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When I have sex, I can feel this barrier inside my vagina? When I lost my virginity I thought my "cherry" popped, so what is this barrier? It feels like a petruding tissue of some kind..? I really want to get pregnant, but I think this is preventing it, so what do I do? (link)
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Your hymen doesn't "break" the first time you have sex. This is a common misconception. It does tear and over time, most of it is no longer intact. But for a large amount of women, their hymens are still impartially intact until they give birth.
But the "barrier" you're feeling, might actually be your cervix. Some women have a lower cervix, which makes deeper penetration difficult. It does not prevent you from getting pregnant, and even if you had a fully intact hymen and semen made it's way into your vagina, you'd still have the same risk of becoming pregnant.
There's nothing abnormal about you, and every vagina is designed differently. There's nothing you can do, but there's also nothing to worry about.
I do hope though that you're an adult, and you're absolutely positive you're wanting to become pregnant. Many people aren't educated enough regarding sex and the repercussions. Having a child is a very difficult thing to do physically, mentally, emotionally and financially.
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a guy i like asked me to go to the movies with him and always picks me up and is so sweet, i do really like him hes perfect, but hes ben a druggie for a few years and finally sobering up. my friends dont like him around, my best friend gravely hates him, and we dodge my mom because hes always smelt of smoke. yet two of my girls who see me with him like him cuz theyv seen his sweet side.
that sounds very harsh but hes sobering up for me, and hes so protective of me so i dont get into drugs and from other guys. he is a pure gentleman, picks me up, tries to pay, holds me like im his world. i always told him i wont kiss a smoker when hed ask tho, iv never kissed him.
yet he picked me up n we went with his friends out to eat one day a while back, he got high and wouldnt drive me home he left to party, i had one of his friends drive me home and we got lost. il never forget that. hes the sweetest guy in the world now though, idc that he was a druggie, but then i look back at it.. i do really like him but should i try and move on? does the good outweigh the bad? does the past matter? am i over reacting? any advice on this topic. 16/f (link)
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This gentleman certainly does have a colorful past. And ANY addiction, not just a drug addiction, is very difficult to overcome. Many relapses happen, and often these people (even if everything else about them is "good") are completely unstable individuals, which is why they develop addictions so easily. I'm glad he treats you with the utmost respect, I really am, but my advice to you is to move on and spare yourself anymore emotional damage.
If you'd like to be his friend and offer support, do so by all means. But do NOT let him weasel his way back into your heart. Keep your distance. I'm not saying cut ties with him and that he'll never change, but if you ever want something long-term with him, you need to wait until he's sober for quite some time. This is only a trial period in his life right now, and you don't need this turmoil in yours when there are plenty more fish in the sea, with less complications attached.
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i want to know if a 14 year old guy likes me. Im 13 and we were hanging out with so friends, he doesnt talk much.I noticed that he keep looking at me and smileing so I started smileing back but he never talked to me. So do you think he likes me? (link)
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There's no way to know if he likes you unless he makes a move first, or you just ask if he's interested, point blank.
It seems like he might be shy and is interested but doesn't know how to approach you. Approach him instead and engage him in conversation and see where it goes.
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18/f. Ok soo, about 3 years ago, in the summer for a week straight, I had really bad stomach pains. I did not throw up or even have like diarreha. But i remember feeling nauseous abs just a sour stomach. Since then, I've had a hard time eating certain foods. At first, it was just very spicy foods, but now it's just like pizza. For awhile I would take Tylenol like any time my stomach hurt just a little. So, after that I thought the whole thing was in my head, so still never went to the doctor. I've stopped taking Tylenol and i'm still getting the stomach pains.
It's not cramps, and I don't do drugs or take any medication. I've also stayed the same consistent weight.
So does anyone know what this is or has experienced it? (link)
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It could be a myriad of things.
I'd advise you to go to a doctor if this is troubling you, which it sounds like it is. None of us can properly diagnose you.
You might be prone to stomach ulcers, have acid reflux, and a certain medication could easily fix your problems.
It's not "in your head", and as a person who lives with Acid Reflux Disease, I'm quite familiar with the aversion toward spicy/greasy foods and the general discomfort.
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ok, i really like this guy, but I'm not gunna say his real name, ok? let's say his name is....Jake, ok, Jake. well, i really like "jake" and we've been great friends ever since before Pre-K! and, i could tell he's always kinda liked me because of the way he looks at me, he smiles, ans his face gets all lit up, it's cute =]..anyways! i didn't see him for a while last year, we go to different schools and now we only see each other every monday in the summer, apparently, last year, he got a girlfriend, she's a year younger than "jake", a little chubby, and just plain EW. did he move on? is there no chance left for me? should i move on to someone else? (link)
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Irregardless of what his girlfriend looks like, he's definitely moved on. And so should you.
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I am going into the modeling business and I'm fairly short. I only have modeled for magazine and am starting now to go into a few commercials (local) and hoping to expand. But, i need to lose a few pounds so that I can do swimsuit. I'm not very large but I've put on a few pounds because I was taking some medication a few months ago and I haven't really been able to get them off. I haven't really dedicated myself either. I mean, I go to the gym and all that but I've been maintaing myself, you know? If I really wanted to, I could lose all the weight in a month. This is really important to me. I need to stick to a diet that works and I need to have the motivation to do it. I also want to feel better about myself. Like I said, I'm not overweight. But, I just need to shed a few pounds because this is the modeling industry. Can anyone offer me any advice to help keep myself more motivated?? please?? thank you and God bless you (link)
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Buy yourself some sticky notes in two different colors.
On one, write one positive aspect of losing weight and how it'd benefit you not just in your career but health wise. Write anything inspirational, but keep it honest.
On the other, write one negative thing about keeping the extra weight on. This is the "temptation" note, the part of your mind that filters all the good out.
When you're done, stick them to your mirror, a notebook, anything, and the pro's will outweigh the con's.
Whenever you're doubting yourself, compare both notes.
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hey i was just wondering how can u tell for sure that you are ready for sex? (link)
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When you're prepared to deal with sex's repercussions and have some stability in life.
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so im a goalie in lacrosse and i get a TON of bad bruises. my legs are covered in them, and then the brusies i already have get hit again which makes it worse. i wear full equipment, (leg padding, shin guards, etc.) getting bruises as a goalies in inevitable. what i want to know is..
1. Are there serious long term health issues that come with lots of bruising.
2. Is there any advice you can give me on how to make the bruises feel better.
thank you in advance! (link)
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In theory, there are no health risks that arise from the bruising itself. However, if the bruises were due to the blood thinning, or drugs or even some type of surgical procedures, then yes. In which case, you'd likely be given vitamin C or K.
If you go to a vitamin shoppe or a health food store, you can get Arnica cream which is used to heal bruises.
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my reeaaaallly close friend just got diagnosed with MRSA. she is a volleyball player and its on her knees. she's had it since janurary and she didn't know it til now, march. how should i stay away form it and not catch it? what can i do to prevent it? how can oneself get it? (link)
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http://www.amm.co.uk/files/factsabout/fa_mrsa.htm Everything you need to know. :)
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what are some songs similar to "breathe me" by Sia? (link)
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Quite a few songs off Frou Frou's only album has a similar vibe.
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Help, I have flesh coloured discharge with small clots on 35 days of menstrual cycle with abdominal pain. What could be wrong with me? Should I see a doctor? (link)
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Yes, any time you have abnormal discomfort or have discolored discharge you should consult your doctor.
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like this the DOG is big! i only want the word dog to appear big and bold please help me? (link)
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http://www.funkychickens.com/fonts2.asp
A great website for basic HTML.
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how do i get over my ex boyfriend when he used to be a really close friend and i like being his friend but im still in love with him and its hard to get over him because he is always around because he hangs out with the same people i do. wat do i do? (link)
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Unfortunately, there's no way to stop your brain from actively thinking about him. There's no magical pill to take in "getting over" anyone, sadly, but there are steps to take to ease the process.
There's a saying among women, and as funny as it might seem, it's too true: "retail therapy". Try hanging out with a few select friends and enjoy their company and pampering yourself. I realize that it's hard having an ex who shares the same social circle, but that's why you pick activities he more than likely won't come along on.
Meanwhile you'll be able to get out and socialize, interact with other people, and as time goes on, the heartbreak will ease.
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This is a really weird question, I know, and you're probably going to think I'm making a big deal over nothing. I was going out with this guy in a band, and we broke up in December. It was a bad break up and he was really bad to me. Anyway, in the time we went out (3 months) I became fairly good friends with the other two in the band. One in particular I really liked. I recently found out this one has left the band, and from what it sounds like it was under pretty bad circumstances. Anyway I recently found him on Facebook, and I really want to add him. However, I'm not sure if this would be weird? I really liked him and enjoyed speaking to him (as a friend) We go to the same college too, but I haven't seen him around. I haven't seen him since my ex and I broke up. I know it's only Facebook, and people add each other all the time there. I just don't want to make him uncomfortable and I can't decide.
So to add or not add? Thanks (link)
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Facebook, much like Myspace, is a networking website. Therefore, I don't see anything "weird" about you requesting him as a friend. I doubt he would either.
It might be weird if you've never met him and are a balding 50 year old man, but that's an entirely different story.
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I have been trying to get in shape for a long time. I've gone on diets, and I basically know what to eat & how to exercise.
What I need is ideas on how to keep this change as a lifestyle, and not something temporary...
Also, once I hit a plateau, it's really hard to stay on the diet because it stops working for me...
Any suggestions?
Thanks for your time (link)
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The one thing to know about diets, is that they don't work. Moderation however, does.
Instead of cutting out the foods you love, reward yourself 2x's a week with your favorite dessert. Cut your portions in half. The biggest thing when wanting to lose weight is that so many people become discouraged and lose their motivation to do so. This is usually because they are dieting, and cutting out the foods they enjoy. You don't have to do that when you eat in moderation.
Instead of maintaining a diet plan that's monotonous, eat what you enjoy. Just don't eat as much of it. You'll find it's a lot easier doing so, than following guidelines as to what you should eat.
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When I told my husband I was pregnant he really didn't get too excited he just kept watching tv. Then not long after that I had a miscarriage and he said that it was for the best and not the right time. I was so upset. We have been married for 3 years and I have been desparately wanting a baby. He keeps saying we will try in a few months but when the time rolls around he keeps saying we will try soonbut not now. Now he says he wants to wait until we can afford a baby. To which I said, " If we wait until we can afford it we will never have a baby!" Sometimes I think he doesn't want a baby. Could I be right, or am I being selfish about wanting a baby now? (link)
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This is something you truly need to sit down with your husband and discuss. None of us can read his mind and know what he wants, we can only go by what you've said.
I couldn't help by being bothered by, "I had a miscarriage and he said that it was for the best." though -- to me, that's a red flag of concern. That's a very hard thing to endure and his lack of empathy and the remark in general, is mind-boggling.
However, my advice to you is to explain to him that you're at a point in your life where you'd really like to have children. If he seems impartial to the idea, ask him how he feels. Point blank. You've mentioned he's suggested "until you can afford it", that might not be an excuse -- that might be the truth. I don't know whether or not he wants to have children, but it definitely should be found out. And no, you're not selfish for wanting to have a baby. Him not being frank with you however, is.
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I'm a senior in high school and this boy who
I kind of like (and clearly likes me) is a freshman. If he was my age or older I would 100% want to date him. But I feel like that is too big of an age gap for where we are right now. I know when we are older it won't be, but now I mean when I think of myself from freshmen year to now I have really matured. I can't even ask any friends about this because I'm embarrassed. And in the summer I told my best friend and she didn't approve and such. It's not so much I care of my friends opinions but my family. It's my brothers good friend and yeah. So I don't know. What do you think? (link)
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I think that you're young. I think that he's young. But you're right, you are at two different places in your life. He's new to high school, you'll be off to college in a year -- that's an entirely different ball game.
I don't see why you couldn't casually date him (nothing serious), though.
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I was just wondering, I'm a plus size. I always wanted nice clothes. Lately I've been thinking about maybe trying maturity wear (Although I'm not pregnant) The question is...Would it show my stomach? I know it's for woman who are pregnant but can you still wear them if you are not pregnant without your stomach showing? Can people tell if it's maturity wear? I just like some of the clothes they have. Rather than shopping at places like Walmart.
Thanks
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A great place to shop that's actually affordable for plus sized women is Torrid.
As far as maternity clothing goes, don't do it. Some of the clothes might be tempting, but it's just like those cute jeans that are two sizes too small: they're not designed to fit your body. The outcome will most likely look as if you dressed yourself in a deflated balloon. And you don't deserve that humiliation.
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well there is this guy that is like one of my best friends! im always flirting with him and he flirts with me back! Its just that hes always flirting with all the girls!so i dont think its anything "special"!! one of my friends keeps telling me he llikes me? i was just texting with him 2 days ago and said he liked this other girl? that really put me down!! what should i do?? im sooo confused!! :'( (link)
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Two words: move on.
He's told you he's interested in someone else. His actions have definitely complied with his words.
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do oppasites really attract?
this guy i like is soo sweet and such a gentleman and a total musclehead and he does football and hunting and all, hes never been to a concert and has never played an instrument, he is totally against any type of smoking or drinking. he stays home most of the time and his parents are extremely strict though, he lives in the middle of nowhere and is a freshman. but he is extremely tall and built.
me on the other hand i live for art and music, i paint draw sculpt n all and do so much, for music i do guitar and know how to do piano n clarinet. i sing n write music and concerts are my favorite thing to go to. im always out with friends n never home and am very outgoing as he is quiet. i smoke but not cigaretts which is a battle to him. i live in the center of everyone and everything. im vegetarian and a pacifist. my parents are protective yet not strict at all and im a sophmore.
he makes me feel so important and loved and tiny compared to him which i am skinny but im tall and thats the thing i hate the most about myself but im only to his shoulders he has to bend down to hug me :)
does anyone think this would work? we both like eachother but i just got out of a bad relationship of which i was emotionally or mentally abused and also cheated on many times, so i said i dont want to date yet, also gives me time to decide. ..but i dont want to be held back like i want to go to concerts and still be able to party with my friends and not be went off on for it like my ex always did to me, so im paranoid. and i would never ever cheat or even get with a guy im not dating. help? (link)
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Opposites can attract. But this isn't so much about your differences, as it is about the fact you've just stated you recently left a relationship filled with turmoil.
You need to take care of you before you can take on any other responsibilities. Sure, keep him around, but don't get too involved in anything too quickly. My advice to you is maintain a friendship with him and test the waters before you decide anything.
You're young and life is filled to the brim with possibilities.
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