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I'm Hallie. I'm really understanding, and love to help people. Feel free to ask me anything! I'll never be rude, unless you are asking questions that are agianst my beliefs, and you come across as totally selfish or just plain stupid. I wont answer questions that just go on and on about he said she said type of stuff. and i wont answer questions that are like "omgee, i need a personality! help me find one!" NO. thats gay, and ill just tell you to be yourself! PLEASE give me feedback. idont care about the rating, i just wanna know if i helped any!
and really, feel free to ask me stuff at anytime! ill try my best of course. :)

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okay, im 13/f.
i am 5'1. and i weigh 121.
i dont have a certain time, in which i want to lose weight, but id like to be less than 110 by the time school starts. (august 14).
but i wont freak if im like 113 by then instead. haha.
does anyone know a good diet that works well.
i find myself eating when im bored, which def. have to stop doing, and im cutting out as much carbs as a can, because thats what my mom said to do.
my main problem areas are my thighs and lower stomach.
its just enough to make me uncomfortable at the beach. :/
also a good workout plan.
i just found out we have a treadmill. haha, i didnt even know.
so how long do i go on it for.
should i run, jog, or walk on it? which works better?
also how many times a week should i go on it?
and some good workouts i could just do in my room or something would also be good.
thank you so much for reading and answering.

Just try to find a diet you enjoy.
When i try to cut back on what i eat i find it fun, and i feel better about myself, so its not as hard. Dont really think of it as a diet, because alot of people say that they eat better when they ARENT on a diet. Just dont think about eating as much, and just eat a big breakfast a small lunch, snack on fruits, DRINK ALOT OF WATER, dont eat after 6. or maybe just 8. walking fast works really good, becuase it burns much more calories.
some good workouts for you too do in your room would be sit ups, pushups, look it up on google for some ideas to tighten your stomache. buy an exercizing video!! and make sure you do like 30 minutes a day at the leaasstt!
controll your portion sizes. because its really not about waht you eat, its how much you eat! and i know that its so easy to eat when your bored, but just really try to controll yourself and i think it feels really good to do that. Like, just tell yourself NO! when you open the refrigarator. when you watch tv start doing sit ups and stuff. find things to do. haha okay i keep going on and on.. but i really hope to help and i hope everything turns out good!

i always THOUGHT i was outgoing, but people are telling me i'm boring and that's why i'm losing friends. well i really wanna be outgoing and likable and i miss my old best friend. i really wanna be BEST friends and do everything together but i dont know how to start. right now we talk a little bit but all we say is hi. how can i gradually get her to WANT to be my best friend?

i really need help. =/

Dont over think it. Just be yourself, and you shouldnt have to impress someone just to be there best friend. You probably arent boring, you are just different and not all crazy like everyone else wants to be. Im also like that, im not the most outgoing person, but i have other traits that people like. and i no exacly how you feel about loosing friends becuase ppl think your boring. its probably because you just dont click with the same people you used to, and its all apart of growing up and finding yourself.. but if you really want to be her best friend, focus on finding yourself first and your personality will come out. just be random and say wahtever you feel even if its weird ppl like that.. and just like ask questions too. people like when you are intrested in them.
i hope you understand what im trying to get across but really i hope to help!

Hi im 13/f and i thought you would be a good person to ask a question to:)

Well at first i really liked my crush and thought he liked me too. he would talk to me all the time, flirt, stare at me, ect. and this all started in Nov. then about last month my friend said that she told him so i got all scared and didnt want to talk to him because o he doesnt like me and i made a fool out of myself. well anyways all of a sudden he started talk to me. he would always try to since i stopped talking to him. he tried to sit with me(this all happened in one day), he was flirting, and then he was messing with me at lunch and at the end of the day al the stuff we do. So things went back to normal and then i decided that things went better if i didnt talk to him first all the time and playing hard to get and i still do but its kinda a reaction (ill get to that soon). so then on he would always talk to me first and we would stare everyso often and flirt ect. then about last week i found out his friends finally convinced him to ask out this girl because he liked her. my friend and i were walking up the stairs and all the girls came up to talk to himand were like, "O she said yes!!" and he was really quiet about it. then they all left and once i heard everything i was completely filled with rage! he started to quicken his steps so he could talk to me(he does that alot.) he was like, "Hi Brianna (from Behind)." i didnt bother to turn around and respond. so he kept going. "Brianna? dont you wanna talk to me?" i said no. he asked what did he do ect and i just didnt want to talk to him. he hurried to get his stuff and left his friends and was chasing after me to talk to me. he was asking,"What did i do, i didnt even mock you today (this thing he does to me. flirty thing only to me suprisingly). i just said dont talk to me, dont bug me ect. after that things havent been the same. i cant get myself to talk to him. or its just not the same. he chased me the next day and asked me what was up the other day and i said i was just tired. then i said sorry and we started flirting but its jsut wasnt the same you know. i watch him and his so called "Girlfriend" and they never even talk. they dont do anything. then last Thursday i kinda experimented and went in the same direction he was and walked infront of him so he could see me and all of a sudden i heard his footsteps and he was like flying down the steps and i turned around and he was cutting through people and then the next minute he was right there and we were talking. then the next day he did the exact same thing except that time he just came up to me and just smiled at me and i asked what was the smile for and he started walking backwards to his class smiling at me. so does he like me?? by the way the guys didnt convince him to ask out his ex i dont think.

You never really know what guys want becuase they are always sending mixed signals. The best way is to maybe just ask him, and even though he has a girlfriend, ask him why he asked her out, because it kind of seems that he likes you better than her if he never talks to her. In my opinion, im pretty sure he likes you, he seems to be happy when you are around and always wanting to talk to you. Just give it time, and if it is ment to be, yall will eventrauly be together.

hope to help:)

you know those plaid shorts from hollister or abercrombie that everyone is wearing?

http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10101&catalogId=10851&productId=316894&langId=-1&categoryId=12152&parentCategoryId=12103&colorSequence=01

http://www.abercrombiekids.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10101&catalogId=10851&productId=337680&langId=-1&categoryId=12152&parentCategoryId=12103&colorSequence=02

in your opinion, do you think shorts like that are cute?

umm there okay but i used to have some from walmart and i would wear them, and no one complemented them. but now that everyone is wearing them from abercombie and stuff people always say they like my shorts.

i think its just a silly trend, but it should only matter if you like them so yeah!

im 15 soon to be 16. i get 15$ a week from my parents, but if i need more, they give it to me. i kidna want to get a job in the summer, but my mom and dad said i dont have to get a job untill im 19 cause thats the age my sister did.
but i want to buy my own cloths. so does anyone know places i can get cute/preppyish cloths for cheep?.. i love hollister, but i cant buy the stuff there on my own. so any ideas of cheep cute clothing stores will be BIG help!.. thanks!!!!*

Try thrift shops or vintage stores. I dont no if they have a place called platos closet around where you live, but they have alot of hollister and abercombie clothes for like 3 dollars and stuff. or try outlet stores at outlet malls, those are good too.

do you think its a dumb idea to go to Goodwell and get jeans?.. i mean i know they have hollister A&F jeans, but for cheaper. i think its a good idea. do you?

yeah thats a really good idea. dont worry if its from goodwill, i mean hollister jeans actrully fit me better but sometimes i dont want to spend that money so i go to vintage stores or thrift shops like goodwill.

i wanted to send my old bestfriend a scrap book. ANd i wanted to put poems in there not sad ones but poems saying what happend and why did we grow apart ya know.. So if anyone has any good poem sites or ideas it would be very great thanksss

my friend one made me a book with all our inside jokes in it. it made me feel really good because it was personal.
maybe do like a list of inside jokes. and then at the end be like... thats why we are best friends/

Well basically in my group of friends, I have always been that background girl. Out of drama, out of fights, the nice shy one of the group. Although that may sound pretty good, I'm also the one that gets overshadowed by EVERYONE. I never, ever get the attention from guys, I'm never the one that all the girls want to hang out with. Pretty much, I'm never in the spotlight. I'm so sick of hearing how my friends are jugglin like 4 different boys constantly, and I have a difficult time getting one, especially when guys must be crazy if they pick me over my friends (all my friends are absolutely gorgeous by the way) I've always acted like it never bothered me, but lately it's just been really getting to me, because my whole life this is the way its been, and just for once, I would love to get the attention even just for a slight second. I don't know...any thoughts or advice would be appreciated :-/

Trust me, guys are going to be drawn to you later in life. People get sick of people who try to be the center of attention all the time. Maybe the people you hang out with arent really your true friends if they dont want to always hang out with you. Try making a stand for yourself and finding other people who actrully respect you and will be there for you. Find the people you can be yourself around. and dont stress that much about not getting attention... because seriously the people who take the time to get to no you are the only opinions that should EVER MATTER! maybe being in the spot light isnt what you are destinated to do.. maybe its so much more... and you will get attention when you find people that TRUELY appreciate who you are...hope to help... and just dont worry about it becuase im sure you are a great person!

hope to help.

First off im 15 F. And I know alot of people aren't going to like this but whatever. All of my life i have never gone to church or anything, and I want to, like I want to have a church family and everything and I really would like a place to talk about my spirituality. But I cant find a church that I like. As for my religion, I basically have christian based values, but anyways here are my beleifs.

1. I beleive in god as a force and not a being.
(basically I believe in god as love in general.)
2. I dont believe in the devil. I think that was a
a story made up to scare people that if you sin
you will go to hell.
3. I don't believe in hell. I believe there is
heaven and thats all.
4. I know there was a man named Jesus and he taught great lessons, but I dont believe he rose from the dead and all that.
5. God is Love and Sin is Evil.
6. And last, people should be entitled to their own religion without anyone giving them a hard time.

Anyways, there is just a basis of whatI believe. So my question is, do you know of a church or religion that is basically all of those?

Also, I had this idea, maybe I could start a website forum where people could talk about this, sort of like starting my own religion,(hehe that sounds weird). Do you think many people would join me on that? Do you think anyone believes the way I do?

Any way, sorry its so long. I just really want to talk about what I believe and where I'm from, you would get beat up because everyone is very conservative baptist around here. Like I am the only democrat at my school. : ). soo, if you have any views on this, please tell me. Just keep them nice. Thanks in advance!!

Why would you start your own religion with no proof to back it up. you totally made it up and its not true at all just because its your opinion.

Where did you get your info... because the only true place to get info on god is the bible.. and half that stuff isnt in there! you cant just pick what to believe and what not to.

sorry to be rude, but its true.

This question is for Christians, please.

I consider myself a Christian. I pray and whenever I do, I feel a sense of joy and I feel like I'm talking to the best person ever. But I always sin and I hate myself for it. Everyday, I judge people and I am vein and I get angry.

Whenever I do my hair or put on makeup, I feel like I'm being vein and I feel ugly in God's eyes. I also judge EVERYONE. Like, if I pass by an overweight person, I instantly think "That person is fat". This also makes me feel ugly to Him. I also gossip, lie..I do basically every sin except kill, steal, commit adultery, and worship idols. I repent though.

All of this sin that I do makes me feel like God won't accept me into Heaven when I die. I know that Jesus forgives us when we repent, but I sin so much that it seems like he would never let someone so sinful into his kingdom. When I ask to be forgiven, I always think "You've asked God to forgive you for doing that sin a million times. He won't give you another chance"

What do you suggest I do?

God is amazing. He is to beautiful for this sinful world. And suprisingly he love EACH AND EVERYONE OF US! we have all sinned. and in his eyes, all of it is equal really! The 10 commandments are just a mirror to show us that we need god, not to show you that you arent good anough. And i dont no if you relize it but god must be working in your heart for you to ATLEAST relize you are doing something wrong. All you need to do is pray for the strenght to change and become an even better christian. Its perfectly natrual to sin and ask for frogiveness sin and ask for frogiveness sin and ask for frogiveness and so on... Its human nature everyone does it! Just try to pray more and ask him to change your heart and your mind... and really work on it too.

Ive seen so many people changed through God... and he doesnt give up on us because he loves us.

try to read the bible more too... find verses on frogiveness and you will see how amazing he really is.

This weekend at a church event, I accepted Christ. It was quite amazing, my leaders and friends helped so much, but now the weekends over and I'm not sure what to next. I talked to a few people who recommened baptism, but I don't feel like that is what I really should do, not yet anyways. I attend a church on occasion with my mom, but my family isn't religious, which makes me wanting to be a stronger Christian difficult. I havent told my parents about being saved yet, I'm unsure of their reactions.

So, what should I do now? How do I start to help my relationship with God grow? How do I explain to my parents whats going on? Is there anything I should know?

Okay,
first off, im proud of you that you want to grow a relationship with god!

So if you want to know how to start off, just pray pray pray! Read the bible, talk to people at your church, and tell your parents.

Im sure they will support you, and maybe when your relationship with god grows more, you can even spread your faith to them.

Trust me God is amazing, and when you are living for him, He will work in your live just unconditionaly! Everything will turn out fine in the end if you just keep it up, and he will bless you like no other.

I really hope this helps becuase i hope you can experience the love of god like i have!

I have a question:

You know how if you are living in sin you need to go before God and ask for forgiveness? What if you do something wrong, for example, I kick friend's dog. If no one witnesses or knows and I go before God and repent, say I am truly sorry and receive forgiveness. What if a year later my sister asks me, "have you ever kicked your friend's dog?" Am I obligated to tell the world my truths? I know this is a silly example but what about sins that are more serious... you know? Say I was married and I had an affair? Or if someone had an abortion. I know those are more extremes but are we obligated to be honest about sins of the past? If we are no longer in sin what is are obligation? Shouldn't it be between God and each of us? OR are we obligated to be open with the world of our sins.

i dont no if this is what you are asking,

but just because god frogave you does not mean you dont have to live through to consiquenses.
if everyone lived how they wanted to, and then later asked for frogiveness.. what kind of world would this be!? consiqenses make us stronger... because we should learn from our mistakes

but if you are wondering wether or not to tell someone, just remember to only say things that are going to be helpful. sometimes people perfer not to no the bad. but if you did something behind someones back, you cant have a relationship built on lies. i guess it kind of depends on the situation... so since i dont no yours... then i hope i answered your question.

oh yeah... god likes us to be an open book.

sometime i feel lonely and friendless. i want to make more friends but its hard for me to talk to new people or i dont know what to say to them. im shy and quiet most of the time. i get more comfortable when i get used to them. where i work, i see alot of people everyday though. i want to be more hyper and talkative.

i know exacly how you feel. thats exacly how i am. but the thing is you have to get comfertible with youself and then you can get comfertible around other people. like im an introvert. andi talk better with people when im talking abuot intellectual things... just try to find pepole you have stuff in comman. dont try to change yourself. and its okay if you only have a few close friends... i hope this help. but the truth is im struggeling with the same thing so i dont really know the exact right answer

We're going to have a Speak Out thing at school soon, and I was wondering if any of you had advice on what topics I could give a speech on that would be interesting. Please don't say 'TEENAGE DEPRESSION' or 'abortion' - kids at my school won't relate to that and I'm not one to give a speech the audience wont listen to. I would love something funny, so if you guys have any ideas on topics you've found interesting or funny, or just generally attention-grabbing, please share them with me.

Thank you.

I'm sixteen and female if it matters. I don't live in the USA.

you could speak about being yourself. alot of teenagers these days would change themselves for other people,

Last year, I was quite popular. I made everyone laugh, I talked to anyone and everyone, and I always had people around me. I was totally confident with my life.

Then, this year, all the sudden, I lost my group of close friends because they all got into drugs and drinking. Since I no longer have my close friends, I'm the one walking up to people desperatley trying to start a conversation. I'm the one feeling alone. I don't walk with people anymore, I'm picked last for partners in class, and I'm always feeling left out.

How do I get back to my old life?

Maybe the question is,
how do i adjust to my new life maybe?

maybe you were ment to find someone else that was lonely.

also loneliness is just a growing thing. You find out who you really are without a bunch of people around you. you find who your real friends are, and although last year must have been great, you may even become a little more friendlier, and deeper as a person. because now you dont get everything handed to you, you ahve to work for things, and now you no waht its like to be the one left out in the dark. so therefore, like i said, maybe find someone else that feels the way you do. she might need it.

ok so the past 6 months i found out who my real friends are and ended up with none, i still have friends but there not my real friends i mean i have fun with them but they would backstab me, and i cant just make friends that easly again. and theres so much stuff going on in my life riight now and i just need a friend to talk to who is loyal and someone i can hangout wiht someone who would understand me, because i cant make it threw this life on my own but all my friends now either wouldnt understand or would backstab me any ideas on just how to find the riight friend..

im kind of going through the same thing right now with my friends. i no i may not be an expert with this becuase im dealing with it myself, i just thought you would like to no that you arent alone. and trust me just remember when one door shuts another door opens. so just be patient and you will find someone, also try finding someone at your school you mite like to be friends with and be like hey do you wanna hang out sometime? and then jsut tell her your situation and sometimes people can be really understanding and helpful, she might even introduce you to her friends or something...
well hope this helps a bit.

15/f. lately it seems like all of my friends have been ditching me. now i feel like i'm friendless. people don't call me to hang out or go anywhere. its like everytime i make a new friend they always either use me or ditch me. why do they always do this? is there anything i can do to make sure that my friends don't use me or ditch me?

thanks!

Mostly every girl feels like this at one point. the best thing to do mainly is to talk to one of your friends you feel the closest with. Kinda get to the heart of her you know? If she doesnt care to listen or if any of your friends dont care to listen or amke things change, i think you should start looking for a new group of friends that actrully care. After all, they probably arent worth it. And just remember to not take things to personaly because that really gets messy...most of the time girls dont even realize they are leaving people out.
hope this helps!

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