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does sex take your virginity like tampons?

can someone tell if you had sex?

I agree with the person below me, but technically, tampons won't take your virginity. And even so, your hymen can break without sex or tampons, especially during sports.

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so i already asked a question about dark back and stomach hairs.. and people said to bleach it instead of waxing or shaving, but until i can find a bleaching kit and stuff, do you think it would be ok to just shave it for now, and then bleach the dark hairs after they grow back? thanks a ton!!

Whatever you do, DON'T shave it! Wax if you have to.

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I am going for a spray tan on Thursday and the salon have advised me to wear dark, loose fitting clothes and flip flops between tanning and showering, which is not advised for at least eight hours. The trouble is that I am due to go out a couple of hours after the tan and don't really have any dark, loose fitting clothes I could wear. It also isn't really warm enough in the UK to wear flip flops.

Has anyone had a spray tan before? Would it be okay to just wear normal clothes when I go out as long as they are dark?

I've gotten one before, and I also recommend wearing dark loose fitting clothing because the spray on may go onto your clothes, which is why they say dark, and loose fitting is also so that it rubs off less (because it'll do that before you're completely dry) and so that your skin can breathe easier.

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does it hurt when your cherry pops? and how do you know if it popped or not?

It depends; sometimes it'll pop just from a tampon, or if you play sports it could pop and you may not even notice. If it's during sex, it may hurt a bit, but it'll hurt less if you're somewhat more relaxed.
And when it pops it'll bleed.

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i was wondering if anyone knew of some good movies??

heres the kinda movies i like so anything like any of these:
thirteen
grandmas boy
rent
superbad

i love comedys,but even more so i oddly love movies about teenagers,and their issues,like sex drugs and things like that

you might also like juno :)

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Ok so if I want my sex to be smooth and painless, could I use a large dildo to stretch my vagina? How much should I use it?

it's MUCH easier (painwise)if you're more relaxed and calm your first time.

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sorry this is a wierd question, but what does it mean to pop someones cherry?? thanks!

It means to break the hymen, a thin layer of membrane stretched across the vagina several inches in.
It won't necessarily break by only sex, but can break from tampons, and sports.

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I am 110 llbs, and 5'3". I wear a 26 in jeans, and a 34D bra is too small. Oh yeah and I'm 16 years old.
Is this normal?

I've answered a question like this yesterday, but I'm not sure if you're the same person or just real similar to the other.
But I was near the same as you were, if anything, the same size, just I'm a 34DD and 17. So yes, it's ok! I have many other friends who are bigger than I am even! Take a look at your family history (like old pictures and such) to see if the chest runs in your family on either side.
Don't let people tell you you're too big!
You're fine the way you are, even though you may feel sometimes frustrated by the attention you'll get from boys.
Just think: Some girls are stuck with a 32AA chest in their 20s.
So you're pretty lucky!

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I am 110llbs, 16 years old, a jean size of 26, and a 34D bra is too small.
Is this normal?

I was near the same as you were, so yes, it's ok!
Don't let people tell you you're TOO big!
You're fine the way you are, even though you may feel sometimes frustrated by the attention you'll get from boys.
Just think: Some girls are stuck with a 32AA chest in their 20s.

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What do I do???
A few years back I had the same situation happen with another one of my friends..See the thing is though I didn't like him more than a friend...Ever since he told me he loved me that friendship has never been the same...Well now its happening again...Another friend of mine just told me he liked me more than a friend...Thing is I don't like him more than a friend plus I have a boyfriend...I don't want to mess up the friendship but What can I do???
Please Help!

Oh this is always fun. No I'm just kidding. I just had this happen to me, except add the fact how a few years back I was the one who liked him a lot and he only thought of me as his best friend. And then, this year, he told me he liked me. I told him I needed some time to think on it. And then a few days later, after some serious thought of what to say, I told him how he was my best friend, which made the whole thing harder to do. And that the way I see it, our friendship wasn't work risking for a few months (hey maybe years, but not forever) years of happiness, and that I couldn't picture my life without him, so I wouldn't change a thing. I guess it also depends on the type of guy he is, and how you act. Because you said how in that last experience with the friend liking you, the friendship had never been the same. Also, point out the fact you have your own boy, and are happy with him.
Hope I helped, and message me if you have anymore questions.
=)

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Okay, well Im 17 and going on the birth control pill but I don't know how to take it. Im going on Levlen ED pills and its a 21 day with 7 inactive. How do i take it? Is there a calender I could use with the coloured days of when to take and stop? Also, Im planning on going to my boyfriend's house in 13 days so is there any way i can delay my periods by then??

In the box should be an information/directions pamphlet. It'll have A LOT to read, but when I started mine, it's what I did cause I had NO idea what to do, and cause every brand is different, I can't tell you exactly.
Hope it helped. Message me if you have need anything else. =)

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15/f
So I shaved "Down there" just because like, I was curious and stuff. So now its like thereare little red bumps, and they're kind of itchy so I looked up this stuff and "Pubic Lice" came up. Can you get pubci lice from shaving? Also, a while back my sex ed teacher said "If you shave and you get red bumps and stuff its easier to get STD's" Is that true?! Help.

Well for one, shaving can actually help GET RID of pubic lice. And it's actually really common to get those red bumps, they're razor burns, so just make sure to use something while you shave: some people use shaving cream, conditioner (like the stuff for your hair, it works on legs too), or just a lot of plain soap.

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so ive had my period for about 2 and half years now, and i still dont know how to put a tampon in. its really embaressing too because when i go away to camp [Im on the swim team at my camp] and i get my period, its embaressing to tell my friends/the coach that i cant swim because of it. should i know how to by now? its been 2 years! the thing is. i did tried this one time in 7th grade, my friends pool party which i was so excited to go to and wear my new bikini and then i got my period and im like okay putting a tampon in cant be that bad. omg it is. it hurtsss like idk why it bothers me. i just dont like that feeling of sticking something up me. why am i so weirdd haha. and i try again every now and then, but no luck. as soon as i try and put it in, even just trying to stick a finger in there, i flinch. like i just cant do it. what should i do??? my mom doesnt know what to tell me either, im worried. please help me

The first few times you put in & take out, it may hurt/feel funny. But eventually, you get used to it.
If not I suggest asking your mom/doctor.

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14/f

Okay I recently noticed that I've developed stretch marks on my thighs. I've read that they develope because of weight gain, but I exercise all the time, I'm a runner you see? I'm 5'5 and 115 pounds, so what I'm asking is...will they go away as I get older, and when exactly?

First off, don't worry, not all stretch are caused by weight gain. I suggest using a cream, preferably one with the ingredient "Lanolin" in it, every night before bed (daily, just before bed is easier), and after a while, they should fade, though depending how dark they are now, maybe not completely.

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This is an emergency...
Im gaining so much weight from taking "the pill" so anyone or anybody kno any diff type of birth control method that doesn't make u gain weight and makes u have fewer menstrual periods? Please need help asap!
Thanx so much in advance!

I'm on tricyclen-lo, and I haven't gained any weight at all. If anything, I think I may have lost weight. Not once have I felt bloated, or sick, or had any bad side-effects.

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I'm 16/f and I'm finally realizing now that I think I may have ADD. I've had trouble focusing my entire life and now it's worse than ever. I plan to ask my doctor about it. Can you tell me what your own experiences with ADD are so I can see if I can match them up with any of my own? Also, for anyone who has been on medication for it, how has it changed you or made the problems better? Thank you!

When I was younger I had ADHD, so basically, I had hyperactivity added onto the package. I'd get easily distracted - and not just by loud or obvious distractable things, but things that most kids could ignore. Sometimes, I would say or do things that later on I'd think "Um, what was I thinking?!"
And the medication does wonders, it really does. I found it knocked my appetite a little bit, but that was about it. I would take it only once (in the morning), and throughout the day, I was quieter, and concentrated. All of my school marks improved, as did the relationships with people.
Hope it helped you out.
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Whenever I masturbate, I have an orgasm, but when I have sex with my boyfriend, I don't. It feels good but I never hit that point. I can't tell him because then he would know that I faked it every time but I want to be able to orgasm from him..any suggestions? I tried focusing really hard on how good it felt, but it wasn't much help.

This may not help much, but when you're having sex, relax more. If you focus too much on having the orgasm, you won't be able to because it's like you're trying to pressure yourself to have one. Also, if you know where you're spot is (assuming you have one) during sex you can subtly move/shift your hips or whatever you need to so that it helps him without having to say "Like this or here" kinda thing.

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