossip at our work started. that we had sex and i made a fuss about it. he told me not to and let them talk. but then at work he started ignoring me and i got confused. after work when everyone left he said that he just wanted to be friends and i got realy confused. i cried for a few days because i got realy attached to him and i didn't understand it. i still don't.

Still we are watching movies together every weekend and we fool around, poke eachother and hug. A few times he made very clear he wanted to kiss me but i can't get it right in my head.
WHAT DOES HE WANT!
he told me not to fuss about the gossip but it's still stuck in his mind.
i realy want to kiss him but i don't want him to feel bad about it all.

HELP ME because it's been bugging me and it makes me grumpy torwards him.
I love him, i've never loved anyone more then him, and i'm sure i could hang around him for a few years but how can i get pass this confusion!

Thanks X Daphne

Daphne,
hi. First off, if this guy is telling you he doesn't want you to make a fuss about the gossip he either:
1. started it.
or
2. he wants to look cool because everyone thinks you had sex.
or maybe he just doesn't care but it doesn't seem that way.
The only easy way to clear this confusion up is to talk to him about it. If he wants to be just friends after you talk to him, make it clear to him that that doesn't mean he has feelings about kissing you. If he wants to be more than friends, talk to him about the gossip. You can usually tell if a guy is lying if he looks down or if he fidgets.

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hi im an 11th grader from california i was in a program called alc (alternative learning center). ive recently moved to rockford in Illinois and i dont want to go to a public highschool and i cant find a program like i was in california, or any other type of homeschool i need help please.

Go to www.k12.com and you will find programs in your area. Also, your highschool near you might have programs that are different from regular highschool. I am in a program on education2020.com (no www) provided by my school.

Good luck!

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i was talking to a guy for about 5 months, let's call him Oscar. in that time i lost my virginity to him, i thought it brought us closer by the way we were around one another. he told me he loved me. about two weeks ago i find out from a mutual friend that he's been saying he's "done" with me multiple times since the first time we had intercourse. she said it doesn't sound like he means it since he always talks good about me to other people. he doesn't know i know about the "done" part. he was acting like a jerk that whole week and then he asked me if we can hang out because it's been a while since we've done it, i obviously said no (it was after i found out what he said) and then i noticed one of his friends started coming around me more. yesterday i found out that his friend (let's call him Anthony) asked Oscar if we were still talking before Oscar even asked me to hang out and he said no and gave anthony permission to ask me out (Oscar also doesn't know i know this either) Oscar wasn't at school yesterday and Anthony kept flirting with me but i thought nothing of it i even started bringing up Oscar. well anthony ended up asking me out and for some reason i said yes (very stupid move) nobody knows we're dating, they think we're just talking. Oscar said he was okay with it. Today Oscar came and looked very serious, he talked to Anthony but I avoided him all day because part of me is mad at him. he had his other friend ask if we were dating and all they did was sit there and talk about us the whole period. i like Anthony as a person but i don't see him in that way. he's already trying to introduce me to his family but I know I still have a lot of feelings for Oscar. I told Anthony I was going to talk to Oscar but he said it would only make everything worse. I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to make things better. I don't think it's even possible. I wanted to be with Oscar but I don't think it would work anymore since his friends hate me and he's been "done" with me. everybody only knows the bad stuff i did, no one knows anything he said or the way he was acting. i know you guys would probably just say "break up with anthony" but it's not that easy. What should I do about everything?

First of all after a guy has sex with you and then repeated says that he wants to be done with you, dump him. Obviously he is an ass and doesn't want to be commited. Why on earth would you be treated like that by someone who claims he loves you? That is my question, think real long on it.
Don't torture anthony if you don't find feelings for him. Let him move on! He is probably getting his hopes up, because he likes you, and then you don't like him. Soo...leave them both. You shouldn't have cheated on oscar, obviously. :) but, i understand. Move on away from them. You and anthony deserve better.
Good luck!

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im 16/male and im nervous around girls i havent had a girlfriend im nervous about getting intimate and sexual with a girl my penis is quite small and im not sure if a girl will still like me
or not i dont know if im worrying to much but do girls care a lot about penis size?

It really all depends on the girl you are dating. Usually girls who have already have had intercourse with a male will care a little more about penis size. But a girl who is a virgin, and really likes you won't care about the size of your penis. Just don't give yourself to a total stranger or a girl you really don't love, and everything will be fine. If you are really that worried, after getting to know a girl very well, tell her what bugs you.
Anyways, I'm sure it isn't THAT small.
Good luck! :)

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Soo I'm back from some R&R anyway.
I'm going out with a guy who's younger than I am by one year (I'm a sophmore& he's a freshman) recently I told my mom this cause I really like kwami, and she deserved to know. She knows what he looks like and started making funny of me for dating someone so dark he was "purple"; no she's not racist but I love my mom. And I'd really like it for them to get along. What should I do to make it work ??
Oh..and kwami (his name) wants it too wirk too.

Thanks!! (i'm 15/f he's 14/m)

Well I think you and your mom should have a talk. Tell her why you like Kwami and how much you like him, usually tell her about all of his good traits will ease the situation. Also, if she doesn't like him still then tell yourself that you tried. She can't control who you date, so date him anyways. Eventually she'll realize how much he means to you!
Good luck.

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My eyes are dark brown. My mothers entire family has dark brown eyes. My father's family has dark brown, green, and dark grey eyes. My father's eyes change colour over time. What are the chances of this happening to me? My sister's child has light eyes. Both her parents have dark brown eyes. What are the chances of my child having light eyes, when I have one?

Well the chances are 50/50. Usually guys get traits from their fathers more than girls do, but sometimes its the different. So if your a girl you have a chance but if your a guy, you have a greater chance.

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I'm 13 year old gal, and I started dateing this guy a few months ago. We've Hugged A coupple of times, and held hands, We hang out during weekends and at school, stuff like that, He's even told me that he loves me in person. But Kissing Is what's makeing me nervous. You see, I've never dated at all before, all of this is new. And to be honest I'm scared. I don't know if he wants to kiss me exacally. My wing-man maneged to get "When the time comes" out of him on the subject of him kissing me. He's on vaccation now and he said he'd got me a gift. He said it was "Choosy" When I asked him what he'd ment by that he said he couldn't give me any details... Idk... maybe I'm just worryd he ment he's gonna kiss me... I'm not shure if I'm ready, the love-world all arround me is broken hearts, crushed dreams... Girls all arround have expireanced heat break. Odds are against this ending well.

Don't think about the negatives darling, think about the positives. Like how you shared so much time together. Of course, you don't want just saying I love you if you don't know exactly if you love him, so do it when you feel right. You have to kiss someone sooner or later, and i think you want it to be him. It is really nothing to be nervous about, it is just a kiss he isn't asking you for sex :) (which is good). It comes naturally for everyone. I'm spoken and read about a lot of people being inexperienced and they said when they first kissed someone, even if it was making out, it came naturally. So just go with it. :)

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