im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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Ok not to be rude or anythingg but i only come to advicenators when im REALLY desperate/ upseet/sad. Ok heres the whooole story. So i started going out with this kid mike in december that i REALLY liked and we were so good for each other, for a while it was going really greatt then him and i started fighting alot and by alot i mean everyday. It got so bad to the point where he would scream at me and call me and cunt and a slut. This stuff went on forever and even tho it isnt physical abuse its emotionall abuse and i would cry every night about how hurt i was. finally we broke up and i was crushed, becuase he is the one person i havve realy loved in my life. and now i am trying to find someone else but i cant stop thinking about him i mean love overpowers all and i want to get over him so much but all my guys friends right now are taken so its so hard. Also my x bf killed himself and it hurt so much and now mike hurt me too it seems like all guys hurt. love kills
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oh im so sry i would be so heart broken i would absouetlly die if me and my current "bf" did that so i had a split second of how you must feel. but what you have to do is yes i know you heard b4 stay single for a while thats the best thing you can do for now. i sware to you if you wait the rite guy will come and you will love him and he will love you and if not then you know you guys wernt rite for eachother and that happens. im just saying from experience that when i broke up with the one i love i went straite out with another guy and i feel so bad now b.c i ididnt love him and he loved me so i had to break up with him b.c it just wasnt fair to him or me.
so i ihope i helped feel better!
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Last night I was at a party and made out with this guy (hes 18) four times. The thing is, that was my first kiss.. but I think I did pretty well. Anyways, he started with his mouth open which was sooo awkward, but then again we were both kinda drunk. Is it normal to begin with fullout french kissing.. no closed mouth kiss before?
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omg, sry but well my 2nd bf did tht i hated it i didnt like doing that the first time besides he stuck his whole tounge down my throat and i could like choke! i mean its ok my first kiss was a dare and it was closed but everyone is different if you liked it then there is nothing wrong with that. its up to you to think if it was ok or not no one else.
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I will try and explain this without rambling on. There is this guy, "Q" is what we will call him. Well I have liked "Q" for awhile. We messed around and stuff (not bad, making out, not much worse than that), but I thought he liked me and that was why he was doing stuff with me, but then I came to realize he was just using me. I don't get why he doesn't like me. He gives me mixed signals like he likes me, then he doesn't. He knows I like him (or I think he still does), so he takes advantage of that. I'm just confused..and he likes so many other girls (which I'm not part of that list). And I really really don't want to like him, but I can't help it. I might even love him, not even joking. But everytime I even think about him, he makes me cry because I know he doesn't like me. But he likes so many of my friends its unreal. When I'm around him, it's like I'm not even there.
I just need some help on this situation.
Any advice at all will be great.
Maybe some ways to get over him.
Or maybe ways for him to notice me.
I see him a lot.
Thanks for anyone who helps : ]. (link)
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i really dont know what to say but what i would do is stop what your doing with him ignore him like some other guy he will realize you dont care for him and like you but if you dont like him then it was just your brain thinking you love someone not your heart!
the heart is what leads you to love not you
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ok i'm 14/f and im 5'5 and i weigh like 110 pounds. am i like fat for my age? be honest. and dont say that its whatever i feel comfortable with or muscle weighs more than fat. i do gymnastics but only like once a week but i practice on my trampoline a lot so i do have muscular arms and some muscle in my legs.
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ok actually being that talll and weighing that much hell i wish i weighed that much you are perfect TRUST me there is nothing wrong with you to tell you the turth i weigh more than you and im the same hieght but peple say im not over weight they say i should gain wieght and im like no way im so like trying to get over crap like this and i want you to stop bugging over this too because i have reached to the point to starving myself and excersising (did it) barfing on purpose(did it) and now im at the point of takeing diet pills. im so sick of it i told my mom and she said if i keep it up she is going to send me to someone i want to kill myself everytime i think about weight and stuff like that!!! sometimes im at that point too. but i dont tell any one im still acting like im a happy girl outside but behind closed doors im crying and hurting myself, i told myself i didnt care if i died as long as i look great!! and i still dont care and everytime i look at myself in the mirror i want to throw up im so disgusted! form my experience i dont want you to go through the same things im going through now and if you are plese stop your perfect some girls would die to be like you. if you saw that movie where they say 6 is the new 14!! well if you did see that movie you probally dont remember hearing that but i do!! and idont want to be a six ever now! thats all i think about ever. so pese plese do me a favor because if i hate living outside to show ppl im happy and behind them i dont im killing myself then i dont want you to go through the same thing!!!!
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i feel like my mom is running my love life. when i was 13, i met this boy. i fell madly in love with him and to this day, 2/3 years later, i'm still crazy about him. he liked me a lot. i think he still does but he's just hurt about all of this that's been going on. my mom ADORED his best friend. she told me that if i was going to like anybody that it could only be his best friend and her mind was set. she said that the other guy was ugly and stupid. so, i pretended to like his best friend infront of her. she was so happy and every time i might have hinted that there was something for the other guy, she would get soo pissed. so, i told my best friend about what was going on, and she was the only one that knew. but, then in 8th grade, my mom saw the one she thought was ugly at a party and saw how much she thought he cared for me and she liked him and stuff. and then i was at the hospital on christmas because i had a really bad cough that was non-stop for 3 days and 3 nights and the only thing that made me stop coughing was when she said his name. she dumped my boyfriend of 1 year over the internet because she says that he was sending me inappropriate things. i thought it was gross, but it wasn't worth dumping him for. he said he was sorry. but, she really shouldn't have done that. but, i recently met this guy and she says he's ugly and she doesn't like him because he's ugly and he carries things in a bag. the only reason he brought a bag was because we were going in the pool so he brought an extra change of clothes. she finds the stupidest reasons for things. she thinks he's weird or something and he's not like that, he's a very nice person and he has excellent table manners lol. but, i'm tired or her running my love life. i feel like she wants to control who i can and can't like. i've talked to her about it, but she just doesn't understand. she doesn't think anything she does is wrong. and i think all of these 3 circumstances have everything wrong with them
1) TELLING ME I COULD ONLY LIKE HIS BEST FRIEND
2) DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!
3) TELLING ME I CAN'T LIKE A BOY BECAUSE SHE THINK'S HE'S UGLY!!!!!
now she's telling me i have to like the one she thought was ugly in the first place and i still love him, but, i'm kind of just hanging around and waiting for him to come around. because, recently he was getting into things like smoking pot and stuff and i want him to outgrow it and i also don't want to make a move on him like that. i want to hint it and stuff. but, there's nothing wrong with liking someone and him getting a little jealous with it. deep down i really care about him, but that's besides the point
it'advice about my mom please
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im sry but im going to tell you straight what you have to do! What she did and is doing still is sooooo wrong and duh you know that but if i were you when she dumped your boyfriend for you you should started talking or yelling at her saying that you dont have the rite to tell me if i can date him or not or dump any one with out me knowing. Make it clear make it crystle clear that you dont ever ever want her to be in your YOUR love life ever again you make the decisions around that area not her. You have to stand up for yourself if u dont do it now just think years from now what she will do when your going to get married is she going to say you cant get married to him because he didnt fit into his tux the first time. What it sounds like here is that she doesnt (a) wnat you to fall in love because sometimes love hurts and she doesnt want you to get hurt or (b)just doesnt want you to leave her because of a guy. she probally thinks that her liltle girl is falling in love and doesnt want her to. she loves you more and wants you to love her and just her no one else everyone else is out of the picture. so i hope i helped and you take this very seriosly tell her how you feel and if she doesnt get it than the best thing to do is to hurt (feeling i mean) that the only way it worked for me and it can work for you!
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I'm having a celeb-themed party (ive written a question on here about a red carpet), and i wondered if any of you know what type of decorations would look glam and celeb-like? (link)
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well i would say the best decorations would be like having a seperate room just put a curreten in the door way thats what u can do,and u could put like picutures of celebs on the wall it would look so cool with like glitter or cunfedy awusome! hope i helped u!!!
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I know that people say you are too young to be in love. But does that mean I can't tell my boyfriend that I love him?
13/F
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hey, i have a b/f too and im 13/f and we say we love each other all the time. if u really love him then say it dont be shy first give him a letter on line or a note in school w/e and say lets make plans this weekend go to the movies or something? sign ur name at the bottom and say love you! see what he writes back.
hope all goes well for u!
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