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this name is old and stupid....well first off my name is stephanie.dont judge me before you know me.im pretty nice.i like meeting new people,so im open to friends, but im extremely shy, so yeah. i dont give that good of advice so i'll help you as much as i can












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okay i dont know if this goes under illnesses, but i couldnt find anything else.. Alright I have a metal allergy, and so I'm allergic to the metal in my belts and I get like a rash, but I can't not wear belts b/c i have to keep my pants up, lol (i'm in between sizes, so the 7's are too tight and the 9's are too big) and I don't know is there anything I could use so my belts like, wouldn't touch my skin or something.. and don't say just stop wearing them, cause I'm trying but theres still that rash.. :-/ ty if you can help me

theres some belts in all different stores that dont have metal..just go into a store that you normally go in and look at the belts and see if there is any without metal

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i made out with my bf the other day and he has been telling everyone about it ever since, but i only hear that from my friends. he has talked about it to my friends and stuff like that. i dont really like it, should i talk to him about it? i'm not sure what to do, i mean it is true... its not like a false rumour he is passing around or anything. i like him, he's sweet, but i feel like i cant make out with him anymore or else he's guna tell every one about it... also, for the boys out there, why do you think he talked about it so much? thanks

well you should talk to him like say..is it true your telling everyone we've made out??something like that..

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I found out yesterday that a good friend of mine was killed at a party. Someone had slipped ecstasy in her drink and then she was brutally raped while she was passed out. I feel like this is all my fault. The reason being is because I always went to parties with her and I would always tell her "Beck, don't drink at parties". She'd always yell at me and tell me that I acted like her mother. But I knew I was right, I don't trust the drinks that people hand out at parties. The guy that raped her was my ex-boyfriend. I still feel like this was all my fault because, had I been there, he wouldn't have done anything to her because he's afraid of me. I'm sure by now you're all probably thinking "This is a load of bull" but believe it. This actually happens to people. She was my best friend. I knew I should have gone with her to that party. I'm completely miserable right now. She was my best friend. I always figured that nothing like that could ever hit so close to home. I'd always see stories like this on the news and I'd think to myself "How could they be so stupid?" Or, "That would never happen where I live." But it has. I don't know how to handle this. My ex boyfriend was arrested and my friends family is waiting to go to court but in the time being, I don't know how to handle myself. I don't even have the courage to go to her funeral tomorrow. I need help getting through this. Please help me... Thank you for those who take this seriously. I would really also like a non-sarcastic answer because this is a touchy subject for me. Thank you.


I apologize for the length.

its not your fault she died...you made the right choice by not going and you were a good friend by telling her not to drink..its a good thing hes arrested..but you should go to the funeral,its a lot of respect for her family since you were best frineds with her..and you may feel gulty if you dont go..im sorry she had to go

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Hey everyone! My favorite band of all time is The Killers! They are the best band ever! Anyway, I really want a poster of them to print off of the computer, does anyone know a good website with tons of pictures of them? That would really help! Thanks sooooo much! Love, Dania

you could just go on www.google.com and go to pictures and type in the killers and they should pop up

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im dating this guy...it seems like we are not goin out...i mean he is my ex-boyfriends best friend i think that he has be talking to him and they have been talkin about me saying all this shit about me and making my boyfriend not wanna go out with me why???

well he probably still isnt over you...or hes just jelous(sp)..but if your boyfriend likes you then he wouldnt believe what hes saying but since their best friends he might believe him

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should i try out for a sport that i didnt make last year??

yes,its a whole new year..new chances

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ok I'll start from the beginning,
one day I ask this girl out. I tell her a few nice things. then I ask her out. she says let me get back to you. well she goes and and tells her friends what happened. so they go hide & talk.
well after lunch shes yes. two days after shes yes she breaks up with me. now thats been about 6mons. ago. and I still have feelings for her.
I also hear she still has feelings for me.
but I'm scared that if I ask her she'll say no.
what should I do?

well does she know that you still have feelings for her? if not then tell her...but just ask her out again..if she says no then its her loss..

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Sorry this is long, but i rate high :)

I have liked this one guy for nearly a year. We used to date over the summer, but then some stuff got messed up and we broke up. Well he managed to get over me but i never got over him. Recently he and I have gotten really close (somewhat) and we talk all the time. He has been throwing hints he likes me. And apparently he told a friend of mine he likes me. Well, on thursday he and 2 of my other friends (one guy on girl) went to hang out at his house. They got bored and found an unfinished house. Well, the guy i like and my really good friend (who knew i was head over heals for him) went into the house and made out...Yesterday we went to a new years party and the girl told another one of my friends about it. Who in turn told me. Now my friend (the girl) likes him and asumes he likes her as well. Both of the people who made out have yet to confront me about it. Im so devistated right now and i feel like having a break down...Please tell me what to do because im so frustrated...Thanks.

(Please please please dont delete this!)

well the truth is that you arent going out with him now so he could do what he wants..i know how bad it hurts but you should move on...theres someone out there probably looking for you..you guys arent meant to be..a guy shouldnt do that to someone when they know they like them

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in about a month my family and i are driving to florida from ny. there are 6 of us and we drive an expedition. im afraid that my 3 annoying brothers (11,7, and 4) are going to make this trip hell..what are some ways i can prevent this from happening? Also..for anyone whos stayed at a disney resort..whats your favorite one and why? We love the Carribean Beach resort but in case we go somewhere else what do you suggest?
Thanks

you could listen to your CD player if you have one or give them something to do like what are their favorite things to do...i never been in to the disney world in florida..sorry

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My mother bought me a beta fish (a Japanese fighting fish) and I have no idea how to take care of it. I got a book on how to take care of it, but you have to decode it (meaning I don't understand a word of it) The local veterenarians don't really know how to take care of these fish because not alot of their clients have fighting fishes. Does anyone on Advicenators know ANYTHING about these fishes? Do you know any sites where I can find information?

ok well you have to give the fish one or two of those small pebbles..and i think the fish has to be in 70 degree water..and the longer the fins are the healthier it is..and for cleaning you could just take them out and put them in a big cup and clean the tank..make sure you dont have any other fish in it because it will kill it and you dont have to have those air things cause it can breath from going up to the water level..make sure you have atleast a half of an inch so they could come up...or you could go to the pet store and ask if they have a booklet of beta fish..or go on google

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well, one day i looked in the mirror and saw my reflection and i thought i loooked like a whale! I wanted to fucken disappear..im so self conscious. and i all of a sudden started eating then throwing it up, i mean today i ate popcorn then went to wash my hands and i saw myself..and i just hated it so i threw up in the toilet like i made myself throw up! and i dont know whats wrong with me..does that mean i have an eating disorder?

p.s ive tried it before...

i think you do...you probably think that you look like a whale,but you dont...like your looking into a fun mirror at a haunted house...but go see a doctor..because if you keep doing that then you will become weak..and you could die i know its scary but you have to face it

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hey. yeah, i'm an insomniac. as long as i can remember i haven't ever been able to fall asleep is less that like 3 hours. so i basically go to bed at 3 and wake up at 6.30 (school days). i don't take medicine for it but i need to! i want to sleep and my mom has sonata (i guess she also has insomnia) and i want to take one. she'd never notice and i dont think she'd really care. should i take one? i mean what bad will it do? also, does anyone else take sleeping pills or have insomnia? thanx

you should ask your mom to take you to the doctor cause my mom and sister have the same thing i kind of do but my mom cant sleep and my sister has a hard time sleeping anyhoo...if your mom take you to the doctor they will give you the right med.for you my mom said that she couldnt stay awake when she took the pill

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Ok I have been suicidal for a while, and haven't had an episode for about a month... I have scars on my stomach and arms.. but I can't stop thinking I need more cuts... I have had alot of stuff going on lately... what should I do, should I tell someone! I just don't wanna go to a mental hospital! thanks I'll rate high

well you can tell your parent and tell them to call the shrink and they could help or you could try the rubberband thing but i heard that it didnt work that well..but you should really see a doctor cause it sounds like your addicted to cutting and stuff...

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My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long)

its not your falt that she died...you dont like to she her drunk and you thought she was so you went up stairs..i can understand that you think it is your falt but it isnt..but i think the best thing to do is be with your dad since this is a tough time to go through..sorry i couldnt help more

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ok tomorro night my dad and i are going out for a steak dinner and maybe some shopping. My friend tutored me for free a few times, which was really nice of her. My mom suggested me taking her tomorro.. my dad said he didnt mind even though he did mention he'd rather it be just the two of us. What should i choose to do?

well if i were in your place i would think which one is better...your friend at dinner then shopping..or your dad which is kind of a once in a life time thing...kind of..which you can go shopping and out to eat with the friend that tutored you any time...its really your decion(sp)i know i cant spell

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My cat came to my house as a stray she is was declawed... i put her with my kitten he isnt neuterd she is getting fatter how can i tell she is pregnant?

you could take her to the vet or you could feel her stomach to feel if she has any babys

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ok i made my advice site. the only problem is i dont kno how to get it onto my profile. plz help! thanks luv yall!
~!~!bEtHaNy!~!~

well you sign in..where it says welcome whoever you are it has all that stuff and click on to profile settings and at the bottom it says..Describe yourself or your column or whatever else you want the world to know:
(Note: HTML is allowed except for the and tags. Other tags can just plain screw up your page... we do NOT offer support for people who mess things up because they use non-text elements in their bio.).....then you describe yourself or whatever you want to put

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ok well next year i want to do track or croscountry are there any ways i can get fast but not make my miscles really big on my legs lik ie lik run for so long lik that please help me ill rate high....thanks

ok well you cant "work out" if you dont want your muscles to get bigger...even if you run to get faster they will get bigger..but just run a lot..and pace yourself when you are

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i am a guy and i am in middle school and there is this girl that is like my best or 2nd best girl friend lets call her hilary. so hilary asked me out and i said yes then about a week later she dumps me. then a few days later she asks me out again and i say yes cuz i still liked her. then 3 days later she breaks up with me again. and then about 3 weeks later hilary asks me out agian and i said yes then she dumps me five days later and i have a feeling that she is gunna ask me out again wut should i do if she does?

i would say no because you should never try to fix something that is meant to stay apart...confusing i know..like a mirror once its broke dont try to fix it

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my friend has adrinking problem and maybe even a drug problem! do you think there might be a reason he is turning to drugs and alcohol? becuz he does get teased by many for the way he acts! and if so is there any way i can comfort him or help him out?!

signed,
Friends 'til the end

well he could be turning to drugs and alcohol from stress...you could sit down with him and tell him that you are here for him and that hes scaring you...something like that

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