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i really want one but im gonna have to get it used [which im totally fine with]
basically what im asking is, how do you like it?
I Like it
i think its nice. :)
i've been dating this guy for a month and hes absolutely amazing and i know he really cares about me. the thing is that he doesnt go to my school and i only get to see him like 2 or 3 times a week. i constantly want to be with him all of the time and when im not i get upset...is this normal? i havent told him that i love him yet because i think a month is too early but i think i seriously do because i always wanna be with him...what does this mean? is it normal? is it bad? any advice?
lol yes it is normal haha you like him so ofcourse you want to be with him ALL the time, its a very normal thing
just dont get upset your lucky you get to see him you kno,its better than not seeing him at all . :)
Okay, so I'm 18/f and I've been friends with this woman on the internet for five years, since I was 13. She's 38, and we're both actresses. I met her in a theatre chatboard and we've become quite close over the last 5 years. Granted, I've never talked to her in person; I've seen photos and Youtube videos of her performances.
Recently, she proposed that we finally meet up in real life sometime. She said that I could come and hang out at her home and we could roast oysters. She told me to give her a phone call whenever I'm ready.
Now, I'm very wary of Internet security. I like this person a lot but I know that there are loads of predators out there on the Internet. Granted, she's never done anything even remotely suspicious or asked for my personal information. In fact, when I was younger she told me that I shouldn't tell anyone about my personal info and gave me tips on Internet security.
However, she very well might be just who she says she is, and I could possibly make a friend in her. If I give her a call, and it is actually her speaking on the phone, am I safe? Are there female predators out there? Is it possible that she could hand me over to a rapist or something?
well your right You never really know if people are who they are online
so i agree with tHe person below me
Invite her out to dinner or tell her to hang out with you at a mall or something but DO NOT go to her house it isnt safe you know?
Hope i helped.
there was a guy i knew and i really liked him when we were at school. i moved and i hadnt heard from him in 2 years. back when we went to school together i had fallen in love with him. lat night i got a call from him. i was so happy to hear from him. hes been on my mind for the longest time. then, finally when i was getting over him he calls and i remember how much i miss about him. we live in differnt states now and people have been telling me that he had had a crush on me when i was there. i want to know if he liked me so i tolled him how i felt and he hung up on me. i dont know what to do. i still like him but i wanna get over him but i dont know how to. what do i do now? ive tryed getting over him but now all i think about is him! what do i do now?
Look Not one Person on this site will have you lose feelings for him,when hes on your mind hes on your mind period. Trust me in the long run your going to forget About him because theres going to be alot of more men that you will be intrested in,what your going through now is something we all go through and we all think that wer never going to get over but trust me you will get over him and since your in diffrent states it would be easier for you to get over him because you wont have him being around you anymore. :) Hope this helped.
So im really shy, its hard for me to start a conversation with boys or girls. Ive tried but i feel like im gonna humiliate myself. And i think my life at home can be pretty boring. MY ex-boyfriend who broke up with me last year always triess to start a conversation with me just says hi and then i say hi he waits for a couple of seconds and he leaves!!!HOw can i become less shy!!?!?!
Well first you should chill lol
When coming to talk to somone jus say anything
if somone says "HI"
Reply heyyy whatsup?
how are you?
and then it will lead up to a conversation and you will be more comfortable with the person its normal we all get shy but try to play it cool and dont panic thyre human just like you :).
Ok, here gos.
My Bestfriend "Jess" go dumped by her boyfriend "Frank"... for his Ex girlfriend... like a month ago or something.
"Jess" still really likes him. She talks about him all the time!
When they were going out, he was tellin me things like: "I really like you!" and "If I wasnt going out with 'jess' I'd totally go out with you."
I didn't even like him then...
But I really like him now!
But i know if i go out with him, "Jes" will get really angry.
what to do?
P.S: Sorry this is so long!
Hun if your friend still likes him then you should NOT date him if you really care about her then Dont date him he isnt worth your best friend gettin hurt and hes definetly not worth having you both fight over him.
15/f
i am about 5'5" or 6" and i'm like 120 pounds so i'm pretty average. i really like this dress and would like to get it for homecoming. if i do get it i'm buying it online so i was wondering if you think it would be too short on someone like me? i know dresses from these types of places tend to be really short.
http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3227306&cp=2843536.2744998&parentPage=family
or if you have any other places online i can get a dress for under 30 dollars that would be great! thanks
No no i think it would look good :)
Not too short.
Its a nice dress :]
17/f
I like this guy and we "talked" for a week over the summer. But, then we quit because he got busy, etc. Anyways, he would flirt with me this year a lot and then i found out he got a girlfriend over the weekend so i was sad but i realized people move on. Even though he was cute...but anyways, ever since he got a girlfriend, he dosen't hug me or text me anymore. Oh, also he dosen't know i know. Should i text him and be like "so how are you and your girlfriend?" I want him to know that i know but ever since he got a girlfriend, he dosen't hardly talk to me and he dosen't reply to my texts messages. What should i do?
hmm lets see
Well if you want my opinion i think that maybe he started to like you and stuff when he had his girlfriend but maybe that you guys dont talk or he doesnt answer you back is because he probably likes his girlfriend aswell and doesnt want to have feelings for you, maybe hes just scared you kno? :] i dont think you should text him because you said he doesnt reply to your texts, maybe you should just move on :) dont worry theres alot out there.
I saw the Dark Knight, but I went to the bathroom and missed the part with the Joker and the pencil.
Sooo...what happened?
The joker had the pencil on the table and then he was like do you want to see a magic trick? and he got one of the other men that wer standing there and slammed there heads on the table and then the pencil wasnt there anymore which means the pencil went through the mans head.
ok so here i go my so called bestie is flirting with my boyfriend and hes a huge flirt hes been with her befor and broke it offcuz she kissed another girl but im afraid hes still got feelings for her how do i tell her o stop with out getting her peeved
Ps. she is realy sookie
haha, well your friend isnt so much of a "best friend"
If shes flirting with your boyfriend
honestly, shes no friend what so ever
its not only her fault its his fault too
tell him that if he doesnt stop flirting with girls then its over[Ofcourse if thats what you want]
But thats what i would do.
And for your friend
i think you should just tellh er to stop
tell her that you dont like what she is doing
the truth is always the best.
so this guy moved to new york from colorado and he's really cute and funny, i'm kinda falling for him. the thing is he has a girl back in colorado, i guess they're pretty serious, but long distance relationships hardly ever work, so do you think i have a chance with him? i mean i definitely don't want to come in between them ..but idk. help please! :/
I Totally respect that you arent gettin between them thats the right thing to do,he already has a girlfriend, i know i know,you dont control your feelings but if they are really serious then i think you should just lay back and let it happen if its meant to be if it isnt then so be it.
Everything has a reason :)
Hope i helped.
Okay well, i like(d) this guy named chase. and he said he like me but he want's me to change like everything about me like my looks my friends, my makeup....is it worth it? Or should i go for someone else, PS im emo/scene...so i need's tips too go for someone like me,
Thanks in advance.
No,If you like the way you are you shouldnt change it for him if he REALLY likes you then he would like everything about you not EVERYTHING but i mean like he would like the way you are the way you dress and everything dont ever lose your friends for a guy hes not worth it hun.
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i didnt call up or show up at work today..i work at mcdonalds and have been there for 9 months and i have ALWAYS shown up to work, except just this once.
what happened was that i got into a really big fight with a family member and so i just went out the door and stayed at a friends house because i just couldnt handle it. and i couldnt get to work today so i just didnt show up ..
i dont know what to say to them when i work in 4 days again! i feel really bad about it because i let the nicest manager down. please help, should i tell then what happened or would they not believe me?
thanks
Lol your just being paranoid
ofcourse they would beleive you
tell him you had a family problem and you couldnt get to work that day,its not a big deal you didnt let him down you just didnt show up its alrite and im sure he'll understand
even if he was a mean manager he wouldnt fire you.
=]
I'm not looking for an excuse but my friend won't drink with her boyfriend. They did just start going out (2 months ago) but she never drinks with any of her boyfriends.
What would be the reason to why she doesn't?
Guys you might know the answer more but then again I'm not sure. Please don't say go ask her :)! Thanks!
I like your friend already haha,
maybe shes just not into drinkng
or maybe shes straight edge,
its her choice.
Okay, well it's not only me doing it..
He flirts with me, and honestly i dont really
do anything to break them up. He complains about her all the time when I'm talking to him. So, i shouldnt be the one blamed. I should'nt of even asked this question if I was gonna get shit advice back. You don't even know whats going on anyways. thanks for no help bye
Okay so your telling me that you dont really do anything to break them up, the last time i read your question it said "I've tried so hard to get them to breakup =/"
i honeslty dont really care whether you liked my answer or not.
Oh and your welcome :).
my whole life, i have NEVER ever been happy with how I look. Ive always been a bit over weight, not extremely, but a little. I'm like 5'5 and probably like 170lbs...i would really like to look alot better. I got distracted during the summer and screwed my diet. But everytime I start a diet and keep with it, it always dies, and I always get depressed about it, because I was doing great, but i just didnt want to keep up with it because i was too lazy, or distracted, or busy. And I'm really jealous, I can't really get guys, I talk way too much, but like every guy is only into "skinny" girls. I would really like to like my body and for who i am. And i used to do swim team, because its good for my health, but to be honest, ive been doing it for over 6 years in the summer and winter, and quite frankly, im getting tired of it. So I need exercises that I can do everynight that will help me lose weight effectively =] i'm trying to lose my belly more than anything though, and my waist, and my thighs lol. I'm busy with other activities during the week too, so I dont want a HUGE workout everynight, I'm willing to workout an hour a night..is tht good enough? And of course im gonna diet with the food and everything...I just dont want to let myself again, for the gizillianth time...
An Hour a day is Very good, I work out aswell and i work out for an hour on my treadmille
Honeslty, losing your stomache isnt going to be so easy becuase its the hardest thing to lose in your body like when i started working out
my legs lost first and then later on my tummy went down ALOT You have to be determined and you have to motivate yourself everyday if you really want to do this because it isnt going to be easy,
Go on Youtube and look up some cardio exercises
and dont eat too much & Remember Never starve yourself, if your hungry eat something healthy such as Apples,Cucumbers & You know :)
Hope i helped.
No, maybe fat isn't the BEST word. Obese is more like it. I'm 19 years old and I probably weigh close to 340 pounds. I have been obese for about 10 years now? No maybe less than that. It has to be less than that. Anyway, I'm getting off track.
I have always thought that because I'm so fat that I will never get a guy, however it was just a passing thought that would always return so I never was bothered by it, until the past couple of years. My self-image is so poor that when I walk into a building and I see my reflection though the glass I have to look away from it quickly so I won't see myself. Each time I look at myself I feel this wave of disgust, shame, and fear.
There is not a darn good thing about myself I find like able at all. Even my personality is called into question because while I view myself as a good person, I find that my faults (such as my Irish temper & obesity) will conquer over any good will I have. I feel so scared that I won't ever find a man who will find me attractive in anyway at all that I will never marry and have a family, like I want to.
I feel ashamed of myself so much that I refuse to apply to work at a near by clothing store because they won't hire a fat girl that can't even fit into the clothes they sell. Also, I'm even starting to have trouble finding clothes my size at Wal-mart. My grandfather who is a WW2 vet never says a thing about my weight, and yet in my mind I think that he deserves a better granddaughter who is pretty than I am.
I don't know, my mom constantly tells me I need to lose weight but for me I just can't stop myself from eating. Oh I notice when I'm over eating but I just can't stop until I'm full. My brother who is younger than me is only a few pounds short of being considered a healthy weight for his age group won't stop insulting me by calling me a fat a**, fat w***e, you know all those good names.
My self-esteem is so poor that if I do meet a guy that might hold real interest in my personality that I will never be able to trust him on his word because I will always assume that he's just saying it to be nice and polite.
Anyway what a pity rant I threw out into this wonderful Advicenators section. I just wanted to know if anyone had any tips for an obese woman to lose weight, right now I'm trying to convince my family to eat at home as much as possible since take-out isn't a good idea. Any exercises that would help me lose weight would be great.
I have no idea how to boost my self-esteem since all I want to do is hide in my room. If anyone knows what to do regarding that, it would be helpful...
Sorry for typing so much but I can't sleep and I have class in a few hours so I was hoping this might calm me down and help me to rest.
Thank you to anyone who answers.
Well first off, people who taunt your weight are those who are self consious themselves aswell. it makes a person feel better when their able to make fun of someone else who they feel is "fat" or overweight that way they forget about their own issues. People with no self morals or self respect result to that kind of answers. I was once over weight myself, and my sister was too. i went on a crashing diet that was insane i would never eat and id run all day. regardless what people said i would always say "f*ck them" and do it anyways. My sister that is now 13 years old was over weight and she was mocked and ridiculed most of her life. she decided to not take it anymore and forced herself to run everyday. while the family had take out she made a salad. when we sat around she jogged. when we ate cake she'd eat a fruit salad. the key is determenation. to want something bad enough you dont care what anyone says or thinks. you know that at the end of the day youve done something YOU wanted to do. Food is a temptation kind of like drugs and drinking are. too much of ANYTHING is bad for you. and i know this isnt the smartest idea but to me its the best. anger. right now you just need to be angry and fed up you need to remember everyone that has ever laughed at you and direct your anger into loosing that weight just to prove them all wrong. if you think "i want to loose weight ( a positive though) but im too tired ( a negative thought" it completely cancels out the positive. the word "but" has more power than you think. so lets change the words around. "I am too tired, but i NEEd to loose weight" that way, we just turned the negative to positive.
Look at the way you wrote your question, just by reading it i could tell your an amazing person, and i dont flatter people much. So maybe you can be an example to millions and finally do what alot of people cant and loose the weight that took seconds to build. do it for yourself not for prince charming, and not for your parents. and not for the idiots that laugh at you. do it because you know you deserve to be as beautiful as inside as out.
Even though i believe outter beauty is secondary to inner beauty. i also belive you deserve to be both.
Much love. Write me again if you need anything. Bye
Ok well I'm 13/f and I weigh around 165 pounds and I'm only 5"2. I don't look like I would weigh that much, but i do. So are there any ways for me to lose some weight? I really want to loose a few pounds before school starts up soon.
Thanks!
im 13 aswell and i used to weigh 160 pounds but now im like 125 er something im not going to say it was easy because honestly it was the most hardest thing ive ever been through so you should be determined :)
what you should do is
Eat healthy and not as much as you do
Work out daily
whenever your hungry go eat a cucumber or something healthy like an apple :)
DONT starve yourself
Every Once a week you should eat wat you want
Example: Chocalate bar,Pack of chips,Candy,etc.
Dont starve yourself because if you do then when you lose all your weight it could be gained again very quickly.
Hope i helped
Good luck :) tell me how it goes.:)
I'm the shortest girl in my grade im 4'8 and people make fun of me because i need to be in a booster seat i really need some tips on ways top grow fast
aww haha :D i dont think theres a way you can grow fast it wil l happen whhen u grow up :D
but look who cares what others think
short people are adorable :D
I don't understand why girls send naked pictures of themselves to guys. I'm a female, and strictly good friends with a couple of guys that have a whole lot of pictures of girls i KNOW and am friends with on their phone. It freaked me out to be honest with you. The girls weren't even dating the guys..
Basically, I have no idea why you'd send pictures of yourself to a guy when it's pretty obvious they will be sent around. It doesn't make too much sense to me..
Obviously, they have no self respect.