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i have a really close relationship with my friend mike he's not a boyfriend or anything and i dont see him that way at all, but he's like an older brother to me and ever since we became friends he has been. well, i USED to dress punk, and he does now too...and well im prep now but he hasnt seen me...im afraid that hes not gunna wanna be my friend anymore since im dressing prep, i mean maybe he still will but maybe he wont...i just have worries, what do i do?

Dress how you wanna dress.If he doesn't like you because that he must not be that great. Thats a really stupid reason to not like someone and I think he'll still like ya. So just be yourself adn GOOD LUCK! Tell me how things turn out!

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i used to cut for 2 years but my ex bf told after i went through a lot and he told so now im getting help...well the other day my friend came over and we were talking about cutting but i stopped so she said "well getting high takes it away like cutting does" so i got high, my friends would kill me if they found out...and theyd probably tell and i dont want that to happen...theyd probably all hate me too and i dont want that to happen cauze i love them all sooo much! but the only person who knows is that girl...help me please, what do i do?

I think you should tell your friends how you did it ONCE because of the reason that girl said. Say you'd never ever do it agian...and then dont do it again.lol Cuz getting high is pretty dangerous also.Cutting and getting high,they can both kill you so they are BOTH wrong. Good Luck with your friends.I hope all works out!Tell me how it turns out.

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Well you see I really honestly don't care for her as a friend anymore. I think she is a bitch. She gets on my damn nerves now. I used to feel sorry for her and want to help her, but you cant help someone who doesnt want to be helped. she would tell me she wanted to stop and then like minutes go get high. I know that she really doesnt want to stop. I think its a shame that something is thought was just "all in fun" is now taking over her life. But, i can no,longer feel any sorrow for her, I think she is just stupid. I don't wanna be her friend. And despite the things she did, and the fact that I no longer like her, I had no problem with my sister hanging with her. I am not the jealous type. But, I just never thought that she would basically encourage my sister to do drugs when she knows that its wrong. I'm just glad that my sister is smart enough to say no. I wanna call her up and tell her " You fuckin little junky, If I ever find out that you are doing drugs around my sister or offering her drugs ever again, so help me god you won't have to worry about the drugs killing you"... thats just how mad I am. Now that you know more about how I feel, what do you think I should say?

Now that I know for sure that you don't like her..if I was you'd i'd call her up..And if you don't wanna be her friend tell her..be like... "Ya kno what?If your gonna let drugs get in the way of our friendship thats been goin on for __ years then oh well I don't need you.If you ever turn back to the old *her name* then maybe you should call me.But until then and IF that ever happends Stay away from my sister!I dont want her to end up like you" Sry..thats harsh but im puttin myself in your shoes and thats just what'd I say. Maybe throw in some other things too.lol Well Good Luck!And I hope it all works out.Drop me another one and tell me what happens k???Dont hold back either,tell her how you feel!

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I am 17/f. I had this childhood friend of like 8-9 years. We were best friends, but then we hit a ofrk in the orad and she turned to drugs about a year and a half ago. When I fisrt found out that she did it, I was pissed and told her that she was dumb and shouldnt do it again. She told me she wouldn't, that she was just tryingit so I gave her the benifit of the doubt. Her and I stopped being friends about 6 months ago. She started becoming really selfish,and just always pissing me off. She was telling me she was clean but I know her too well and could tell by how she wasacting that she was lying to me. Now she hangs around with my younger sister who is 16. I just found out the other day, that just as I thought, she is still using. My sister told me she snorts heroin in front of her all the time and that she is getting really bad. She also told me that she offered her soem to try but my she told her no. The fact that she had the nerve to offer my sister drugs really pisses me off. I feel like calling her up and telling her off. I have been debating on doing this for like the past 3 days. I cant seem to stop thinking about it. I understand that she is ruining her life but why would she encourage someone else to do the same? I wanna call her or so bad! I am so mad! I don't know what to do.

I would definetely talk to her...if you love her as af riend and everything then be nice about it.But i'm the type that if i wanna yell at you I will and if i wanna be a b**** about it i will.So I would probaly call her and I probaly would tell her off...not that that is right though.So just do what you feel.I have two younger sisters and if I didn't yell at her I would DEFINETELY talk to her and be like "Its your choice to do stupid things but don't suck my sister into it" Or somethin like that.So good luck!Hope she stops...

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Just a few days ago my boyfriend bought me flowers just randomly. Well i got some pictures of us developed and had him pick out his fav. one. Today I'm going to get it inlarged and framed... and he guessed i was going to do that. Does anyone have any good ideas of little things i could get him including the picture. The flowers were sweet but I want to do something for him too besides a picture. Thanks and I will rate!

Maybe get him a whole album of pictures of you guys!And you can give him chocolate and stuff...I kno the guy is supposed to give chocolate but it'd be cute cuz guys like chocolate too.lol.So maybe a really sweet card also.Well I'm sorry I couldn't help more...GOOD LUCK!!

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my friend whose a girl and 14 told me a few days ago that she cutts. i was devistated wen i heard this. i asked her wat in the world wud make u so miserable as 2 kill urself? and she sed that her family was messed up and that shes ben feeling really depressed. i told her 2 think bout wat life will bring her in the future. youll have kids a husband a job and a happy life. i dont think it convinced her. wat should i do?

Keep talking to her about it.Tell her how if she ever DID die that she'd be missed so much and then she'd make the people that loved her feel the same way she felt when she killed herself.And I bet she wouldn't want that. Communicate with her though..thats the biggest thing.My friend used to cut too.She has improved so much.She doesn't even do it anymore and shes not all depressed and stuff.Well I hope I helped.GOOD LUCK! (Tell me how things work out)

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Hey me and m boyfriend were best friends b4 we went out so we were alredy really really close and we got even closer since we r going out...and we could talk 4 5 or 6 hours ont ha fone and never have a silent moment or a dull moment and talk 24.7 but latly we hardy cant even talk like we talk 5 30 mintues on tha fone and prolly get 20 mintues of talkin dun...and i think now thats skools startin were gunna grow further apart than we alredy r ...and i really luv him and he really luvs me 2 but we r just growin apart and not doing as much 2gether wut do i do?! pls help me thx so much

Just make more of a effort to talk to him.Or even tell him that you miss talking to him and you feel like you guys are getting more distant. He'll understand. And be like "i think we should both make more of a effort to talk to eachother" Or something.It sounds like you guys are all good so I hope everything works out. Good Luck! (tell me how things turn out)

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Omg ok my friend Christing is saying stuff about my friend Chantal being mad at her for no reason which is a lie because she talks about Chantal behind her back and then again I don't understand why what should I tell my friend cuz it's pissing me off the fact she talks about Chantal that way??

Tell your "friend" that she needs to shut the heeeeeeeell up. Tell her you don't like how she talks about chantal.Tell her if she doesn't stop then your not gonna hang w/ her.You should talk to her about it cuz you don't wanna end up in the middle!GOOD LUCK! tell me how things work out!

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im going to warped tour tomorow and last year wen i went the bands were signing sutographs and stuff like that and i was wondering if anyone has alreadi went and knos if good charlotte wil or will not be signing autographs

Hey!I'm from AZ and i went June 30th. Some bands were signin stuff but not many. And I dono cuz good charlotte didn't go the the warped tour in az. Sry i couldn't help more.

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umm im 14 and im only a 36A nd all my firends are a yr younger nd the same size as me!!i think that im done growing is there ne way that i can tell if i am or not?? thnnx

Since your only 14 I bet your not done growing. Your probaly just stopping for a while or somethin.But I bet your not done.Good Luck!

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ok well when I get mad I tend to cut myself very badly my parents found out and sent me to the doctor but he didn't do anything to help me stop cutting he just asked me questions like did your parents abuse you and stuff like that and I still cut myself more and more I get mad I don't know why am I mental do I have an illness I need help plz I'm scared I might kill myself one day

Hey!My friend used to do that all the time. Just don't do it! Its not that hard. Throw away all your blades and everything and don't do it. no matter how much you wanna.Be strong and good luck!

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okay so when me and mah gurls get togetha they always invite their boy-friends but ya c im single and so when we go to a movie or sumthing they all tell me to invite a guy i like. so i say to my self 'i knoe that their all gonna b making out and i don't wanna be the only one not make-out' so i try to think of some guys that would make out with me at the movies and the onle one i can think of are the mayjor playas! and so then we go togetha and i start getting feeling twords him and then like usual the kick ya ta the curb after that day... i like when we make out at the theater but how can i find a guy who still likes to make out but is still genuin and sincere?

Well there are genuine and sincere guys at movie theatres i guess..but ifyou wanna guy that will you stay w/ you after you make-out and go out w/ you and stuff you'll probaly have to be more patient..And wait to make-out for awhile.Ya kno to let them kno you want a relationship and don't just wanna make-out.So good luck!sry i couldn't help more

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I'm looking for a guy that woud fit me well but each time i go out with the guys i fing something i hate about them right away...what should i do?

Maybe you should be more open minded...like don't look for things you hate about em.Look for his good spots! That should help!Good Luck!

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ok well my boyfriend wants to have like alot of sex you know and I'm not ready for that yet but once he pushed me when I said no and he yelled at me and just left I don't know why but I'm scared to say no to him and I'm doing sumthing with him tonight I need serious help

If your not comfortable with doing something then DON'T DO IT!!Don't let a boy pressure you into doin somethin you dont wanna do.Yeah I'm only 14 but I've been pressured like that SO MANY TIMES! But don't give in.I'm not ready for sex either and I'm not doin it till I AM ready.If your BF really loves you then he'll wait. And if he can't wait than i'd bag his as* cuz sometimes after guys do "get you" they'll leave you. (im sayin some guys) So its not even worth doin if your not ready and can't enjoy it yourself cuz if you do he might leave you. So good luck!DON'T DO IT! Tell me whathappends k? (just dont give in,be strong!)

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ok well yeaterday at about like 2a.m. I went driving in town with my cuzine and her older bro (he's only 17) he drove us around and well he was smoking pot in the car so I got totally nervous and I didn't know what to do so I just staid in the car worring my butt off and when I got home at around 10 my dad smelt the pot and asked me if I smoked but I didn't pin it on my cuz did I do the right thing? I rate high:D

I think you should have just been like "no dad gosh!I don't smoke pot." and be kinda like mad and have that "I can't belive you think i'd do somethin like that!" attitude.I personally wouldn't tell on my cousin unless I could get in a lot of trouble.I might though because he's ruining his life smokin pot.So yea,I guess I'd tell on him.But if your cousin gets mad at you for ratting him out then big deal!I would personally rather be grounded by my parents for like a year for smoking pot then go to jail!lol. So ya,good luck!tell me how things work out!

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theres this girl whose gonna be on my bus this year and she wants to beat me up for no reason. shes 2 years older than me and shes really mean. shes the kind of girl who will scream mean things at you in front of everyone! i dont know how to handle that... its so embarrassing, but i dont want to act tough because then she'll really want to beat me up. im so scared help!

Ignore her..and ya kno what?If shes TWO years older than you and she's still picking on YOU then she must not be that tough...cuz no offense to you or anything but she'd be pickin on someone stronger and stuff..Ya kno?And don't take her sh**. If she wants to put on a show then why don't you join in?Don't be scared..she can't do anything.Just stay in public!lol.And if your not comfortable putting on a show then like i said,ignore her.Or just talk to her and be like "why don't you get a life because your wasting your time picking on someone who doesnt even care.."That would be good!lol. But yea..good luck!Be strong!Tell me how things work out :-D.

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okay, i am a naturally pale person but all this summer i have been tanning so i look normal with a tan now, but its not like reeaally insanely dark like i want, like when ppl see me i want them to be like omg your tan im so jealous! so anyways now that summer is almost over, i jus pretty much am gonna go to the tanning bed but does anyone have any tips to get like black with a tanning bed by at least the middle of october! thanx! and also, i have a hard time tanning my face, feet, and chest, any ideas on how i can get these to tan like my legs??!

Hey!I am a big person on tanning.(i lay out though..but w/e) When i lay out i just put tons of tanning stuff on my body!Like i put it all over. I lay out for like 30 min. then get in the pool for like 2 min. and then i lay out for another 30 min.. etc. But i also have olive skin so i never burn...so maybe its just cuz that. Well sorry i couldn't help more. :-/..GOOD LUCK!

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ive been dating a guy for six months, and im totally in love beyond belief. so was he. he went to camp and met a new girl that he likes and she likes him. he says he loves me. but notas much as before. he also said hes going on vacation to decide who hes going to choose. he mentioned as well, that if we got back together, he might do this again. omg, what should i do? just when i thought i was over him, i had a dream abouthim. im so lost

Wow,he's trust worthy.:-/. I don't really think that you should even take the chance with him. Because if he goes on vacations and finds new ladies and those ladies interfere w/ your guys' relationship that you've had goin on for 6 months (which is a pretty long time compared to some) then what if that happens when you've been goin out for a year...and also if he did break up w/ you for some other chick then you would have wasted 6 months of your life on someone that broke up w/ you for a fling! So good luck and if you really really love him then i guess you can stay and see what happends. Just be careful.I was just sayin i would not go w/ him. But good luck!!

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I have been with my current boyfriend for quite a while, and I love him greatly, but I have begun to realize that I still have feelings for an ex that I had a while back. He was probably the first person I truly cared about, but then he ended it. I don't understand why after all of this time I am realising that I'm not really over him, and I don't know what I'm supposed to do about it. I feel guilty having these feelings and at the same time they hurt. Anyone know what I can do?

End it w/ your current boyfriends.Its just not fair to him for you to be having feelings for your ex when your w/ him. If hes hurt by you breaking up w/ him..remember he'd be more hurt if he found out after like 3 months that you've liked your ex for a while. So just be honest and good luck!!

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Okay so i admit, i've never had a boyfriend. im 14 years old and going into 8th grade. ive been told by guys that im really pretty and have a great personality. im not overweight, im not unpopular or stuck up. what keeps me from being something guys like? i have guy friends, but whenever i like a guy, they never like me back as much. i dont think highly of myself when im around people. i actually tend to be more shy then anything around guys. but, what can i do? i know every guy is different but... ugh im so stumped!! please help, if you answer my question good ill give you a rewarding 5! =) thanks!
ps: im not just trying to get a boyfriend because of people around me having them, its whenever i find someone i like, they dont feel the same...

Just be yourself..if theres someone you like that doesn't like you back and you've been being yourself then hes just not right for you.I'm in 8th grade too..And I've only had 3 bf's in my life. Just be patient. The right one will come up soon and maybe if your yourself and everything you'll find someone this year in 8th grade.Have a good year and good luck!!

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