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Hi, last december i bought an ipod touch from an apple store. I bought it, and loved it. It had a 1year warranty, and a month or so after the 1year warranty, it started to mess up!
Heres the problem- it works fine without headphones, you music and sound is clear. When i put headphones in, the sound starts to crackle abit? Its like, when you move the bit that goes into the ipod(the thing the headphone jack is attatched to), the sound changes from only to one ear, or to both ears if you keep it in a certain position. I first though it was headphones, so i went through 3pairs of headphones, but obviousely its not them, simply because 3 brand new pairs didnt work.
Any ideas? Its obviousely the ipod itself. Is there anyway to repair it, either myself or a professional? My life feels wierd without my ipod!
Thanks in advance folks, :)
I had the exact same problem with my 3rd gen iPod. After about a year of crackling and sound going out in one ear, it started to shock me every once in a while! When I took it to an Apple store, they told me I could pay something like $150 to get it fixed or replace the whole iPod. They never told what caused the problem.
I don't think it costs anything to have an Apple technician look at your iPod, though I could be wrong. Take it into a store close to you and if it can be fixed, they'll know how.
Here is a list of all Apple Store locations:
http://www.apple.com/retail/storelist/
Good luck. I hope your iPod is fixable. :/
What's the song at the start of Final Fantasy 10?
Is it by Rammstein?
Thanks.
xxx
It is called 'At Zanarkand' and is performed by an orchestra.
You can listen to it here on Youtube:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08RYp-uDpPo
I need examples of transitions that have layers. Such as, a painting that goes from being unfinished to a complete project after adding layers through years. Thanks!
Trees add layers as they become older and more mature. If you cut open the trunk, you can see rings for each year of the tree's life (each ring is a layer).
Dirt also marks the passage of time in layers. Each year more dirt is set down, leaving a transitional history of stone and fossil for archaeologists to dig through. A large cross section of earth will actually have distinct layers from the different types of rock that have been set down.
I can't think of any others at the moment...other than onions, but that's not really a transition, just something with layers. :P I hope I helped.
hey! am sorry if this is too long..i just need some help! ok am a girl and there is this girl that hates me so much. ok this is how it all started. we were in school in algebra and before algebra we have lunch. when we come back from lunch this girl is always late to class. the door of the classroom is always locked. she always comes late and expect somebody to opened the door for her. well me and my friend always sit next to the door but we dont open it for people because they should get to class in time. well when somebody opened the door for her she came in and started saying this "stupid B****** dont open the F***** door . they are so R*******"..she just kept on arguing. we just ignored her. this all happened on november of 2009. now she always stares at me in class,and sometimes when am walking down the hallway she looks at me or when am sitting down and she comes inside the classrrom she stares at me..and i herd her talked about me..i really dont know what is her problem seriously..i dont want to go up to her because i know something will ahppen because she has anger issues and so do i..so can you please tell me a good advice because this girl is getting on my nerves :(
Oh goodness. My friend is having the exact same problem with some girls at our school right now. She's ignoring them and they are starting to leave her alone, but there are still incidents every once in a while.
There are four main ways you can handle this. None of them are perfect, but they all have the potential to solve this problem. Your choices are:
a) talk to her.
b) write her a letter, then talk to her.
b) ignore her and hope she leaves you alone.
c) get a teacher or other adult involved.
You should absolutely try either option A or option B before anything else. Here is option A: talk to her (I know you said you can't, but hear me out anyway...then you can go to option b if this doesn't sound right). Ideally, you should approach her somewhere public like a classroom with students in it, with your friends close enough to watch what is going on without being obvious. Do NOT approach her with friends to back you up. I know that sounds scary, but here is my reasoning: coming with backup makes it look like you want a fight or that you are scared of her. It will also put more pressure on her to act tough since she has a bigger audience.
Acting as calm and polite as possible, tell her that you have nothing against her and that you would like to know why she doesn't like you. Try to settle whatever it is that's bothering her and apologize to her if she wants an apology (even if you don't think you need to). If she is holding a grudge, an apology may be the key to making her leave you alone, so long as it sounds like you mean it. It is very important that you stay calm and polite while you talk to her. This is what makes the difference between solving your differences and ending up in a fistfight.
Whatever you do, do NOT threaten her. She can use that to get you in a lot of trouble with the school, no matter what she did to you to deserve the threat. So if you get mad, just walk away before you can do more damage.
If your anger problems are really so serious that you don't think you can talk without fighting, option B is your best bet. Write her a letter that says all the things I just told you to say in person. Keep the letter polite and respectful! If it's a rude or nasty letter then it will only make things worse, and give her evidence to use against you.
Be sure to give it to her in person. If you have a friend give it to her, she will think you are scared of her and wont take your letter seriously. Instead, approach her, say something short like, "I know you don't like me, but I don't want you to be angry anymore. So I wrote you this letter to apologize. I'd say it all in person, but I don't want us to get mad at each other and I think that will happen if we try to talk right now." If she tries to tease you about being scared to fight or something, just shake your head and smile, or tell her to "Please read the letter." Then hand her the letter and walk away.
Hopefully the letter will calm her down a bit, and then you can talk to her again. This time you can ask her what she thought of the letter and ask if the two of you are square. Yet again, be calm and polite, and don't bring a bunch of friends.
Of course, both of these suggestions may fail, which brings us to option C: ignore her. It seems like this is what you've been doing for ages, so it probably wont do anything. Usually bullies get bored if you don't give them a reaction, but if she has a grudge for the door thing then it's a whole different situation. Still, ignoring her is an option so long as she doesn't threaten you, hurt you, or spread awful rumors.
If she does any of those things, it's time to move on to option D: get an adult involved. I know this is the last thing anyone wants to do, and it will just make this girl even angrier. But if she threatens you, hurts you, or starts to ruin your school life by spreading awful rumors, the situation is out of your control. Basically, if you ever feel afraid to go to school, it's time to get an adult's help. You need to talk to the school counselor or a teacher you trust when that happens. Explain the whole situation including the door incident and what she has done to make you ask a teacher for help. That adult will probably want to set up a meeting for you two to resolve your differences, which is why you should try it without an adult first. :P It also helps your case if you can say, "I tried talking to her and being nice, I even apologized, but she's still messing with me!" It shows that you have made an effort to solve this on your own and be the bigger person.
I hope one of these options is the solution to your problem, and I wish you the best of luck dealing with this girl. It's never fun to have people treat you like dirt, especially when they have stupid reasons for doing so. If you have another question about what I've written or need new advice because of a change in the situation, feel free to send me another question. :)
Why do people hardly ever buy new bright-yellow cars? In my graphic arts design class we were discussing how yellow on black has the biggest contrast or whatever. So, I got to thinking...why do people NOT like bright yellow cars? It sounds like they'd look the best agains the black asphalt road...
I guess my question is about your personal preference. Do you like the bright yellow cars? Why or why not? THANKS!
I think yellow cars are alright, depending on the model. Honestly, I don't like to look at things that stand out that much. To understand the feeling I get when I see a bright yellow car, think of being outside in the snow. The sun against those millions of little crystals is terribly bright, making my eyes hurt and even making me sick to my stomach. Not all yellow cars give me this problem, but a few of them do.
Contrast is great for art and advertising, but not so great in your daily life. Imagine living in a house of nothing but black and yellow! There's a reason why we use those colors for caution tape and not for our walls. It strains our eyes and gives us a headache after a while.
Part of the reason people don't like yellow cars is because they're actually too eye-catching. Most people wouldn't dream of going to work with a green mohawk because they'll be the center of attention; the same principle applies to bright yellow cars.
I think the color yellow also subconsciously reminds people of urine, which is something we are trained to avoid from a young age. So somewhere in our brains, we look at that yellow Hummer or VW bug and think, 'Ew, pee. Must avoid!'
I know mythic creatures like mermaids, dragons, and centaurs were never real and were based on old tales and mythology. I even heard that mermaids were, in reality, manatees or sea-cows.
What I'm curious about is if UNICORNS are actually real? I mean, it doesn't sound too out-of-the-ordinary to me. Lots of creatues have horns on their heads and there are many creatures with skull deformaties. I was even thinking that unicorns might have just been a mutation of the horse that people eventually killed to extinction.
Unicorns: Real?
If they were ever real, we have no evidence to prove it. There are tapestries and other works of art from the Middle Ages depicting unicorns, but considering the superstitious nature of people during that time, these aren't enough to prove they were ever there.
There are some people who claim to possess unicorn horns, but usually these are narwhal horns. Here's the Wikipedia for narwhals if you want to learn more about them:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narwhal
So there is no real proof that unicorns existed. On the other hand, there's also no way to prove that they didn't exist. This is why many people believe in bigfoot, the Loch Ness monster, and other such creatures. We have little evidence to prove their existence, but there is still a possibility that they are real. It's just very unlikely.
I'm sorry I can't give you a better answer. Most people will tell you, "No" right away, though there is definitely a small possibility that they did exist. It's pretty unlikely since we've never found a unicorn skull. But officially, according to mainstream science, unicorns are a myth.
I need a lot of good fantasy books to read for school so any one please help me out
What grade are you in? I'll just give you a list of books that just about anyone from middle to high school will enjoy.
-all of the Harry Potter books, of course
-Eragon, Eldest, and Brisingr (in that order)
-The Sight by David Clement-Davies (He has several other books; that one's just my favorite. It's about wolves in Romania who get caught up in a prophecy about one of their pups.)
-Silverwing by Kenneth Oppel (This is a story involving bats...there are three or four in the series and this is the first.)
-any book by Tamora Pierce (These are more oriented toward girls because girls are always the main characters, but they are filled with action and adventure so most boys should like them, too. My favorite so far is the Beka Cooper series, which is about a girl training to be a 'dog', which is this world's equivalent of a cop. The first book is called Terrier.)
-any book by Neil Gaiman (He wrote Coraline, Neverwhere, and Stardust, among other things. I've read Neverwhere and it's one of my favorite books.)
-Alice's Adventures in Wonderland by Lewis Carrol (This is a classic fantasy novel. It's pretty weird, though, unless you read everything as symbolic.)
-any book by Terry Pratchet (His books are great and usually funny, too.)
If you want to search for more, you can always look on Amazon. Here's a link to the teen fantasy section:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=sr_nr_n_12?rh=i%3Astripbooks%2Cn%3A!1000%2Cn%3A28%2Cn%3A17466&bbn=28&ie=UTF8&qid=1269294008&rnid=28
So my boyfriend wants me to learn how to cook but i kinda don't want to, it takes to long to cook. I don't know what to do.. Should I learn? And if so, where can I learn??
I don't think you should learn to cook for your boyfriend (it's the 21st century, tell him to cook his own food if he wants it so bad!). But, there are tons of benefits to learning how to cook. It allows you to control everything that goes into your recipe, so being able to cook will help you eat a much healthier diet without having to eat carrots and granola bars all the time. You can also make restaurant-quality food without too much effort or cost, so you can save yourself a lot of money spent on dining out. It doesn't take too long to cook; it just depends on the recipe you're using. If you think it takes too long to fry an egg or make pudding, you need to learn a little patience. ;)
I might be showing a little bias here since I know how to cook, but I don't think it's too hard to learn.
The first thing you need to do is learn about the tools in your kitchen and how they are used. You need to know how to use a measuring cup, how to use measuring spoons, how to grease a pan, what can be used on the stove and in the oven (and what can't...that's very important), and what pan/boiler/sheet to use for what. More importantly, you need to know how to read a recipe.
Here are a few websites with info on those things and more:
http://busycooks.about.com/library/howtos/bllessonseries.htm
http://southernfood.about.com/library/info/blcooks.htm (Definitely read the glossary of terms at the very top.)
http://www.chef2chef.net/learn-to-cook/
Now, you don't need to know all that stuff right at first. What you need to know depends on the recipe you're making. For example, there's no need to learn how to handle raw meat if you are starting off making cookies (I hope your cookies don't have meat in them, anyway...).
After you have some good general knowledge and feel like you aren't going to burn the kitchen down, find a recipe. There are tons of easy recipes out there just waiting to be found. I learned how to fry an egg from eHow, which shows you how easy it was. Here are some recipes to get you started:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2637_fry-egg.html
http://www.recipezaar.com/Easy-Cake-Mix-Cookies-5287
http://www.recipezaar.com/Quick-Easy-Creamy-Tomato-Pasta-Sauce-48228
You can use recipezaar.com to find tons of great recipes, so be sure to search that site if you ever feeling like making a certain food.
If you are still nervous about what you're doing, find someone with more experience to help you out. They can keep you from making any of those terrible, but easy to make, mistakes that many beginners end up making. They can also give you tips and more information about how to work in your kitchen. After a few 'supervised' cooking sessions, you'll feel perfectly comfortable cooking on your own. You'll be cooking before you know it! Good luck. :)
Hello everyone.
I have a question about writing dialogue in fiction. What I can't seem to find on the net are the rules for how to show that two people are communicating with each other in writing.
Say your two characters are chatting via an instant messenger. Is it treated like normal dialogue? Also, what sort of tag would one use... would it be "he said" or "he wrote" or something totally different?
Any help would be much appreciated :)
I don't think there are any strict rules for writing dialogue, especially the newer stuff like IM chats. So as long as your dialogue makes sense and is easy to separate from regular text, you have some freedom in what you do.
For instant messaging, you can write it pretty much as it appears in real life on screen. There have been whole books written like chat dialogue, though I'm not sure how enjoyable it would be to read them. So you could write a dialogue something like this:
"Jason sat down at the computer and logged into his messaging service.
Jace124 has logged in.
Maebaby: hey jace. what's up
Jace124: not much. goin to a movie soon with rachel.
Maebaby: oooh what movie?
Maebaby: omg g2g. dinner's ready! talk to you later.
Jace124: bye
Maebaby has signed out."
Hopefully your dialogue is more exciting that that. But basically, it can be and, for IMs, usually should be close to the real thing. You can put different people's text in different colors and use abbreviations like 'ttyl' if you want. I'd try to keep those to a minimum, though...like maybe a 'lol' here and there. Chatspeak and abbreviations are hard to read and make your character seem immature, especially if you're writing a book for adults or even older teens, so consider your audience.
Also, remember who your characters are and write realistically. A college student looking for help with research online will probably have less chatspeak and better grammar than a teen chatting with friends, for example. Generally, grammar mistakes and abbreviations are ok, even encouraged, in IM dialogue because that's close to the real thing. If you write in a country accent, for example, you are going to have apostrophes and minor grammar mistakes everywhere; this is ok because you are imitating how someone with that accent would speak. Same goes for IMs.
If you have doubts about whether your dialogue makes sense and will be clear to a reader, read it out loud. If you are losing track of who said what or what's going on, the reader will probably have even more trouble.
I hope this helps you a bit! :)
I'm 16, and I'm about to start birth control. my main concern with it, is that ill develop more acne, and gain weight. is it true that that happens to everyone? or is it just a something you have to base on genes? i have sentitive skin, and i don't exercise at all. if i started exercising could that help the weight gain? and what could i do to make sure i don't get bad acne while i'm on the pill? thank you! :)
Although those are possible, they definitely don't happen to all or even most people on the pill. In fact, birth control helps a lot of people treat their acne because it regulates their hormones better. Sometimes doctors will prescribe birth control for someone just based on bad acne because there are so many times when it is due to hormones. If you're lucky, you might see an improvement in the acne you already have.
Medication is a tricky thing when it comes to side effects. Some people will have no side effects, some people might gain weight, and others might lose weight! How each person will react is extremely hard to predict. So don't count your weight gain chickens just yet.
Your side effects also depend on the name of the pill you're on, since each pill works a little differently than the others. If you have questions about how likely you are to gain weight or get bad acne, you can always call your doctor and ask. He or she may even have a little pamphlet to give you with info about your medicine.
As for not getting acne on the pill...If you are one of the people who gets breakouts, there isn't too much you can do. Those breakouts are hormone-based, so changing your diet and washing your face will only do so much. Hopefully your body's hormones will even out and the acne will get better once you have been on the pill for a month or so. Other than that, all you can do is cut down the other things that aggravate acne: food and dirt/oils on your face. Eat a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables, drink lots of water, and be sure to wash your face daily.
I'm not sure if exercising would help with the kind of weight gain you get while on the pill (usually water retention). However, exercising tends to be a good idea because it has tons of health benefits, so as long as you are in good health (no heart problems, injured muscles, etc.) you should give exercise a try.
I am completely stuck. I have borderline personality disorder among many other mental disorders which leaves me majorly over sensitive with extreme trust issues and a poor self-image. My boyfriend knows this and tries to help me as much as possible with it but unfortunately his idea of playfully flirting with me is to joke about other girls and things along that line which are major triggers to my disorder. Although I can logically process the comments and know he's just flirting with me my emotions take control and I get extremely upset. I have no way of controlling this except to continue with my therapy and with intense treatment I will eventually be able to control my own emotions. My boyfriend and I have discussed this many times and he feels awful and has tried to stop but he still does it some. I was wondering if anyone else has this specific problem and what you have done about it outside of therapy that has helped reduce the extreme emotions provoked? This is really becoming an issue in an otherwise very stong supportive relationship.
One big thing is that you should keep talking to your boyfriend about it. It's a habit of his and it will be hard to break, but it will go away with time and reminders. So keep reminding him, even if it makes him feel bad. If he feels bad he'll make more effort to stop. Also, talking about how this feels to him is good because it will keep the frustration level low. I'm sure you know that when you let feelings sit and fester without saying anything, they tend to blow up...so make sure you talk to him while the hurt is still small and mostly insignificant. Talk to him every time it happens so you can keep your feelings out in the open and tame enough to manage together.
I haven't had your specific problem, but I have been in a similar situation. I was in love with a friend of mine who didn't love me back, and this friend was dating someone else. I was also extremely depressed at the time. So she would mention things about this guy she was dating, and it was agony to me! I kept reminding her that it hurt when she shared certain details (like her sex life and cute things he did for her) with me, but it took a lot of time for her to break the habit. She still did it on occasion.
Part of the solution was learning to cope with the jealousy and depression that would come from these incidents. A big part of coping was talking to my friend and my therapist, being as open as possible. That helped me vent my frustrations in a healthy way, so I didn't take it out on myself or my friend so much. She's still dating him two years later and plans to marry him...and of course I hear details that make me uncomfortable sometimes. But I've gotten way better at dealing with those things so it doesn't control my life anymore.
Coping with your emotions is hard and I know you're already working on it, but it may be the key here. Nobody's perfect and your boyfriend is bound to slip up and forget sometimes. You need to be able to tolerate those little mistakes, which means getting your thoughts and emotions to agree. Remind yourself that he loves you, that you are beautiful, and think whatever thoughts you can that would boost your self-confidence. Hopefully your thoughts and emotions will stop being two separate animals and start agreeing with each other more, so the logic can help change or at least lessen your emotional reaction.
Have you done cognitive behavioral therapy? It focuses on changing the way you think, so that you will benefit from therapy even when you can't actually see your therapist. It tries to change thoughts like, "I can't do this" to "I can do this, but it takes a ton of work" and "Everyone hates me" to "No one hates me, they just aren't sure how to talk to me because I'm shy." Basically, it tries to train your emotions and thoughts to agree with each other, so that one doesn't take control of the other and make you believe things that aren't true.
I guess I didn't tell you much that you didn't already know. :/ I hope it helped at least a little, anyway. Good luck with your therapy and with your relationship. I know you'll get better at this, just give it some time. :)
im 13 i weigh 94 pounds and im 4'11 am i over weight?
I must agree with Katlyn that weight can be different depending on the person. I have a friend who is technically overweight, but she has such wide shoulders and thick bones that it's actually a healthy weight for her.
That said, your body mass index (BMI) is 19, and anywhere below 18.5 is underweight. So no, you're just fine for your height, maybe even a little on the skinny side. Here's the website I calculated your BMI on:
http://apps.nccd.cdc.gov/dnpabmi/
what is the best way to excersise and why??
There isn't really one best way to exercise. There are lots of different exercises and types of exercise that do different things for your body.
The main three categories of exercise are aerobic, weight-bearing, and stretching. Aerobic is anything that works your heart, like walking or swimming. It's important to do aerobic exercise because it makes your heart stronger, which makes it pump more efficiently. A healthier heart is more reliable whereas an unhealthy heart is more likely to quit on you or have problems later in life. Aerobics also burn a lot of calories, which is good if you're trying to lose some weight.
Weight-bearing exercises are any exercises where your you put weight on your bones and muscles. Lifting weights is the classic example, although push-ups and chin-ups and things like that also count. Lifting weights builds bones mass, which is really important to prevent osteoporosis and bone breaks when you get older. It also strengthens your muscles and tones your body, making you look better and making your body stronger.
Stretching is any exercise that focuses on stretching muscles. Stretches make your body more agile and limber. For example, those people who can put their feet behind their head...they did a lot of stretching to get to that point. Stretching is really important before and after other types of exercises because it helps prevent you from pulling or even tearing a muscle.
A good workout routine will include a little bit of all these types of exercise. With exercises that require repeats of one move (also called reps), it is important to hold your body exactly as you are told to or the exercise wont work as well. For example, if you do sit-ups, but let your hands hang loose instead of putting them behind your head, you wont work your abs as much and you might even hurt your neck.
So the best way to exercise would be something like this. Stretch before and after doing anything else, as your warm-up and cool-down. Drink plenty of water or sports drinks to keep yourself hydrated. Also, follow instructions and hold poses just like an instructor or video tell you to. And do a variety of exercises working different parts of your body, like sit-ups for abs, squats for thighs, push-ups for arms, and so on. Do those things and you'll get the most out of any workout you choose to do. :)
i can never seem to meet any guys where i live. the guys at my school are not my type and i would never date any of them and same for them towards me but then when i meet other nice guys from different schools they are taken. its seems like i will never find anybody and im a junior in highschool and i need to have a relationship before highschool is over. can you give me advice
You don't need to have a relationship before you finish high school. It's not like all the guys in the world are going to disappear once you graduate, and dating really isn't something you have to do in high school. I'm 17, I've never had a boyfriend, and I have tons of friends who've never had a boyfriend. I'm graduating in May and going to college this fall...the fact that I haven't dated yet doesn't worry me at all.
When you get this desperate to find a boyfriend, you can find yourself in some really crappy relationships. Some guys seem to smell that need in girls and they will take advantage of it to use you and abuse you. Honestly, if you don't see anyone worth going out with, don't date. Why settle for less in a relationship? Guys can be real dicks and there's no point risking heartbreak for someone you didn't really care about to begin with. You should for someone who's worth your time and deserves your love.
Maybe you feel like you have to date because all your friends are, or something. I don't really know. But it doesn't have to be that way! Dating isn't all it's cracked up to be, especially when you end up with the wrong guy. Bad boyfriends can make you feel insecure, worthless, and miserable. You shouldn't risk that unless you're sure you like someone. Just be patient even if your friends bug you about it. It's worth the wait. :)
okay well i dont really know how to start it off but me and my dad dont really see eye to eye with things. everytime i try to a have a conversation with him it usually ends up with tears and yelling and im just getting really sick of it. i barely even talk to him anymore because i just am tire of fighting and now its affecting my social life to everytime i get into an argument with my friends or other family members i just start cry and im starting to have panic attacks to... i just dont know what to do anymore... please help
Katie
How awful. :/ I used to be kind of like that with my dad, but it was never that bad.
If you are starting to have panic attacks, it's time to talk to someone. Talk to your school counselor or a teacher you trust. It needs to be someone outside your family because I don't think your family will treat this matter as seriously as it deserves to be treated. Tell them about how things are between you and your dad and how it's starting to affect other parts of your life. Be sure to mention the panic attacks. The teacher or counselor should have advice and resources to help you deal with your dad and the anxiety that he's caused in you.
Does he treat the other people in your family like this? Maybe one of them can help you. The people in your family know your dad the best and are around you the most, so they could help you deal with him. Close friends are also good to talk to when you're upset. And sometimes just knowing that a friend knows what you're going through makes you feel much better. It's easier to bear a burden when you know you aren't carrying it alone.
I think you should give up trying to have conversations with your dad. He really doesn't sound mature enough to handle a daughter and he probably wont change at all until you are both years older. I know it hurts and you want your dad to talk to you and care about you, but sometimes dads just aren't worth the heartache. My dad and I don't even try to talk anymore, other than saying hi or bye. Things are awkward, but we can get along well enough to live with each other. I'm sure your dad cares about you, but he probably doesn't know how to express it. Let him make the effort to talk to you and know you; meanwhile, you need to focus on healing the damage he's already done to you.
I wish you the best of luck with this. Your dad has hurt you really badly (seriously, you may have this kind of anxiety and panic forever unless you get it treated). You never did anything to deserve this and I hope things get better for you.
Im 17f and ive never had a boyfriend. It used to bug me, but i dont have a problem with it anymore. Not to sound conceited, but i could easily get a boyfriend if i wanted one. But right now Im not really looking for one. Plus, i have high standards. Well my family constantly makes fun of me because ive never had a boyfriend. And my sister (14, who is the hugest slut and will have sex with anyone who says hi to her) always calls me a lesbian. Then my dad and her will laugh and make jokes back and forth about it. It really offends me that they say things like this because it hurts, even if its not even true. I try to not let it bother me, but they do it all the time and its hard to ignore. Ive already told them to shut up about it, but then they bother me even more. What am i supposed to do? Even if they are joking, it still bugs me.
Wow. You live in a family of jerks, I guess. I'm 17 and have never had a boyfriend. Many of my friends have never had boyfriends. My family doesn't bother me about it; their families don't bother them about it. Honestly, many girls don't have their first boyfriend until they're in college.
Not having a boyfriend says nothing bad about you. All it says is that you respect yourself enough to wait for a guy who is truly worth dating, not some jackass who wants you for sex or to feel better about himself. You should be proud of that, and your family should, too.
The best thing you can do right now is ignore them. It sounds like they're teasing you pretty seriously so I doubt this would stop if you talked to them about it. All you can do is stay true to yourself. If you don't want a boyfriend, why would you get one to please the family that puts you down and makes fun of you?
Honestly, it's not that weird that your sister's teasing you because she's young and is too dumb to know better. But it's pretty sick that your dad joins in. He's supposed to be a mature person and support his daughters, not mock them because they're not screwing guys left and right. You really are a better person than these two so don't give in to them.
Just keep waiting. Someday, you will have a boyfriend who loves you for who you are and truly cares about you, while your sister will probably have a couple of kids and an STD (or a couple of STDs and a kid :P). Your family isn't being fair to you and you deserve better treatment, but stupid people don't tend to get smarter over time. Ignore them. Don't even say anything when they tease you. At first, this may make it worse since they'll do worse things to try and get you mad. But if you ignore them long enough, they may get bored and stop. Otherwise, you're giving them exactly what they want when you get upset. They want you to get upset because it makes them feel like they have power over you and that they're better than you. They're not. Don't let them have that power because you are better and you deserve better.
i'm trying to go on a diet but i get so hungry all the time that i can't stop eating. even when i'm not hungry i just want to eat because i like food so much.
are there any easy home exercises i can do to lose a lot of weight really quickly?
also, i want to go on a diet but its almost impossible because im addicted to food. what should i do to stop wanting to eat/thinking about food all the time? and what kind of diet should i go on? thanks!!!
I'm no expert when it comes to exercise, but aerobic exercise is one of the best for burning calories quickly. Go jogging, do jumping jacks, or jump rope. Don't push yourself too hard or you could hurt yourself and lose your motivation: start off with something like 12 jumping jacks a day and work yourself up to 50, instead of going right to 50 from the start. Give yourself a small reward for exercising. It could be a nice, hot bath or a something you've been wanting to buy...anything to help reinforce your desire to work out.
Is this the kind of hunger you can feel in your belly, or is it emotional or stress-related hunger that's more in your mind? For the first, you can try eating large amounts of low-calorie, low-fat foods: think salad, with no feta cheese or dressing. Certainly don't eat it all the time, but you don't have to worry about portions when you're eating something that light. Of course, salads aren't all that filling, which is why you'd have to eat a lot of it.
Whole grains are another good option. Because they are harder to digest, they keep you full for a longer amount of time. I like to eat plain oatmeal in the morning with nothing but fresh fruit in it. This is another thing where portions are that important. Oatmeal doesn't have tons of calories and it has no fat, so you could eat tons of it without putting more fat on your body. You should also drink more water.
Water is good for your body in so many ways: it helps your digestive system process food, it lubricates your bone joints, it keeps your skin healthy...there are so many benefits to drinking water. It can also help you fill your belly. Be sure not to drink an obscene amount (and I mean a really, really obscene amount) of it or you could make yourself sick, but for the most part you can drink to your heart's content. Remember that you also need salt along with the water to keep your body balanced. Usually you will easily get plenty through your diet, but remember this tip if you are cutting out all your salty foods.
In general, just try to replace the unhealthy foods in your house with healthy ones. Get rid of most processed foods. Cheez-its, Oreos, bologna...when you get started eating those, it's hard to stop. And of course their ingredients are fattening and bad for you. You could replace that with things like granola bars, yogurt, jello cups, and best of all: fresh fruit and veggies. When you know how to pick the good stuff at the supermarket, eating fruit is better than eating cake for dessert. Blackberries and mangoes are especially good when they're perfectly ripe.
All those will help for the hungry belly kind of eating, and they can also help with emotional eating. For that, you need to keep your mouth and your stomach busy with things that are light and good for it. I agree that you should focus on portion control, but that's very hard at first. You need to slowly cut down on what you eat instead of suddenly halving everything. While you transition from larger portions to smaller ones, eat things like granola, salads, fruit, and certain cereals (especially Wheaties and things similar to it). When you shop, choose the things that you could eat tons of without consuming many calories. That means staying away from dairy, meat, and most desserts. But I have some tips for those, as well. Also, avoid those dumb 100 calorie packets. They take up so little room in your stomach that you'll end up eating five or ten packets, and then you've eaten 500-1000 calories without realizing it...and are still hungry!
Get rid of all the pre-made desserts in your house. You could make an exception for jello cups, but remember that they still have lots of sugar. When things are ready made to eat, it's easier to eat them whenever you get hungry. Instead, eat fresh fruit or dessert that you make yourself, from scratch. You can find some amazingly delicious and healthy recipes on the internet for any dessert you can imagine. The fact that you have to cook it yourself makes you less likely to eat it all the time. Here is one of my favorite cookie recipes ever (I use EarthBalance margarine):
http://www.recipezaar.com/Soft-Spicy-Heavenly-Ginger-Cookies-20431
Now at 87 calories per cookie, you still can't eat half the batch. Still, this is a very good solution to those sweet stuff munchies that we all get. These cookies are truly perfect: soft on the inside and crunchy on the outside. SO much better than oreos. If you find yourself having trouble keeping from eating all the cookies at once, give most of the batch away to friends and family so that you wont be tempted.
Make sure your dairy is low-fat, like skim or fat free milk, yogurt, or string cheese. Avoid cream when you can. Cut your meat intake: meat is very high in fat, calories, and cholesterol. When you do eat meat, eat turkey, chicken, or fish. These are all pretty lean and good for you. A sandwich with turkey meat on whole wheat bread (no mayo or mustard) is delicious and filling, without a huge amount of calories. You can also make spaghetti sauce with turkey burger meat instead of beef burger meat.
Finally, if any diet tells you to cut out fat, carbohydrates, or protein completely, don't listen to it! Your body needs all these things to work properly: it just needs them in proper amounts. Your energy should come from 40-45% carbs, 25-30% protein, and 30-35% fat (most of the fat should be unsaturated, monounsaturated, or polyunsaturated). Cutting out or drastically reducing one of these three categories can make you sick over time. Yes, even cutting out fat. Our body needs that for padding, to keep us warm, and to absorb certain kinds of vitamins.
I hope this info helps you. :) Good luck on your diet!
i am married and my ex girl friend harrasses me a lot. what should I do? she has made my life hell. she came to my work..harrassed me. she keep on calling me again and again. my marriage will broke. please advice me asap.
i am 40 year old male. living in vancouver. my email is amit4sep@gmail.com
amit
You should get a peace bond. Legally, your ex will be barred from visiting or contacting you. Here's a few resources to help you learn more:
http://www.pssg.gov.bc.ca/victim_services/publications/guides/PeaceBondsRestOrdersWEB.pdf (It says it's for women in the title, but it applies to anyone seeking a peace bond to escape harassment.)
http://www.ehow.com/how_4827846_file-restraining-order-canada.html
This wont totally stop your ex from harassing you because desperate, bored people are sure to find ways around it. However, it will stop all of these outright harassments at work, as well as some of the calls (I'm sure she'll start calling anonymously if possible).
Exes can be such nasty creatures. Best of luck with this. :(
18-f
I have sex every now and then maybe once every two months. Every time we have sex it hurts like hell and i can't seem to get past the pain to start off with..so i never end up enjoying myself. Does it hurt everytime because we do not do it enough or is it some other random reason. I just want to be able to enjoy myself with my Boyfriend.
Sex could be painful because you are too dry down there. Do you engage in foreplay? That helps get you wetter so things aren't as painful. If you do and that still doesn't help, there are lubricants you can buy to make things easier. Just remember to use a water-based lube because an oil-based lube (like petroleum jelly) could break your condom!
what mental disorder is the character natalie portman plays supposed to have? she seems normal to me..
I haven't seen the movie, but I looked it up online. She has epilepsy and is a compulsive liar.
On epilepsy:
"Epilepsy is a brain disorder involving repeated, spontaneous seizures of any type. Seizures ("fits," convulsions) are episodes of disturbed brain function that cause changes in attention or behavior. They are caused by abnormally excited electrical signals in the brain." (from Google Health)
On Compulsive Lying:
"A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right. Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary. For the most part, compulsive liars are not overly manipulative and cunning (see, Pathological Liar), rather they simply lie out of habit - an automatic response which is hard to break and one that takes its toll on a relationship." (from truthaboutdeception.com)