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so I dumped my boyfriend a few days ago because he used to be flirting with my so called best friend and called her beautiful infront of my face, and all this shit. We were once talking about how dumb it was to brake up with people and then not talk to them. So we were like, if anything every happens we are still gonna be friends. And so after I dumped him, I said hi to him the next day. I was so happy and relieved to have him out of my life. It was one of the happiest moments of my life. and then he didn't say anything bak. he just kinda waved but ignored me. And he has been going to all my friends and everyone telling them i broke up with him. and he told my friend that i was gonna regret it. I don't know wht to think about this situation. what do you guys think? I'm thinking maybe he is over me already, and he wants to show it. Or he isn't, he's trying to hide it, but its not working because he's been looking really down lately. And maybe he is telling all the girls so that he can have someone to replace me quick or something. Or maybe, i'm not quiet sure what to think. what do you guys think?

Well, you can look at this a couple ways. By him not saying "hi" and just kinda waving, it could mean he is trying to pay you back...You have to remember, all couples say that once they break up they will keep talking and be friends. But it doesnt always happen that way, for many reasons. If you say he seems sad, i dont think he's over you. Unless, he is pretending to be sad, so you try to get him back and he rejects the idea. As you can see, there are many different angles to look at it. And i dont know him so you will have to figure that part out.

If you want to know how he is feeling, i would either just ask him or ask somebody that is close to him and knows him well.

If you need anymore advice, drop me a msg in my inbox :]

Good luck!

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first time and it hurt quite a bit. but the thing is it dint feel good. why not? will it ever feel good?

Yes, that is normal. Your first, second, third and fourth and maybe more depending on the women. Mine hurt til about the 6th or so time i did it. The reason it hurts is because it is stretching you, and its breaking your hymen.

When i first did it i was quite disappointed that it didnt feel good at all, but trust me once you do it more it truly feels amazing! It just takes time :]

If you have anymore questions, feel free to drop a msg in my box. :]

GOOD LUCK

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I don't know what to get my boyfriend for christmas he is 20 years old and he is very spiritual if that helps any ideas.

Hmmm welll, you could burn him a cd of all the songs that remind you of him.
You can buy a jar and fill it up with post it notes and write the things you love about him.


And if you havent been dating him a long time, i wouldnt over do it...maybe just shirts, watch, take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant or cook him dinner.

it would be easier if you said other things he is into, and how long you guys have been dating :]

Good luck

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I want everyones opinion about capital punishment,
Do you think it is right or is it wrong? & why?
Im jus doin this essay about it
and i wanted to know what you guys thought.
And the advantages and disadvantages of it
Thanks for your opinion :]


Here are some facts about how the death penalty system actually works. By the way, the first answer is wrong about costs. Sources are below.

127 people on death rows released with proof that they were wrongfully convicted. DNA, available in less than 10% of all homicides, canâ??t guarantee we wonâ??t execute innocent people.

The death penalty doesn't prevent others from committing murder. Homicide rates are higher in states and regions that have it than in those that donâ??t.

We have a good alternative, life without parole, on the books in 48 states. It means what it says. Life without parole costs less than the death penalty.

The death penalty is much more expensive than life in prison, mostly because of the upfront costs (before and during the initial trial) of legal process which is supposed to prevent executions of innocent people.

The death penalty isn't reserved for the worst crimes, but for defendants with the worst lawyers. It doesn't apply to people with money. When is the last time a wealthy person was on death row, let alone executed?

The death penalty doesn't necessarily help families of murder victims. Murder victim family members have testified that the drawn-out death penalty process is painful for them and that life without parole is an appropriate alternative.

Problems with speeding up the process. Over 50 of the innocent people released from death row had already served over a decade. Speed up the process and we will execute innocent people.


GOOD LUCK!

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is it illegal for a boss to only allow their employee to make $6.50 since it is below minimum wage. any more info is greatly appreciated :]

Being paid below minimum wage is only legal if your occupation provides you the opportunity to supplement the wage via gratuities of some sort. Waiters and Waitresses, bartenders, and valet personnel are types of employees that may be paid less than minimum wage.

Minimum wage is different in all the states, so i would have to know what state you live in to be more exact. I know when i was 15 i only got $6.50 and that is below minimum wage but it was because i was a super minor.


Below is the minimum wages for the states, you just simply click on the state you want to see the minimum wage for :]


http://www.dol.gov/esa/minwage/america.htm


GOOD LUCK

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Even when i get a good nights sleep, i still have bags under my eyes and it's not like i have sinuses or allergy problems or anything like that so i don't know why. I try to cover it up with concealer to but you can still tell big time. What do i do?

There are many reasons why people get bags under their eyes. Some of them include, stress or depression, nutrient deficiency, hyper pigmentation, sun exposure, and drug use.


The most effective remedy for dark circles is also the most cliche. Thin slices of cucumber applied to your eyes not only helps to lighten the skin, but also soothes and cools the eyes. This can be especially comforting if you've been up late the night before or your eyes are red and tired from allergies or staring at a laptop screen.

Lay down on your back (because it's easier to balance the cucumber slices that way). Lay thin slices of cucumber on your eyes, making sure they have contact with the skin under the eyes. Leave them on for 5-10 minutes. It's a good idea to set your alarm clock if you're doing this early in the morning. Be careful not to get cucumber juice in your eyes.

RevitaLume includes cucumber extract, which is a less messy and more effective way to get the same cooling, soothing benefits of cucumber slices. The benefits of our product also last much longer and help to strengthen the capillaries under the eyes, to prevent future dark circles from forming

You can also try:

The caffeine in tea bags acts as a remedy for dark circles by diminishing puffiness. Caffeine in tea helps to diminish water in the tissues around the eyes (you'll notice that many early eye circle creams contain caffeine for this very reason). In addition, tea contains antioxidants that are beneficial to the skin.

Take a used tea bag (green, black or white) that's been squeezed out. Make sure it's cool! Leave it over your eyes for about 10 minutes. You'll see a noticeable improvement in puffiness and under-eye circles. Be careful not to get tea in your eyes.

Herbal tea bags are not useful as a remedy for dark circles, except for chamomile tea. Chamomile is an anti-inflammatory that can help reduce swelling and puffiness.

The best remedy for dark circles under the eyes is a product specifically designed for that purpose. RevitaLume makes use of the latest research and cutting-edge products to diminish dark circles within minutes of application.

You can also try this...

Appy a mixture of lemon and tomtato juice on the dark circles twice a day.

HOPE I HELPED :]

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Any songs about this?!

thanks (:

I think i know of a couplee songss :]


Nivea - dont mess with my man
Paramore - misery business
Devil doll - the curse
Dolly Parton - Jolene
Loretta Lynn - aint women enough to take my man
Jill scott - gettin' in the way
Ashlee simpson - boyfriend
Beyonce - he's my man
Mokenstef - he's mine

hope i helped :]

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i'm so sorry this is long but i would really appreciate if you could help me!

you have great advice, i love it! and i've seen that you have dealt with the whole friends with benefits thing so i thought maybe you could help me out :) im 18 years old. im still a virgin and have never had an actual boyfriend. people tell me im gorgeous, im outgoing, funny and sweet. but i don't see it, i don't see why guys go for me when there are so many other girls that are better than me. well i've only made out with two guys, kissed like 5 and that was like three years ago and they all meant nothing! i feel like i'm scared to do anything, even kiss! i can't overcome this. i have a best friend of about four years, he does mean SO much to me and i've always liked him and i dont think that will ever change. we use to just be friends but lately like within the past six months he has been talking about sexual things. i am really attracted to him, when i'm with him he turns me on like no other boy. i feel bad though because when we text and talk about things like this i'm like, i want you. and stuff like that because, i really do but when i'm actually with him and he tries to do stuff with me i chicken out and i feel horrible. he's tried to kiss me, i act like i didn't know. he's felt me up like my boobs, i don't care he's been down my pants but HASNT gotten to the point of actually like feeling my vagina or anything. i feel like such a tease, i don't want to be though. i'm comfortable with him but i don't know what it is. i feel like if he fingers me or something he will be like "oh, your vagina was smelly, or weird shaped" something stupid like that. im just so self conscious. and one night i was at his house and we were in the basement by ourself and i was like look how cute my underwear are! and he was like let me see so i unbuttoned my pants and of course he put his hand down my pants. and he was like you should strip for me ;) well he's seen me in my bra but he hasn't seen me with my pants off! i was like no, i'm not! and we were texting and i wanted him to watch this movie with me and he was like i hate that movie and i was like come on watch it with me and he was like you will probably be distracted anyways. i think he meant because he will be trying to do stuff with me? i'm not quite sure and me being the dork i am said, bet you i wont and he was just like ok. and i was like fuck you, for not liking my movie haha and he was like yeah thats what you really want to do don't you, you want to fuck me just say it dont lie. and i was like i don't lie. and he was like thats good. i just don't know what to do im SO LOST! i think im so scared because i really like this guy and all the others meant nothing to me so i didnt care what they thought. i'm definately not having sex with him, i'm not ready for that and he knows that now but i would like to experiment doing other things! any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you so much.

Hi! Thank you for writing in my inbox. :]

Well, this is how my friends with benefits thing started. Although, ive known him for about 11 years or so. It was the same way, i had this crush on him, and then it became more. We started getting closer and i loved it.

I am not going to say friends with benefits is bad, i would be contridicting myself. I honestly dont see a problem with it. Although, you may get hurt. You just have to keep your guard up.

Another thing, i am sure you are a very pretty girl. I also think you should work on your self esteem a bit. Try different kinds of makeup, tell yourself you look cute, ect. It really helps because you cant go through life being scared of kissing.

You dont want to have sex with him, but you want to turn him on? Guys dont really like that. And in your situation, you might turn him on and you said you dont want to have sex, and you dont give hj or bj...he would basically be screwed and probably get upset. Thats just how guys work, yeah they liked being teased for a little, but then that just builds up and then they want something, ya know?

I would try things with him, only if you are 100% sure of it. Try giving him a blow job or a hand job. It'll give you practice and it will overcome you're fear of it.

To turn him on, you can do TONS of things. Really, guys will get turned on by almost ANYTHING. You can touch by the inside of his leg, you can kiss his neck, bite his lip gently, bite his ear, blow in his ear (it'll give him chills), or just make out with him. All of them, or even one should do the trick.

So, by typing all of this i am just saying BE CAREFUL. And you said you do not want to have sex, so if you truly dont, DO NOT let him pressure you. If i were you i would try other things so you get a feel for them. Start with kissing, and then go on.

Also, about your vagina smelling...I highly doubt it does smell. Just make sure you shave nicely and wash it well. All girls are afraid of this happening when they first become sexually active. I know i was, i was horrified...i kept thinking what if i smell? what if im not good? what if...and it kept going through my head.

You will get over that fear as well, as long as you wash good you will be fine! :] And i am almost positive he wont think you are shaped weird :p


I hoped i helped, and i am sorry if it is very long.

And seriously, if you need anymore advice, or if you want me to break it down more just email me, or instant messsage me. The info is on my column :]


GOOD LUCK !

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if you have a warrant out for your arrest. and you dont go to jail, what does that mean?
can they show up to your work?

They have the right to arrest you anywhere, and they have the right to just walk in your house. And yes, they can show up and arrest you at work

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i guess you could say im a sex addict, i do it for the pleasure i have yet recently in the past 4 months go a weekend with out it. Im only 17 and have had sex with ten guys, honestly i dont care what people have to say i just shrug it off like its no biggie and im being safe about it. im just wondering do any other girls feel the craving for sex a lot and if so how many guys have you slept with by the time you were 17?

I know exactly what you are going through. I have had sex with four guys, and i'll admit some were mistakes but i just shrug it off like you do. I love the feeling of it. But, you see now i have a friends with benefits partner and its safe because i know he doesnt have stds or anything. And i actually like it that way. So, we basically have sex anytime i would like, or he would like. If you are going to have sex, i would def do it that way.

Just know that you arent the only one going through this, and no i am not going to lecture you :]

If you need anymore advice reguarding this, just email me....hypnoticpoison92@yahoo.com
or send me an inbox message

GOOD LUCK

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i work at a daycare and i need some ideas of some stuff we can do with the kids like crafts and games and things like that any ideas anything will help any websites or anything

Here are a couple sites i found that may help you out :]


http://www.preschooleducation.com/art.shtml

http://www.needchildcare.com/Curriculum_Crafts_Early_Childhood_Websites.html

http://www.kinderart.com/littles/litles.html

http://www.123child.com/

GOOD LUCK! :]

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alright i need to know where the hymen is. lol. like where?? in the opening? middle? way back there? until i have the answer i will probley be deathly afraid of sex. help!

This might help you some, so you can actually see where it is located

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/Images/normal_hymen.jpg

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I have an odor coming from my vagina. I believe it's from not urinating or washing as well as I should have (don't worry, lesson learned). I just want to know how I can get rid of the odor without douching (I heard that can cause infertility).

THANKS!

Take a long deep bath and when you go to bed don't wear underwear so you let your vagina breath, i don't wear underwear to bed because i think you should let your vagina breath ~ Don't wear extra tight underwear give it some room to breath, eat lots of fruit and vegetables ~ and drink lots of water

And if that doesnt work...
I think you should get it checked out by a doctor. Like the person said below, it may be an infection of some sort that only meds can fix :]

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alright so i havent actually KISSED a guy before. weird thing is, i've made out with two? i'm definately not a whore i am 18 years old. but anyways i know how to do like a peck kiss, it's like kissing someone in your family but how to you do the one where your mouth is somewhat open and so are your lips. how do you know if the guy wants to make out or do a kiss like this? don't tell me, "it comes natural" because for me nothing does. i just don't really know how people do that? any explinations or tips would be very helpful, thank you.

Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed. However, you don't need to always close your eyes; some people enjoy keeping their eyes open and seeing their partner when kissing.

You start out with a little peck (like how you would kiss your mother) and then wait for him to stick his tongue in, or you can kinda poke yours in so he gets the hint :]

GOOOD LUCK!

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im 15 and basically i was at a party , and we were drinking .. a lot . i've never been so drunk in my entire life . there was this guy there , only a year older that i'd never met before and we were on the couch and out of no where , seriously , he starts making out with me (worst kisser btw, ugh) and then eventually we stopped but then he kept pulling my hand to his fuckin crotch and wouldn't stop so to shut him up i did what he wanted, and that eventually ended up with a blow job. and by morning EVERYONE at the party knew. so humiliating, and of course you have the rumours and shit.. i was just wondering how i can get rid of the embarassment? its been MONTHS now and i still feel like a hoe :(.. oh ima girl btw :P

Like the person said below, PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES! :]
You learn from them and move on. When people bring it up, just ignore them. The only reason they bring it up is because they dont have anything better to do. When you are out of highschool you will look back on it and laugh. Just make sure not to make the same mistake again :]

GOOD LUCK

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Hey,
I've been in a sexual relationship with my (male) partner for a few months now, and I usually sleep over every weekend- this will be the first weekend that my period crosses over with that date.
What are the norms- do most people have sex while on their period? I don't think I would be comfortable doing that. Do I just tell him I don't want to have sex, or that I am on my period, or what? What do most people do?
Thanks.

I wouldnt say MOST people have sex while on their period...but some do. If you and him are comfortable with it then hey go for it.

Alterntives include, titty sex when he gets off by thrusting his penis between your boobs. Or you can just give him a bj/hj while he feels you up and what not.

Also, you guys can just watch a movie and cuddle! :]


GOOD LUCK

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last nite my boyfriend fingered me and I havnt been fingered in foreveeerrr. like years.

it was fun but it HURT. after we were done I was reeally sore and thought I was bleeding and sure enough I was. my underwear had blood on it, but it wasn't mucho mucho. am I ok? I looked at it and everything looks normal.and now it's sore. is there anything I can do for the soreness?

Like the person said below, you could of started your period. But, i would say maybe he was a bit too rough, and since you havent got fingered in a while you werent that loose. Therefore, he may of scratched your walls in your vaginia. Its nothing to worry about, it happens to girls all the time There isnt really anything you can do for the soreness though.

GOOD LUCK

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i just had sex for the first time and it was painful but the problem is that my lower back hurts advice please.

Thats normal. Your body is going to hurt because you used muscles that you havent used before. Just like the first time you go on top, the inside of your thighs will hurt. There isnt really much you can do about it except maybe put a heating pad on your back.

GOOD LUCK!

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I am not sure what color shirt to wear under it. I was thinking brown. Help! :)

I would probably choose brown, or maybe a yellowish color. I dont think red would look good, because it would clash with the cream color

GOOD LUCK

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I me this man online he came over with his son and the next day he text me saying he had a great time..Later he text me and starting coming over we have sex and he falls to sleep and gets up later and goes home. Then a few weeks pass and hes texting again to say Hi he comes over again and its sex we have been doing this off and on for 4 months I am falling for him i have never ask him how he feels when he comes we do watch tv and talk and end up in the bed. The last time he came he told me he had miss coming over my friend thinks i should let him come over again have sex with him and tell him its time to go you got what you wanted and so did I and you have made it clear we are just sex. Should I do this or just come out and ask how he feels about me. He tells me Im awesome but what does that mean.What should I do. He tells me I love your hair sent me a text of his son having fun sends me a text going down the road in his truck playing a song awhile back.

Thanks for wrting in my inbox!

Well, i am in a situation similar to yours. Dont make the same mistake as me, and assume he is using you for sex. I did the same thing, i would go over his house and we would have sex. Then, i would leave and say well you got what you wanted. And, he got upset because of that. I would sit him down and ask him where you guys stand with each other. That is the only way you will know for sure. I know it might be tough, but im not so sure he is using you for sex. I could see if he only texted you or called you when he wanted some. But, since you say he sends pictures of his son to you and whatnot, i would say he cares about you in a sense.

So, i would really just talk to him. You dont want to start playing mind games with him, and thinking you know his motives (if he has any) because i made that mistake.

If you need anymore advice reguarding this, please dont hesitate to email me

hypnoticpoison92@yahoo.com

GOOD LUCK!

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