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Q: ok so say someone has sex and the guy cums in you a little bit. The last time you got your period was on the third of july. until july 10 very normal and what not until the 16 of july you get something thats light brown and sorta red not that heavy and that goes on for a while then its sorta heavy and red and then it ends on july 24. you have sex and havnt gotten your period in the month of agust yet. is that normal? if you are prego what are great sighns of that in the first week or two?

while i agree with some of these people saying your probably not pregnant, although they are WRONG when saying " if you were pregnant nothing bloody would come out" i WAS pregnant and i had what seemed to be a period and it was pretty normal looking and i took a test a few weeks later and found out i was two months pregnant.. so what i had was not actually my period but it fooled me because it looked like it, it was actually what they called vaginal bleeding witch can happen when your pregnant it doesnt happen a lot but, it can happen so just keep that in mind, it happened to me.

Q: what does bj and hj mean?

a bj, is usually a blow job and a hj is a hand job.

a blow job is when a female (or i guess could be male) sucks a guys penis.

and a hand job is when a female.. or male.. jacks a guy off

Q: I need help controlling my erections! I know it sounds stupid at first but it's so embarrassing. Well, I was at the beach today and there were tons of HOT chicks wearing tiny bikinis, including my girlfriend. It's really noticeable if I get, for lack of a better word, hard. How can I control these erections? I don't want to be pitching a tent all the time out at the beach, especially when my girlfriend is with me! I love her a lot and I don't want to embarrass her by showing my hard-ons to the world. I think it's worse when my girlfriend is with me because I start thinking about sex with her.
How can I control this problem?

do as the Bubble Boy did: say the pledge of allegiance lol

Q: hey i was wondering does anyone know the code in ms dos to start a complete restore of the computer? i know the one to do from a certain date and time but i want the complete restore.
thanks

im not sure if there is one, other than the certain date or time.. i mean there is one but my computer come with a disk to completely restore it so check the disk that your computer came with when you got it, otherwise im not much help, sorry !

Q: So, i got two beautiful all white kittens about four months ago. My mom never really liked cats, but she let me get them. Ive always done everything she asked reguarding them, and cleaned the litter everyday. Since they were obviously still kittens they would get into stuff, and it would really get to my mom. She mentioned about getting rid of them quite a few times, but she always made a joke of it. Our agreement was, if i fail to clean the litter then she would get rid of them no questions asked. Well, last night she said something to me about how its a bad time to mention it but she has made a decison about the kittens. She said they are too much to handle and that i am never home (i work a lot) all i did was cry and walked outside.

This morning i woke up, about 20 minutes later i asked my mom where the kittens were. And she went "oh i took them to the shelter" I started freaking out and crying hysterically.

So, she took the kittens to the shelter when i was asleep. She didnt let me say goodbye, and didnt tell me she was taking them since we didnt really have a talk about them because i walked away.

I have never been more heartbroken in my life. Knowing that my own mother could hurt me in this way. I really dont know what to do, or how i can actually get over it. In my opinion it was extremely low of her to do so, knowing that i had them when they were 3 weeks old until now. I was extremely attached and she knew this. I plan on going to the shelter tomorrow in hopes to get them back. Why would she do this? How do i get over the worst pain of my life?

Any opinions on anything said above?

Thank you.

if my mom ever did that, lets just say we would have words, i can't imagine my mom ever doing that to me, but are you positive that you cleaned the litter box all the time, and you said you wernt there much because of work so really she was having to take care of them.. i know you were attached i would be and i would also be extreamley mad maybe you could try to get just one back because kittens are a handful, and two of them is probably really hard to do so maybe talk to her and just get one back? see if that works i dont really know what else to say theres not much you can do since your still living with your mom and its her house, so unfortantly nothing can be done unless your mom gives in..

Q: what if your boyfriend stops calling like he use to when you first started out and hes moody and standoffish and bites your hrad off all the time and he acts like he doesnt want to talk to you or be arond you and he doesnt want you to touch him sometimes an d you think hes cheating because he comes with excuses to not want to be around you or do anything togehter

there could be 3 things going on

1. Is that your over reacting and he thinks you are suffocating him with to much attention and just wants some alone time ( witch isn't the case if your not the crazy jealous wanting to know what your boyfriend is doing at every waking moment, witch im sure your not )

2. is that he is either wanting to brake up with you but is having a hard time doing it because he doesn't want to hurt you.

3. he is cheating on you, in witch you can do better than that anyways.. even if he isn't cheating by the way you describe this guy.. you can do better.

goodluck

Q: i just told my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and three months that i made out with my ex who he hates and he broke up with me he took me back but still doesn't know how he can ever trust me again what should i do?
i was with him yesterday and we were having a great time and then he just got all down
i hate the fact that i cheated on him and i know he would never do it to me
i don't know why i did it
i don't have any feelings for my ex anymore i lost those feelings when i broke up with him
please help me?

im going through this two, with my boyfriend so i know were your boyfriend is coming from on this hes hurt, and crushed that your trust barrier was broken, all he needs is time, reasure him that it will never happen again any time he feels down. and in time he will come around

Q: What are good sex positions?

personally i like doggystyle the best
and sideways

Q: i had recently started a new school and i have problems making friends. it's not that it's me, it's just i'm very shy & the gurls won't even give me a chance. I'm frineds with most of the guys, but like i said i get pretty bad vibes from all the girls. they act as though they are too good to hang otu with someone new. what should i do?

i had this problem to, it took me almost half a year to get the trust of the girls in my school, no body talked to me or anything and then one day i made the move and talked to them during one of my classes and she introduced me to a bunch of people and now were closer than ever, sometimes you need to make the first move start of the converstion light, like if your doing a group project, just say hi, whats up make it simple and chances are there going to start asking were your from.. ext just be brave and make the first move.

Q: okay, me n my boyfriend were at the movies and i gave him a hand job and he came. then after he came, he went to the bathroom and washed off his hands and dried them, then he came back, it must've been about 4/5 minutes. then when he came back, he fingered me. is there a possibility that i could be pregnant?

if he washed his hands.. i dont think so the water ran all the sperm off so your fine.. but if you miss your period wait a week and take a test to be a 100% sure.

Q: So, I got linked to this site and I'm basically on the last thread of my sanity, and thought ,"Hey why not." The bottom line is I cheated on my girlfriend. It was a terrible situation, where we weren't together, but turned into more of a blackmail when I got back with her, "If you don't sleep with me again I'll tell." After a few times of destroying my morals even more, I put an end to it, and sure enough, my girlfriend was told about what I had done. I have been with many chicks, had many heartbreaks, but this is one I can not leave behind. I have never been more sure about anything in my entire life, unlike a lot of people who ask advice on here. I have exhausted a lot of time and effort into trying to find resolution with us for months (and I know she's still in between on the idea of giving me another chance), and I would give anything in the world to obtain it. What should I do? A lot of things I read on here about cheaters are very close-minded, and leave no cushion for the human error, or even the possibility of an honest change. Please help.

tell her what you have told us, relationships are based on trust.. what you need to do is come clean tell her everything that happened and why it happened and how your going to change it and make sure it never happens again, ever. then give her time, she'll need to take everything in. let her have time to think, just like you had in a few days come back to her and sit down and talk, talk about what youve been thinking about and how you want nothing more then to be with her and her only, make her feel like you care about her.

Q: In 2 weeks I move into my dorm, its a single. I'm pretty sure I have all the basics plus a few simple decorations. All I want to know is...

A) What was your favorite thing about your dorm room?
B) What do you wish you had brought?
C) What is something that you couldn't live without in a dorm?

Thanks!

my brother is standing behind me and this is what he says:

A- "my favorite thing was the freedom and at the same time your friends are just down the hall"
B- " extra blankets ;]"
C- " my mini fridge, it came in handy a lot ! "

Q: My mom won't let us get a dog because she thinks were not responsible and she's alerigic so how do we get both?

well if your mom is allergic.. thats not her fault and its a pretty good reason to say no.. but try asking for a small dog with short hair so maybe it wouldnt bother her as much, also do things for her pick up with out her asking do chores without her saying to and stuff like that, it will show responsibilty

Q: what if i never get a peroid?

consider your self lucky

but you will get it, it comes later for some..the lucky ones i should say

Q: My pictures I edit are very high quality. And sometimes I do multiple edits on them with different editing devices.

First I upload my pictures into Picasa 3
I edited the lighting, sharpness, and I remove any pimples I might have or any spots I dont like.
I save
Then I move to PhotoScape.
This is where I do all my 'fancy' things like Cross Processing, backlight, film effects, ect ect.
Now sometimes after texting out all the PhotoScape things, I decided I dont like them and don't use them.

Now here is where you should really pay attention.
Myspace alloweds pictures to be uploaded ONLY under 5MB.
Pictures USUALLY come out to be 6MB-8MB, due to all the editing.
NO. I will stop editing my photos.
So, with the bigger pictures size it makes me go back to Picasa to crop my pictures untill they meet the needed size.
Sometimes no amount of cropping will help.
I do upload them to tinypic and then just re-save them. But that doesn't always work since it messes up the editing.

For my birthday I'm going to buy photoshop and I'm guessing that will really up on the MB.

SO. My question is. Is there a website where you can upload pictures and the website will make them a smaller MB, WITHOUT cropping them?
My photos are saved with the .jpg, if that matters at all.
And NO, I will not save my photos at a lower quality.

Examples (I had to upload these as a smaller size so the edits didnt get screwed up)-
Without using PhotoScape - http://tinypic.com/r/33yosg7/3

Cross processing - http://tinypic.com/r/jzf70m/3

Color deepening - http://tinypic.com/r/n16z36/3

MB - Megabite.

try uploading them onto Piknic and then go to the save file button piknic usually makes them smaller without messing them up.. or you can just use piknic for your editing they have cross processing, and a bunch of tools, teeth whiting, the pimple earasing and all of those and all those effects for free, thats wear i upload pictures and they come out just like those ones and myspace lets me upload them.

goodluck

Q: Hi, I'm 16 f and lately I've been losing weight. There are a couple of reasons for it. The first is that my belly sticks out. In every picture I take my stomach protrudes and I want it to go away. The second is that during the summer I usually tend to eat more and I gain about 5lbs. Well this year I didn't want to. Also my boyfriend broke up with me this summer so I guess I lost my appetite. I've always been skinny. I'm 5'4 and I used to weigh at my max like 118lbs. I probably weighed around 113 or so about a month ago. But over the last month I went down to about 103 at the least. And honestly I loved it! I looked great and the belly was pretty much non existent. But my parents being the control freaks they are decided that I was losing "too much weight" and have started beefing me up (not literally because I don't eat red meat). Lately my mom has been increasing my portions of food and literally forcing me to eat. But it really isn't fair because I eat whenever they do but I get full easier so I guess I eat less. But their plan is working and I'm getting this lump on my stomach again. They want me to be "healthy" but feeding me carbs all day isn't exactly healthy is it? My parents control everything about my life and are the main reason my boyfriend broke up with me and they always insist that I do things their way. It makes me so angry that I can't even control what I eat. :/

instead of them having you shove food down your throat sit with them and talk about it, come up with a plan.. eat healthy and increase your meals, but decrees the proportions.. this will boost your matalbelism.. eat breakfast maybe a banana and a yogurt then a couple hours later eat maybe a vegetable and a fruit and then keep eating every couple hours but healthy and light things. this is how people lose weight but also to maintain the weight so if your happy with what you have now do that. but you probably should eat some carbs to get alittle more on your i would say aim for 112 pounds.

Q: I like 4 guys..A LOT! One guy is really athletic, good looking, nice, and we have soo much in common. Also, his sibling said he had a crush on me. The other guy is nice, not that good looking, but funny and fun to b around. The third guy I havent seen for a long time but he's funny, athletic, hot, and we share the same hobbies. The fourth guy lives in a totally different place and sometimes he writes letters to me. He said that I'm pretty, he's really hot, atheltic, kind, nice, and sweet. I like them all...WHICH ONE SHOULD I CHOOSE?! or should I just let them all go and pick someone else?

it sounds like number four wouldn't work, only because he lives far away, long distance relationships are hard to keep going.

guy number two, i wouldn't pick him you should like the way your boyfriends looks.

the third guy, you said you haven't seen him in a long time.. that would be a turn off for me, i like to see my guy all the time.

so if i were you i would pick number one!

THESE ARE MY OPINIONS THOUGH, DO WHATEVER YOU WANT JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART =]

goodluck!

Q: This question is for guys:

What do you find sexier; a girl in a lacy bra and thong set or a girl dressed only in one of your tshirts. Just wondering.

my boyfriend is standing over my shoulder and he says " in one of my shirts"

Q: I am a minor who is on medicaid
and I live near a clinic that knows I am on medicaid.
I am under 18

I was wondering if, I went to the clinic, would they give me a prescription for an emergency contraceptive, like plan b?
ALSO,
would my parents find out that I paid for it using medicaid?
or would it be confidential.
please, I have 3 days, I had sex last night. it's 3 am now.

just go to like a pharmacy if your 17 you can still buy them.. if your under 17 and you no of someone who is 17 or older witch im sure you do.. ask them to go in and get them.. i wouldn't go to the clinic and get them because its going to show up on your insurance report and your parents will see it.. they dont cost that much they cost about 30 in CT so im guessing anywhere from 30-40 bucks.. goodluck

Q: My boyfriend was a virgin, we had sex with a condom on and he didnt even cum.
He had to get home, so we stopped. He asked if he could use it without a condom, and I was dumb enough to say yes, and i told him ive never done that before.
he went in for five seconds.

and are condoms lubricated on both sides?
it was trojan
i felt his penis before he went in, and it seemed lubricated by the condom, not bodily fluid like.
he didn't cum in the five seconds either.

well, my period was a long time ago, i can't even remember.
i should be having it within 5 to(whatever amount) of days.

my period is 8 days long.
ive always used a condom
he was losing his virginity with me,
and its the first time ive had sex in three months.
how much is the possibility?
i dont know if im going through ovulation, i should have my period by now. but i heard you ovulate one day a month.
i dont know, help?
but my period is not trackable, it jumps around.
example.
starts on the 4th of one month,
then the 20th of the next month
can skip one month
then start on the 6th

by the way, if i get my period within that time limit of days or so
then am i okay?

its highly unlikely your pregnant but it can still happen wait a week, if nothing comes take a test if its negative wait another week and take a test if still no period.. you never said what day you had sex so it takes awhile for those hormones to come up .. so you could be taking a test to soon.