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Hi, I'm 14, soon to be 15 in 13 days, female.

My family has recently become poor. I've never been a person to shop at Hollister or anywhere that expensive, buttt, according to my mom and dad, we're almost in debt, and we can't pay our monthly bills. We can't afford my school clothes, so I'm having a yard sale.

My dad, tonight, just told me that we might not have enough to send me to Drivers Ed this September. I got really upset, and he still has to look into the finances.
I told him I was angry because we were poor, and he said whatever and left. What do I do about all of this? I think I hurt my dad's feelings, and yet I'm literally crying because we don't have enough money for anything anymore, I can't stop crying.

... please help. What should I do? My birthday will probably be the worst ever. (link)
Sorry to hear about your predicament. At this time, you really need to be putting things into perspective. Thank god you have your house and your family together. I have a job where i make $100-$150 per week and i'm also 14. My mom doesn't like to go crazy with the school clothes shopping, so she gives me a small amount and am in a position where I can pay for my own clothes. I actually kind of like it, ha. Again, if Driver's Ed means so much to you, you should get a job. Your parents are under a ton of stress right now and i'm certain that it doesn't make them feel great when they have to tell you that they cannot pay for things. I pay for almost everything I want (which isn't a lot) and I have a sense of independance.

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I can't wait to start high school! I'm a fashionable girl, but I want to vamp up and mature my style a bit for a new look. Any tips on whats in, cheap steals, or anything you just personally love? I usually put my own spin on things with funky shoes or belts, but my styles getting a bit old.

Please do not suggest Hollister, Abercrombie, or skinny jeans as a style. (link)
Go to Nordstrom in the Juniors section
they have a buch of cool stuff. Great shoes and more sophisticated clothes. (but not too sophisticated if you get what I mean, ha)


http://shop.nordstrom.com/C/2378483/0~2378467~2378483?origin=tab

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I'd like to know some of the best beauty products you've used (that you absolutely LOVE) and why you love them! =] (link)


Hair Stuff:

http://www.matrix.com/products/biolage/volumatherapie.aspx

It's expensive, but absolutely worth it. My hair feels thicker and looks healthy and shiny after i use it.


Foundation, Concealer, Finishing powders, Blushes, Eye shadow

http://www.everydayminerals.com/

It's a website for mineral makeup that I LOVE. it's like a significantly cheaper version of bare minerals makeup. It works just as well! It works for oily, dry, and normal skin.


http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/Mascara/lash-stylist-washable-mascara.htm

Mascara^
The wand is different. When i first got it, i was skeptical. However, it's worked wonders on my eyelashes. I don't have really long lashes, but now I always look wide-eyed and awake. The new wand allows a clump free application.


Lips:

http://www.covergirl.com/products/product.jsp?productId=outlast_double_lipshine

I don't use the colored side, as I like a very natural looking appearence. I use the clear "long last top coat" gloss side of the stick. It stays on my lips all day. It's nice.

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Okay well my dad told me that next school [starting this august] if i get straight A's he will buy me a car. Considering I'll be 16 in February thats pretty exciting. Well my only problem is I'm not that smart. Last report card i got C's and B's oh...and i failed math =[. So clearly I'm not like brightest crayon in the box. I didn't really try last year though so i think I could do better...but not straight A better.. Last year I was to preoccupied with everything else but this year i really want to do well. He said if i get 1 B the deals off...so the pressure is ON. I REALLY want this you have no idea!!

So can anyone give me tips or anything on how i can get straight A's? (link)
Read your lesson prior to the class. You don't have to study it and memorize it, just read it to have a notion of the topic in class, and to prepare the questions for the teacher to clarify.


Take good class notes. Don't write everything the teacher says, just enough bullets or headlines to remind you of the class discussions and significant points.

After the lecture or class, always spend approximately 20 minutes reading your class notes, and reading the material from the book. This is crucial as books are usually written by subject experts and are more extensive and better prepared than the teacher's materials presented during class.

Do the exercises at the end of the book. This is the best way to prove to yourself that you understand the material.

Find a quiet place, like your room, lock the door, and imagine you are the teacher explaining the subject to a student. This is also a good way to measure your understanding of the material. If you can participate in tutoring programs in school, this serves the same purpose.


Be proactive in participating in study groups. To deepen your understanding of a particular subject, it is sometimes beneficial to hear other people's perspectives and explanations. This sometimes helps clarify topics that we may misunderstand or not fully understand.

Never stay up late the night before a test. If you are not prepared by the prior evening, chances are you will not get an A, and pulling an all-nighter will only tire you and hamper your focus during the test.

The human body learns best at specific times (usually in the morning). Be sure you save this time for studying and internalizing important class materials, and reserve the other time for less pensive activities as homework or socializing. Avoid studying when you are tired. In general, you should try to get at least 8 hours of sleep a night.

Pay attention.


Spend a reasonable amount of time on your assignments. Assignments done at the last minute or poorly will not help you much. Also, they won't reflect your skills as a student and probably will lower your grade.


Do your homework. A lot of your mark is based on whether you do your homework and whether you have a good attitude. Chances are, if you do your homework, you'll do better on tests, too. Doing homework does not mean only doing assignments that are going to be collected or graded. For example if the teacher asks for you to read a section of the textbook, there is a reason for it, and doing all of your homework includes doing every assigned task and taking notes on reading whether it is required or not. This is the most important step to achieving an A in the class. Since you will always be prepared for class, pop-quizzes, and it will significantly decrease the amount of time you need to study. For example, if you do this in mathematics class, you will often find that you will not need more than a 10-minute review of the formulas/concepts and that's it!


If you didn't study that much last night or want to do a quick reveiw, try reviewing your notes in homeroom or before the teacher starts teaching and when you have free time in school and at home.


Certain songs bring back memories so try thinking really hard about something while a song is playing so when someone sings that song it'll make you think about that certain thought you had at the time.




Hope i helped! GET THAT CAR.


Are there any songs about friendship saying that like how we're not friends anymore and how much I miss you?
Thanks.
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last chance- cartel (how a person would do anything for someone else, but they aren't there for them and how much you miss them)

Never far behind- aly & AJ (how a person has changed and you miss them)

wait for you- elliot yamin (not necessarily missing a FRIEND but missing someone)

time- chantal kreviazuk (it can be interpreted as missing someone and how things change)



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what are some controversial topics i can talk about to a friend? (link)


I'm not sure what type of "controversial" topics you want but here are some

-pressure to have sex at a young age
-abortion
-death penalty
-Whether there is a God or not
-pressure to do drugs


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I'm curious about something. Well being a girl I know that we like to talk to our female friends about guys we like. So is it the same for guys? Do they talk to their close male friends about girls they like? The reason I"m asking is because they is a guy from work who has a crush on me (who I like back). Well in the last couple of shifts I've noticed that this other guy (who is friends with him) has been staring at me and then looking away when I look at him and his been being alot nicer to me then normal. So I think they have been talking about me. DO you think I'm right? (link)
It most definitely depends on the guy. (while practically all girls talk about this sort of thing) I have 2 good guy friends. One said that he rarely would and it's just too weird. He likes to keep that stuff to himself. On the other hand, my other guy friend always confides in his friends about girls and everything. The more outgoing one will not tell his friends, but the more quiet one will tell his friends, which i thought was interesting. hmm.
If i were to think about it, i am pretty sure that these two guys have been talking about you, going on what you told me.


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I just got a Mac [apple] book. It's a laptop. I'm just wondering how to get a homepage on it, and also why does the aim CONSTANTLY sign off? How can I make my aim keep me connected? (link)
im not sure about the homepage, but i have a mac desktop and my sister has a laptop. Mac, although there is an aim download for mac computers, does not like software originally intended for a "regular" computer like dell. When i first got my computer, aim did that to me a lot. It would sign me off practically ever 1-5 minutes. ANNOYING ! But after a few months (2-3) it happends less. Now i rarely get signed off. i think it is because the computer is getting used to the software. My sister's laptop did the same thing, but hers has gotten better too. There's nothing to really do but wait it out!

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i have realllyy bad arm pit sweating. i use this stuff, and it really does work.. i don't sweat at all. but the thing is it burns for like an hour straight after i put it on. i don't mind since it's actually working, but i hate the burning. does anyone else have sweaty arm pits? what do you use? does it burn? (link)
I do sweat in social situations and stuff like that. I use Certaindri anti-perspirent. It's more of an itchy feeling, actually. When i itch my armpit area, then it starts to burn. It also burns if i just shaved and then put it on. hope i helped.


I have one.
I gained ten pounds, over the past couple of months. And being only 5'2. Most of that weight has found itself hanging around in my middle.
Don't get me wrong I kinda like it.
It's very doughy. Makes me look a lot rounder and softer.

But do some like a little extra jiggle?
(I know not all do, of course.)

just to give you an idea-
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i just asked my good guy friend your question. (17)

he said

"i don't like super skinny girls. A lot of guys i know couldnt give a crap wheher a girl has a little extra fat or not, but we do take the time to notice like.. what you people are wearing, ha. it's like..would you not be attraced to guy without a totally ripped and like...tanned body?"

i thought about that and i thought..it's true that i couldnt care less if a guy had a 6 pack or something...so i guess its the same with guys.


hes a good looking guy, so i think it disproves that good looking guys are jerks or super shallow, even though it may be true for some.


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i dont understand what "ballin" means. people say it randomly. i know it comes from a song but wtf? people are not playing basketball or rich, are they just saying it for fun? (link)
hahaha.
uh i am guilty of saying it randomly too.

i just say it for fun...and i have no idea why. i also do the stupid hand motion like you're throwing a basketball. it's a catchy song, so i'm guessing thats why they say it, but it usually means you are good at basketball. i went to a basketball game and this guy made a really nice shot and people shouted BAWLIN!


i have to go listen to that song now ;]
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hey im a guy 13, and i was wondering whats the most important thing to girls to make a guy hot. is it clothes, looks, popularity, sports, scent etc...... (link)
-Funny guys are hot. :]
-He's got to smell good ha.
-I don't care what type of clothing, because it's whatever fits your personality.
-A guy that isn't immature
-good looks are nice, but not totally what i look for
- i hate cocky guys (guys that are in love with their reflection)
-nice smile and eyes
-outgoing and bold
-can hold a conversation
-has an opinion
-not a "goody goody"

this was a personal idea, but alllll girls are different.


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Is there anything that i may have around my house that i could put on my hair over night to make it really soft and silky tomarrow? you know how some peoples hair is so soft and shiny, but not oily looking, and when you touch it it feels soft? well is there anything i can put on my hair tonight that would make mine as close to that as possible in the morning? It can be like maybe some hair products, but i probabally wouldnt have them at home because i need it for tomarrow, or it could be any kind of food or food juices if you know what i mean. just anything and everything.

thanks =]

and what would i need to do to it in the morning and does it need to be wet or dry when i put it on and do i need to cover it with anything while i sleep.

kAy thanks (link)
this will really work.

take olive oil and put it in a cup. (amount of oil varies with length of hair. have enough to cover all your hair)

put the olive oil in the mocrowave for 30-45 seconds to make it warm

put it in your hair. (hair is DRY)

wrap your hair in ceran wrap.


put a towel in a dryer and let it get hot.


wrap your hair in the towel (with the ceran still in your hair)

wait for it to cool off


shampoo it twice. do not condition it.

blow dry and it will be silky soft!



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I need red(preferably liquid) eyeliner for prom. The only place i can find with red eyeliner is Hottopic. I'd rather not have to order it online, but if it's necessary, I can.
If you know of any stores or websites that carry good red eyeliner (for a fair price) please let me know!
Thanks! (link)
I typed in liquid eyeliner and a bunch of types and colors and prices came up. By the initial pictures they look only black colored, but if you click on some of them, you can buy them in different colors.



http://www.sephora.com/search/search_results.jhtml?command=text&attr1=liquid+eyeliner&attr2=&%2Fcom%2Flvmh%2Fcommerce%2Fcatalog%2Fsearch%2Fiphrase%2Fproxy%2FIPhraseSearchFormHandler.search=search&_D%3A%2Fcom%2Flvmh%2Fcommerce%2Fcatalog%2Fsearch%2Fiphrase%2Fproxy%2FIPhraseSearchFormHandler.search=+&searchString=liquid+eyeliner&x=0&y=0&_DARGS=%2Fincludes%2FsearchFinder.jhtml

Sephora has excellent brands of make-up.




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What is a good lanuage to take in high school that isn't like impossible to learn.
I DON'T want to take spanish though, because everyone takes that. (link)
italian...if your school offers it. i take it and i love it. it's similar to spanish so you can pick up on the language quickly, but it is still a very beautiful language. honestly, i lost a lot of my spanish because of the similarity, but i wouldnt change my choice to take it.


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I feel really awkward when people ask me about my religion and stuff because i'm agnostic and don't think there is a way to prove if god is real or not. I really don't want to tell my friends that because most of them are really religious and i'm scared they wouldn't like me if I did. Why do people think it's such a big deal if you don't believe in god? I don't know if I should tell them or not. (link)
personally i do not think i believe in god either...but i'd like to believe that there is some higher power. i don't classify myself as anything because religion isn't a huge part of my life, but if it is a big part of your life i think you should. i have no idea why people think it is such a big deal because in my opinion it isn't. people can believe what they want and i think that people are annoying when they try to push their religion or what they believe on you. tell them if it's something important to you.


could some one please tell me some statistics about high school sweet hearts. like a percent of how many of them get married and dont get divorced. or could you tell me a good place where i could find this. thanks (link)
Less than 2% of high school sweethearts end
up getting married and not divorcing.The percentage is now decreasing and soon will be less than 1% according to statistics.


My grandparents started dating when they were freshmen, so i don't know how reliable all these statistics are...


hmm but it was an interesting question


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Theres this guy that i kind of like.. nothing big but i do.. and i'd really like to "grab his attention" like when i walk by in the halls.. i want him to notice me.. and when i talk to him online i want to be able to stand out in his mind out of all the other girls... how do i do this?

HELP! (link)
in the halls look confident and it doesn't hurt to be walking with another guy...even if it's just a friend. Smile and hold his gaze for just a second. You have to look away first. basically, you have the power then, and you leave him interested to know more and be around you. When you walk past him, it wouldn't hurt to lightly brush his shoulder or get close to him, but don't make it blatantly obvious that you are trying to get his attention and run flat into him. Wear a nice smelling perfume....i asked my guy friend how he notices certain girls in the hallway and he said that scent or smell is one of the most intriguing things about a girl along with how she looks..(confident...happy..physically put together)


WALA!


attention grabbed.


I was wondering if anyone knew any quotes about a "key to my heart". My boyfriend of 5 months is turning 16 in 5 days and I'm giving him a necklace with a key on it. I'm putting a tag on it too and I want a cute quote to put on it about the key being the key to my heart.
I already tried google.. no luck.
thanks for any help! (link)
http://www.wittyprofiles.com/search.php?p=key+to



that could help...?



Please solemnly promise
to never break it apart
and that you will always have
the key to my heart...



I use to keep my heart locked up,
to where no one else could see.
I thought no one would ever find it;
that precious little key.
But now I see there is one person
in this great big world,
whom I may trust to keep it,
like an oyster with a pearl.
So now I say to you
as I give you my precious little key.
Be careful with my heart,
for now you've set me free.



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hey guys i'm looking for some good dance songs that have a good beat.

some songs i think have a good beat are "bubble gum" by rasheeda, "find a new way" young love, "banquet" by bloc party.

i have a really mixed taste, so anything goes (except country!)

thaaanks (link)
here are some mixed genres of songs:


Everything is Alright
by Motion City Soundtrack (love this song)

Sunrise Goodbyes
by Houston Calls


The space between
by Valencia


Closer
by My Favorite Highway


You're Making it all come alive
by my favorite highway

bojangles remix
by pitbull (i know the name is wierd but it had a good beat, ha)


I'm really hot
by missy elliot

crazy train remix
by Lil Jon


satisfaction
by benny benassi



Moneymaker
by Ludacris


Smoothe Criminal
by alien antfarm





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