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Sk8terbabe019
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my friends always ask me personal questions like "who do you like" .. but i dont know if i should tell them bcuz they might tell other people ... how do you know when you can trust your friends? (link)
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What I do is I make up saying I like Joe or w/e (someone that no one would ever even think) , and then wait a little and see if it's repeated. If someone comes up to you and says "Do you like Joe?" then you know it would've been repeated
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i am 5 feet tall exactly. i weigh 135 pounds. is this overweight? (link)
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No, it's not. It's the average weight. Your not fat, your just not starving yourself, like everyone else.
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im moving from fresno texas to birmingham MI, its a wealthy suburb of detroit. im losing my mind because im so scared. i HATE the cold and i won't know anyone. does anyone live there or close to it? can u tell me how it is in the winter and stuff like that? thanks. (link)
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I used to live in Marquette, and Livonia MI, so I know all about it. The cold is just something you have to get used to. You will wear layers, and warm clothes. The winter's are very cold, so when you are layered up, you can have fun in the snow. You also get many snowdays too; Which is great, cuz you can stay home, and build forts, and snowmen! lol. I hope I helped!
-Gabby
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How do you know when your in love? (link)
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Well, I knew when you feel the magic, like you could deal with this guy for the rest of your life. When you know this is the one, you know it!
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in 8th grade, ive been feeling so depressed. i just feel like everyone is against me. i feel so disgusted w/myself. everyone says that im so skinny and athletic and my family says im beautiful, even though i dont think so. i started cutting a little while ago. its nothing to be proud of, thats 4 sure. i just feel like everything is wrong with me. wut am i supposed 2 do?
signed
*deeply troubled* (link)
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Deeply Troubled,
You should stop. It's not right. My best friend did it, and felt the same way. What made her stop was she realized that her lifes not worth what everyone else thinks of her. You need to love yourself, not matter what you look like. It's inside that matters. Turn to god. If you feel unloved just turn to him, because he can understand you! He loves you no matter what, now you need to love yourself just as much as everyone else does.
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ok, there is this guy. hes in 9th grade. hes so cute and doesnt have a bf. one of my best friends that knows him bout as well as i do says that he likes me. i still dont think so. ive been crushin on him for almost a year. i started noticing that he looks at me a lot. what do i do?
signed
*deeply troubled* (link)
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Deeply Troubled,
Go up and start a convo with him. If he knows who you are it shouldn't be a problem. You can take a risk, because thats what lifes about. So go up to him. lol.
Love,
Helping_you
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alright well theres this boy named ted..I've been going out with him sence august 6th and like in october he broke up with me and I brok eup with him altogether around 3 or 4 times and all those times we'ver gotten back together..but wednesday he broke up with me because he liked two other people..alina and tara..well alina has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is teds best friend..so he wouldn't get her.. tara is one of my best friends so she wont go out with him because she thinks hes a horrible boyfriend from what he did to me..and becasue she doesn't like him like that and also because hes the kind of boy that likes to be really close with there girlfriends and like make-out and stuff like that and she doesn't like that..so neither alina or tara like him..my friend britney was talking to him today and last night we had a schol dance and he was like staring at me and stuff..and she asked him if he still liked me and he said i dunno and stuff like that and then he asked me to call this girl taylor for him and I think it was so he could ask her out but I'm not sure..it might be that or it might be because she brok eup with her boyfriend yesterday and ted adn her ex are good friends so it might be for him..but I'm just not ready to let go..I'm scared that would be our last time going out..I like him soo much..like I would do anything for him..I know I sound pathitic but its true..I'm scared that if I dont get him back I might do something to myself because he was like my life..so my question is how to get him back..I dont wanna hurt myself because I've done it before but not for that reason...and I really need him back but I dunno how to .. please help..I'll rate high
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Dear not ready let go.
He seems like someone who is influenced by his pants not his heart. Whatever you do don't go back to him. He is obiviously to immature to handle a girlfriend on a physicial and mental level. Look for someone else who is more understanding and likes you for you, and not because you'll make out with him. Don't do anything to yourself, because he's totally not worth it. Just hang in there. Look for god in yourself, and wait for the right guy.
Good LUck!
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my dad is a basketball coach for a high school team. he is also my basketball coach. im 13/F. anyways, he is always forcing me into sports. i think i found a sport that i really love, but he wants me 2 be involved in atleast 2 at a time. thats not fair bcuz i want to practice volleyball and improve in it instead of basketball. ive tried to get out of it. even my mom is tryin to get my out of basketball but he just wont let me out. what do i do?
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*deeply troubled* (link)
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Dear Deeply Troubled,
Just tell him how you feel. Have a deep dicussion with him, about how you feel about it, and see if you can come up with a comprimise or some kind of common grounds.
Good Luck!
helping_you
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Ever since i could remember my parents havent been exactly intimate i guess you could say. They have always seemed happy together and i always thought they would be together forever. Then a few days ago my mom told me that she was having problems with my dad and that they might get divorced. i was shocked and hurt. it killed me that i couldnt do anything about. and the worst part of it is i am the only one out of my family that knows how my mom feels. my dad and brother are clueless. i dont know how to handle this HUGE secret on my shoulders. how can i handle this horrible situation. please someone tell my what to do! (link)
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Well, it's a big deal when parents get divorced to the children. If you belive in god, maybe you should look to him, and you should know that it's not your fault. Plus if there is a reason for them to get divorced it might not immediatley happen. You might be able to change it. I mean I think that they are drifting apart, and some people think that you can't deal, but one of my friends was in your position, and what she did is she recreated their first date, and they realized they wouldn't know what they'd do with out each other. plus parents get into fights sometimes. and they resolve it too; It might not work in your situation, but I am just trying to help.
Good Luck!
Helping_you!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and are head over heals for eachother presently. The only problem is that I see him for a week every 3 months or so... its enough to drive a person crazy... he lives so far away, and now that I'm at college things are really hard... dumping him isn't an option, because we are that close, and its the closest thing to I've every felt if not love itself... I just don't know how to deal sometimes, its so frustrating not being able to see him, and to touch him... basically what I'm asking, is does anyone know of anyway to make this any easier till we can be together again... thanks (I will rate) (link)
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Well, I was once on the end of a long-distance relationship and it was hard for me too; What I did was wrote him a letter ever time I thought about him and sometimes I sent it sometimes I didn't. I also called him alot, and emailed. It really worked, because I would spill to him in the letters even if I didn't send it. So yeah.
hope I helped...
helping_you
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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me? (link)
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Well, in middle school boys don't understand the meaning of relationships. Start hanging out with guys and become their friends. lol. Flirt, and show them what your made of. Take it from me, you DO NOT need to be a cheerleader to have a boyfriend.
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ok theres this girl and shes a year older than me and she goes to my school ok yeah and some one gave her my sn and now she wont leave me alone i ahve profiels and stuff so she leaves messages in my guestbook alwaysz constatly call ing me fata$$ or b**** or anythign u can think of and shes annoying she sayz this stuff at school and im not a narc so im not telling on her but i wann kick her a** but i know i will get in depp trouble what do i do to put her in her place and make her shut up!? (link)
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Ignore her. Tell her that your better then her, and don't say anything back. Just say that your not going to go as low as her, because you've got class, which is obiviosly a word that she doesn't know the meaning to.
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These past 2 years i've been feeling really depressed and its reflecting the way i act towards people now. I feel as if i can't trust anyone, and unpleasant things have been going on. Since 6th grade i've been cutting (im in 8th now). And now, It's like i always want to,and i cant stop, but its gotten to the point to where i dont even know it. I cant concentrate because i've lost most of my friends, and the 2 friends i have now act like they dont even want to be around me. All this anger is built inside of me, and i have no one to talk to about it and so i take it out on myself because i feel like its my fault even though it may not be. Im losing almost everything, and i always feel like my friends talk about me behind my back. I want help, but i want help from people who understand me, and who actually want to listen and care about me, but it seems none of my friends can really fill those needs. (link)
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You need to stop. You need to tell your parents or the person your most close too; You need help. I realize you do it because your stressed, but it's not the answer. I am always here to talk to you, and I think that you should maybe speak to a counsler. I also think a good thing to do is maybe take up a hobby, that your good at or that you love doing. Hopefully this will take your mind off of cutting, and you can meet new people. I really hope you end up okay through all of this. Good luck and I'm always here to talk to you!
Love,
Gabby
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i am 13 and i have a boyfriend. i was at a football game tonight but my boyfriend wasnt there. These other guys were there, and i found out that they liked me. it was like 4 guys. it was really cold out and i was doing anything to get warm, even if it meant that i had to hold one of the guys hands. we went into the parking lot, well kinda parking lot, and all the guys except one were touching me and hugging me and stuff. i feel guilty about hurting my boyfriend's feelings, even though he doesnt know about it yet. Did i cheat on him, and should i or shouldnt i tell him about it? Im afraid that if i tell him that he would break up with me, plus all the guys and i promised we wouldnt tell him about it....WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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~*~dazed and confused~*~ (link)
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Dear Dazed and Confused,
It was wrong of you to do that. YEah, you were chearting. You should tell him the cold hard truth, don't exaggerate. Tell them that you don't have any feelings for them (you don't do you?) If he doesn't accept, maybe you should go for one of the parking lot guys. lol.
Sincerely,
Helping_you
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As a post-election project. My teacher wants each of us to write and give an oral report about which party we support and why.
I am a communist, and communists tend to be frowned upon and I wouldn't feel right not doing it because I'm afraid of what other people would think.
So, should I do it on communism, or just pretend to be a republican? (link)
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You should do is on communism. Who cares what anyone else thinks! If they get mad at you, or tease you because your communist then they are not your friends anyways! You should tell the truth, and If there was a report in my class about communism, I would be more intrested then to from down on them!
Hope it helps!
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my ex bfs brother really likes me and wants me to go out with him (lets call him mike) and so does my friends ex bf and hes rlly nice. but i really miss mikes brother and i couldnt stand 2 c him knowing that i miss his brother (lets call his brother bob) and so i miss bob and like mike but hes three and a half yrs older than i am too... and this other guy whos in my english class really likes me 2 (josh) and i dont want to upset any guys or get myself hurt again bc bob really hurt me, its been about 3 months since i went out with anyone bc i miss bob but im way too good 4 him but still cant resist liking him... what should i do?? (link)
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I think you should go out with Mike. Josh should realize you guys can just be friends. Plus Bob is gone, and it's time to move on. Forget him! If you want to go out with mike, do so! Plus, Josh is your friends x, and woould you like it if your friend went out with bob? okay I hope I helped ya!
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Well there's this guy,Ben and I used to like him and I dont anymore but I still get jealous when he talks about his girl or when he hangs all over my sister Joanna who he totally likes and its so easy to tell that. But my sister never liked him,plus she is two years older then him so I thought she would never go for him. Also Ban is Jerrys best friend and Jerry is Joannas ex-fiance, they still like each other and still talk as friends and I dont know why they arent together but thats not what this is about. Joanna told me she would never go for Ben because she knew it would hurt Jerry. But last night I went to the fair with Joanna, Ben, Tephy(who is really good friends with both Ben and Joanna and is Jerrys sister) and her boyfriend Ashton. And Joanna and Ben went off alone A LOT and they were acting wierd around each other and were holding hands which wasnt too wierd because Ben does that all the time with her and Tephy, but it was different this time. I talked to Tephy about it and she thinks something is going on too so I know its not just me. What I need help with is how to talk to Joanna about this bothering me and how I think its wrong. Plz somebody help me. By the Way,I am a 16 year old girl,my sister is 17, and Ben is 15. (link)
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Well, You really shouldn't care about jerry, and joannna, because she is capable of making her own decisions. I realize it may hurt, and I think that you should just tell Joanna how you feel of the situation. For Instance just say hey, can we talk about Ben. Have a dicussion with her so you can help you feel unbothered. If something is going on I guess your sis, and ben like each other (not matter the age), and you will just have to deal with it. Tell her you'd rather know, for then to lie to her, because you'd be more hurt if she was lying then if she told you straight up.
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im friends with all these guys and when im around them they always tickle me but sometimes it isnt in the right spot like either right under my breasts or where my hips are...i told them 2 stop and they listened and all but when i was with this one guy lets call him bob. well i was talking to bob and we were talking about sex and i felt really comfortable with him but then next thing i know we're at his house and we start making out.... i dont have a bf so it dosnt matter but at first we were in his car and then we went to the family room and sat on the couch i told him that i like him and he said u only like me and im like yea and he said well i love you i stoped talking and i was sorta scared but then i kissed him and said i love you too. i took his hand and asked him where his room was but when we were walking we were kissing and all but when we made it too his room my pants were already off and his shirt was off but right when he was gonna turn the doorknob we found his friends and i ran in the family room bob came back out and he said he really didnt know they were there and i said ok but now all my guy friends look at me different because they have seen my ass and shit bc i was wearing a thong and when im around them they always ask me dosnt it hurt and sometimes they mean with the thong or sex
i need to know how to make them shut up!!!
HELP!
THANX
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Just tell them the truth. There not going to be like putting it in your face anymore cuz they know the answer. or you could say why don't you try it or something like that. I don't know. Just try to change it up.
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hey yall, me and my X just broke up about a month ago.. i already have a new boyfriend, but i dont know if i really like him or just trying to get over my X. me and my X only went out for about 4 months, but the love we had for each other was amazing. but now me and my X arent on good terms and he blocked all my screen names and is talkin shit about me to all my friends. i just wanna let him know that i care but he takes it as being obsessive...but i know im not obsessed..i just miss him..how can he go to lovign me so much to hating me so much?? i mean, he knew my AIM password and deleted my whole list and it was the same as my email password..i guess he just guessed it was...and he changed it! why is he doing this?? (link)
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He's doing this because he's a loser or he's just as sad as you are. I guess you broke up for some reason. Well, your current boyfriend may not be right for you. Hey just go out with people who you care for and they care for just as much as you do.
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any ideas for convo starts for a shy girl wanting to talk to a ghetto popular guy? (link)
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Well.... Just go up to him, and either introduce yourself or if he's in a class of yours then just be like the test in whatever class was hard, or the lesson was boring or something. And if in the end you don't like him anymore I'm sure there will be another ghetto popular guy/
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