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Q: Hey does anyone know any good sites for xanga music? I've already tried google. Not videos or anything, just a site that will have the song. Oh, and if it helps, I want Akon's Lonely. Thanks.

i think that is the code! if it doesn't let me know and i'll figure it out!

*jEn

Q: Okay, my mom is making me see a shrink, because she thinks that I need to let out my feelings. I HATE shrinks. I just hate them!! I used to go see one and then i would just leave! I dont want to go, but I dont know how to get out of it! PLEASE HELP ME! I FIND SHRINKS SUCH A WASTE OF TIME!!!!!!!!!!!

~Melissa~

As do I!! Well try talking it out with your mom. Instead of going to a shrink you could right in a journal or something that would let your feelings out without seeing a professional.

Q: I have been talking to this guy (we'll call him chris) and his friend (lets call him anthony) has been calling me and stuff. They are like brothers. Chris had asked me to go to the movies but i said i couldnt. and Anthony asked me to the movies too and i told him i couldnt either but i invited anthony to a softball game...and chris got mad at me and anthony. i dont know if chris likes me or something. and if he does i dont wanna mess up their friendship but i really like Anthony...what should i do?
*ill give u a 5 ranking* thanks

I say if you really like Anthony then go for it. Yes, Chris will get mad but you can't help it that you don't like him! Make yourself happy! If you don't then you'll be with no 1!! Life's to short to wonder about if someone else would be mad!

Q: Do you know any good Country songs or any hip/rap or pop songs! any suggestions welcome

Well i listen to some Counrty.. I personal Love Gretchen Wilson!!! But for Pop and hip/rap.. um I don't know I like Mario.. He's good!

Q: Does anybody have fun summer ideas for sleepover parties...
Im 14/girl
i have a trampoline

If you have a pool go swimming, rent scary movies and freak every1 out! (i love doing that) Make up games, just make sure you have fun!! that's what summer is really about right?

Q: ok.... well i have been going out w/ this boy for about 4 months now and i really love him alott!!!! so i am 14 and goin into high school and yaa. so and latley my boyfriend has wanted to go to 3rd base w/ my (down muh pants) i no he is ready and i trust him but i dont now if im still to young or if i should jus do it or wait mann i am so confused ill rate 5

If you truly ready for him to do that and you believe he is ready then go for it! If you are confused and aren't sure... wait a while! there's no rush!!

*jEn

Q: alright how do i say this my bf is coming in from out of town its been like a yr since ive seen him. now when i see him what should i do like i kno he is gonna call me and come to my house thing is when he comes i know autimatically im gonna like run out and jump on him huggin him and etc. but like ok if we go back into my house or somethin like what r some things we should talk about or whatever? like how should i dress and how should i do my hair?? lol!! please help me!!

Well, you defithylh worring about this to much. But i know what your feeling. When you go back into your house just talk about what you've both been doing, how are you,etc. You should dress how you feel. Were something nice but not like Prom Queen. A pair of hot Jeans and Rockin top always does the trick!! and were your hair down!! guys like that.!!

Q: Yes, I'm going into high school next year and yes, I am freaking nervous. I know it's not as exaggerated as the movies make it seems, what with the plastics and all, but I'm not quite sure what to expect. Somebody enlighten me?

Well next year i'm going to be a sophmore.. so i went through this last year! RELAX!! everything will be fine! people make it seem like high school is a big hell hole! but it's not.. One piece of advice i will give you that i wished someone told me from the very begining.. It's One Big Competition!!!

*jEn

Q: This is your typical situation, I fell for my best friend. Guy, I'm straight. I never meant to fall for him, neither did I really want to, but I did. I'm pretty sure he likes me back, the thing is he's quite..self-kept, and you know all guys run from feelings. Well, to me anyways. There's also another major problem, I moved a few years back and so now we're seperated by land and water aka, I'm in a different country than he is studying. I fall hard when I fall, I'm just not too sure what to do now. Should I still wait? Because I definitely have been waiting a really long time, anybody have any similar situations happen to them and would like to share their advice? I'm 14 btw.

I have had the exact same situation..My best friend who was a guy (me a girl) i fell for him hard 2!! like it was an akward thing though.. but anyway he moved away for about 7 months.. idk why though.. but when he came back he had feelings for me and we loved each other. And i'm happy 2 say we've been in a relationship now for about 2 and 1/2 years!! So if i can wait so can you! Time will go way faster than you think!!

*jEn

Q: I'm taking a two week lifeguarding class and I have a huge crush on this guy in my class. You think I'd have a pretty good chance... (there are only 2 other girls in the class and about 17 guys.) But he doesn't talk! I think I've heard him say about 3 things ... "yeah" "i know" "ok". he sits kinda off by himself. The "i know" was when i told him that his shirt was backwards and inside out ... (trying to start a conversation). I'm shy myself so it's hard for me to initiate anything and just being the one to approach him was hard. how do i get him to open up a bit without being pushy? and i need to get his # within the next two weeks or i'll probably never see him again!

Even though your shy (i am to) if you really like him then you should so talk to him!! If you really do like him go for it. Don't wait around till the last day! Do whatever your comfortable with!! let me know how it goes!!

*jEn

Q: ohk so i was really upset one day because it is almost a year that my best friend passed away (rip) and i feel so sad right now, so then i took the blade and i cut its not a big deal or anything i also wanted to see how it felt like. well now its like a craving to cut and i keep doing it and im not even sad its just addicting. i feel so gay and stupid because i think im just doing this for attention ! god what should i do ?? and dont call me lame or poser because i alreay know i am !

Well honestly you may think that it feels good, but it can really hurt you! I know it's addicting for you but you really need to stop and think about what your doing..Your harming your body and yourself but cutting it!

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mmm.. well i'm 15 years old! i go to Alan B. Shepard. I am now a Sophmore!!! yay!! i Love softball, singing, dancing (when no 1 is watching), hanging wit friends!!! I am a Chad Michael Murray-acholic and i REFUSE to go to rehab!! I am also in love with the t.v. show ONE TREE HILL!!! if you wanna know anything else just ask!!