he's already had dinner with my mom, he's met my dad, he's MADE dinner for me and mom (he had to leave b4 he could eat with us, though) my grandparents haven't even met him, they just know about him from what i've told mom or them. the other thing about him is he can be really sarcastic and cynical, and he'd probably just say some stupid asshole comment instead of having to "probe himself" to my family. and his whole job thing is a big issue for them. he can say he has big hopes all he wants, but they aren't going to hear him, they only think he's gonna hold me back from going to college and graduating and living in a nice house, etc. they seem really closed off to him no matter how many times i tell them he's really a good guy. although i thank you for your advice, it wouldn't work because his pride gets in the way and he feels that doing what you suggested would be "proving himself" to my family, and he thinks that he shouldn't have to do that, because he treats me very well and only wants the best for me, and will help me get to it by any means necessary. i'm just so confused that i don't know what i'm gonna do. any more advice icy?
it'd be greatly appreciated. oh, and you can email me at metalkat86@hotmail.com if you want, thanks a million
Kat
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? icy answered Monday January 3 2005, 8:53 pm: I completely understand how it is. Pride is a big thing for guys. If you know that he's all for your success in the world, maybe it's time for you and your mom to have some mother/daughter time and discuss your life. Remind your mom of the time when she met your dad and went she felt so in love and happy. Tell her that that's exactly how you feel now. Sometimes, it's better to communicate with the problem and be direct about it. Love is a big thing and since he means so much to you, just be honest with your mother. Moms can be pretty understanding even when they seem like they won't be. Just have a meal with her and talk to her. Open up and tell her everything. Hopefully things will work out. Good luck hun and remember that you can always contact me here @ icy advice. ;] [ icy's advice column | Ask icy A Question ]
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