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Name: Laura
Age: 14
Single or taken: Hem, single...
Height: 5'7 and a half
Weight: A three digit number
Eyes: Green
Hair: Reddish Brownish blondeish? lol
Grade: 9th.
Schooled at: Home
Race: Umm, I'm German, Irish, French and Italian...?
Religion: Christian (Baptist to be exact)

Don't fall for someone who won't be there to catch you.

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Sorry it's long, but I need some help

Okay, no offense to this kid, or anybody out there, I'm just describing him.

There's this one realy geeky, kind of overweight kid (I'm a few pounds overweight too, so nothing against him) Well he likes me, and he does whatever he can to talk to me. I know he's trying to be nice, and his best friend said he liked me, but I have a boyfriend, and he doesn't seem to understand that. Today, we were waiting in the commentary during school, and he came up to me and started to act like a real loser (he's a loner with only a few friends) but he made all my friends leave, and when I tried to walk away, he'd get in front of me. I'm stuck sitting next to him in 1st period, I have tried talking to the teacher, and I told her I felt like I was being sexually harassed, because he has tried touching me, but she wouldn't really liste, because she knows hit too well, and he just wouldn't do that type of thing, so I can't move seats, I've tried talking to an administrator, and everything, the only thing I haven't done was talk to him. I'm not sure if he's mentally challenged, and I don't know how to say anything without being mean, He never said he liked me, but you can just tell, and his friends have asked me if I'd go out with him

How do I get it in his brain, I have a boyfriend, and I DON'T LIKE YOU!! I don't want to be friends, I just want him to leave me alone!!

I have a guy just like that. He's weird, annoying, and stupid and he hits on me and tries to hug me. Several people, like my dad and brother have told him to stop because every time he does he squeezes me, but he won't. If people like someone enough, or want them enough, they don't listen to anyone. Just take your boyfriend to him, and be like "His name here, this is my boyfriend, your boyfriend's name here." and see what happens.

~Laura~

hey, i don't know why because i have had my first "real kiss" or whatever you want to call it. Anyway i love my g/f (laura lol) and we are inseperable, she has kissed a lot guys before and ive kissed girls before, but why cant i make the move on her!!!??? we're totally comfortable with eachother. pleez help......and please dont say 'just go for it' like every1 says.....although sometimes that comes in handy

thanks laura! 13/m

Could it be you're scared because you care about her? Maybe you're just not ready to kiss her yet, I think you should wait awhile. When it's time, you'll feel it, and you won't have to second guess yourself. Good luck!

~Laura~

hey ok my sisters 30 birthday is sunday. im going over to her house saturday because she just got married and shes having a wedding party and showing her video of the wedding and pictures! anyways, i have NO idea what to get her!! shes outgoing and she has blonde hair lol. she has 2 kids. and her husband has 3. umm she has 3 ear piercings, and she had a belly and nose piercing. i HARDLY EVER get to see her like once every 2 months. we talk alot tho. any good ideas? thanks.

You could make like a gift basket and put a bag of up-popped popcorn, her favorie movie, a coffee cup and a package of hot cocoa in it.

You could buy her a gift card to her favorite store.

Good luck!

~Laura~

Hi!Ok...me and my ex b/f broke up a couple months ago and we still became really good friends after that and he tells me he loves me and he calls me his "boo".lol.But..anywayz..He wrote me a note not to long ago and he said he was sorry for treating me like shit in the past and last time he apoligized for doing something bad we ended up back together.Do u think he still has feelings for me?I still have feelings for him.We went out for a year by the way.I RATE!!Thanx.

Wow, a year? He very well could still have feelings for you. Or he could just be sory, but I think he still likes you. I would talk to him and tell him you still have feelings for him, and just be flat-out and ask him if he returns the feelings. Good luck!

~Laura~

hey, i just got my period in the beginning of September. today i got a lot of discharge does that mean my periods coming back like really soon? I already know cause of my cycle it will be back soon but idk if the discharge meant ne thing....

thanks
Please let me know asap!! i rate 5`s

Well, probably not. I heard that it could mean your egg has been released and your chances of having a kid are better those days, but it doesn't have much to do with your period coming.

~Laura~

does anyone have any good ideas for a science fair project, me and my friend need some help!! SOON!!

thx

Volcano's are always great hits. You could also power a clock with a potato. Or see how long batteries last while doing different things. Like, if they last six hours while playing a cd, but only four when powering a clock, and come up with a theory on why. Good luck!

~Laura~

Well my friends and I all decided to be "goth" for halloween this year, and well I'm not really sure what to buy for clothes (other than things that are black) and I'm not to sure what to do with the makeup either, got any ideas or website to give me some idea?

Thanks

Much Love,

Britt

[[BTW, I Rate 5 For EVERYONE!!!]]

Hmm. I suggest a long sleeved black shirt, black pinstripe pants, or just plain black pants, and black tennis shoes. For makeup, black eyeliner, black mascara, black lipstick, blak nail polish, and very pale powder. Good luck!

~Laura~

OK I have this "friend". Really she used to be my best friend, then I went away for the summer and she really started irritating me by talking about all these hot guys she's saying and how they all hit on her and how when I come back I get the less hotter one because she saw them first. WTF is that?! Do any of your friends do this? And plus, I KNOW for a fact that all of them do not hit on her because 1) She's honestly not that attractive. I'm prettier than her, and I don't really think I'm all that pretty anyway. 2) Whenever we went out together, which was quite alot, nobody ever hit on her. She'd always approach the guys she knew first.

Well anyway, back to what I was originally saying...over the summer things got different. After I got back things were not the same between her, me, and our other mutual friend. The mutual friend and I would still get online and call each other and hang out and stuff. But the main girl barely wanted anything to do with us. The one thing that set me off was one day we were all supposed to go to Ryan's (a steakhouse) which is 30 minutes away but this "friend" called and bailed on me (telling me she had a headache and didn't want to drive) like she always ALWAYS used to but I always took it from her. So I was pissed and asked my other friend to go hang out so we went to Wal-Mart and guess who pulled up right as we were walking home?

Yup you guessed it. So the other friend asked for a ride and the "friend" looked kinda irritated then hesitated. Since then I haven't spoken to her till a few days ago. Today she was suposed to take me to pick up my check from Subway, but she didn't. I called twice, left a message on her phone and on AIM but nothing. I knew she wasn't going to come which is why I made plans for someone else to take me.

My problem is, she wants me to go to her birthday party on Friday and since she's been such a terrible friend to me and done nothing but made me feel ugly when we were out together (by saying the hot guys were looking at her not me), and never keeping promises or plans...should I go? I mean normally I'm such a loyal person but I think she's just gone overboard with this. I'm sick of it.

I'm so sorry this was long...I just thought you all should nkow the whole story. Thanks for answering and I will rate you a 5 if you even put one sentence just because you read all this! :D

I read it all, my friend has a thing for typing 2 page letter things, so I don't mind. :D

Anyway, I suggest you go to the party. I know people like her. They make stuff up to feel loved and everything, but seriously they just need friends. She's going to be lonelier than ever when she realizes that the guys really don't hit on her, and she's blown off all her friends, and she's all alone. I say go, and make the best you can of it.

~Laura~

Tomorrow I'm meeting up with my boyfriend. It will be the first time I have seen him properly out of school since we started going out and I want to make a big impression. I need to look nice and casual. How should I do my hair/makeup and what shall I wear???!!!

PS. If this helps: My hair is dark brown and comes to around my shoulders. I have blue and eyes and pale skin.

I say wear your hair down. Use a sleek shampoo to make it shiny, but just wear it down and straight. Use a straightener if you want it extra sleek. Wear your regular make-up, and accent your eyes. Black eye-liner, black mascara, and a smokey color eye-shadow. Go for a white/khaki mini-skirt and a cute little t-shirt, and some flip-flops, and you're good to go. :) Good luck!

~Laura~

Hey all, it's Siren...Okay. Usually I pose my issue and ask for opinions, but I actually have a problem this time. Sorry about the length...I can't help it.
Here's the issue at hand:
My boyfriend's family is going to Mackinac for halloween weekend, and leaving him home alone. He's invited me over and would not object to my spending the night. My mom does, though. Here's how our conversation went: "Hey mom, how much would you object to my asking you if I could spend the night at my boyfriend's one weekend?"
"I...would...no. It's not appropriate."
"Just like, one weekend..."
"NO. You're not his wife, you're not engaged, it's not appropriate."
(The worst thing about that is we technically are kind of engaged. He proposed, I accepted.)
She's refusing to even CONSIDER it. How do I get her to let me do what I want? I mean, she lets me stay over at my guyfriend Sean's house when he has parties and we all drink...that's WORSE. My bf was actually at one of those parties, but she doesn't know that.
So...help me out? Bottom line is I want to get her to okay it. I don't want to lie, and I don't want to sneak around. I hate keeping things from mom. How do I do this?

Well, I'm assuming you're over the age of sixteen. But I'm going to say exactly what the person below me said. "Mom, I'm ___ now, I'm an adult and I am responsible for my own actions and well-being. Whatever happens, not that anything will, I will take responsiblity for. I'm not your little girl anymore.". Just have a mature conversation with her about it.

~Laura~

my friends asked if i wore tampons and i said yea i do i can never feel them..its comfortable to me but she said ima hoe cz its like havin a dick stuck in me for hours at time vs. feeling like im wearing a diaper..im the only one out of my friends that wear tampons everyone wears pads..am i doin somethin worng and how does it make you a hoe ..its not a dick its a tampon!?

No, you aren't a ho. It's nothing like a...err..."dick" as you put it. It's just another way to catch the blood. it's a lot more conveniant and more comfortable. I agree with the other person, their parents probably said no and they're just jealous. Don't listen to them.

~Laura~

Hey. Today in class I was like to my teacher (in front of everyone) "Your wife is really pretty, don't you think shes out of your leauge" And we talked about it the day before, and we were laughing and stuff.. so I thought it wouldent be like mean or anything. But it was only me and him..not the whole class. So he got mad and was like "Ohhh I'm gonna fail you now" And I know he's joking but I felt bad and said sorry. I asked him if we could be best friends (lol) and he said yep. So I wanna get friendship bracelets lol...or rings cuz hes a guy lol. Just to show how truly sorry I am. Because I guess it was stupid of me to do that...so where the heck do i get friendship stuff? Oh and can I get it cheap? :-D

Lmao. Being friends with a teacher is SO not cool. :P But seriously, they have tons of stuff like that at Kohls and Wal-Mart. I bought friendship necklaces at Wal-Mart, and they have rings, too!

~Laura~

Ok, I'm running for Freshmen President. Anyone have any good tips for getting elected????

Don't lie. If you just make up huge things that everyone knows you could never do, you won't get elected. Start with small things, like getting new soda/snack machines, or cleaning the grafitti and writing off the bathroom stalls. Stuff that you KNOW you can do. Have a good campaign manager, and put up lots of posters.

~Laura~

how do you lose a lot of weight FAST? i need to and i cant stop eating cuz im hungry and i cant throw up cuz i hate throwing up. HELP!!!!!!!

Okay. Good. Don't throw up, it's aweful for your body. And don't stop eating. You may look skinny, but just until you die. Seriously. What you need to do is go on a healthy diet and excersize plan. Here's some tips.

- Don't drink soda. If you absolutely HAVE to, drink diet. It has no sugar, just sweetener. It tastes just as good, you get used to it.

- Eat salads. Salads are good for you. Just don't put tons of dressing on, use low fat dressing if you want.

- Excersize 3 or 4 times a week, for about an hour each time. Do crunches and sit-ups, all that good stuff. Walking is also really great for you.

- Drink TONS of water. 8 glasses a day. It keeps you hydrated and energized.

- Ask you parents not to buy too much junk food or soda because you're trying to lose weight.

Hope I helped, good luck! If you need encouragement or anything, I'm here.

~Laura~

This may be a stupid question but...

I want to start wearing tampons but never wore them before and i dont know how to wear them. Do they hurt or feel weird? How do i put them in?

They feel awkward. They don't hurt unless they're in wrong. If they hurt, they are probably not in far enough and need to be pushed in a little farther. Be sure to put the applicator ALL the way up, or else it hurts.

www.beinggirl.com

That is a great site, it has instructions for tampon use and all kindsa good stuff.

By the way, every box of tampons comes with instructions. Good luck!

~Laura~

I recently started a club at my school for left handed people and I'm having trouble coming up with things to do. Any suggestions?

You could have everyone write their name with their right hand and see whose looks the best. Or you could have them try to pick up random, heavy things with their right hand and try to lug them. o.o Heh, don't know where that came from. But you could look up sign language that is only done with one hand and have them do that with their left hand.

~Laura~

ok well everyone knows how guys are trying to grow their hair all long n stuff. well- if a guy looks at u then does the little "swoosh" thingy with his hair and fixes it, could that be a sign that he thinks ur hot?

XoXoXo-Katie

I know a ton of guys that do that. Shaggy hairstyles are in right now, and it's pretty uncomfortable to have hair poking your eyeball out. Seriously. It COULD mean he likes you, if he like winks at you or whatever, but if he just does it in passing or isn't like staring at you while he does it, it's not a big deal.

~Laura~

Ok on wed I went to chruch and we had a lesson about sex bracelets but I didn't no any thing about them and I want to know as much as I can so I can tell my church about it I really want to know and if you know any thing about them tell me please.

Basically, what the other people said. They are plastic/jelly bracelts, and if a guy breaks the one you're wearing you "have" to have sex with him. It's stupid. I wear them, I don't care what people say about them.

~Laura~

I used Nair Facial Hair Remover Cream on my upper lip. It was then swollen and burning. I do not know how to heal it.

Hmm. Well, obviously, don't use that again. Maybe you had a re-action to something in it. Put a warm rag on it, and if it doesn't go away in a few days, see a doctor. I'm sure it's just an irritation and will go away in a few days, though. :)

~Laura~

This has probably been asked soo much, but here goes..

There's these two guys, one, we'll call him Jim. & the other we'll call Bob. Well, i met Jim thru a mutual friend. And ever since i met him i thought he was soo hot, i got to know him, and have liked him ever since.. he's also said he's interested in me, but some other girls as well.. Where as Bob, well.. it's complicated. But i think i love him. i'm not IN love with him.. but i have liked him for soo long.. its almost crossed the 'like' line, you know? :S I went out with him in like.. grade 6 (i'm in the 10th grade now! :P) but it was just one of those middle school things, you know? So i've been good friends with Bob since i was 8, but have only known Jim for 6 months or so, and also i don't get to see him that often, because he doesn't go to my school. I like them both, but i think most of my feelings for Jim are because he's soo eye catching, as shallow as that sounds. And Bob, well like i said.. i love him, and we're so close, which is why i think we could have something great.. but i'm worried to ask him out, because i wouldnt want to screw up what we have now, and plus, i'm almost positive he doesn't feel the same way about me. I am soo lost. Please help. I'll rate good :)

I pick that. Bob. It sounds like your relationship with him is deeper, instead of just a nice guy that's hot. But you just have to follow your heart and do what you want. Just make sure he knows how you feel.

~Laura~

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