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I can't imagine feeling worse about myself than I do right now. I was raped and I can't even tell anyone! :'( He got me alone at a party and I told him no but he made me have sex with him anyway. So i cried and tried not to think about it but in the middle of the rape... I had an orgasm!
Please believe me I didn't want to! It just happened! My boyfriends in the past didn't give me orgams and and I just don't know what to do! I really want to die i just feel so dirty and aweful!!! how do I tell my mother I was raped at a party she told me something bad would happen at if I went to it....... when i obvioulsy must have wanted it because I had one!
please someone tell me what to do I really want to die and i can't stop criyng since it happened last night (link)
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first of all im really sorry about that =(
but on the bright side, at least you didnt get raped on your first time. im sure whatever happened while you were getting raped was completely involutary. people cant help that kind of stuff and it in no way means you wanted to be raped. as for telling yojur mom im sure if she is a good mom she will help you and now be mad, but if you feel that she cant do that maybe its best that you dont tell her if nothing good can come of it. good luck, hope i helped. please please let me know how it goes.
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4 years ago was the last time I saw my dad. He left without a trace. We've been tracking him and he was arrested today. I might go see him tomorrow, and I am thinking of what to do/say. I could really use some help now. I am a 14 year old male. (link)
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what your going to say really depends on your feeling towards your dad.
if you are mad at him then yell.
maybe ask him why he left you.
if you miss him and stuff then tell him that.
you havcenmt seen him in 4 years and hes being arrested, just tell him whatevers on your mind.
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Hi, I am a 17f. I really don't have any friends, well I had one.. she really hurt me in the end and we aren't friends no more..
Anyhow, I am alone, I don't have any close friends, I've never met a guy worth dating, and I was wondering if you know of anything; a camp, something like that, that a girl could go to in the summertime to make some awesome lifetime friendships. I am very outgoing, I love art, sports, music, dancing, pretty much anything.. and I really want to know of someplace I could go that is not too expensive, but would be a great place to just hang out, do some fun stuff, and make friends this summer. Please share any ideas you may have
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you seem like someone who is perfectly capable of making friends, so maybe work at a day camp as a councelor? i know people that made friens there..
the best place to make friends is sleepawya camp, i dont know what kind you want to go to but im sure you can find ones online.
if you are in highschool i suggest joining some teams or something to bond with people.
good luck!
lemme know if you need any more help!
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Okay so 14/f I have known this guy Dillon since Grade 3. and in grade 7 he asked me out but I wasnt ready to be more then bestfriends. So now in summer time just before Grade 9, he said we could see where this year takes us and we could maybe date. well its pretty much in the middle of the year, and I really really like him. and I have health and career with him,im trying to sit with him more. these are the signs I get from him:
Makes eye contact
Looks at me a lot
Laughs at what I say
Smiles & blushes
Tries to make convorsations
And when Im outside of the school him ad his friends alway look at me and me and my best friend swear they talk about me.
So my question is.. Does he like me!!!? And if he does how can I get him to like me more, I make him laugh I make eye contact with him, I smile and blush. I dont know what elese to do! I feel like I have tried everything and he still wont ask me out!? :(
Im also the kind of girl that dosn't ask guys out!! I think that if a guy really likes a girl they should ask them out! I am also scared of rejection so that is pretly why too.. But yeah If you could give me tips and what not please!! (link)
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all the signs are definatly there...
he like you obvoiusly, but since you already rejected him once, and suggested it again in 9th grade. im guess hes scraed of getting rejected again, i get that you dont want to ask him out, but just hint at it at least.
just say "remeber what we said at the beggining of the year..." or somethin like that.
or make you guys alone in a dark room and get close to him to he can kiss you if he wants to.
boys suck at reading signs so you have to be a bit obvoius about it. he clearly likes you so dont worry!
good luck,
and it would be awosme if you could let me know if he ever asks you out!
hope i helped, let me know if you have any more questions =)
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ok so my boy friend is such a huge jerk sometimes....just recently he was doing something that was fine with me(making this noise like he's punching a bunch of buttons on his cell phone)he was doing that for like a half an hour then i asked him to stop the third time i asked him he put me on hold without asking me to wait then he hung up on me after calling him for an half and hour (kinda crazy) it kept going to his voice mail he finally answers and says his phone wasnt off but it wasnt ringing either....i explained to him that i was mad and what it was that i was mad at he refuses to see things my way and addmitt he was wrong....we made a deal that whenever we made the other person upset we would apologize....after yelling at him for 5 minutes he says he's tired and wants to go to sleep....what should i do about these things when they happen?????? (link)
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he just seems kinda imature and niave, but idont think hes doing this to be a jerk.
just dont worry so much, and maybe do things liketh is back to him so he sees how annoying it is!
goodluck!
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Well u see ive been talking with this boy,I really love him,like he is everything i need & wand there is just something about him. But he has a girlfriend. But we still talk and fool around. it kills me but i want it so bad i know im selling my self short so what do i do.Tell him its me or her? because i feel if i do that ill like be crushed. He tells me he doesn't like me as a girl friend number 2 but yet he calles me babe and he treats me like that so like what gives. The other girl doesn't even talk to him,ever but for some reason he still wants her..i just need some advice to see what i should do. (link)
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thats pretty wierd...
ummm since he tells you he doesnt like you as a girlfriend i dont suggest making him choose between you two.
but since you say he doesnt really talk to her they will probably break up soon so just be patient.
but while you wait, make sure he starts to like you more that her. always look good, be easygoing about things. and play hard to get. dont make it seems like your waiting around for him, but dont play too hard to get that he thinks you dont like him.
sorry if i confused you.
goodluck!
please can you tell how this goess?
let me know if you need anymore help!
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there is this lad in the year above in school and i really really like him love him even i only have to look at a picture at him and i burst into tears becasue i love him so much but hes got a girlfriend who is 18 and he is 15. i really wont to get to know him abit better and then when himand his girlfiend split up then i can ask him on a date but what could i say that would make a interesting conversation becasue he wont anser to the usuall '' wuu2'' help ? (link)
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are you from england?
and is this guy like super hot that hes dating an 18 year old?
but im guess him and his girlfriend will breakup soon enough.
just talk to him, i dont know him or you so it pretty hard to come up with conversation topics but jhust like ask him about advice for next year like teachers and stuff since hes older than you.
or complement his clothes or something.
what is his name? come up with a nickname for him, then he will make one for you, if its soemtihng that he enjoys saying, he will want to say it, thereby talking to you more often. trust me, nicknames are the key to starting relationships.
also make inside joke with him.
and please dont cry over how much you love him, its really not worth it.
by the way you dont need to wait for them to breakup to start talking to him.
but dont be creepy and dont give up!
good luck!
can you please please let me know how things go?
i love hearing about these things, and if you need anymore help feel free to ask. =)
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Ok this is gross but I'm going to be detailed lol.
20/f
I seem to have a lot of vaginal discharge. There is NOT any itching, burning, pain, smell or anything like that, just discharge.
Here is for the more detailed part, it is white/clear when it comes out but when there is some on my underwear and it dries it is yellowish.
I guess the reason it bothers me is because it gets a lot on my underwear and I don't want my boyfriend to get grossed out by it.
I've had this for honestly as long as I can remember and so when I recently had a pap smear I didn't mention it because I didn't really think about it as abnormal until I heard some stuff about discharge lately. The pap smear came back normal.
Any thoughts? (link)
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im not a doctor and i really dont know so much about the subject, but as for the boyfriend part, wear a pantyliner and then just take off the liner right before you see him. (only when you think he is going to look there)
and im pretty sure theres nothing wrong with you and a lot of people have this, but like i said, i know nothing so you might wanna bring this up with your doctor next time.
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I'm with my boyfriend :) and we both know I'm not romantic or cliche. I dont agree with the whole posting it on your facebook, putting his name in your msn kind of thing. I'm just not romantic. It's our anniversary thing soon, and he loves it when I do something sweet.
I had a plan to do something that's cliche -when a guy does something for a girl - it's quite cliche - but if a girl does it go a guy - it's really suprising.
I want to do something really random, like turn up at his door step with a single red rose.
Does anyone have any ideas like that? He'll love it :) x (link)
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ummm you can
1. make an anouncment on the loudspeaker at your school or office or whatever (or on the radio!) saying its your aniversery....
2. take him to a basketball game and have them write "happy aniversary (whaever your namea are)" on the screen
3. go on a ferris wheel, pay them to stop you guys at the top, and then make a little picnic up there...
4. make you guys "in a relationship" on facebook
5. get a tatoo ( temporary if you want) that says something about himm
lemme know if you need more ideas!
also can u please let me know what you end up doin? i luv hearing about these things =)
goodluck!
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ok so im 16 and i dated wen i was 15 but couldnt "have a boyfriend" so my parents say....now they dnt trust me at all and ive been trying so hard to get it back and ive been on my best behavior....wat should i do so they can c im responsible? (link)
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oh wow this is the story of my life.
i wish i knew the answer....
unfortunatly parents are always looking for the worst in their kids, we just have to stay on our best behavior i guess...
lemme know if you ever find the answer to this...
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I am 15/f and i hate my family. This isn't a "teen rebellion" thing, i cant stand it here. My only sibling is in college, and when hes gone, its better but still bad. When hes home, my life is hell. Im sensitive and he makes fun of me and my insecurities, he embarasses me in front of my friends, he drinks and yells at me, and i hate it. My parents are always fighting because my mom tries so hard and it stresses her so she takes it out on me by yelling at me and teling me in worthless and she doesnt want me here. My dads an alcoholic and drives when drunk and he totals his car a lot and we have money problems. Every night i cry myself to sleep and i want to get away from here. I cant live here, its killing me. Ive wanted to commit suicide for years now, but i havent because i dont want to hurt my boyfriend and my best friends. I dont know what else to do, ive tried talking to my brother but he just pushes me out of the way and leaves. My dad just starts drinking and he drives away, and my mom just yells. I wanted to go to therapy but my parents wont let me because they dont want me telling other people my problems, they told me i have to handle it myself. i need help, please. what can i do to get away from my family? (link)
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this sound terrible, i feel really bad, i know what your going thru so please let me know if theres anything i can do to help.
first of all please please please do not commit suicide! that will solve nothing! your 15 and at 18 you dont have to have anything to do with your family and you are free to live an amazing life without them, dont give up now.
i seems like tALKING to your parents or sibling is impossbile at this point, since you have money problems and your dad is an alchoholic you can call child services. (heres where to fin the phone # http://www.childhelp.org/get_help/local-phone-numbers)
but if you think this is something your parents will get abusive about then be careful.
maybe ask your school guidance councelor
if you think this isnt an option you can go live with a friend or your boyfriend or something.
or run away from home which i do not suggest unless its the only option besides killing yourself.
as for the therapy, there are probably therapists you can see without you parents knowing (but again be careful)
good luck with everythinggg! let me know if there is anyrthing at all that i can help with!
also pleasee please please let me know how this works out?
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I like this girl, and we talk alot. We hug, but we're just friends. I want to ask her out, but I'm afraid she'll say no. I don't take rejection well. I mean, she might say no, but she might say yes. We are in middle school. I'm in 8th grade and she's in 7th grade. What should I do? (link)
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i get that your scared of rejection, most guys are. but if you think theres a chance that she likes you ask her out. if she says no then later tell her it was a dare or something. unless you think shes the kind of girl who will get insulted bu that....
and if she does say no, that doesnt nessacarily mean she doesnt like you.
im in high school but when i was in middle school ui rejected a lot of guy who i actually liked, really for no reason at all just becuasse i was embarrased. so dont take it offensively. and try again in a few years, she may change her mind,
good luck! plz lemme know how it works outtt =)
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A guy from my school that I recently started to talk to texted me the other day and asked if we could hang out at the park sometime next week.
I asked my mom if I could, and she said no. Her reasons were fair, legitimate reasons such as: she doesn't know practically anything about him, she's not comfortable with leaving me alone at a park with some guy, etc. I completely understand those reasons, and I tried to argue my point (in a responsible manner), but she still won't let me go. She trusts me, she's just unsure about him.
Now I'm afraid that he won't ever try to hang out with me again or he'll be scared off and we won't get a chance to hang out with each other. I mean, the only way we can get to know each other and learn more about one another is if we hang out, right?
So I should I just leave it, or do you think I should try to argue my case some more? (link)
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a few questions before i say anything...
how old are you? how old is he?
and how do you know this guy?
is your mom concerned that he will kidnap you or that he is just wierd?
if you are at least 14 or something, and you actually know this guy then heres what to do.
i understand that your mom is just looking out for you and shes right, but at some point you will have to be able to make yuor own decisions.
i had this issue when i was 13 my mom used to not let me see movies with guys even in groups, what you should do to assure your mom is maybe dont meet him alone for the first time, when you go to hang out, go in a group a few times, then once you trust him u can go alone.
but you might not want to tell him its becuase of your mom, just arrange a fun group outing, invite him, ya know....
goodluck!
plz let me know how this goes!
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I Not Great at Spelling and Grammer but please try hear me out.. and i have hard time explaining thing so i try my best.
Okay. I am in a New Relationship and My 2nd. and Guy let say He in his Frist Relationship too. and he is 29. and I am 24. but age this is not a issue. anyway we were set up on a blind date. and I think maybe we Rush maybe a tad. becouse we been datting for 2 months. we went out couple time see a movie. and hang out at my house alot. I go his house few time. thing is we kinda live in a different world. becouse HIs parents are very laid back. like they live like old time. and that they go to a small church of christ. and they use to be cadlick sorry can't spell it. anywyay thing is what happend was way before i was happy and that things wwere working out great. one night his preacher is a woman and she hase her own church and well that night she ask me where i go to church I say Medtha i can't spell it but i am a christain. we both are i go it start with m. i know some of you know hwat i am talking about. anyway thing is they don't do birthdays and christmass becouse they belive becouse jesus bday. our family knows that. we celbarted in god way. our family get together on jesus day. but anyway he likes me alot and he like being with me i like being him. he very hyper and he wants read and get the bible and i know that good thing. but i am very close to god. not try brag or sound like iam saying beocuse i have disbitly i just saying that i know i am differnt from everyone and god created me different and i know there a reason god created me. thing is maybe this family never met someone like me. know i am deaf and cleft palated and so so and very small and they thinking wow u know. other thing is that. i am thinking really hard if god put us together or my friend did? i mean thing is i ask my freind if her husband hase a friend and she say yea and u know set up us up see what happend. sorry if all this sound confusing i pretty much thought i writ what on my mind and see if anyone get it. sorry if none don't. i suck at this. i am asking my self if i am falling in love and i think i am but i am afraide. i am not know reationships very well. any one know any sites have stories about relationships? or anyone hase a story about there realtionships. ok this all about what i am going to say. let me know anyone understand if they don't and i try explain little differnt. or send me your email becouse i know this starting to get too long. sorry.. (link)
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from what i understand the issue is that his parents dont really accept you. and that you dont know if your relationship was from god?
the first part, about his parents, if he likes you the way you are, then his parents will too. just be yourself with them and let them like you. show them that you can be just as good as any normal person.
and for the god thing, i am also religious but not catholic, i think that your friend did set you up, but if you feel that you love him, and if he loves you, that is a message from god. If you feel that everything between you too is right, and you are in love, then god probably meant for that too happen.
please let me know how it goes and message me with any questions. =)
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A girl i go to college with came into my job and gave me a number of hers and told me to call her if i ever wanted to do anything; but the number was disconected as soon as i tried to use it so about 2 months later i end up in her dorm and i go to her room and get the right number, but did she do that on purpose and did not want me to get in contact with her. * WE did ho out to eat together before so it is not like we were total strangers before that day even though we weren't best buddies. (link)
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i doubt anyone would give you their number if they didnt want to talk to you.
and also, if she didnt want to talk to you, she wouldnt go to the trouble of disconecting her phone just to get ride of you. she would just not pick up when you call. unless you are stalking her or something. how many times have you called without her picking up?
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i am 16.My friend lives 10 minutes away from me. we both want to start excersiseing after school together three days a week at her house. My friends mom thinks its a good idea and has even offered to drive me home sometimes. i told my mom about and instantly she said no. Shes always making comments about me being overweight but whenever i try to do something about it she is always my obstacle. Like what the hell does she want me to do? what do i do? (link)
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not gunna lie your mom makes no sense. tell her that you want to workout. there is no reason for her to say no. if she dioesnt want to drive you, she doesnt have to , tell her that u want to be healthy and ur just taknig her advice, since she told you you were overwieght. and next time she tells you your overwight, ask her what she wants you to do about it, since she wont let you workout. goodluck, please let me know how this goes.
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ok so in my school we are doing a dancing unit. so there is this on girl that is really pritty and i wantto dance with her but my friend wants to dance with her and he said that we should rock paper sicorses it i said no cuz i want to for sure be the only one to dance with her
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ummm well if she is willnig to dance with either of u then just show her that u are better. rock paper scissors is not the best way to settle this. just go ask her, forget about your friend, and see what she says. just make sure to not seems creepy when you ask .
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Ouch!! Advice?
'Look, I know you like me... It's pretty obvious. And I really really don't like you. So you should get over me.'
I don't even like this guy. (link)
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if you dont like him that he clearly has issues.
he seems like a huge jackass.
dont just ignore him now tho becuase then hell think that you do like him and your embarrased becuase he rejected you,
text him back ,be asertive, and tell him that you dont like him, and hes an asshole texting you something so rude.
dont let him treat u like that!
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OK, this might be a bit long, but i really need help. I have been at a girls school for ages and i've never had a boyfriend. I came to a new school and now i'm in 9th grade. Theres a boy that i really like and he says that he thinks i'm nice and pretty. I'm not ugly but i really need great tips on how to look great and naturally beautiful. He knows me and talks to me sometimes but i am quite shy and there are other girls he is much better friends with. I don't want tips saying, be confident, smile etc. I want things that actually work and i can't ask him out or anything.
HELP!!!!! (link)
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i have no idea what you look like but lets see....
1. do not be rididulus and get over dressed or slutty
2. make sure your skin looks clear and tan, use concealer if you need, and some bronzer if you are pale, but DO NOT MAKE YOURSELF LOOK LIKE A CLOWN
3. shower often to make sure your hair is not oily (boys hate that) if it is overly frizzy or curly then straigten it a little or put crea mni but dont overdo it.
4. use whitening mouth wash or whitestrips if your teeth are yellow, and floss often,
5. wear clothes that are flattering but not over the top > depending on your usual style, maybe casual dresses or jeans with nice tantops, dont dress like a boy.
6. be outgoing and friendsly with him but dont seem needy, act like you like him, but do not need him.
goodluck! leemme know how it goes?
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i'm very aware of how shallow this sounds but it's the only way i can explain.
15/f
so according to a very large group of boys, i'm considered hot.
and based on how they look at me and how they ignore me all the time and laugh at me, it seems as though a lot of girls (the popular brats in particular) think i'm a freak. like they seriously don't like me and think im really weird.
it seems like a very odd situation to me. I know i probably seem like im naive or asking for complients or im plain stupid, but i just want to know if its actually possible to be "a freak" and "hot" at the same time.
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its possible.
a lot of times there are girls who are pretty but that doesnt necicary mean the other girls will like them. but dont be too quick to assume that they dont like you. since you have the gift of buys liknig you, try becoming closer with the boys, once the bratty girl see that the boys like you, they will like you too. as of now they may just be jelous. unfortunatlyey it may be hard for the boys to like you if the other girls dont, but try, goodluck !lemme know how it goes?
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