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14/f
Why is it that everyone tells me "your too young to know what love is?" Just because I'm not old enough to have sex with my boyfriend? I don't understand.
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When you are young, you dont understand commitment.
I mean, you can understand the concept. You know that "forever" means (definition wise) for the rest of your life.
There are a lot of other things, but...
As you grow, and develop as a person, most people seek a partner. The concept of partner...
When you are 14 you cannot understand the concept of having someone by your side every day. Waking up next to them, going to sleep next to them, having them be an irrevocable part of your life. For you its "we see each other a few times a week, kiss, and tell each other we love each other"
The other thing... emotion deepens as you get older. When you are young you are not capable of feeling the depth of emotion because you have not developed emotional controls.
Look at how kids grow up. You hit puberty, all of a sudden things are more confusing, you feel attracted to members of the opposite (or same, no discrimination) sex. You see the model of love provided by others and you try to imitate it without understanding the drive behind it.
Teenage years are a time of emotional growth. At 14 you have not experienced the full force of emotions that you are capable of, but you have a taste. Thats why people talk down to you, we were all were you were once. Experiencing these things for the first time, etc.
Ill end with, it would prove you to be a very smart 14 year old if you were concious of the fact that you were still growing and didnt pretend like you knew everything the world had to offer. Most 14 year olds are incapable of it (hell, I wasnt capable of it) but it stands you in good stead for your future if youre able to be that honest with yourself now.
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Sex doesn't = love.
You can be in love with somebody and not be sleeping with them.
The reason people say this is because you're young, and not mature enough to know what love really is.
-Laura. (15-f)
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well i'm 14/f too and people say that to me but i mean if you really have alot of feelings for your boyfriend and you say that you love him and have a gut feeling about it then i think its love well thats what happens to me when i really mean it i get this feeling in my gut like butterflies and stuff but i mean i guess people are too old fashioned now
but age isn't nothing but a number and if your mature enough to really mean that you love some one then your not to old i really think people say that just because your young and they don't thing your mature to be in love
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We're teenagers.
We all think we know what love it.
And maybe we do.
But, the people that say that are just trying to make sure you don't have sex when you're still too young.
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