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Q: 19/f

I'm a sophomore in college and I'm finding it very difficult to motivate myself to work out and eat healthy. I'm 5'3 and a little over 100 lbs, so it's not that I'm trying to lose weight. But I know that I am not in shape. I never stick to a work out routine and I find it really hard to eat healthy because 1) healthy food isn't cheap! and 2) it's easier to grab fast food because it's cheap and doesn't require any meal planning. Sometimes I'll see pics of girls with really toned abs or legs and I'll workout for maybe 3 days then I quit. Also, I don't really know how to get into a healthy eating routine because I don't know what foods to buy that are cheap, healthy, and will last me a while so that I'm not constantly buying groceries. I know that I need to make these positive changes to my life, I just don't know how to STICK to them!
Well,even though healthy food is generally expensive ,I think it is the so called 'healthy food' you see on tv or supermarkets that cost a lot of money. You have lots of other healthy options that are not so expensive. Be it fruit or vegetables and so on..As for the physical exercise,you can try with a basic routine you follow for at least two days a week. Then,you gradually start intensifying it,that is,three or four days a week,but no more than that. It's all up to you hon. It's all a matter of discipline. Don't be afraid of it. Hope I helped you a little;)

Q: I have a blood disorder where I don't clot unless having medication. Doctors said I may not be able to get pregnant when I'm older but I made a mistake a few days ago and did it without protection. A few hours after that I started to bleed but check this morning and nothing was there. I'm scared because I'm only 16 and if I am pregnant I don't know what I'd do. Is there any way to know if I am or not?
Well,your question is kind of unclear. If your only doubt is just how to know about whether you are knocked up or not,then take a pregnancy test. Of course,you must know about the risks of getting pregnant on your condition;so do it know and take full responsibility for it. Your health is at stake honey.

Q: I have really wanted to give my husband a blow job in a public place for a long time. I have blown him while he is driving many times and I do love that but want to do something different. I love giving blow jobs and swallowing so that is not a problem. Any suggestion on a public but not too public place?
Totally agree with solidadvice4rteens. It's absolutely irresponsible.

Q: how will I know that a boy loves me and me alone
There's no way of knowing that. You just need to trust your own heart and make yourself believe you're the only one for him :)

Q: Can i be pregnant by swallong sperms or can i be pregnant through bloowjob?
Of course not. Disgusting:/

Q: 12/F

Hi! So I checked my mom's email because I needed to confirm something I couldn't do on my email (She doesn't care if I go on her email) and I saw this email...

It said something about a Child Development Counseler.. I looked up what it was and it said something about "Help your child's behaviour!!" ?!?!!!! I mean, they HATE me so I rarely even talk to them. The email was sent yesterday.. Do you think this email was sent automatically to random emails or she subscribed to this?!


They say "I give them a hard time". I NEVER talk to them!! Omg please help!
Yes,it might be a spam. But if you are suspecting they're actually suscribing to sites like this in order to know how to help you,just don't panic. They must love very much. It's up to you to help THEM as well. Stop being so whimsical and hard to put up with.

Q: I got a small penis which is about 6 cm in length, i m afraid that it will afect my sex life in future, and um still 17 years old, i m afraid that it i wont be able to losse my girls viginity. And do da intercourse success fuly
The size doesn't matter,what matters is how it is used. It depends on how you use it:)

Q: Hi !
So I am a currently finishing up my last year in high school and I am now in the process of signing up for universities. I've already signed up for a university near my house, but I am also starting to consider applying to universities outside of my hometown . I've already brought up this topic to my mom, but from what I can already tell, she's not that very fond of the idea. I don't know what to do .. Because the thing is, whats holding me back is that I'd be leaving my only mom at home, my family the place that I grew up in ,and plus the fact that I could be leaving my old ways and comfort of my moms support is really hard to let go. but then there also a part of me that wants to experience the world and try to live and grow independently as well. Should I apply for schools outside of my hometown or not ? Do u think its a good idea ?
Should I just do my undergraduates at a far university and then come back to do my graduate /proffesional school and residency at home ? Vice versa ? Or should I just go full out and do all of university away from home and then go back home for my actual career ? Cause I think I still want to live in my hometown in the future ! Please help !
Hi! Look,I'll try to be as straightforward as possible. Do apply to a university far away from your hometown. This'll guarantee a better and more mature relationship with your mum and other members of your family. Even though she might not like the idea,I do believe that you need to start to be independent. So,I recommend that you just 'let it go'. Don't feel conditioned by your home,family,etc when deciding what to do,because I'm sure they'll always stand by you,no matter what you decide. If you can make it at home,so be it. On the contrary,if you feel like experiencing a new and independent way of life,away from your house and relatives,then go for it! Hope this helps you,at least a little:)

Q: I'm really bored for some reason. CAn you give me some advice on how to solve it.
To sart with,focus on the reason. That's the main problem,I guess. The fact that you don't actually know what the reason of your boredom really is. Maybe you have taken up activities,or gotten a job you don't actually like. Maybe you haven't discovered the things you really like doing. I'd recommend working out. A physical activity. Hope it helps a little:)

Q: Mkay, so, this girl in my class gives me bad luck. I f I think of her , I instantly get bad luck, like.. failing a subject, constantly dropping stuff, pencils, notebooks, etc. Please help!! by the way, my name is Shannon. Thanks !!
What makes you think she's the reason of your misfortunes? I think you're wrong,nobody deserves to be treated as something that gives bad luck. Maybe it's your own mind that,in a way,attracts those negative feelings. I'm not saying you're being mean;but,actually,immature. Stop thinking about that girl giving you bad luck,and I assure you it'll go away.

Q: What happens if he asks me out but im not allowed to and when i tell him he cries?
Well,I agree with Braiden here. He is immature. I don't think he isn't ready for a relationshio,though. He just needs to understand that wanting you to feel sorry for him anytime you refuse to go out with him,won't do much good.

Q: i'm khang from philippines.20 years old.i'm bisexual. i'm so jealous to my partner's friends. everytime she's with them i can't control my self from saying something that wasn't good. i'm jealous because she had a past relationship with one of her friend. that someone is bitter when it comes to me. because before i accursed her that she's ugly and not perfect to my girlfriend. we never had a bonding with her friends. i don't know what kind of people they are. my partner and i arguing everytime they have an overnight or plan to go somewhere. i jealous because she's with her ex. she said for them it's nothing. it's a past.. she don't like that butch anymore. she tells me she loves me no one but me. i don't know why i don't believe her with every words she said. because for me isn't true. i always doubting her.we almost get to the point that we almost breaking up when we're arguing.


i don't know where and how to start stop being too jealous to her friends.. please help me. :(


thanks!!
Being jealous is something really difficult to control. I,myself suffer the same with my boyfriend everytime he's hanging out with his friends or whenever he's on the phone with one of his work-partners,or whatever..Talk this over with your partner and try to focus on the situation. Try to make her understand how hard it's for you to deal with her being friends with her ex. Wish you all the best!

Q: My boyfriend recently messed up and hurt me very badly. He sent me this song saying, "I know you may not want to think about me right now, but hopefully you'll like this song and it'll make you feel a little better". If anyone could help me with the song meaning or find it somewhere online that would be awesome, thanks

All the same - by does it offend you, yeah?

http://www.songmeanings.net/songs/view/3530822107858867219/
It's rather obvious,isn't it? He wants to apologize for what he did through a song,since he himself cannot find the right words or the right moment to sort things out with you. The lyrics of this song are telling you everything. Good luck!

Q: So my boyfriends family hates me.
Why:
1. He always comes home late because of me. He is 21 and his curfew is ten p.m.
2. I didn't call 911 on time when he got assaulted. Which I dont blame them for because I should have called emmediately.
3. He blames me for his assault. He said I planned it. The day it happened we were at a house party and I felt uncomfortable because everyone was drinking, smoking,thats not my scene. So I went outside and he got mad at me because I was ruining the party. But he stayed out the re with.me and then some guys who were looking for someone to fight come out of nowhere start drama and out of nowhere someone throws a punch.
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So the family hates me and thinks I'm a bad person for their son because I failed to call 911 right when everything happened instead of doing it hours later at the hospital.

I feel like I failed him. It eats me up because they don't say anything but I feel this strong vibe. He even told me that they hate me. Idk what to do.
I honestly think that you're boyfriend needs to be independent.He's 21,not 16!And if his family acts this way all the time and you can feel it,then maybe it's because he relays on them even more than on you. I think that neither you nor your boyfriend are bad persons. Just talk things over with him.

Q: am obsessed with my teacher she is a female and am a girl but am attracted to her like a mother or big sister so what can i do about it and am jealous when others talk to her what can i do
I do believe that you are kinda feeling something strong with that person,otherwise,you wouldn't feel this way.I don't think you could ever feel that way if you just liked her as a special friend or a parent.Maybe therapy would be advisable.I strongly recommend it,because you might be falling for her.Perhaps,something is happening;something worth paying attention to.

Q: it z been 6 months nw.. We were in a pure realationship. I hv fingered her.she had given handjobs to me. But i want to lick her out. But she is telling it is a sin according to da religion..
Well,then sex would be a mortal sin. And what about a blowjob?Is that a sin too? Then,we're all sinners. Get rid of all those religious ties when thinking about having sex and enjoy:)

Q: What should I call my boyfriend Joey?
Josecito,,quite Spanish:)

Q: Kissing a man on his neck
What? You should give us some more information if you want us to help you...

Q: there is this girl at my college, she's so hot, red headed, and extremely nice and kind to me,I think I have a crush on her. I see her around and she's also at this math tutoring center which I sometimes go to even if I don't need help. Would it be OK if I secretly took some high quality pictures of her and even video tape her with my Iphone without her knowing so I can have some nice pictures and videos for my own personal satisfaction? Or is it illegal?
It depends on the kind of pics you take.I think it is illegal to take pics of someone without their consent.If you have a crush on her,why don't you approach her and try to talk to her?Wouldn't it be better if instead of having pics of her you had her next to you face to face?

Q: my boyfriend prefers his females friends to me. He enjoys their company and he talkks alot about them. He cant tell me he loves me in front of them and still says he loves me..
Well,just because he enjoys being with those girls doesn't mean he doesn't love you or that he prefers them to you.It's normal you don't like this,though,since you're his girlfriend.So talk things over with him and let him know how hard it is for you to have to deal with this situation.He'll understand,and if he won't,then make him think what's more important to him;his girlfriends,or you.Hope I've helped:)

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