Hey everyone. :) I'm Lindsey, and I'm currently 17 years old. I mostly like to give advice involving sexual health and sexual education, partially because I find it interesting, and also because so many teens aren't as informed as they should be. Please keep in mind that I have no medical training and don't consider myself an authority on any of the subjects which I offer advice on. I do try to provide facts but talking to your doctor is ALWAYS a better alternative to asking someone online.
E-mail: kirkdip1234@hotmail.com Gender: Female Location: Canada Age: 18 MSN: kirkdip1234@hotmail.com Member Since: April 17, 2008 Answers: 73 Last Update: April 2, 2013 Visitors: 4947
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me and my boyfriend are in a long distance realatiionship.. we both want to do like.. phone sex and talk dirty on the computer.. but im not sure waht to say.,. any suggestions? or things that are proven to turn guys on? (link)
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No, there aren't any 'proven' methods. All men are different, the same way that all people are different. What is considered arousing greatly differs from one man to the next, and the only way to really find out what your partner will find attractive is to ask.
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im 14.and ive been with my boyfriend for about a year&& 4 months.when we have sex he just pulls out.we havent been using protection for about 7months.i really dont like the sex with condoms.should i start using protection.do you think its safe? (link)
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I don't think you are mature enough to be in a sexual relationship. You clearly don't know even the very basics of birth control.
And, no, it is not safe at all. You are very, very likely to get pregnant.
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I'm 16, can I see a doctor without my parents premission? (link)
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The impression I've always been under is that you can go to the clinic without your parents, regardless of age, to obtain advice or information from your doctor. However, the doctor can not examine you or provide you medicine or a precription of any kind without your parents knowledge.
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Hey,
I'm 18/f and live in ontario,canada
My question is; Do you have to go threw with the whole gynochologist test to get birth control? I'm still a virgin and all and i've never had to go to the gynochologist before. Will i ahve to now? (link)
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I was personally on birth control for over a year before I had my first gyno exam.
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Ok, im the person who asked whats the difference between cum, masturbation, and ...ejactulation, but what is an erection? is it pretty much the same thing???
Thanks alot, for all the answers i've recieved, and will revcieve! (link)
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Yeah. Basically, a man becomes erect when he is aroused or 'turned on'.
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Whats the difference between cum, ejaculation, and masturbation??? and which do girls and guys do??
I know this is kinda weird but im just wonderin.
Thanks (link)
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Cum:
Either (1) the fluid released by a man when he finishes, known technically as 'semen' or (2) the act of having an orgasm, depending on the context. For example:
"He got cum in my hair!" (1)
or "Ohh, I'm about to cum.." (2)
The first definition is used mostly to refer to men, while the second can apply to men or women.
Ejaculation: very similar to the first two, ejaculation is the act of having an orgasm that causes one to release fluid. This is mostly used to describe men, who always ejaculate (release semen) when they cum (to use one of the previous terms). It is also possible for a woman to ejaculate, but much rarer.
Masurbation: the act of pleasuring oneself manually in order to obtain an orgasm. Forms of masurbation are widely varried but include: the use of ones hands or finger to stimulate your own penis, vagina, or anus, the external use or insertion of 'toys' such as dildos, vibrators and bullets, or the use of household items to achieve similar sensations. This is done by both men and and women.
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i was on birthcontrol for 3 months and switched to another one ive been on this one for 2 months. me and my boyfriend have sex. he just pulls out. do you think its safe for him to not pull out ? and just "ya know" inside of me. & whwn is the safest time after your period to do it ? (link)
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I don't know why so many young girls operate under the assumption that even if you're on birth control, you're still at some kind of high risk of getting pregnant. There is always a chance- as someone mentioned before, birth control pills are exactly as effective as condoms- over 99%. That means 1 in 100 women will get pregnant, IF that. It really is not very likely that your boyfriend will impregnate you as long as you are using your birth control properly. This means reading the instructions thoroughly and always making sure to take your pill at the same time every day. The reason for this is because the pill releases chemicals into your body which convinces it that it is ALREADY in a very early stage of pregnancy. Naturally, if you were really pregnant, your body would release these chemicals at around the same time every day. So if you aren't very careful about mimicking your bodies natural cycle, your body will not be 'fooled' and the pills will be significantly less effective.
As for the question about when it is safest to have sex- I am under the impression that a woman is least likely to get pregnant both right before she menstruates or right after. But it is still very possible and I would not rely on timing methods as a serious form of birth control.
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Ok so I went out with my exboyfriend for a little over a year and we did it. It always burned and it burned to pee afterwards, but I thought there was no way I could have an STD because he had never done anything passed kissing a girl and the same with me with a guy. It never was enjoyable. I thought maybe I was allergic to the latex. We did it without one and it didn't really burn. Maybe a little so I'm worried now. I don't think its normal for it to hurt that much considering we did it like 100 times and the majority of the times it hurt and I never really got any pleasure. Please tell me your thoughts. I hope I'm just over reacting, but I think I might want to get tested incase. Please help me. =( (link)
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The best advice anyone can give you is go see your doctor. None of us are sexual health experts, and you really need to be tested to be sure that nothing is wrong down there. BUT, if I had to guess, I would say it's fairly likely that you either have a bladder infection that has been left to fester for too long, or else you are getting CHRONIC bladder infections. I have the latter condition, so this is what I know about it;
A bladder infection occurs when bacteria enters your urinary tract. This happens often during sex, but normally we don't get an infection because the urethra is too long for the bacteria to get up there and harm us. Women who get chronic bladder infections have a shortened urethra. If this is the case, sadly, the condition will follow you around and be most prevalent when you're sexually active. The signs you described are very typical of this kind of condition.
The good news is, if you ARE indeed afflicted with a bladder infection, or even chronic bladder infections, there's a relatively simple rememdy for the pain; drinking tons of cranberry juice. It may sound like an old wives tale, but if you test positive for a bladder infection this is the first thing your doctor will suggest. The infection will still be there, but you will no longer feel any stinging or burning.
Drinking a lot of water is also key, because the more you urinate the more quickly the bacteria can be driven from your body.
When you first test postive for a bladder infection, your doctor will give you antibiotics and, if it's a serious one, a pain medication. If you get another soon after the original one is cured, this will indicate that you have a chronic condition. Your doctor will probably stop giving you antibiotics, give you a permadent prescription for a mild pain med., and advise you do all of the things I cited above.
Another way to avoid getting bladder infections is to ALWAYS URINATE right after sex, for obvious reasons.
Anyways, I don't know if this is what is wrong with you, but what you're experiences sounded very very familiar. I have gone through the same thing, so it could very well be the same problem.
Don't be too upset if you turns out that you are going to get these repeatedly throughout your life. I tend to get them at least once monthly, and the good news is, once you learn to feel one coming, you can take all the normal precautions and almost completely avoid any physical dicomfort. It's a pain in the butt, but it isn't life threatening or even particularly harmful.
But anyways, this is all speculation until you go check with your doctor. I hope things work out!
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i guess i was just curious for a girl if having sex without a condom feels better than having sex with a condom? like having a guy cum inside you i guess? i'm not planning on having sex without a condom it's just a question, so please do not lecture me on using condoms, kthanks. (link)
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Honestly, I don't even feel it. Most of the time when my partner ejaculates inside me and the only thing that tips me off is his body language.
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Let's say hypothetically that a girl masturbates. She's done it with a couple of 'things' but she doesn't do it a lot.
My question is what really happens when you masturbate with things? With regular household items like water bottles or the ends of hair brushed or w/e?
Does your vagina get infected? How do you know if it is infected? (link)
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It is always a good idea to wash items before you use them for masturbatory purposes. Hold them in lukewarm water and if you have any, use very gentle antibacterial soap- but remember to rinse it off THOROUGHLY before using the object.
If you get any sort of infection, you will have recognizable signs such as painful urination, itching, or pain in your lower abdomen.
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me and me boyfriend just had sex.since he couldnt stay up,we didnt have sex for very long.i was wondering is there a certain amount of days someone should wait to have sex again?
15/f (link)
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No, there isn't a limit to how much sex you can have. Basically, as long as there is no physical discomfort, you're good to go. Having sex too frequently can cause chafing and soreness, and of course, a man can only preform for so long. But as long as both you and your partner are comfortable and are enjoying it, you can have as much sex as you'd like.
My advice, however, would be that if you're going to be having sex, you need to educate yourself so that you don't HAVE to ask this sort of question afterwards. Reading books, talking to your doctor, and most of all experimenting on your own are all great ways to better understand your body. The internet can also provide some valuable resources but remember, anybody can give information online and there is no gaurentee that it will be totally accurate.
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Hey, ok, so I was wondering, like, I'm on birth control, and I know you should use a condom every time (and I do) but, ok, lets say that hypothetically we didn't have one for a few minutes (I wouldn't anyways, because I'm too paranoid) but he put one on later (before he came), what are the chances I could get pregnant? Like, does anyone have personal expiriences or anything? (Please, don't say anything like, it's stupid not to use one, or anything.I always use one, and it's just a curious question) Thanks! (link)
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It is quite unlikely that you will get pregnant if you are on any kind of birth control. A lot of women who are on birth control and in a monogamous relationship prefer not to use condoms at all, myself included. This is normal, and if you speak to your doctor you will find that it is quite safe. Yes, using a condom is always that tiny bit safer. But sometimes 'that tiny bit' is an acceptable risk.
Women who are on birth control and continue to use a barrier method as well, such as condoms, would normally do so in order to prevent STD's, which condoms don't do. I highly reccomend that before you think about not using a condom, you both get tested at your local clinic for any infections. Even if you haven't been with any other sexual partners, and neither has he, it is always a good idea to make sure everything is healthy down there.
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this question is for anyone who has has sex before. My best friend recently told me that he was in love with me and this Friday we plan to lose our virginity together. We have protection and im on Yasmin birth control so im not worried about getting pregnant...The problem is, I have no idea what to do when it actually comes to intercourse... It seems like it would be difficult for 2 bodies to be in sync that way... I don't know the first thing about how to do it.. Any tips from experience? Does it hurt if his penis is 8inches or close to that? Will I bleed? Well I masterbated the other night and I was very turned on at the time and I bled a little, but I wasn't starting my period.. I know that's TMI.. But I'm really just nervous and clueless.. Any tips at all would be greatlyyyyy appreciated :) (link)
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The first thing I would like to say is; the longer you wait to lose your virginity, the better it will be. The older you get, the more you will have the maturity to deal with the emotional repercussions of taking that step. But that aside, I'll get down to the one piece of advice I WISH somebody had given to me:
You can NEVER use too much lube.
You can purchase lubricant at your local grocery store, and even some convenience stores. It's not hard to find, it's not very expensive, and it will improve your experience so much. It's such an important tool for the first time and beyond, especially if your partner is 'well-endowed'.
The next thing is, don't rush in to it. Hang out for a bit, talk, become relaxed. Then move to kissing, and so forth. Wait until you're both very excited and aroused to move to actual intercourse- this will also help to lubricate you, because when you're turned on your body produces natural fluids to facilitate the process. Make sure that you have plenty of time to spend together, so that you can talk and interact afterwards. When it's over, you might feel sad or confused. That's normal. Having sex is a big step towards growing up and it means some childlike parts of you are dying away, and that IS sad. But it's also beautiful- it means you're growing up.
Anyways that's all I can think of for now. Hope this helped!
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