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oke well my dog has too much ticks and when my mom and dad take them out then they come again and so they dont do it anymore and i love my dog and so i would love too pet him but i hate ticks
so will you give me advice on how too get ticks a way
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There are a ton of things to do. Be glad that your dog isn't a purely 'outside' dog, and your parents only let him outside occasionally. Otherwise, the ticks would be much, much worse.
Many vets try to discourage people from using heat (cigarettes, matches), though I did growing up with some of our dogs. Its easier, however, to just pull them off. You can use tweezers for the smaller ones (like seed ticks), but the larger ones you can just pull off with your fingers (if you are squeamish, use rubber gloves). Dont twist or yank, just pull steadily. Another way to remove ticks is to smother them - they do need to breathe! This is why giving a good bath is effective and probably the best method (they will detach to find air a good deal of the time). You can try petroleum jelly over ticks to accomplish the same thing as it will deny them air, but its probably too messy normally - thats more for other infestations in animal skin/flesh. A bath is probably the best way, they wont spit up possible diseases into the pet (like pulling/burning can cause) which can be important if there are a lot of thing like Lyme in your area.
There are a ton of treatments, you can see the vet about them. There are the collars, dust/powder treatments, non-powder topical ones, I even think there are ingestable treatments (I know there are for fleas, not 100% about ticks). If you dog sleeps in a particular spot, or has a bed, there are powders for that as well.
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16 f. chicago, il
if i have sex with a 24 yr old male.. and im not unwilling either (i know. i'm horrible.)
what would the police do to him if neone found out?
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The age of consent in Illinois is 17. As such, what would the police do? Quite possibly, hit him up with statuatory rape charges. Though what you say is humorous - if 'no one finds out' then there isn't any problem, how would the police know? Plus, if you both deny it, unless you had a camera or witnesses, how would they prove it? IMO this is stupid on his part; many women in your position have enjoyed the relationship until there is a fight, then they trot off to the police and file charges later on as a form of revenge.
I'd stop the sex, no matter what, unless you want him to take the chance of being tried/convicted and run the risk of being labelled as a 'sexual predator'.
TBH, though, usually it takes someone (a parent for example) to press charges - but thats hardly a hard and fast rule.
For everyone else, dont assume that its one age across the board in the USA, IT ISN'T. It differs from state to state, and some states even have some strange ins and outs. Want an example? http://www.ageofconsent.com/missouri.htm Read it, thats a great example. Every state has legal language that covers many situations, and each state is different.
For you, what would be applicable? Under Illinois law Sec. 12-16. Aggravated Criminal Sexual Abuse:
(d) The accused commits aggravated criminal sexual abuse if he or she commits an act of sexual penetration or sexual conduct with a victim who was at least 13 years of age but under 17 years of age and the accused was at least 5 years older than the victim.
As such:
(g) Sentence. Aggravated criminal sexual abuse is a Class 2 felony. (Source: P.A. 89-586, eff. 7-31-96; 90-735, eff. 8-11-98.) (720 ILCS 5/12-16.2)
If you want to keep seeing him/sleeping with him, thats the risk. If you have any feelings for him at all, I'd abstain from sex until you hit 17 (less than a year to wait, of course). Unless you want him to run the risk of a felony /shrug. This is just what the law is for Illinois as far as I was able to ascertain, the rest is up to you.
EDIT: and as far as I can tell, this is regardless whether or not the sex is consensual. You have to read the law for specific states. For Illinois, it looks like it doesnt matter if both parties are consenting, as YOU ARE A MINOR who is older than 13 but under 17.
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i have a guy friend that likes me, but i don't like him. I really have no idea what to do about it either. He constantly hugs me, puts his arm around me, touches my waist, etc. and i really want him to stop! I always avoid it or shrug it off, and i've asked him to stop a few times, but he hasn't.
Also, his best friend is also one of my good friends. He and i hug a lot and we flirt, but we don't like each other.(everyone thinks he likes me, but i highly doubt it) He's such a good friend of mine, but i think it hurts his friend's feelings when he sees us hanging out.
I really want to avoid hurting anyone, but it looks like theres no other way. I found a balance, but with the guy who likes me constantly hitting on me...it sorta doesn't work.
I need suggestions!!! (link)
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Just an FYI from a guy: there are a lot of guys that are friends with women, but would jump at the chance to be something more. I myself avoid this like the plague with my female friends, but many guys do not. There isn't anything worse than this sort of uncomfortable situation IMO. As a general rule, guys dont hang out with women unless there is some attraction, especially if they are young. This fades as men get older, but still...
Don't assume his best friend isn't attracted to you either. Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. If you flirt just for fun, that doesnt mean he does - he may (or may not) be attracted to you, and he might be flirting to see how you react. Plus even YOU say that "everyone thinks he likes me" lol...I'd be careful here if I was you. Dont convince yourself that he doesn't, he might. I'd talk to him straight-up. A lot of women have thought the same thing only to find out later that a guy actually DID like them, and was wanting to hang out with them for a reason.
Whatever you do, don't flirt with either guy unless you'd be willing to go beyond being 'friends'. Otherwise, you'll give them the wrong impression. If you just want to be friends, then don't flirt. A lot of women like to flirt with 'guy friends' and yet expect the guys to know that she isn't interested. Its ok if their gay, lots of my female friends do that, but in that situation its safe, there is no chance of confusion over feelings. Guys see flirting as a sign of interest for the most part, as in "I like you, lets get together". Most guys dont see flirting as fun, or as a non-serious game. All it does is frustrate the guys because they feel attracted to the woman, and the woman flirts even though she isn't interested. WTF? There is nothing worse to a guy than a woman who flirts, who taunts you, and you like her - yet you KNOW she sees you as only a friend. Its like a game they cannot possibly win, why play? Now I know you didn't say you flirted with Guy #1, but don't (if you have), it will make it worse if you want him to keep his hands off you.
Irregardless, if the first friend won't back off, you'll probably have to be blunt. If he still wont stop, break off the friendship. You might have to go beyond just saying 'stop' and actually discussing this with him, and tell him how you feel. Just saying 'stop' alone, with no discussion, might very well be too little to get through his thick head.
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Hey. I've recently decided to go vegan. I'm new to all of this and I dont know what to buy in terms of food. I know they do not associate themselves with animal products at all. This is going to be a challenge for me because I like cheese. But for the animals' sake, I'll do it. So can anyone tell me what ingredients in foods, and makeups, etc. etc. I should be looking for. Also, a site that has vegan recepies on it would be a big help as well! Thanks Alot! (link)
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Vitamin B12 can be an issue for vegans, though it can take years in many cases for a problem to reveal itself (it wont happen overnight). Most people get the B12 they need from animal products; if your serious about being a vegan you should be aware of alternatives. You can get B12 from supplements and/or food items that have been forified with B12.
http://www.vegansociety.com/html/food/nutrition/b12/ has some decent information.
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I promised my boyfriend I would get him a Rolex for Christmas, since he is buying me a new iPod Nano and a bunch of other stuff. eBay doesn't have any that I like. Is there another site like eBay were I can get one for under $50? Thanks. (link)
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I can tell you right now, that it doesn't matter where you see the offer - if you see a Rolex for $50 or less, its fake. A Rolex is SO much more expensive than an Ipod FYI. This is the reason that most of the time, jewelry stores carry Rolex watches. If you want one for $50 or less, then you'll be looking at knock-offs and imitations.
To give you a general idea: http://ewristwatch.net/frame/rolexprices.html
IMO I'd look for something else, or a different make of watch.
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im a female, im 13, and im about 5'5'' and a half, and about 120 pounds.
i know im not obese, or majorly fat or anything, but am at all overweight?
i feel like i have no will power, and i eat junk, and i just plain eat all the time.
what should i do? (link)
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One problem is that we, as a society, are largely sedentary. For millenia, humans have had to work, and work hard, each and every day to scrape by. People needed to eat, and often eat quite a bit, to offset the calories they often burned. Look at communities that do a large amount of physical labor, such as the Amish; they eat a TON of food, but they have to - they burn a lot of it off day in and day out. Indeed I'm sure many of my ancestors did this too, ate diets high in carbs for example, to get by. Its not that there is anything wrong with you, or anyone else! Its simply what people have done for time predating known history.
There isn't anything wrong with eating large amounts of food - a healthy appetite can be, well, healthy. If, that is, you burn it off. When people diet they end up fighting urges they cannot control - and they will often lose the battle. Not to mention refined foods and sugars that fool the body into thinking its still hungry...the more natural the foods, the less processed they are, the better.
Its much easier, and healthier, to do a bit more exercise. The more calories you burn, the better. Most people aren't very active...they sit in chairs all day (at work and school), and if they would just increase their activity level they would find weight to be less of a problem. I bet there are a lot of things you can do to burn more calories and bring yourself more in balance - hell, I hate house-cleaning but often I do it if for no other reason than its either that, or normal exercise lol. Combine that with better diet choices (less soda/sugars, more veggies) and you should do much better.
Too long of an answer I'm sure lol, but in a nutshell: it might be easier to be more active, than to fight the urge to eat. You'd freak if you knew how much I eat.
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yeah, cooler older people...i've tried being confident...and i am...but i'm also realistically aware of my abilities...and these people are much closer to the definition of cool than me, wittier, smarter, wiser, up on trends i'm not up on, and have a hard time keeping up with ect...they are nice to me but...i'm pretty sure they're also a bit bored with me...how can i change this...without becoming mentally four years older...i wouldn't mind putting some effort into keeping up with their topics of intrest ect...but i just don't think i can get to where it has taken them four years to get to intellectually so quickly...how can i get these guys to like me...i'd love to be in their company. they are really interesting. (link)
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There isn't any 'quick fix' unfortunately, you'll more than likely have to move forward in the same wya that they did. It will take some time.
Simply hanging out with them and interacting would help, I would think. I doubt I could spend a good length of time in a room with some astronomists, for example, without picking up some degree of knowledge from them.
Be careful not to 'pose; they'll know if you do, and at best they'll just feel odd about it. At worse, they'll avoid you. Just be yourself, shrug it off, and don't worry.
If you are worried that you cannot hold a conversation with them on certain topics, or that your knowledge/awareness of certain things are a hindrance when dealing with them, first identify what the topics are. Politics, religion, whatever...make a mental list, then read. Bone up on these things, or at least read enough that you can hold your own.
But seriously, I wouldn't worry too much. As long as you keep an open mind and soak up what you can, sooner or later (hopefully sooner) you'll get to a point you will feel comfortable enough not to worry about this.
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Hey Dude,
Quite mature...What do u do? Where are you located.
Sham
sham.alex@hotmail.com (link)
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Well, currently I've put college on hold and am going back to being an electrician. The money is better, and I dislike being in debt while doing school full-time. So, I would say, somewhere in between student/electrician, since I'll still be doing part-time classes (maybe 1-2 per semester).
Hopefully when you say 'mature', I didn't leave you with the feeling that I was conceited, or a windbag. =/
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Hey I know this may sound stupid but why is it that guys don't usually put their photos on their advice column?
Maybe the guys can answer this? (link)
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Well, I am not 100% sure. I also don't want to speak for all the guys, but for myself at least...
1. I'm a little hesitant to put up a picture of myself on the internet. I'm actually somehwat surprised that many minors do this.
2. I'm perennially lazy. Being that I dont have any photos of myself digitized, and I suck at taking pictures, I haven't bothered to go to all the trouble of actually getting pictures I could post (for here, or anywhere)
3. My friends have been trying to get me to start a Myspace for some time, and I guess I dont see the point. I have enough RL friends, and though I'm not against making friends through the internet, I guess I don't have any desire to 'pimp' myself out so to speak. Ditto with hooking up online, and all that. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned.
4. Did I mention lazy?
5. I could post fake pics, and no one would know - unless it was a photo of someone obviously famous. So I guess the allure of posting a 'real' photo of myself loses something in translation somewhere, in my thinking, sionce no one would know anyways...
Mostly though, ignoring most of the above odd thoughts, I simply don't have a decent photo that is ready-to-go, that I can throw on my photobucket acct and link. And jumping through hoops to get one just isn't high on my priority list, I suppose. /shrug Someday I'll have some pics, and perhaps then I'll post one or more, on the many places I frequent. I'm just not in a hurry I guess.
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Catliocs or Christians:
Do you have any idea what Mary's mom's name was? (link)
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Her father was Joachim (or Heli, or Eliachim)
Her mother was Anna.
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i love my boyfriend a lot and i lost my virginity to him, its just that when we have sex he only lasts about 5 min! EVERYTIME! and its usually always the same position, i want him to last longer and be more spontaneous/wild in bed.. yet i cant say anything or else ill make him feel bad!! how can i get him to loosen up and try different things!! please HELP! (link)
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Not saying anything to him is about the worst thing you can do lol, unless you want this to be the way it always is. He should want to satisfy you, and you should tell him he isn't /shrug.
Myself, I've always wanted feedback. If I'm doing good, tell me...if bad, tell me still. If you dont say anything, then its not just his fault, its yours as well.
If he is young, then eventually with age and experience he should get better about the 5 minute thing. But, tell him what you want - if you have specific ideas about the whole spontaneous/wild in bed thing then tell him, bring them up. Hopefully you DO have some ideas, and you arent just bored and putting all the responsibility on him because you dont have any ideas either.
If you say nothing, then really its your own fault. People arent born great in bed, they learn how to be...and he wont learn anything if he is oblivious that you are unsatisfied.
But there are things for him to do many of which have been mentioned already. Wearing condoms cuts down on the sensation for the man, changing positions helps so the man doesnt build up too fast. Same with oral sex, sometimes a man has to put the ego down and recognize when he needs to stop and do something else before he has an orgasm and stops altogether.
At least be satisfied that he's into you enough (pun not intended lol), that all it takes for him is 5-minutes.
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I am very confused about my political standpoint, but it is something that i need to decide on. How do i know if i am a republican or democrat? Are democrats the same as liberals? Are republicans conservative? How do I determine which one I am. (link)
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Theres too much lee-way in a lot of this, and its hard to tell what your leanings are without any knowledge of your opinions on individual issues.
I've been Republican, and I've been Democrat. I was called a Republican lackey (amongst other things) by liberals when I was in the military, and also a knee-jerk liberal by conservatives when I was in college. Its a strange world.
In fact, if I were to go on a point-by-point basis of my stances and political leanings, I doubt I would be able to find a single candidate who would represent me on every issue the way that I would like. As such, I end up having to look for candidates individually; if I simply choose one party or another, eventually I would end up voting for someone who barely represents my beliefs at all. Myself, in the end, would probably say that at this point I am neither Dem or GoP - both parties represent my feelings on some issues and fail on others /shrug.
You don't even have to have a party affiliation - that crap has been drummed into the heads of so many people, its hilarious (be glad that we have this quaint '2-party' system for the most part, imagine having all the parties that some countries have where its a free-for-all). If I were you, I'd just start out looking at individual candidates in specific races, and trying to decide who represents your beliefs better - though be sure to remember that candidates often pander to whomever they can in election years and make all sorts of promises. If you start seeing that the candidates you vote for consistently come from a specific party, then sure, go ahead and give that party your support if you would like.
Oh and MikeCFT...the 'unbiased' part lasted through the 1st sentence, but after that it kind of fell to the wayside. I suppose it could have been intentional but, anyways, at least it got a chuckle out of me.
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~~~~~A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her~~~~~
I read this somewhere, and really want to know if this is true or false.
So, is it true or not?
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This is a strange observation really, I know women who like me that I dont like in return, and I dont sit at home and 'often' think of them. Why would I, if I dont like the woman? Unless I think so highly of myself that I sit there thinking "Yeeeaahh, all the ladies want me!" I don't see why this would be true (though I see all the posters that agree it is true, which is baffling - I dont get it). At most I might feel sorry for a girl, if she likes me and I dont like her, in that in the end I have to be a little selfish (sometimes its a good thing) and blow her off as I know she wants what I cannot give her. But still, I wouldn't think about it 'often'...I'd much rather spend my time thining of women I DO like and like me in return /shrug.
Unless people are reading into this and thinking that men in general have some sort of narcissistic tendency and think of 'all the women' who like them as support for feeling so good about themselves....I guess thats possible, but thats a somewhat narrow opinion of men in general imo.
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Okay i was taught that anyhting with seeds are fruits: examples: apples, oranges, kiwi, tomato(it is a fruit!) etc. and the foods without seeds are vegetables: brocolli, celery, zuchinni..etc. Is this right?
So then is a pickle a fruit?\IDK! (link)
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People can go 'round and 'round on this w/o coming to much agreement. Being the internet is the way it is, I'm sure I could find evidence and media to support any stance I'd like to defend /shrug. Be that as it may:
"A vegetable is considered to be edible roots, tubers, stems, leaves, fruits, seeds, flower clusters, and other softer plant parts. In common usage, however, there is no exact distinction between a vegetable and a fruit. The usual example is the tomato, which is a fruit, but is eaten as a vegetable, as are cucumbers, peppers, melons, and squashes." http://www.straightdope.com/mailbag/mveggie.html
Under Wikpedia for tomatoes you get:
"Botanically speaking, a tomato is the ovary, together with its seeds, of a flowering plant, that is a fruit or, more precisely, a berry. "
Yes I know this is about cucumbers not tomatoes, but further down on that reference:
"But due to the scientific definition of a fruit and a vegetable, the tomato still remains a fruit when not dealing with tariffs. Nor is it the only culinary vegetable that is a botanical fruit: eggplants, cucumbers, and squashes of all kinds (including zucchini and pumpkins) share the same ambiguity."
Note they mention the Supreme court case that went agaisnt this and classified these as vegetables, as well as the fact that the USDA considers the tomato a vegetable.
http://www.newton.dep.anl.gov/askasci/bot00/bot00134.htm
http://davidcrowe.ca/SciHealthEnv/TomatoAndHIV.html is a pretty good read, but you can skip the part where it ties in to assumptions that only HIV causes Aids, lol.
I'd say that botanically speaking, a cucumber is a fruit. But the problem I'm seeing isn't that you can divide everything up into either fruit or vegetable, as Fruit is more of a scientific, botanical term while Vegetable is more of an every-day term used at home and in the grocery. As it was mentioned in a few of the articles I linked, some items are both a fruit and a vegetable. They aren't mutually exclusive, as the terms arent even on equal footing.
EDIT: Yes, cucumbers do contain seeds (though they have come up with 'seedless' hybrids, as well as versions that don't require pollination though those are exceptions to the norm), and fulfill the 'ripened ovary' requirement. Like tomatoes, you can drop them in specific places, let them rot, and possibly have plants come up there next spring.
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Okay, I need to decide if I should get a Playstation 3 or Nintendo Wii by tomorrow afternoon. I have the money for either, but I don't know which to pick. The only Wii launch
game I like is Zelda and I like franchises on
Playstation more. But the Wii is cheaper and
has some great games like Mario, Zelda, etc.
which should I buy? (link)
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Well, personally, I wouldn't get either. Though the Wii is cheaper, I've heard that there is some concern that it wont have the game support, or number of games, that the PS3 will have. Think back to how the PS2 wasn't exactly the 'best' system at the time, but it had the lions share of titles...everything else was kinda sad, selection-wise. And the PS3...if you are going to drop $500-$600 dollars on one, depending on the version (thats what I think they are going for /shrug)...myself I'd just save the money and have a computer built. Its pretty cheap if you know someone who can put you a system together (like parts from Newegg), I'd say that you could prob get something competitive for about $1000 - you don't have to spend 2k-3k.
Now I'm not saying that the PS3 isn't an awesome thing to get; if you already have a decent comp, I'd go with the PS3 personally. But if the choice is Wii/PS3/Computer, I'd go with the computer - not only is it better for things other than gaming (and no, I'm not talking porn hehehe), most platforms simply cant compete with what computers can do. For example, MMORPG's and some really killer FPS games just arent the same (or available at all) on a console.
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so okay, i cut. and well i dont see anything wrong with that. i mean its not like its that serious. its just like getting a tattoo. or getting a peircing so why is it so "bad". people always say dont do it blah blah blah. its not hurting them so why should they care? i just dont get why its like considered so "bad" doing drugs and drinking is a wholee lot worse. so does anyone know why people think its so bad? any other opinions?
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The biggest thing is that its indicative of some underlying emotional turmoil (usually), and the cutting in and of itself does nothing to help resolve anything. You can cut yourself hard-core, and it wont fix any of the problems in your life at all....and all you have to show for it is a bunch of scars. You'll still have debt, you'll still have your personal problems.
Yes, I know that not everyone cuts themselves because they feel bad or depressed, but you have to admit that depression (or simply feeling sorry for yourself) probably accounts for 90%+ of the people that cut themselves. That, and doing it both to 'fit in' and/or to make an outward statement - its a bit annoying that so many kids nowadays do this as though its something cool to do. Note however that I am not implying that those are your reasons (I dont know you /shrug). If you are in the minority that does it for artistic reasons, and not someone who simply uses it as a justification, then there really isn't a problem. But if you do cut yourself because of anything other than some form of artistic impression, then yes...I'd agree its a bad thing to do in that situation.
I hope that you aren't part of this internet community/fad thats been growing in the last 5 years or so, where a bunch of emo kids cut themselves, take pictures, and then post them on the net for attention as though they've done something heroic. Without knowing where you stand on that, I feel personally that its a pretty sad thing that so many teens nowadays cut themselves in this subculture, when they dont realize that in 5-10 years they will most likely look back and think "What the hell was I doing?". Appreciate the people that tell you its a bad thing to do, they are the ones that care for you enough to even say anything. Be glad you have people who do care, some people have no one - and dont take these people for granted. And if you need help, cutting yourself isnt the way to go...go to those friends and get help, assuming that you need help. If this is artistic only, which is rare, segue more towards the artistic skin patterns and away from random self-cutting, or you'll just keep getting categorized as a 'cutter'.
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Okay so there is this guy at school, Jon. Well last year Jon asked me out and I said no. This year, we got to be really good friends and I sort of liked him. So I was all flirting with him but he seemed to not notice so after a few months I started to like one of Jon's friends. Now, after I lead Jon on, he likes me and is going to ask me out really soon. So the question is, should I say yes, even though I dont have strong feelings for him, or should I say no? If I say no I know it will break his heart and I will feel really bad because I was flirting with him. By the way we are in ninth grade if that helps at all. Please help soon!!!! Thx (link)
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If you like him, say yes...if not, say no. I could be wrong, but the impression I am getting is that you like him, but not all that much - if thats the case, I'd respectively tell him no.
From what you've said here, I wouldn't just tell him no...give him an explanation. You say yourself that you have led him on; he's probably pretty confused what you are doing. First you turn him down, then you flirt, then you like one of his friends.
If you don't have strong feelings for him, its better to be honest with him and tell him where he stands. Imagine if you do go out with him to spare his feelings now, only to have him find out later that you only 'kind of' like him...he'll be crushed even more, and feel like you've used him. If you feel bad about flirting with him, giving him the wrong impression and creating this situation, apologize to him for leading him on (and try not to flirt with guys you only kinda like).
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okay, well its not likea medical problem or anything its just that well, i havent had a boyfriend for a LONG time.. its been about 1 year and a couple months.. thats a LONG time.. and i mean ive talked to guys and ive hooked up with them but i dk i think that there might be like a physical issue or something might be wrong with the way i act.. i mean i have lots of guy friends so i dont think its my personality.. i thin its more of the physical .. i dont think its my face because i have a pretty cute face but i think its because i weigh a little more than most girls, i wouldnt call myself huge but im up there im about 135 lbs.. but i dk can you just tell me what to do.. i think that guys would be able to help me more with my problem.. i need to know how guys really look for girls.. ((personality or looks)) PLEASE HELP (link)
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If you've hooked up, then I wouldn't think there is anything too 'wrong' with you, appearance-wise, or those guys wouldn't have even gone that far. A lot of guys avoid relationships like the plague though, you might just have met a lot of guys that just wanted to hook up, and nothing more. It might be that there wasn't anything in common in order for a relationship to seem desireable, or maybe they were just looking to hook up /shrug.
Honestly I look for both looks, and personality. Looks are somewhat important, I'd wouldn't be honest if I said they weren't. Looks arent everything though; as long as a woman is attractive in some way, shape, or form, its all good. Personality though I give less lee-way on; if your an idiot, stuck-up, immature or bitchy then there is no way anything is going to happen. I'd much rather date someone who is really cool and only somewhat attractive, than date someone who is extremely beautiful but is less than a decent person. On a scale of 1-10, I'll deal with 5-10 on looks some of the time (I'm quirky though, some women I think are hot my friends think are fugly). Personality though, needs to be at least a 7 - its a waste of everyones time to try to date someone I couldn't commit to being with, long-term.
I'm not opposed to hooking up with someone who is hot, yet is dumb/bitchy/etc...in that case, its just about sex. I usually don't do one night stands though, due to the drama factor. If its someone I actually like, then I'll be less likely to jump into bed with her right off the bat, and more likely to start dating and creating a relationship before sex becomes an issue.
But anyways, guys notice women due to looks, more often than not. For some women, the problem is getting noticed and having guys think of you in 'that way'. Once they get noticed though, its smooth sailing if you have a great personality and they enjoy being with you (though you do need to be careful of being the "really cool female friend" that the guy doesnt want to date).
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There is this teacher, and she teacher earth science at my school, and i cant stand her. SHe hates coming to work, and she can never smile. SHe said she doesnt care about us, she just wants to teach., When we ask a question, she makes you feel like an idiot. She thinks she is so smart, but she is just aroogant. ANd...she yelled at me, because i proved her wrong. Can someone giv me some advice on how to deal with her. Thanks , trust me if you have good advice, i will be so grateful. (link)
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Avoid confrontation. You wont get any additional benefit from punking out your teacher in front of the other students, unless your wanting to become popular via detentions and reputation.
Realize that teaching (particularly High School and below) drives many teachers to the brink of a breakdown. Kids nowadays dont respect them, yet they have to show up and somehow 'teach' a bunch of kids who arent interested in learning. And you come into class, confront her, and 'prove her wrong'. To be honest, I'm not surprised at her reaction. If you were to do this in some colleges with some professors however, you'd be booted out of the class so fast your head would spin.
What do you gain from 'proving' your teacher wrong, besides goading her into losing her temper? She could be the worst person in the world; startting something in class is only going to stir up drama. It's better just to bite your tongue and be satisfied in your own mind - isn't that enough?. That, or confront her one on one after class and tell her what you think. If you wouldn't dream of talking with her about whatever you 'proved her wrong' about, face to face, then imo it probably isnt important enough to bring up in front of your classmates and make her look bad. I'm actually genuinely curious what you 'proved her wrong' about too; its possible it was opinionated material or something that comes down to interpretation. You may not have actually proved her wrong, you might have simply argued against her point of view and challenged her authority. If, now that you've thrown down the gauntlet and challenged her, she fails you (or grades you far more strictly than before), will you still feel it was worth it?
She might think that YOU are arrogant, and that its YOU that thinks you are so smart, since you more or less attacked her in class via arguing against her. If I were teaching a class, and a student were to rise up and disrupt the class with this kind of a confrontation, I might think you were arrogant for doing so (whether you are right, or wrong). I'd probably give some serious thought about having you removed from my class if possible, the last thing I would want is a student who thinks they know more than I do and is willing to cause disruptions. And you could be totally right on whatever it was, it doesnt matter...it was still a disruption.
So how do you deal with her now that this has gone down? First, I'd talk to her, and its your call whether its with parents or alone. I'd go alone personally; if you were gutsy enough to do this in the first place, you should see it through - if you are too scared or reticent to see her alone, then maybe you should have handled this differently in the first place, no? But irregardless of all of that, I'd first apologize for the confrontation in class. Then, see where things go from there. But I'll tell you now that this might not be reconcilable if you arent willing to own up to disruption - do that, and she might take the next step and apologize for yelling at you.
EDIT: You know, after reading your comment, she must be the problem. Clearly.
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I have a great job & my supervisor is amazingly nice. She has a younger brother who also works in our store (he's 19, i'm 18) and me and him have become close. He recently told me he wants to be more than friends and I was excited. My supervisor is actually supportive about all of this. The thing is, I'm scared of what would happen if we broke up and weren't on good terms. I don't want to jeopardize my job and my supervisors opinion of me but I really like this guy. (link)
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You just need to examine your priorities, or to decide what you want most. If you are 18, I doubt your current job will end up being a career, I'd say go date the boy and be happy. If you do break up, and if things do go poorly, look for a job elsewhere.
Besides, if your supervisor is supportive now, I doubt she will turn totally on you if you do break up (unless you do something totally reprehensible, and then deserve it).
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