xbrunettecutiex's advice column

ok heres my deal, i will be moving to fl from ca and i am shy and i want to know what is the best way to present myself in a friendly manner so that will able me to make friends...??

thank you so much!

When you go to school try approaching a group of people that look friendly and go from there. If you make the first move then it will be a lot easier to meet people.

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My b-day party is coming up and i just switched skewls now i'm in a public skewl. Now the kids at my old skewl r more care free and like wut they like. The kids at my new skewl care about wut other people think accept some (key word some) of my friends. I'm a mix of both wen i'm with certain friends i'm care free, but with my other friends i'm not.I'm not having a theme party (thats just wrong for a kid my age altho i'm only 13) but i dont kno wut i should say or do. Please help me!

Just try and be nice to everyone and try to gte both groups of friends to mingle with one another. Not all of them will get along so don't force it and if its really bad hang out with each group seperatly.

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I used to like this guy for like 2 yrs. i was soo freaked out that i couldn't even talk to him.(hes a yr older than me)...well then i realized that i had a crush on a completely different guy(3 yrs. older than me) and convinced myself that i didnt like the other one anymore....now me and the 1st guy talk a LOT and its soo cool!! everytime that i talk about my new crush...he either looks away or talks w/ me...i have stopped liking the 2nd guy but i haven't told the first one yet..but my problem is that i never stopped liking the 1st one...and i think he knows....but i dont want to tell him...and loose our releationship.
~Confused

I think you should keep talking to the first guy and see what happends. Also stop talking about any other guy when you are around him because guys hate that.

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im 18 andI LOVE SEX!!
but my boyfriend is telling me there is something wrong i think hes going to break up with me cus i give him bad sex..
is that bad,,b/c i dont no if im giving it i mean i dont have sex with my self.its just frustrating
do oyu think he will break up with me cus of that or b/c of sumthing else?

Try talking to him and see what's wrong. While Talking try finding out what he likes and dislikes then try it out the next time you two are together.

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hey yall,
in vanessa carlotn's song white houses... at the middle is she talking bout her first time ot have sex? i will rate!! i just wanna know.

I never noticed that before but I was just looking at the lyrics and yea I do think she's talking about having sex for the first time.

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For a school dance I'm the music person...one problem I dont know what to play. Its a highschool dance for like the winter and stuff and one of the songs they asked me to get goes like "and in the end its right I hope you had the time of your life." but I dont know who sings it...ahhh what do i do...please help!

*no style*

Its Good Riddence by Green Day

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okay i just started my period. I have a few questions.
a)if when you put a tampon in, and in 6 hours later when you take it out. and theres blood on it.but when you wear a pad and you take it off, and theres no blood. is this a period?
b) can you bathe with tampons in?
c)is mastrubation with your period a bad idea
d)it acually hurts when i insert a tampon, could it be that i forgot to take a previous tampon out?
e)what exactly are cramps?
f)is it healthier to wear a pad or insert a tampon?
g) can you get pregnent if you are having your period?
h)is having sex with your menstrual flow an unhealthy idea?

thanks

a)yes that is your period
b)yea but I wouldn't like I would put a new one in after my shower/bath bc the string gets wet and it annoying
c)Its fine I guess but you might get blood on your hands
d)if you put a tampon in correctly it doesn't hurt
e) cramps are when the muscles in that area contract too fast or too often
f)It doesn't really matter its all in what you prefer but a tampon leaves the area much cleaner
g)If you ovulate early that cycle then yes or could get pregant since sperm can live for 2 days inside you
h)its not unhealthy but most guys i know don;t like it since it bloody and girls usually in the mood for sex during their period

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i just lost my virginity nd now im freakin out cuz we were dumbasses nd didnt use ne thin i forget wen i last had my period nd i don remember wen im supposed to get it next nd im like freakin out bout maybe bein pregnant or sumthin wut r my chances of bein pregnant?? i kno that there is a chance cuz theres always a chance but like is it a big chance or a small chance lol idk im freakin out so sumone lemme kno! thnx!!!

It depends when you last had your period. If it was about a week and half to 2 weeks ago then yout chances your preganant go up. Try going to your doctors or a clinic to get the Morning After Pill if its been less than 72 Hours since the encounter. If not wait about a week or so and get a preganancy test.

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I kinda feel liked i was always used by my b/f's..They always thought i woudl do stuff with him...I rly wish i could just meet the guy that dosen't me expect to go all the way...i want a rly good guy and thats hott..lol..to treat me right....how would i find him..?

Just keep being yourself and eventully you'll find that guy. It might take a while but not all guys expect sex from you.

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ok so i really want a thong badly, but i have alot of problems
1. what if you have your period
2. my mom wont let me she thinks im not old enough yet, but im almost in high school
3. my friends tease me about it how i am not
wearing one
4. i dont want to sneak a thong in my bedroom i would feel so guilty
what should i do

1.You don't have to wear a thong on your period but its the same as reg. underwear

2.You cant really change your mom's mind

3. Who cares what your friends think, no one should be able to see your thong.

4. It seems like you only wanna wear one bc your friends are. the point of a thong is to wear underwear but make it look like your not wearing any. Maybe when your a little older your mom will let you wear them

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what is the real definition of cheating on someone?
just wondering

Anything you wouldn't want your boyfriend/girlfriend finding out about. It could be flirting, kissing or even having sex.

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i am 13 and i have a boyfriend. i was at a football game tonight but my boyfriend wasnt there. These other guys were there, and i found out that they liked me. it was like 4 guys. it was really cold out and i was doing anything to get warm, even if it meant that i had to hold one of the guys hands. we went into the parking lot, well kinda parking lot, and all the guys except one were touching me and hugging me and stuff. i feel guilty about hurting my boyfriend's feelings, even though he doesnt know about it yet. Did i cheat on him, and should i or shouldnt i tell him about it? Im afraid that if i tell him that he would break up with me, plus all the guys and i promised we wouldnt tell him about it....WHAT SHOULD I DO?
signed,
~*~dazed and confused~*~

Cheating is anything that you wouldn't want your boyfriend to find out about, or you think would hurt him. I would tell your boyfriend about it and see what happens. If he breaks up with you just learn from it and move on.

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I have always heard that if your wrapper of a Tootsie Roll Pop has the indian shooting a star you can send it in to get a free Tootsie Pop. Is this actually true, and if so who do you send it to?

I've heard that too since I was really little. here is the official website http://www.tootsie.com/ check that out and see if it is true

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I want to get Windows XP and i was just wondering where i can get it? how much is the average cost? and is there anyone i can get it online?

Most new computers come with it but you can get it at like Best Buy, Office Depot, most office supply stores should have it. It usually costs around $200.00 and no you can not get it online.

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Where can I find lyrics to songs at. I tried www.dapslyrics.com but it wont let me in. Thanks.

www.letssignit.com and www.lyred.com and www.lyrics.com

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what's a good brand for a hair straightener, and what's a good product to put on before you straighten it (that thermal care stuff, not the shampoo kind... bah, i wish i knew the name!)

The Conair straightener is really good its white with the gold plates. Its around $20, really cheap compared to others. Thermal Care shampoo and conditoner will help you hair from being fried by the straightener and I think each bottle is around $2-$3 each.

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Alright... So I just held a party which started about five hours ago and ended around 11:00 pm. 8th period today I invited one of my guy friends at the last minute. I told him that he couldn't bring anybody but himself, since there were already going to be a lot of people and my mother would flip if someone she didn't know, showed up at our house uninvited. He told me his friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time was coming to visit, but I told him that he couldn't bring him for reasons I already stated. It was basically an open invitation, if he could come alone, then he could come, but if he couldn't, then that was too bad. So, a little bit before the party after a few early people arrived, he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and was wondering if he could come a few minutes early. I said it was fine, and he came... with a friend in tow... I was a little pissed, but I let it slide for the time being. Well, a little while later after basically everyone arrived, he "pretended" to steal some of my DVD's and lots of food. Then, a few minutes later, he calls me over and says he's got a "shitload of alcohol" in his car. Now, my friends and I are not into that kind of stuff, and it made me really uncomfortable. I basically told him I thought he should leave. He got a little pissed but agreed to it. His friend was kind of just sitting there the whole time, not talking. So they got up and stood at the food table for a while and just hung out. I was really pissed and worried at the time, cuz one of my other freinds was threatening to leave (the alcohol comment made her really uncomfortable), so I said "Are you just going to loiter there?". He got really pissed then, and then left with his friend. A few minutes later he called all heated and was saying "You were really rude to me, and the alcohol thing was just a joke" which I didn't believe, because he only said it was a joke after I expressed my discontent. So then I told him again why he had to leave, and he was just like "yeah whatever, fuck you" and hung up. Now, I've thought about it over and over and my friends say that he's a jerk and I have every right to be angry. But I'm not sure... Was any of this my fault? I feel I made it very clear that he wasn't supposed to bring anyone, and that if he wanted to spend time with his friend, he should do so. We could always hang out some other time. It's not like he's doing me some huge favor by coming. I just need to know, for my own sanity, do I have the right to be angry? Thanks... Pom

you have every right to be mad. When you invited him you made it clear that he couldn't bring any friends. It was nice that you did let that one friend slide bc I probably would have too. But he had NO right to do those things to you. I would have kicked him out to. So don't feel bad at all. He was the promblem not you.

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i didnt know where to put this but when you get your braces off, how do they do it and does it hurt? thanks :)

First they take off the wires then they use pilers to take off the brackets it doesn't really hurt it just feels a little werid

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