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okay are THIN condoms more likely to break then just normal condoms? (link)
Well that does make sense.

Of course, Trojan, or whatever, would never tell you that, but yeah, I think so.


I just started birth control 2 weeks ago and I'm actually on the pill Loestrin 24. Since I started, I've been getting cramps and bleeding, like a normal period. But this is everyday, before and after taking the pill. My doc says it's actually normal. Has anyone dealt with the same problems? And how long will this last? (link)
It should decrease, over the course of maybe a few months, and eventually stop.



what motivation can i use to lose weight? i really want guys to see me as hot (link)
That works, by the way.

I just lost a quarter of a pound. :3


My hair is really long and goes to about my rib cage. I straighten it also. Is there any cute hairstyles I can do?? I'm tired of just leaving it down, but I don't want to put it up either. I have tons of bobby-pins so maybe I can use those?? Any step by step ideas or pictures of cute hair styles you might like?? Thanks!! (link)
Okay, Kelly Clarkson does this sometimes, and it looks great.

Just get some hair from the front, pull it back, to the top of your head, and clip it there.


what are some bands that no one really knows about and they arent real popular? i like any type (link)
Switchfoot, Jimmy Eat World...Death Cab For Cutie, maybe.


I went and saw Transformers last night(parts of it were funny, but i didnt understand the rest lol. it was very confusing). When Sam and the girl(i forgot her name) were in his bedroom and the robots were in his backyard and his parents came in, what were those lines? Something about his mom asking him if he was masurbating. I thought that was like the funniest part of the whole movie lol (link)
Her name was McKayla.

But, you could look up an online script.


my friend is in real trouble she is 14 doing drugs, drinking, smoking and sleeping around and i have just found out that she wants to overdose. But she won't tell me why, I've asked her and i keep trying to help her. I told her to let her mum no why she wants to overdose or see the school counciler because she won't tell me why.Everytime I try to help her she tells me to f up and that she hates me. and all of my other friends keep telling me to leave her alone, so they have all turned on me. All im trying to do is help her before she does something stupid what do i do? (link)
Tell her mom about her plan to overdose.

If her mom can't prevent it, no one can.


For my boyfriend's birthday, I am making him a mix CD. I need cute songs to put on it.

He likes

Rap/hip-hop/a little bit of rock/techno

I have a couple of songs in mind by artists he likes but i'm not sure what else to put
He's a big T.I fan so I need good songs by him. (link)
Well, you want it to be songs that will just scream you.

So whenever he listens to it, you won't leave his head.



Ok this is going to be kind of long because I'm going to sort of rant. But anyway all my life I've gone to a Catholic School and my family is like really religous and filled with good wholesome morals. I was raised and taught to be the same my whole life and up until now I haven't hesistated at all to play the "good girl".

But lately, I don't know what happened to me. I've taken a complete 180 degree turn and I'm sort of ashamed at who I've become. I'm sixteen and about to go in my senior year of high school. I've been drinking like a LOT and partying. I've been sneaking out, lying to my parents and everyone around me. I never go where I tell my parents I go, and usually end up driving out of town in the middle of the night (which I'm not allowed to do AT all) and sleeping at my boyfriends house, and with people I really don't even know. Now I started smoking cigarettes and been smoking those a LOT. (about 7-8 a day) and now I'm also starting to smoke like weed too. To top it off, my parents are HUGE on abstinence and I just set up an appoinment at a clinic to go on birth control.

It seems like I'm losing who I was, and I'm not strong enough to stay the way I was.

Too be honest, I'm really scared. I mean I love doing what I do, but at the same time I'm scared of how much I changed and the kind of person I'm becoming. I'm doing things that I always used to be against, and if my parents ever found out they'd literally disown me. Also, my religion prohibits all these activites and I'm also scared of how quickly my religous and moral being are deteroriating.

I don't really know what advice I'm asking, but am I like a "bad kid"? I do keep my grades really high in school and plan on attending a high rate college, but I feel like thats not enough. Basically, I'm just really scared. So any help would be appreciated I guess... (link)
Okay, what probably happened was that you felt that you didn't have any control in your life.

You just did what you were told, and what you were expected to to, instead of what you really wanted to do.

Now, weed won't kill you.

I don't care if you smoke weed.

But don't get caught, don't drive...make sure you don't have to do anything if you're gonna smoke weed.

But you should get your drinking, smoking (cigarettes), and lying under control.

Now, as for sex, I suggest condoms.

Birth control is not good for your body, and doesn't protect you from STDs.

But have the guy wear two rubbers.

In case one pops.


would most guys rather be called baby or babe?? (link)
Alternate, and pay attention to his reaction.


14/f

ok well my bf and i have been going out for 10 or 11 months. we dont hold hands (only have once), we barely ever kiss and when we do its a peck on the lips, and we do hug alot, he doesnt really tell me how much he loves me, and im kinda tired waiting for him to make a move, beacuse im afraid to! i dont know what to do! i love him, but im afraid of making any move, kissing him, holding hands, ect.

what should i do??? im a bit upset b/c he acts like a kid most of the time (b/c of his younger siblings) and he made fun of alot b/c hes chubby (b/c he had a type of cancer, and the chemo made him gain weight)

what should i do??? how can i get enough courage to make a move??? (link)
He may feel guilty about something.

I'd talk to him about it.

If he says no, look for signs that he might be lying.

Looking down, or in different directions, shaking, sweating, etc.


Hi..umm i was wondering..before i got into the shower everything was fine.during the shower i masturbauted and it felt like usual..then when i got out of the shower i noticed the veins or w/e the things are that go around your left testical were hard (like jow the he veins in your arm would swell up if someone put the rubberband thing around your arm to take blood). and the long thing the testical is connected to is kinda hard like the veins.i just wanted to know if this is normal.please answer asap :/
thanks (link)
Maybe you accidentally cut off the circulation.

But, if it's still like that, you may want to see a doctor, just in case.


Ok I don't know why but for the last 3 periods, the pain just keep getting worse and mroe worse each time.

I know it's already supposed to hurt but recently, when the next period comes, the pain is 2 times worse!

It hurts so bad that I cried! I feel like I have a baby or something!

Is this normal? (link)
How long ago did you have your first period?

If it was just a few months ago, it may be that the pain is naturally increasing.


i need to upload a pic from a disposable camera onto my computer
my scanner is broken, and since its not digital i cant just upload it with a cable
i have the pic, so is their any way i can upload it? (link)
As far as I know, no.

You could go to a friend's house, use their scanner.

Or, you could take a picture of the picture, with a digital camera, and upload that.


how far in the vagina is the hymen? (link)
A little bit farther than a tampon typically goes.


I heard that your hymen is outside your vagina. Does this mean its torn if I cant see it?? I can put a tampon in, and I masterbate, but there is this TYPE of wall but I highly doubt its my hymen because its like pretty far in... what would that be?! (link)
Yeah, that's it.

It breaks when you have sex.

It can break, from a tampon, vibrator, whatever.

If it were on the outside, it would have broken, and you would have bled.

It's still intact.

When it breaks, you'll bleed.


both of my breasts are really dry in nipple area, and they kinda like peel. help? im scared (link)
Try lotion.

If it doesn't improve, look it up, and see if you can find alternative solutions.


well i have this friend. lets call him bob. well me and bob met 2 years ago this day. and last year bob was really sweet and sent me a real cute message saying happy aniversary and other things. me and bob were really close friends but lately it feels like we're drifting apart i've told him several times before and all he says is "dont worry baby im not going anywhere" but his actions say otherwise. and im tired of being the one who is putting more effort in this friendship than him. i sincerely don't want to lose his friendship because it feels like he's the only one who understands me. is he getting tired of me? or whats going on here, i don't know what to do. and it seems like it controls my emotions, because i feel really sad and stuff and i really dont wanna feel like that. (link)
I'm gonna say that Bob wants to be more than friends, and he's watching you date other guys, and it hurts.

I think you should consider going out with Bob.


Can anybody tell me what "thrusting" means?! (link)
It means to move your pelvis in and out...or back and forth.

Whichever you prefer.

They mean the same thing.


14/f
Why is it that everyone tells me "your too young to know what love is?" Just because I'm not old enough to have sex with my boyfriend? I don't understand. (link)
We're teenagers.

We all think we know what love it.

And maybe we do.

But, the people that say that are just trying to make sure you don't have sex when you're still too young.




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