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he's already had dinner with my mom, he's met my dad, he's MADE dinner for me and mom (he had to leave b4 he could eat with us, though) my grandparents haven't even met him, they just know about him from what i've told mom or them. the other thing about him is he can be really sarcastic and cynical, and he'd probably just say some stupid asshole comment instead of having to "probe himself" to my family. and his whole job thing is a big issue for them. he can say he has big hopes all he wants, but they aren't going to hear him, they only think he's gonna hold me back from going to college and graduating and living in a nice house, etc. they seem really closed off to him no matter how many times i tell them he's really a good guy. although i thank you for your advice, it wouldn't work because his pride gets in the way and he feels that doing what you suggested would be "proving himself" to my family, and he thinks that he shouldn't have to do that, because he treats me very well and only wants the best for me, and will help me get to it by any means necessary. i'm just so confused that i don't know what i'm gonna do. any more advice icy?
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I completely understand how it is. Pride is a big thing for guys. If you know that he's all for your success in the world, maybe it's time for you and your mom to have some mother/daughter time and discuss your life. Remind your mom of the time when she met your dad and went she felt so in love and happy. Tell her that that's exactly how you feel now. Sometimes, it's better to communicate with the problem and be direct about it. Love is a big thing and since he means so much to you, just be honest with your mother. Moms can be pretty understanding even when they seem like they won't be. Just have a meal with her and talk to her. Open up and tell her everything. Hopefully things will work out. Good luck hun and remember that you can always contact me here @ icy advice. ;]
Last year when I was in the sixth grade (now I'm in 7th and I'm 13) there was these guys (3 guys, all one year older than me) on the bus that always annoyed me. This year (the last day before winter break) they cornered me on the bus when all of my friends left and TODD's best friend DAN told me that TODD liked me right in front of him. Then DAN started picking on me.. Over winter break I had this dream about DAN and I kissing on the bus (he just went 100% to me) and it's been haunting me ever since. Now because of that dream, I think I actually like DAN. DAN wanted to sit next to me on the bus this morning (i had to let him) and TODD sat next to me on the bus in the afternoon (he and dan fought for a while). I know both guys like me.. and I think I like DAN, but I'm not totally sure and I don't know how to handle this because my best friend is hooking me up with this guy I've known for a really long time.. and I just don't know what to do about this..please help!
Hey hun, I'm sorry you're in such a sticky situation right now but luckily, I can relate. I had a dream that I was kissing someone and then I started to have feelings for them. It was weird because I really started to like them which worried me. My advice to you is to not to let the dream take over your heart and what you think. Just play it cool and talk to him as friends. Make sure you like him for his personality just not the rush and feeling you got in the dream because in dreams you can make up a story in your head of how a person acts and really is. I made the mistake of falling for what I saw in the dream and it turned out to be misleading. Good luck! xox
ok well for new years i was out of town and so was my b/f so we couldnt even talk on the phone, i was in a RV park in palm dessert and i was at the rec. center in the resort and this guy(lets call him Bill) came in and asked if he could play pool with me and i siad yeah, this was a day befor new years eve. im a BIG flirt and i dont relize when im flirting, and the next day i went to the rec center to meet up with Bill and later that night we were tired out from playin B-Ball so we were sittin together on the couch well when the new year came he kissed me and i kissed him back, and i shouldnt of i know now im really guilty becuz im not the kind of girl who cheats on her b/f,and ill never see Bill agian but i still feel guilty what im asking is should i feel really guilty for this? should i tell my b/f? or try to forget the whole thing?HELP!
I wish I could tell you to forget the whole thing however one day, it will probobly catch up to you. You should do a little "test" with your boyfriend. Tell him you have something really important to confess and if he freaks out about it AFTER you tell him you are really sorry then he's not the one for you. Make sure you tell him how bad you feel and how you thought it would be better for your relationship if you were honest with him. Tell him how bad you feel inside and make sure you express your emotions thoroughly so he really understands. If he still rejects you, then he is feeling really hurt about it. Think about your boyfriends personality. If you want, you can rough it out and see what happens but if your coinsience really starts to bug you then I reccomend honesty and communication. If you need any other help hun please feel free to visit my advice collumn.
my family doesn't like my boyfriend. we both have very different backgrounds, and he does a little work in which he gets paid under the table. they think that he will hold me back from going as far as i can in life, but i know that he won't...i won't let him. we love eachother very much, and he treats me like a queen. true, he lied to me once because he was afraid to tell me about the under the table paying, but we have gotten over that and we are closer than ever now. my mom really doesn't like him, she thinks that he is completely wrong for me, and that my getting serious with him will only hurt my future. i don't know how to show mom what he's really like, especially since she doesn't even want to try to get to know the sides of him that i know. it's really hard to love someone when your family is trying to get you to break up with him. what do i do? i am completely at my wits end now. we love eachother, but it seems like my family is trying to be a part of my relationship, our relationship is a line...me and him. my family relationship is some bigger shape, we are all connected, but the line and the bigger shape, so far, aren't. not until he proposes, which he is planning to do. HELP!!!! i don't know what to do!!!
I can imagine this is an awful feeling. Especially, since you are so sure he's your "prince charming", to have others put him down must really hurt. My advice to you is to have him come over to your house to spend dinner with your family. Let them get to know the side that you fell in love with. Have him explain to them that he wants you to succeed in life and make sure that anything your parents don't like about him, he tells them the opposite of. For example, if they think he is "holding you back" then have him tell your parents about how he has big hopes for you and wants you to go far in the world. That way, hopefully they will see the person that you fell in love with. Good Luck!
I know Valentine's day isn't for a while, but I like to start stuff early so I'm ready. Well I wanted some ideas for what to get or do for my boyfriend of over more than a year! any suggestions? thanks
>>.*. So Inlove .*.
Boys are tough because they are always changing their minds about things. Why not talk to him about what kinds of movies, cds, videogames ect. that he likes or maybe make a date to go to the mall so he can point out some of his faves without you directly asking him what he wants. As you know, guys are really sensitive so if you ask him what he wants, he might take it that you don't know him well enough so make sure you find out as secretly as possible. And no gift cards either, because I think that goes along the lines of not knowing as well. Us girls have the BEST shopping skills so no worries hun, I know you'll pick out the BEST presents for your boyfriend. Oh, and congratulations on being with him for over a year!
i straighten my hair in sections and like the bottom layer is always nice and straight but the very very top layer always turns out frizzy looking. its straight but i always have little pieces of hair sticking out or it just looks frizzy. how come? is there anything i can do to make it look non frizzy? ive used some frizz free stuff and it didnt work!
Well, my dad is a hair dresser so I'm glad I found your plea for help =). Frizz is usually the reaction to heat, humidity, water, or broken hair pieces that can't lie flat properly. There are plenty of different ways to keep frizz free but a simple product will do the trick. I know alot of hair creams, gels, conditioners and other products boast that they will calm all frizz but one that I know works is John Frieda's Frizz-Ease. It works like a charm and will keep your hair soft and shiny. Also, Pantene makes a good line of products for straightening your hair that will add that silky feeling. If you have any other questions, feel free to visit my advice collumn because my dad is a hair dresser and my mom is a make up artist so let's just say, I know alot about beauty ;).
What happens when the original, gets copied.... by almost everything they do, wear and say (even by there friends) im nto mad or anything but honestly, it is kind of well... getting aggrivating, i love them still and all but what should i do? (and no they arent staking me =P)
I completely understand what you are going through. Sometimes, you just wish that people could just learn to be unique and not copy what others do, especially when it's you that's getting copied. Whenever this happens to me, I have the tendancy to get mad or yell or just completely loose my temper. However, over the years I have figured out that loosing your cool is deffinetly not the answer but communication is. Sit down with your friends and talk to them. Just remember it's flattering that they want to be like you but of course, I know how frustrating this can be. So tell them how you feel in a calm rational manner. Even if you want to do it without being direct about what's wrong. Suggest some new styles to them, flip through magazines with them or even go to the mall. Help them develop their own style since it sounds like you are quite the trend setter ;]
ok i like alot of guys and i can't really make up my mind it's like on the internet the next person i talk to for more than 10 minutes i start kinda liking them...but I KNOW THEM...they r just friends...but ok seriously is this bad?...should i just stick with one guy for now...and yes im single and i really wanna boyfriend...but i'm not that despret..that i wouldn't go out with just any random person...but ok so should i just lay off the guys because usually...well put it this was i've had 3 boyfriends the 1st was so immature i broke up with him ... the 2nd i don't know why he broke up with me...i didn't really like him to much...but the third i REALLY REALLY still like him...but he's hooked up on his X...i know this is weird but we went out for 12 hours..i know pathetic...but i was so happy..he told me that he just didn't want us to go out for a long time and then break up and hate each other for the rest of our lives...he also told me i was like the sister he never had..and he was my best friend...nothing more...should i let him go...or can i keep liking him??? hopelessly devoted... to my X
I think you should gradually let him go. Now this isn't something that will happen overnight because it's really hard to forget about someone, especially when you are so attatched. Just have some away time with him because even "just friends" can start to become more then that when you talk to them for a while. I totally know how you feel when you say "the next person i talk to for more than 10 minutes i start kinda liking them..." because that is true for most people. Just take some time away, talk to other guys and hopefully you will begin to gradually loose interest in him as a boyfriend and maybe start to adapt him as the "best friend type". Best of luck!!
O.K. My problem all started when someone was prank calling my house. I then found out it was one of my best friends. I got mad at her twice. Once for doing. Twice for lieing about it. I'm in junior high and it's so hard for me. Then, my closest best friend took up for her. Then, my other close best friend took up for her too. I don't know what to do. I live in Deer Park and I'm illegally going to Laporte Junior High. My close best friend is threatening to kick my butt and I don't know what to do. Should I switch to my legal school or continue illegally going to a school where EVERYONE hates me. I rate 5's for anyone who can really make a difference in my life! THNX TO ANYONE WHO ANSWERS!!! XOXO
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~~~KaYlA
Sorry So Long But I need Help ASAP
I'm sorry this is going on hun. I understand that life can be unfair and it feels like "why me?" and you just want to dash under the covers and stay there until things clear up. Lucky for you, you have an option so it's up to you what you do with it. Since you can switch over to your "legal" school, I recommend confronting your friends about this. Tell them why you were mad and ask them why they were mad. If they aren't being true friends, giving bad answers, or you feel like you just can't handle the stress, my next advice is to talk to an advice. I know it seems like it would be the end of the world to talk to a parent or guardian but it really is good. Believe it or not, your parent or guardian will probobly be able to tell you whether they honestly think you should switch. However, if you know in your heart that you should get away then follow what you believe in, just make sure you are not running from your problems. Best of luck babe =]