Hi. My name is Alissa-marie, by friends call me Alissa or lis. I'm really open to comments and questions, because i get them alot. OK, Im supposed to give some sob story of why im here. But thats not gonna happen. Because im here because i feel the need to help some one, and i like to do it. You dont like what i say, oh well. I am an up front person. I know how to beat around the bush and i know how to jump into it.(perferably, jumpin, lol)So, now u know a little bit about me. But this is all you need to know. Why? Because this column isnt about me and my woes-you can go to my live journal for that. This is about you. Ask intelligible questions, and you get one back. If you ask a dumb question -and i dont always have a sence of humor- dont expect an answer.**There is a wonderfull button called 'reject'...**
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LilMia811
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( 16/m/tx/junior in High School )
here's the deal: i've always been kinda...um...not cool lol or w/e u wanna call it but...i kinda found myself and figured out how to dress and do my hair to where i look my best...and now im starting to get noticed...but by all the wrong people...i mean i know the ugly weird chicks have feelings to but my god...i just want a pretty girl to finally notice me in good ways, because that's NEVER NEVER NEVER been the case, i mean every once in a LONG while there'll be a pretty one, but i'm just talking in general...i'm one of the nice guys, not one of the bad boys or w/e, and i know i'm not deadly good looking but i'm sure of myself...i mean i think i look better than most...that's not arrogance talking that's just confidence...a small amount but anyways...i'm really shy and idk exactly what to do when i'm around realllly good lookin girls...i mean i can talk their heads off online but in person i freeze up and stutter and all that stuff...lol...( jeeze i sure typed alot lol sorry ) any ideas on how NOT to be so shy...and how to get noticed in good ways? instead of ways like "oh god there goes that one kid...what's his name again? he's weird..." idk i'm just tired of the nice guys never winning...it's always the jerks and the bad boy types :(
thanks...
-Kyle
xxxkylestylexxx < my aim
fhc_moonligh7 < my yahoo
fhc_moonligh7@yahoo.com < my msn
vvvguardianvvv@yahoo.com < my email (link)
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u cant be noticed 4 what ur not, b/c sooner or lata, their gonna find out. u should try to find a cute girl who isnt full of them selves lke these other ones u seem 2 be crushing on. Cute girls seem to pick some ugly guys too! (if u think that describes u...) nd thats only cause they think they have good personalities. So work on that. or u can get good grades and tutor a cute girl! lol :p
XoxO Alissa-Marie...
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Well I'm "going out" with this guy from school..But when we talk we have like no conversation and I was talking to him about his ex-girlfriend and he said he didnt want her knwoing about me cuz they might be together in the future...well idk i didnt say anything...i think he wants me just for stuff...and when hes sick of me he'll leave...well i dont really like the guy i mean im just going out with him to see if i start liking him and so far our "relationship" is going nowhere. hes a pretty cool guy but i think we'd be better off as friends.. Hes a druggie, he drinks (im not into that) and he likes to rush into things with his gf's...ok so heres my problem. i wanna tell him i dont think going out is a good idea and im gonna tell him why i think that but i dont wanna seem..well mean i guess..the guy has been wanting to go out with me for over a year now! he was all excited cuz i told him i would do stuff (if i was comforable enough) to him but i wouldent go all the way...sooo idk its like hes using me for a while until he goes out with his x again...i wanna break up but i dont want him mad at me..any advice?? Thanks and sorry its so long!
[I. R a t e. e v e r y o n e] :) (link)
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tell him that u think hes using u and thAt its over. dont try to make a long thing out of it... if u really arent attracted- y bother pulling him along when he "might be with his ex-gurl in the future"? That dont make sence to me.. but u prob should break up with him. itll hurtg if he does it first, whether u had feelings for him or not, whether u admit it or not.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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okay, my best guy friend has this gf, theyve been goin out on and off for like almost 2 years now....me and her have ALWAYS been sooo kool with eachother, like i usta hhellaa like her n stuff...but they like ALWAYS fight and she could be tha biggest bitch to him...ive never said anything to her about it like stuck up for my best guy friend cause his gf was being a bitch to him...so ive had all this anger built up inside of me against her cause she can be so rude to him...so neway acouple nights ago me and my best [girl] friend got drunk and my other best guy friend was there...and they were fighting on tha phone so i got on tha phone and said with some aditute..listen do u even know how MUCH he LOVES u..i sware he would like die for u...and i said allllllllllllll this good stuff but with some aditute cause she was pissing me off..then she got back on tha phone with him and she kept argueing, and i was really drunk and i was like yelling out fuck that n stuff..and then she was saying some stuff then i got hella mad and started going off on her....and now we arent kool nemore...he says shes scared but i dunno whut to do. i mean hes like my BROTHER weve been best friends for sooo long he loves her so much and shows it and shes just a plain BITCH to him...whut do i do??/ (link)
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just tell him the truth- she acts real mean nd thats got 2 stop. if he should break uo with her, tell him that. u always have to stick up 4 ur friends- and tell him that ppl dont ALWAYS change... sometimes its just in their blood.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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when i made out with my bestfriend and my boyfriends cousin ....i asked him the today why he did it and he said "i dont know" and it was after school but like everyone was around and we were leavin so we werent around any of our friends sooo does that mean he wont give me the real answer til were alone again or am i supposed to believe that he dosent kno why he was holdin my hands and cuddling and kissin me?
please help im really confused!! (link)
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when hes kissing u and crap, u should tell h]ask him. be like hey, if u want to cuddle- shouldnt u tell me? It isnt right for me to be cuddling with u nd stuff if u could be using me! be upfront wit him, and he should be upfront wit u!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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Hey my name's Katherine..a.k.a. Katie..I was wondering what are some good nicknames for me? I am smiley, cheery, happy, nice..etc...THANKS!=) (link)
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u should never try to hard to get a nice nick name. You will get a cool name after a while. Tell everyone to call u katy or kady (be ccreative wit the spelling) and let ppl decide what they like about u. i kno of this girl sophie, and ppl called her saphire. thats a cool nickname, but she didnt make it
XoxO Alissa-marie
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okay well on the first day of school i want to wear these tight palish jeans with a white polo that has a little hot pink moose on the side and a c+c hot pink tank and maybe white or pink havaianas or should i wear the same outfit but instead of hotpink turquoise (on the shoes, and tank) and what make up should i wear with it and should i srunch and leave down or a messy bun so i dont look like im trying to hard.
Please help (link)
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wear it messy. then u dont look despreate, but incredibly sexy. its gonna look real nice like that if u choose to do so!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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ok well see I used to like this guy named ray..we never really talked by I thought he liked me too but he didn't..soo I just kinda gave up on him..but I still sorta have feelings for him just a LITTLE..but now I like this guy named joe..and we talk alot and we're good friends and we have alot in common..problem is ray asked me out! what do I do? please don't say follow your heart...cuz its going different ways?! (link)
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ask joe if he likes u cause uve been getting mixed signals. if he says no, then maybe u should just give ray a chance. if he does, if u really like joe that much more- forget ray and holla at ya boy!! lol
XoxO Alissa-marie
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My x-bf dumped me,And my bf I have now thinks I still like my x-bf because I didnt dump him he dumped me. What should I say to my boyfriend to make him think I like him?
-Victoria- (link)
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ask him why hes feeling like this- he may just be insecure. Just because he broke up with you doesnt mean that you are still pining for him!!! Tell him so that he might trust u more. hes being kinda insecure and distrustfull!!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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ohhh my gaw guys im getting sooo annoyed...everytime im on advicenators it always comes up with this thing that says internet explorer has to close..its always been like that..but i was wondering if anyone elses does or if my computers just gay or what?!?!!
*jesikuh977 (link)
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im so sorry! ur computers gay!! maybe u have a virus...get some of that software, install it, and check out ur system. i did that when mine used to do that
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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ok first day of school (freshmen) i am wearing jeans and a white with blue and orange lettering short sleeve shirt! and i have brown hair that i am going to wear up in a messy bun.. what color eye shadow!?! (link)
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whichever color is dominating-orange or blue- is the color u wear. just as long as u dont try to wear white!!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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Okay my name is barb(ara)and im despratley in need of help.Last night i kried myself 2 sleep.I ussaly sleep at 11:00.its been one week now im sleepin at 1 a.m.Im soo mad like my mom and dad work even through summer and my dad works on saturdays and sundays soo like im always bymeslef stuck in my house doin nothing but x-box,tv,and computer.And my grandma is very cuatious bcuase she used 2 live in a huge city the 3rd biggest.So she wont even let me in our frontyard.I kno she kares but 2 much!I kant even watch bug juice becuase i hate seeing people hav fun while im not.And my friend kalled from summer camp n shes tottaly having fun i jus hung up on her!Please HELP BEFORE I BECOME TOTTALY SUMMERLESS AND I KRY 2 DEATH! (link)
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um, you need to have a deep relationship with god. .age doesnt matter. I got baptized as a jehovahs wittness at 9. it gets really bad, and i kno it, but if you fing=d god, then he will make it all right. When the bible says that god is our savior, its right. and what problem could your mom have with coming to have an appreciation of god? if u need more help, email me at alissag42EXCITE.COM. im always here to help, but god is too!
Xoxo Alissa-marie
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Ok, over the past few weeks a lot has been going on. I'm fixing to make some big transactions and I'm going to have to leave a lot of my close friends behined to move to a different location. Something that's always been very hard for me, is dealing with CHANGE. I know it's like that for a lot of people, nobody really likes change yeah yeah. But I always get extremely depressed when I have to change things in big ways, especially if I love the way my life is going. I just feel like everything is going to fall apart. So, I guess what my question is, is has anyone ever had a hard time with change, and overcame it.. if yes, then how so.. I mean if there even is an awnser.
Thanks. (link)
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you have probably moved by now, but if you want help, find a kingdom hall of the Jehovahs wittnesses. They are relly close and connected to god, and they will truely draw you closer to Him, and when you get depressed he will help you, for"he is our shelter"
If you have anymore questions, email me at alissag4@excite.com!!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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okay i have an account on xanga and like theres people who have like really cool fonts and like they set it up really cool with like boxes and borders around it and eveything - heres an example of one .. http://xanga.com/xsundaysworstx
- like yu see how like he has boxes around his entries and like the kinda font hes using and like how it says the date in like a diff. font.. how can i do that?? PLEASE HELP i rate only 5's (link)
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they might have xanga premium....if you have that then u have way more ccess to thier site then the free xanga offer; i kno cause i have it...
Xoxo Alissa-marie
mixxittupp100percentt@xanga.com
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okay this guy i love him truly with all of my heart and i really wanna marry him we were together for over 2 yrs. and well we broke up last thursday.. and well he told me that he truly loves me that he wants to be back with me but he dosen't want me 2 hurt him anymore which i admit that i've done some stupid things but i'm truly srry for them and it would never happen again. but the thing is their's this other girl that sorta like him and he likes her a little bit but i can't stand seeing them together and i told him that i can't seeing them together and well he said that' he's doing it for us to see that i'm really the one for him i don't know what to do
and to make matters worse i think i'm pregnant (link)
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OMG girl!!!!!!! u need to tell him girl! Itll be a heck of alot of problems if that is true. If you really love him and want to have that baby with him, tell him. There is nothing worse than being a single parent because u got knocked up for someone who doesnt share their feelings. You should tell him the truth and that you are really going to need his support if you do have this baby. If the feelings mutual, than he will help you!! If there are any more questions, im me or email me... its on my page.
XoxO Alissa-marie here for support
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Does anyone know how to move the names around on your favorite columnists list? Like, how to get a specific name up on the top of the list? I know some of them aren't displayed when it gets to be a lot so I want my FAVORITE favorite columnists on top .. any advice? THANKS!!!!!! (link)
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whoever u put on first STAYs on first unless u delete them all and start again. Sorry!
Alissa-marie
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Im 14 my best friend is 16, we're both sophmores lately shes been annoying me, she has to be perfect in everything or she trys at least, I told her when I was in summer school this guys friend asked me if Id go out w his friend and yesterday she called me and said I talked to him about it I mean shouldnt she be keeping this I tell her to herself and then she doesnt treat me like a best friend, she ingores me and leaves me but when no ones their thats when she talks to me, last is when guys like her or even look at her she keeps saying it over and over like braggin...IS THEIR ANY WAY I CAN TELL HER TO STOP WITHOUT SOUNDING RUDE OR JEALOUS? If so please help me asap! Thanks! (link)
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be up front. tell her, im not hating, but u need to stop. u sound like a hoe when u talk about all these guys drooling on u. And um, your neglecting me! sumetimes u have to be upfront. Dont let them her just walk over hyou if you need to get a new best friend!!1
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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ive ben with this boy for exactly 16 months tomorrow. but we have a scewed up relationship and we've ben in and out of trouble with him and at the moment we;re not even aloud to talk.. ive seen him twice in the past week but I've ben to worried about his mom finding out and putting a restraining order on me to have fun. and now i think im starting to like my bestfriend. me and my bestfriend have a really good relationship and hes the truest friend i have. i dont know what to do? (sorry its so long) (link)
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its not long... neway, what u should do is break up with him. do u really want a restraining order on u? if u are in like 50 feet close and dont know it, you could be arrested! Tell him that it isnt really gonna work. And if that helps another relationship to grow, then maybe that was supposed to happen. Dont cry because its over- smile because it happened.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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hey..k i have this problem since like my freshman year of highschool, and now im a junior..every where i go, i feel like i ALWAYS gotta be on the look out for ppl who are gunna try n start shit and gunna fight me...yeah i do got beef wit ppl but not so much that i haveto be on guard 24/7...i feel like im always looking for a fight..i dont start shit with ppl but im ALWAYS ready to fight ne second, wherever i go..please dont say like..u shuoldnt even be fighting, u shuold talk things out, etcetc..but see thats my prob, i like cant, i always end up fighting n uses my hands, etc its so hard, ive been to anger management class like twice but they dont help that much..whenever i get mad, i just explode and dont think of anything else but that person and what they did to me and i explode.thats what my prob is...i hate this...help (link)
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next time they want to start crap with you, then just walk away. If they start beef like'why u walkin away?' you can be like, hey i have something better that i could be doing. if you start stopping, then so will they. i kno, when ppl really are hatin, they really get at it. but, even if the stop fighting, they might stare and gossip, so you should just chill and ignore it cause u know it aint true.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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soooorry its long, but i need help :(
Alrighty every1, I have absolutely fallen in love with this boy *Damien - and damien is thee greatest guy ever... if i was able to marry him right now i would!! but see we got into probably one of the biggest fight ever and i think he's gone.. for good :'(! i really dont know what to do with myself now... everything i do is "damien" i eat, sleep, drink, shower, think, talk about damien.... 24-7! i mean i knew i loved him before but tonight i just felt that "this is him" feeling! where you know that this is the person you would spend the rest of your life with... i know its crazy and 'im too young' but i dont care what you say or think because i am in love with him and thats just how it is.... but i really need some advice on getting him back! please, pretty please i am begging anybody!! thank you soo much who ever does help!!
p.s we've been together for 1 year and 2 months and NEVER broke up before... soo yea that also!! thankss! (link)
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you need to tell him how you truely feel- that you love him and are so so sorry. If you cant stop thinking about him, you have to tell him. Talk to him face to face- cause then he migh think that you are making things up. You ave to prove that your telling the truth (which u r but he probably wont know). I hope i helped
Xoxo Alissa-Marie
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ok soooooooooooooooooooo i have a little problem that i jus cna't seem to fix on my own alright so my best friend was going out with this guy who i've become like really good friends with *which is mucho weird but w/e* and so they broke up early this summer and now we've *guy and me* have gotten closer *well i think so* anywhoo so now EVERYONE AND THERE BROTHER think i like him WHICH i dont cuase i mean yea were friends but he went out with my best friend and its not like that would be ok either way BUT what makes matters worse is that my best friend seriously thinks he likes me and i'm like nooooooooooo were jus close....
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i have no idea what to do
pooheads
oh and if that didn't make sence sorry!
thanks
B (link)
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when ppl ask u about u and him, simply tell him the truth, then ask them is it ok for a gurl to have a guy friend and a guy haveing a gurl for a friend? ppl tend 2 get all up in ur busness, but if u dont answer them, they might think their true even though their not. Tell them what u feel and neverr get angry at them 4 asking- because ppl always like 2 assume that they are right
Hope i helped... XoxO Alissa-marie
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