Hey i'm volunteergirl and i play softball, i dance, and i'm an activist at my school. I love giving advice and i hope you check out my column!!!
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Last Update: July 15, 2009
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how do i keep the girl im with for a very longtime we really are attracted and like eachother alot its me being scared to lose her? how do i keep her for a longterm relationship
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Dude, don't worry. You should just enjoy the time you have with her. There is nothing you can ever do to make them stay with you. If they're not into you, they're not into you. If you love her and she loves you only time will tell.
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volunteergirl
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okay so like im wondering how you get eyeliner to stay in like a perfectly black line on your lower lash line. Where do you apply it and what is a good brand of eye liner to use? (link)
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Hey, a good brand of eyeliner is Mac i use it all the time. You should ask the ladies at the store how you keep it perfectly on you lower lash line.
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15/F/PA and he is 18/M/PA
My boyfriend of 5 months dumped me and he said he didnt know why and that he still loved me but he dosnt want to be with me. now he wont talk to me and I dont know what to do. He let me keep my stuffie he gave me but i dont under stand why he would dump me but want me to keep the stuff and why he still loved me (link)
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Hey girly, i would just like to say that maybe he just wants someone new and something fresh you know. I mean that he will always love you but you might not be his ideal girlfriend, you might be the type he would rather marry. Just give it time and everything will be put into place. Another thing to remember is that you don't need a man to be special.
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I understand what youdo with your tongue when you make out but I dont at the same time. I get that it goes it the other persons mouth, but what do you do with it from that point? How do you move what do you do exactly? Plus any tips would be helpful (link)
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Okay makeout help, first i would like to warn you anout the germs that this can cause but if you really want to all you have to do is massage the other person's tongue.
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My best friend is really pretty. Guys are constantly talkiing to her and commenting on her looks. I feel so awkward just standing therewhile all the guys are allhitting on her. I mean--i'm not ugly but they never do anything like that to me. i feel extremely ugly when i'm with her.I feel bad to be saying this,, but what should i do? liek i feel like im jealous of her maybe?? I don't have a low self esteem any other time--it's just with her. I try not to let it get to me--but after a while it does. How do i get guys to pay attention to me too? and what else should i do? (link)
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Hey girl, just chill and if you're that insecure of your inner and outer beauty when you're with her, just tap her on the shoulder and say i'll catch up with you later and walk away.
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Im 14 nearly 15. I live in England, London.
Well, basicly I really want to become a cheerleader. I want to know that before i try out, is there anything I could do at home to make me more flexible or anything like that. Anything that could help me increase my chance of being on a squad.
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Hey better cheerleader, somethings you could do at home are 50 push-ups and sit-ups at night before you go to bed. You should also get a chair and hold on to it while doing toe-touches. You should practice doing your scorpio, hurkey,and any gymnastic stunts.
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I'm 16/F and I have never had a boyfriend nor have I ever been on a real date. I think that is really unusual. I mean, people have said I am nice, smart, and sometimes funny, maybe shy at times but usually outgoing. I may not be the prettiest girl around but I rarely show a lack in self-confidence. So, what can I do to make guys more interested in me? And is this really unusual?
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hey 16 and alone, first i would like to point out that you don't need a man to feel special. I also don't think this is weird or unusual. Just give it time as far as the whole dating thing goes, your special guy will come.
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i cant stand to be home anymore my parents are always complaining about crap i didnt even do they annoy me sooo much, but i cant just get up and leave, anyone have advise? (link)
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Hey, now depending on your age, like if you are 18 or older you have the choice to move out. If you feel you aren't ready just sit down and talk with your parents. Let them know how you feel and they will understand, because they can't help you unless you tell them what's wrong.
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okay well im trying to use my itunes gift card on itunes (obviously) to buy a song. i typed in my code on there, and it said this card had already been redeemed. i typed my code in before but i didnt buy anything. so, since my card was already redeemed, how can i buy songs? (link)
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Okay, you should go to the real itunes store and get someone to help you there.
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I just got on birth control a month ago.. I have took all the blue pills and three of the green pills in the center.. I know this is really gross, but over the past couple of days i've been bleeding like brown blood instead of red cus by now I should of already started my period.. The only person i've told is my mom and she said she would take me to the doctor if it didnt get better.. But i dont wanna go unless its something bad.. I'm so scared and dont know what to do cus I dont want to be pregant if thats what it is. But i have no clue... Has this ever happen to anyone else? Or does anyone have any ideas what it might be? Thanks so much.. (link)
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Hey, birth control girl i can't really give you advice on something like that. It seems more like a personal problem and maybe you should talk to your mom more instead of people on the internet.
Thanks so much and remember to come back for more advice.
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13/f
I've been really forgetful lately (just about everything), and i've just been really stupid (like asking question that the answer is like DUHHHHH, then after I ask im just like...ohhhhhhhh!)
I can tell my friends are getting reallllyyy annoyed with me..what can i do? is this a mental condition, or am i just going through the normal cycle of puberty?
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Hey, if you feel that this is a mental condition go talk to your parent or guardian and ask them to see a doctor. Personally i don't think this is a case of puberty, this happens to everyone every once in a while. Just think before you speak next time.
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My best friend is going through a lot of crap in his life as far as his family and his dad's drug issues and such (which wouldn't have been a huge deal if his dad wasn't in a coma 3 years ago and is finaly getting his life back, but he's wasting it on druggies and neglecting his son.. plus his mom isn't in his life so hes being raised by grandparents and such because his dad is a mess)
So we were tight but recently he started treating me like $hit! He gives me dirty looks a lot of the time and it hurts like he11! I'm supposidly one of his best friends here. He's being nice to EVERYONE except me. he's being nicer to my good friend Aly than he is to me.
I just feel so hurt that he's taking out his issues on me. He claims he doesn't hate me and that when i ask stupid questions like "do you hate me" he gets bothered. And he also mentioned that i can be quite annoying at times.
So i'm not sure what to do...
I know he's going through crap... so should I be there for him to make him feel cared for as i was trying to do,
Or Should i just walk away for a while and let him be? (and see if he misses my prescence in his life and appologises or alteast starts being nicer to me)
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Hi, maybe the fact that you have been there for him so long that he needs a little space. Try not talking to him about his crappy life. Instead talk about things that you think would make him happy. Don't be so pushy and hang out with him 24/7. Give him his space so he doesn't feel suffocated. Everything should be better in a week.
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volunteergirl
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15/f. Well all girls have feelings of horneyess lol, although guys do too. What do yall think its fair that guys can be open about this feeling and its all good, like asking girls "can you suck me up?". But girls if they express any of their sexual feeling or disires they are kind of like a slut or hoe? What are your feelings on that? Cause its been in my mind for a quick minute. (link)
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Well, i feel girls can do anything a guy can do, only we can do it in high heels. I hope this helps.
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so i really wanna get a haircut with a lot of short layers, but i dont have thick hair (my hair isnt like super thin, but its not thick either) will a hairstyle with lots of short layers work? ive wanted this style for a long time so yeahh...um if it doesnt work could i maybe get short layers but not that many? just to like accent it or something?
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YOu should talk to your hair sylist about this, she would have more experience in this category than me. If you can't cut it you should look at your other options like dying it or getting extentions.
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ok..so i'm planning on having sex with my bf for the first time soon
i want to know if there is anything i should do before i go over and do it.
i have no idea weather to shave a certain way?
what guys like down there?
or anything like that
my biggest fear is that we will finally have sex
and he will be disappointed in me
and if i do shave what happens if i cut myself or have razor burn
will he think thats gross? (link)
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Okay, calm down first up. If you're that worried maybe you should try talking to one of your responsible friends or better yet one of your parents to see if they aprove of what you're doing. As far as shaving goes if you feel that you are that harry you should ask one of your friends to help you. If it turns out that he is disapointed in the sex then that makes him a manhore and he isn't the right guy for you. My last piece of advice is that if you are this worried about sex maybe you aren't ready for it yet. Don't feel pressured to have it. Sex is something that should be cherished not rushed. I also hope you are of age to be having sex and are on the pill and/or using a condom. You should be more worried on having safe sex not how great it is.
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latley, me and my best friend have been drifting apart.
im usually not the jealous type;
actually i really never am
but this time; i have to admit...
i am jealous.
even how much that takes out of me.
my best friend, who i usually hang out with everyday and/or talk on the phone for 3478590 hours, is hanging with another person, someone who ive known ever since the 6th grade- a close friend but not best friend
ANYWAYS
theyve been hanging out alot latley
meaning NO phone calls and deffinatly no attention towards me.
lets call my best friend "Mary"
this has been happening for a week now; and its aggrivating me.
"Mary" would come up to me and tell me her fun time with - lets call her "Julie"- .."julie";
I would put on a fake smile and an occasional laugh- but deep inside it would hurt.
I only know why she would be telling me this- because she WANTS me to feel something.
Shes the jealous type-VERY JEALOUS and she has told me that she thinks i could be one.
Maybe she wants me to be jealous?
her NEW friend.
i knoooww we have other friends
but... coming to me to tell me your little party and bragging how her and "julie" had SUCH a great time on their sleepover... isnt such a positive thing about 'other friends'.
like today;
MARY: Hey what are you doing tonight?
ME: uhhh. hmm idont know yet?
MARY: oh im having another sleepover with JULIE; man it feels like ive been spending alot of time with that girl..
ME: hmph.thats..cool.
Why-- would you.. UGH
I HATE JEALOUSY.
ive never been fond of it myself;
but here i am giving it off.
advice?
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Hey, don't be mad or start to get jealous. Maybe your friend is mad at you and trying to get back at you. Just talk to her and if that doesn't work try hanging out with her and her new friend. It's okay to have more than one best friend.
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Ok, so I'm a 16 year old girl and one of my best friends is a guy and he is turning 16 in a couple months and i know boys are hard to shop for so i decided to start brain-storming early. I don't really know what to get him so if you have any ideas that would be great. Also he is interested in: scotland (he is part of the Sinclair clan), paintball, fencing, BMX, japan and the martial arts, video games, anime, the renaissance era, and fantasy
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated and naturally i can't get anything really expensive. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Hey,shopping for a teenage boy. My best friend is a boy as well so i can totally relate when it comes to gift buying. You want something he will be happy with not the fake kind of happy where he puts on a smile to make you happy. So i would recomend you get him a fifteen dollar gift card to some kind of game place, a book on the renaissance era or martial arts depending on the price of the book. Lastly i would get him some paint for his paintball gun.
Thanks so much and remember to come back again for more advice.
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