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What should i do? love? or something that can be love? IDK!! I don't want to cheat! :(
i love my boyfriend, hes my life and heart,
problem is, he lives miles away at the moment. hes everything i wanted and he matters so much to me.
I met this guy, he lives close but not that close, he is funny, actually hysterical, makes me smile hes cute and just have that crushon him.
me and my bf cant talk much, but when i talk to him i forget about this other guy, and since we cant talk i feel like im going to this other boy.
I dont know if he feels the same way though about me(the other guy), were at an awkward stage.
i wouldnt cheat on my bf. but i feel i need to get over this crush. no matter how much i dont wanna. he makes me happy.
What do i do?
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It obviously is perfectly normal to have a guy friend that you can turn to in rough times.
You sound like you are feeling guilty. So i would come clean to your boyfriend (if you haven't already), it isn't like you have anything to hide. Tell him you two are just friends, and nothing more, and he is a REALLY good friend.
Make sure that other guy knows exactly where you stand friendship wise so you don't have any urges with him. You shouldn't have to stop completely talking to him, but maybe limit your talking to him....as much as you talk to your boyfriend maybe. Or maybe start talking to your boyfriend more. It seems like you really love your boyfriend. Talk to your boyfriend more, ...more or less than this other boy. It will all work out.
In the long run and you still feel a crush from this boy, try to cut off any attraction emotions with him. Don't think about his smile, or the way his eyes sparkle. Just. Don't. Think about your boyfriend. And, if necessary, stop talking to this guy so much.
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You love your boyfriend, and if you want to stay with him then you have to let go of this new guy. And I mean physically let go. You have to really stop communicating or minimize it and not hang out together that much.
But it depends on other things. How far away is your boyfriend? How long is he going to be this far away? Can you cope with this amount of time?
If you don't think you can be with someone that lives this far away for this long, then maybe you should consider the relationship with your boyfriend. If you don't think it will last, I wouldn't suggest jumping into a relationship with this new guy either. He'll become a bit of a rebound boyfriend and even though you like him you'd need a lot of time to get over your boyfriend before moving on.
The way it goes, if you cheated on your boyfriend, you'll hate yourself. If you realize you can't have a boyfriend that lives so far away and you two break up, you can't date this other guy straight away because you'll still be hurting and it won't turn out well. If you decide to stay with your boyfriend, then you have to let go of this new guy while still coping with having your boyfriend so far away. Or, you could always choose neither.
These aren't all the possibilities of what could happen and they're just negative aspects of each situation, but all of these things you need to take into account with what you need to do.
Really think about what you want and what's worth it. In the end, pick whatever will make you the happiest in the long run.
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