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Q: Well, me and a couple friends are planning a halloween party. We've got music, decorations, and food down, but I was just wondering what we should do there to keep the party going. We're all aged 15 by the way.
Thanks.

play games. not silly little kid games like hide n seek n whatnot. i mean games like, spin the bottle. and dare and 7 mins. in heaven. stuff like that. it's real entertaining. and other kids that don't wanna play can just sit and talk to each other. it's their fault if they wanna miss out on the fun.

Q: what are things that i could use around the house to increase my orgasm level.. bc i dont want to get a vibrator or a dildo.. and in the shower i get them better but i can never get one when im in my room or like anything like when im not in the shower. but just help bc im always horny! thanks

jen- :]

i use a toothbrush because i don't want to buy a vibrator or dildo either. It's amazing. use the end without the bristle obviously. =]

Q: Ok
So my mom smokes. and she smokes in the house. and i hate the smell my clothes always smell like smoke and people hate that smell. i have tryed perfume which i wear anyways but i can only put so much on. Anybody have any ideas how to get my room and clothes to not smell like smoke. and plz dont say well ask her to smoke outside bc she said its her house.
Thanks in advance

yeah, the febreeze scent stories thing. it's like a little machine looking thing.

well, my dad smokes buht he always listens to me when i tell him to go outside. And his moms house, (my grandma's house)smells really bad as if they do smoke inside their house buht it's this oil thing they use and whenever we would visit their house it would always leave this disgusting smell so i would have to change my clothes everytime i came home from their house so they FINALLY got a febreeze machine thing that they have on the commercials and their WHOLE house smells really good and whenever i go there, my clothes don't smell anymore. What im saying is, you could buy that and put it in your room so your room would smell fresh and it would actually spread around the house so your moms smoke smell could go away and that would also solve your clothes problem and so you wouldn't be smelling the smoke which could also be better for your health! :]

Q: okay, im 15/f and im pretty, I always had a boyfriend, and guys would call me hot and all. But my teeth are kinda messed up. My bottom are PERFECT!. But my top are messed up. Okay.. my front two teeth are a little tilted in. Then those "fang" teeth are weird too. My one is okay, its not bad i could live with it, but my main problem is my other fang tooth. I still have 3 baby teeth left and that fang tooth is growing on top of my baby. So its pushed out, like sticking out.
Now im a cheerleader, And i hate to smile bc of my teeth. People at my school are use to it i guess, and never say anything about it. But its when im with other people. How can i be more confident with my teeth like they are? And be more happy during cheerleading. We're going to an away camp friday and i dont want people to think im mean bc i dont smile.

((braces are not untill my baby teeth fall out, so i dont know when i can get them))

for them both down there, retainers do fix your teeth actually. i have one. and i've never had braces. my dentist told me that i got a retainer and not braces because my teeth aren't that bad so i don't need braces. So yeah, retainers are kinda like removable braces.

The only thing you can do is wait til the baby teeth come out and then get braces. if your teeth are growing on top of each other, a retainer won't work.

Q: do you think its fair for my dad to give me 60 dollars to spend down the shore then I only spend 10 and he makes me give the rest back ?

as much as i love money, it's fair. well, that's my opinion.

My dad does the same. He gives me money and then tells me to give the extra i have back. when it's not a lot of money i have extra, for example 1$-10$, he lets me keep it. and besides, it is his money that's he's letting you use. I think he's just giving you that much money incase you need it for anything.

Q: Has anyone here ever gotten their nails done with a glitter french tip? Everytime I asked for it, the technician keeps telling me that the glitter nail polish itself is too light for the color to show up. How did you get it? I've heard of colored acrylic, are they supposed to used that instead? Should I bring in a picture to show them? Thanks in advance for your help.

they're right. you can't just get it a french nail tip with only glitter. the color won't show and so it'll kinda look weird. You can pick any color as a french tip thing and then ask them to put glitter over the color. it'll look better.

Q: There has been recently a bomb scare at my sister's high school. A custodian found on the wall : MHS WILL BLOW UP 3/22". Now they are investigating the whole school, screening backpacks, and sending in bomb sniffing dogs. Should we let my sister go to school on the 22nd? Or stay home for a few days because it might happen on another day.

thanks

ohmygosh!
I say, let her stay home that entire week. But not any later.

Like the person two comments down from mine, let her get her books. If she wants to go to school like, monday, then let her but you should just go to the office and ask them for the stuff she needs to study.

Bombs, are extremely dangerous, obviously. I hope i helped. :]

Q: i wish i had 1 best friend that i could share all my secrets with, and that would be like better than all my other friends and stuff. but most of my friends are just good friends and stuff.. but what do you consider to be best friend material? idk if we're more than good friends yet.. even the ones i've known forever. or maybe they are, but like i still dont think i've found someone that like completely blew me away and that i'd totally know is my best best friend. :/ how do i get one? How do i find one? im always hoping for a new kid in the neighborhood or in my class at school and that we'd click and become best friends. -sigh- what should i do?

13/f

you can't really find best friends. They just come. like me and my best friend, we just clicked after my other friend introduced us to each other. I consider best friend material like, someone that i could share ALL my secrets to and they wouldn't tell a single soul. We can call each other like weird/retarded/bad names and we'd just laugh at each other afterwards, and not get like really mad at each other. :] People would look at us and know we were best friends. We do everything together. We agree on almost anything. Stuff like that. you know? well, i really hope i helped. :]

Q: hey i'm going to middle school next yer and i'm freaking what's going to happen between me and my friends. Are boys going to start likeing me and those school dances. I can't take it i'm so scared what's going to happen to me help please.

ha, middle school. It'll kinda be the same as elementary. It actually sometimes depends on what school you're going to. Yes, some boys will start liking you because they are older and maturer and they don't think girls are gross anymore. You can still stay in touch with your friends and if they go to the same middle school then it'll be fine. There's no need to be scared at all. Like i said, middle school is kinda jsut like elementary.

Q: Is lime wire illegal?? because its pretty much like illegal downloading isnt it. i just want to know so i dont get busted for using it thanx

yes, limewire is illegal. Just incase you didn't know, im just warning you if you get busted you pay a fine according to how many songs you downloaded. But i have no problem with you using it. :]

Q: So, yeah I want my ABOUT ME collum to be like..

Bold- green writting

space

not bold, black writting

space

get it? how do I change colors and
get spaces inbetween?

First, it would depend on your layout if the layout lets you change the font colors cause some people make it so it would be one certain font and color. but if it is able to do it then you would do it like this.

This is for the green writing.
PUT WHATEVER YOU ARE PLANNING TO PUT BETWEEN HERE!

To space it out put.,

this is for the black writing.
WHATEVER YOU PLAN TO PUT

then you put

for more spaces.

So the code is for bold. and to stop the bold put

the code is for a space or for text, pictures, etc. to be on a seperate line.

And lastly, the
is to change a font color. and to stop your fonts from being that color put .

hope it helped.
:]

Q: my hair falls out constantly

what is the average hall fall out rate?

and plus i am getting lots of white hairs sometimes

im only 16

is it from stress or bad nutrition?

the white hairs are from lots of stress. And, im pretty sure that your hair loss is normal. My friends tend to lose lots of hair during the day too.

Q: i recently got into a modeling agency and i was sooo excited! i was really afraid that i would be in a group wiht gorgeous girls & that they would really intimidate me.. but then wehn i went to my first class the girls i saw were like, relaly not that pretty. in fact they were uglier than most of my friends, who were all either average lookng or prettty. sorry if this sounds REALLY shallow, but why the heck would the modeling agency choose ugly people (this is john roberts & barbizon people!) ..i mean some of them weren't even UNIQuE looking!? sooo then i didn't feel that special for getting into the program b/c ugly people got in too..but whyy do they choose those kind of people?

ohmygod! To start off, i was called for john robert powers too! I got accepted but my dad said it was way to expensive. well, first off, the girls are there to learn how to MODEL and ACT. So they don't have to be like super pretty. and don't forget, everyone is unique in there own way. Even if you can't see it on their face. This is mostly an acting agency so you don't always have to be pretty to act. If you have the talent then you're in.

Q: ok my boyfriend has a family reunion at 1:00 so i said i would go because i wanted to meet his dads side of his family...but i told my little cousin i would be on her dodgeball team...and thats at 1:30.....this really blows...i want to go to both...can anyone help me out?

You could possibly go to both. Just leave the family reunion a bit early. Then go to your cousins dodgeball game.

If it doesn't work out then go to the one that made the plans first.

Q: I just had the greatest date ever. I know a guy at school, and we've talked on a few occasions for an hour or two at a time. Anyway, we had a wonderful date tonight, and of course, ended up making out. A lot. We talked a lot too, but ooh my god, i don't know where to get started with the making out part. Anyway, we sat on a stairwell and started making out, and I ended up sitting on his lap, straddling him, which felt so good and comfortable for both of us. But i don't know if I got carried away or not. I was kissing his neck and touching the top of his chest. And when he dropped me off, we made out in the car for a good 15 minutes or so. ANd I don't know...is all of this generally appropriate on a first date, even if you totally get along with the person?

It depends on you if it is okay or not. Different girls have different rules for first dates. If you feel comfortable with the guy then in my opinion i think it's fine. So just as long as you and the guy are comfortable than i'd say go ahead and make out. There's no crime in that.

Q: Before I sign into myspace, it says Hi[whatever your display name is]! How do I get rid of that?

You can't get rid of it. It's a new thing that Tom added. Mine is like that too. i think it's there to prevent hacking or phishing or whatever.

Q:
at my school a lot of people have already lost their virginity. not just regular sex, but from oral and other stuff. i know that theres one guy that would be willing to but i don know if i should. i dont just want to be a follower but i also dont want to be the loser.

I honestly think you should do whatever is comfortable for you. But, you shouldn't have sex just because everyone else is doing it. It's actually better for you to not have early sex. It's called abstinence. Don't just have sex because it's the "Trend". Wait for the right guy and the right time.

I hope i helped.

Q: I don't get it. I'm a guy and at my school girls arn't like omg he's so hot or wow. But...when i go to a different school like to visit friends or somthing all the girls are like giggling and all that stuff and i get like 10 numbers. I dont get it. If girls could please answer this question that'd be great. Thanks.

It's the same at my school. Except i'm a girl and it happens to a different guy. He told me at his old school all the girls would be all up on him like, "you're hot!" or "You're cute!" And at my school now everyones like, "ew, it's him."

I honestly think it's because when you go to the other schools they see a new face and they're like, he's cute, etc. But at your current school they see you on a daily basis so they're just like oh, it's him.

It could also be that the girls at your school have a different "taste" in guys than the girls at the other schools. Some girls honestly don't like hot guys. Some do. Like me. :] But anyways, some girls do have different "taste" in guys and maybe the girls at your school just don't think your so hot.

I really hoped i helped. :]

Q: ok well theres this guy and we had a relationship 4 a lil while but it ended so we talked on occasion. now he only wants 2 hang out when my best friend is here. i asked if he likes her and he sayd no but it doesnt make sense then. then i thought it was 2 hook his firned up with her but his friend has a girlfriend, my friend says its 2 try 2 get me jealous but i dont no if thats it, wha do u think?

Maybe he wants to hang out with you AND your best friend because he still wants to hang out with you but he doesn't want to hang out with you alone. He probably wants your best friend there with you guys because he is comfortable with her there and he knows you are comfortable with her there, too. I don't think he's trying to start something. Hope i helped!
-Lizzie

Q: There's this boy I've liked for a long time, since Bush won his 2nd term (I'm 13/f, by the way). Over that time, we've become pretty good friends. Yesterday, he asked me who I liked and I wouldn't tell, because I didn't want him to know. Especially considering the fact that he just got a girlfriend (he's also 13). Then he kept begging and nagging and kept saying that he wouldn't tell anyone and that he keeps secrets well (I know that for a fact, but still I didn't want him to know). After a while, I decided to tell him, because if he kept it up, he'd find out eventually because if it seemed that I sincerely didn't want him to know (even though I've trusted him with other stuff), the truth would be very plain. So I told him, and I said I was sorry. He's really really nice, but I'm really worried that he thinks I'm an asshole. I don't know what to do! I've never liked anyone in my whole life. Do 13-year-old boys usually think their friends are assholes in this kind of situation? How can I stay friends with him? CAN I still stay friends with him? This is long and will most likely get rated down, but I don't have anywhere else to get help! And I know that problems of a 13-year-old aren't as important as questions asked by older people, but this IS an advice site, and the site IS open to 13-year-olds.

I can probably help you in this type of situation. Well, if he was sincerely a good friend he wouldn't think you're an asshole for liking him. Especially because you don't control your feelings for whomever you like, they just develop over a period of time. I've told a boy i liked him and i was pretty good friends with him. Everything stayed the same. We acted natural. Maybe after a certain amount of time he'll probably like you too. But i can't guarantee it. And the way you describe him makes him sound like a very gracious, understanding guy so he'll probably understand that you like him and you guys will probably stay friends for a while. i'm 95% sure. If you still think that he thinks your an asshole ask him if you and him could talk for a while after school or something. Tell him how you feel about you telling him you like him. Confront him about the asshole thing. and if he were a true friend he would tell you the truth. Hope i helped.
-Lizzie

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Hey! I don't go by a name. ;) I try giving the best advice I can possibly give and I never try to sell a person short of a great answer. I'm good at answering questions about relationships, beauty, friendships, but I know a little about other things here and there, so give it a shot and ask me.