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hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

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I'm not sure if I'm still sick or not so what temperatures will tell me that I'm not? my body temperature measurement goes by Farenheight.

If your body tempeture is 98.6 or about that you're ok =)
If you're about 3 degrees over or under, then you're definitely still sick =/
Hope you feel better =)

VB

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okay so i gave this guy a hand job and we were both naked on his bed. and he fingered me but he didn't touch himself before it or anything(atleast i'm pretty sure) and when he cummed he didn't get it on me or anything. but my period is five days late, could i be pregnant? and if you think im not is there any reason my period is late? cause now im starting to freak out ive never wanted my period to come more than my entire life:(
thanks for your help :)

I'm sure you must be freaking out about your period being late, but don't worry =) It is pretty much impossible for you to be pregnant.
If all he did was finger you, you can definitely breathe freely.
Unless there was any moment of penetration (even though he didn't cum in you) he could've had left some pre-cum. In wisch case a pregnancy could take place...
But if this isn't te case, ;like i said, don't worry =) you'll be okay =)
As for the reason why your period might be late, could be actually the stress, change in diet, exercise, or it might just beacting silly! haha! =)

Much love

VB

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When you give a guy a blowjob, does it matter if your eyes are open or closed?

nope!
it doesn't really matter, at all!
It basically comes down to preference in the end too, maybe you want to be looking at him, him at you... or maybe not lol maybe either he or you will be lost in the moment and not even remember about the eyes... haha!
But it really doesn't matter =) you'll still be pleasuring him like crazy! =P

hope this helps! =)

VB

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Hi im 14m and i was wondering...im about 6 1/4 and about 1 inch thick...i was wonder if thats big or small..please answer
thanks..

I would say that that is about average size =)
actually perhaps a lil bigger than average, so defiintely not small! =)


VB

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This is so embarrassing but here goes im almost 18 and ive got a really really small penis
ive never been with a girl or had a girlfriend im to embarrassed to look for a girlfriend
is there something i can do to make it bigger?
im really worried thats there something wrong with me.

Hey there! =)
Let me start by saying that by you saaying that you have a "really really small penis", I doubt that its that small.

I know you must be thinking wtf is she talking about? ..but the truth of the matter is, that generally speaking guys think that their penis unless its on the double digits or so, its small!

Guys have a BIG thing about the size of their penis, but that really just goes for guy. Girls really don't pay tht much attention to the size of it. What we mainly look for in guys, is for him to be able to please us, and trust me, you don't need a huge penis to do that!

Its true, some girls look for size (but the truth is some of that small percentage that does can't even handle it when they find it), but the rest of us look to be please, loved, and taken care of.

It may sound like its so cliche when they say that its not size that matter, but how you use it... and actually, its just 100% true!
So don't be shy or embarrassed if you love the girl, she loves you back, and most importantly treat each other right and take care of eachother, specially when it comes to making love you try your best to take care of her, you'll have her in cloud nine!

As for the making it bigger part... I know that there are a few pills out there that say that they will enhance your penis size and whatnot, but not really sure if they work, and what the side effects may be....
And of course there always is the possibility of getting surgery.... I can only imagine how much it'll hurt though at least the first few days of having surgery in such a sensitive area!

But before you try any of that, just try being happy with your own body =) you never know, your gf may think that your penis is just fine! =)
Also, there is nothing wrong with you! Everyone is different, and therfore everyone will have different sizes, lengths, thickness, etc! ...you can look at it as being the same with breasts in the female body! =)

Well, hope this hepls some! =)
and good luck!
Anything else, am here to help =)

VB

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UMM idk if i am bi or not like i dated dis girl for 3 weeks but we never did anything. not even a kissed. like some girl would turn me on but thats all so i am like confused about all this bi things

Hey there.. i'm so sorry for havent answered your question earlier.
Actually just found it by chance by clicking around hthe site a little while ago!

Anyway, It does sound to me that you might be Bicurious. because after all, you are turned on by other girls like you mentioned.

I'm not certain of your age, which actually makes it a little more difficult to say and explain, because it can be that your hormones are just going out of wack, you're rtrying to find your sexual identity, or are trully just going through a time of curiosity, of some type of desire to be and experiment being with another girl.

The fact also that you dated this girl for about 3 weeks takes a spin to it. Because, did you not feel comfortable of doing anything with her, or was it that you just weren't ready mentaly or physically?

Then again, maybe didn't feel the chemestry with the other girl? its possible.

Try to think of what stopped you from doing anything with this girl whom you dated for like 3 weeks.

It may end up being that you're Bicurious, but may still be a little nervous with the idea of being with another girl. And thats perfectly normal. You have to be ready in everyway to really go for it. And after you do, IF you ever decide to fully experience being with another girl, after that first time you'll be able to determine if it was just a one time thing you wished, or if you are bi. =)

It'll all be crystal clear then! =)

Much love! =)
and sorry once again for the delayed response =/

If can help you in any other way or any other question don't hesitate to ask =) i'll be more than happy to help you out! ....and this time i'll for sure be checking my inbox on a daily basis! haha! =D

VB

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I have been married for 8 years and my husband and I are still pretty young (37 and 33); we have two kids and WE HARDLY EVER HAVE SEX. Lately it's been once every three weeks. I know we are still attracted to each other and I know we are both faithful, it's just that being parents totally sucks all the energy from us. Any advice?

I can i magine That being a parent is pretty hard... I have taken care of my cousins on weeksends or perhaps just for a day sometimes and at the end of the day I'm just drained!

This is a bit of a tough situation. I would suggest trying to organize little getaways with your husband. You know just like they say you should have like a family night, i say take that idea and make it a romance ight.. That way you and your husband can be together at least once a week, be able to relax in each others arms and let the night take you away... preferrebly if the kids can stay with other family members or have little sleepovers or be babysat... Whatever works best =)

If this is not as easy to be able to do, you could try like after the kids are off to bed, maybe you and your husband can try going into the shower together.... bubble baths together.. you know? Doing little things that normally you would do, but making it a little more sensual by doing it together.. and at the same time its something that'll relax both of you...

Going along with that, you can try giving each other massages, use oils, put on a scented candel..etc. Just little things that might get you both in the mood, while also still relaxing the body even prior to an orgasm or anything. =)

Hope this helps! =) Best of luck!

VB

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I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk

Opinions?

I believe that it really depends on the person, their beliefs, wants, and the couple as a whole....

While i do believe that its ok for people to be sexual before marriage, like with the examples that you used about a 14 year old, there are certain limits to situation.

A 14 year old really shouldn't be having sex at such a young age. He/she may say that its love, blah blah blah... but how tru is it? In a way sex is for a couple that is mature in a way, that are willing and ready for the possibilities that sex may bring.

That why I say that its ok to have marriage before sex, because if you feel that you are with the "right" person, know them for sure, and is the one that specially may believe to be the one with whom they'll spend the rest of their lifes with, why not? If there is that bond, that trust, and that reliability upon the other person to be with you no matter what, and for both to take responsibility is maybe even a pregnancy was to happen, that they're ready for it...

But for that, i believe there should be some maturity in both parties like I mentioned before. And of course be responsible and safe. Its not necessary to marry someone, or have to wait till marriage to have to unfold that part of you and share with the other person...

Although at the same time we have to respect those that chose to do that. Specially in our society today its hard to find individuals who are willing to wait till marriage, but more power to those that do! ...I for sure wouldn't be able to wait that long! haha! then again, I am planning no getting married in maybe five to ten years! haha! ;-)

Hope this helped! =)

VB

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is fignering yourself the only way to mastubate for girls? I mean, I do it but it doesn't give me pleasure......I just feel normal like it doesn't give me enjoyment......is that weird or is there any way I can ......"pleasure" myself? Help!!!!!

Try clitorial stimulation =)
i know what you mean about fingering not really being that pleasureable.... and no, its not weird =)
so don't worry =)
best of luck!

VB

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you know how there are the outer lips and the inner lips? well, myinner lips kind of peek out of the outer ones all the time. is that normal?

Yup!
I've asked myself the same question before, and was real self conscious about it, didn't know if something was wrong with me or something... But i did do some research on it and the whole nine yards and turns out its perfecly normal! =)
So nothing to worry about! =)

VB

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So everyone says fingering yourself gives you EXTREME pleasure. Anyways, I've tried it and...nothing. Could someone please tell me what to do?? Thanks!! %%

Fingering yourself actually doesn't always give the "extreme" pleasure that some may say...
Trust me, you're not the only one who may experience this, fingering can sometimes be just like ..eh.. w/e haha! Try clitoris stimulation.... that ussually is a pretty good option =) specially if you don't feel that much pleasure at all from fingering there is a chance that you'll feel that "extreme" pleasure from stimulating the clit =)
hope this helps! =)

VB

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do you have to have a pap smear before getting on the pill for the first time?

Nope!
definitely not.... the only reason you might want to and should have a pap is if you have been sexually active.. otherwise, if thats not the case, taking birth control pills have really nothing to do with it =)
Hope this helped =)

VB

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my friend uses a vibrators EVERY DAY. can this make it so she can't have children?

Don't worry =)
Using a vobrator even everyday wont make it so your friend can't have children some day =)


VB

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What jobs can my 11 year old sister or 9 year old brother get?

Unfortunately, you're too young to go and apply for a job at a market place or something like that. you have to wait until ur about 15/16 depending on the place to go and get a job job =/
But, you can always look for things to do at or in your neighborhood! ...walk the dog, help with groceries, some sort of garden work or something like that!
sorry couldn't be of more help...

good luck! =/

VB

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15-f: well ive been dating a guy for 4 months and my parents are divorced...My mom says that i cannot hangout with him outside of school unless he comes over and "has dinner with us" an she meets his parents as well. My dad told me that unless he's "putting a ring on my finger" then he doesnt have to meet him like the way my mom wants to. soo thats the only way i see him is on my dad's day's..and im not with him that much. I guess my question here is should u continue seeing him at my dads, or should he finally meet my mom...[ps]my mom and i dont get along at all.

Hey! =)
This is a bit of a rough situation, and i feel for you =/
But I personally believe that you probably should try to let your mom meet your boyfriend, no matter the relationship that you two have. It may be that you two don't get along smoetimes at all, but she is still your mom, and believe it or not, she's just trying to look out for you. She wants to be able to see the boy with whom her daughter is =) She probably is telling you that you can't see him unless.. ... ... (etc) because she doesn't want you off with someone that she doesn't know. you know? its just a way to look out for you and whatnot....
I can understand also for example what Grayson (Jordan) is saying... your mom is being a little more strict about it than your dad... but when it comes to the kids, specially girls and bfs, one always tends to be much more than the other. Plus, (i know you're going to hate this) but you are still only 15... and unfortunatelly bc of that, specially viewed through a mothers eyes, a 15yr old is still a baby, and just wants to protect her... just let her meet your bf =) what do you have to lose? if anything maybe your mom will finally be at ease and let you see him more freely =)
and back to Jordans case, well, he is at college, and is about 21 like he said.... and his gf is yet to meet his parents.. BUT what he failed to mention is that his gf's mother was a little troubled about him... and wanted to get to meet him and know him so that she'd let the two have a free open relationship and see each other whenever.... trust me, i know haha! cause i'm his gf... haha! and my mom first thing she wanted to do is meet this guy! and not until she did, did she get off our backs!
so just give it a try with her =)
otherwise, i guess do as you're doing and see him on your fathers days =) and if the relation continues, you're going to get older and then be able to do pretty much what you want =) k?

best of luck! =)

VB

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hi well im 14 and my voice still hasnt gotten deeper and its kinda annoying cause everyone is starting to think i might be gay

and im deff not,.,haha

some questions i have are ......could somehting be wrong?/

can it get deeper later for some people

is this bad///


and just any general info


THANKS

Don't worry hun =)
nothing is wrong =)
All guys are different, just like so are girls when it comes to growing up. Your voice will change in time =)
Its very normal for kids your age to not have experienced through puberty yet, don't worry =) it'll come soon enough =)

Good luck

VB

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who one in the show Flavor of Love Charm School?
lol, i know, very random.

thanks

Saphyrii
=)

VB

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hello. well i was just wandering, if i were a shareholder, and more people started buying shares for the company ive invested in, would it be good for me? or bad? because there are more people investing, so would it not be bad because you want to have the most shares in a company? but im not sure-so confused! thanks a lot. :)

If you're a shareholder, you would already have your stock.. and if more people started buying or trying to buy shares it would be good for you, since that means there would be a higher demand of the stock, and therefore, the price of it would go up!
but regardless, you still have the same amount of shares you bought, because the ones that others are buys are those that others are selling.. and if anything if the demand and price for it goes up so much to tbhe point of maybe even doubling, there a point where the stocks would be broken in half, BUT, lets say you have 10 shares, and its divided so the price of the shares go down in half.. the price of each of your shares would go down, but you would still have the same amount under your possesion since you would get an extra 10 shares, having 20 in total =)
sorry if its a bit confussing...
but basically, its a goodthing for others to invest, because your profit then increases =)

VB

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if you watched porn on the internet is there any way that the government can find out that you actually aren't 18? i'm worried im going to get caught or something.

aww
haha! nah!
don't worry =) you're safe
there is really no way for them to find out you're actually not 18 or over =)

VB

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So I really need a vibrator....so does anyone know where I can get one?

definitely spencers!
..if you're not willing to go to like an adult shop or anything...
the easiest is spencers though =)

VB

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