Good day everyone.
I am a nursing student. My ultimate goal is to be a travel nurse.
I am happily married for over 12 years and have 3 children: ages 6, 4, and 2. Family is the most important thing in the world and I want to help families work out problems so they do not have to be torn apart.
If your family is as important to you as mine is to me, get the help you need. If you do not like my advice, I respect that but look for someone that works for your needs.
Your family is worth it!
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I know in this day that lots of people are HIV+ or have AIDS. I know they can lead decently healthy lives. Just, personally, I have never known an HIV positive person or someone suffering from AIDS, and, of course, I do not want something like this. It's just scary.
Yesterday I was at work and this new guy said something about getting AIDS tested the day before. He was talking to another guy from work that he's made friends with.
I am really feeling weird about this. I know HIV/AIDS has to be spread through blood or some sort of bodily fluids like that. I know I'm not going to just catch it from the air or just looking at him. I'm a bit uncomfortable though and I'm nervous. I won't ever know if the test says he's positive or not probably. I mean that's not something you go around screaming at work.
Should I look for another job? I'm serious about this making me uncomfortable. There isn't anything that can make me relaxed around this guy and I don't want my work to suffer because I'm too focused on him possibly having an STD. He does seem like a good guy apart from this possible problem so it's nothing "against" him. I've only been at the job for maybe 6 months so it isn't like I've been working there for years and years.
What would you do?
What should I do? (link)
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You are obviously correct in that body fluids are the only way to transmit HIV (blood, semen). Therefore, if the ceiling collapses at work and he is bleeding, you need to take precautions before helping him; primarily gloves.
You have no issues if you are sitting near him in a meeting, drinking from the same fountain, using the same toilet seat, etc. So there is reason to understand precautions, but no reason to be frightened or change jobs.
That being said, you have already made your decision. You have already said there is nothing that will make you relax about this. It is not fair to either you or your co-worker for you to feel this way. If you want to be more open-minded I suggest you do more research and possibly even attend some sort of support group regarding HIV. You could get to know people and talk to them specifically about this disease; how they got it, how it has affected them, etc because you may not be able to talk to your co-worker. If you are NOT willing to be open-minded, it would probably be a good idea to either look for a new job or ask to be transferred.
You asked "what would you do?" As you previously stated people with HIV don't typically wear a shirt advertising it but I have met several people in my life who have it; one was at a seminar like the one I was discussing. I shook the womans hand and thanked her for coming! The others were where I worked because they came in for medical attention. I didn't turn them away or avoid them!
What should YOU do? That is entirely up to you. If you will never be comfortable and never relax around this person... Well, there is an estimated 1.1 million people just in the U.S. with the disease. Just hope the next place you work doesn't have the same problem.
You have already met someone with the disease I am sure, and you likely have rubbed up against someone with the disease. The best suggestion I can offer you is get more educated on the topic and don't be afraid to talk to people about it such as medical professionals or at support groups or seminars.
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Ok, so I think that I might have the eating disorder called Pica. Here's some info about it: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pica_%28disorder%29
Here are some of my symptoms:
I love chemical smells and tastes: libraries, hotels, video stores. If anything tasted like how these places smell, I'd eat them.
When I had a retainer, I'd want to swallow it. I loved the plastic-y taste. I like sucking on bottle caps and pen caps for the same reason.
When I'm blowing up balloons, I want to eat them. I also like to chew on rubber bands and other rubber things.
I eat paper, paper towels, and Kleenex (not very often, but I do enjoy the taste).
I LOVE the taste of sandstone. I'll go to bluffs and break off small chunks and then suck on them all day. I also like the taste of just plain sand. I used to eat that when I was little.
I chew gum constantly. I never EVER spit it out when I'm done chewing it, I always swallow it. And sometimes, when I'm not done chewing it, I'll feel like I have to swallow it.
I love the taste of chalk (recently, while I was taking my ACT, I sat near a chalkboard. During the breaks between the sections of the test, all I could think of was getting up and shoving chalk in my mouth.
Here's why I don't think I have it:
Pica is supposedly uncontrollable. You can't control your body not to eat these things, you have no willpower. I could control my urges very easily, I think. It's not like I have to eat these things, I just REALLY enjoy the taste. Is there a disorder where you just have a taste for chemicals?
I know this is kind of gross, but please don't judge me. I'm just trying to find out what's up with me.
Thanks for all your advice!!! (link)
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It certainly sounds like you have some type of problem whether it is PICA or something else.
Don't focus on the idea that you don't think you have PICA because it is "supposedly uncontrollable"... that is not entirely accurate. PICA is a strong desire but not necessarily uncontrollable.
Now, you really should seek medical attention for this. You said you have not ingested any harmful chemicals. You HAVE eaten sand (you mentioned you like the flavor), chalk, paper, and suck on various types of plastics. These things are nondigestable.
You may have started out with a vitamin or mineral deficiency which went untreated. These deficiencies can lead to abnormal cravings. Left untreated you began trying some of the non edible things you had been craving which could have lead to some sort of blockage. This could have disrupted your digestive system and therefore leading to more cravings!
There is also a study done that suggests these peculiar cravings could be a sign of brain tumors.
I do not want to have you panicking but this is a real medical condition you have that has the potential to be serious. A doctor will start by doing a history and physical exam to try to rule out any physical or mental abnormalities you may have have as PICA is typically associated with kids and is generally associated with some type of retardation. Once that is completed you may be asked to have blood tests and scans of your head or even full body to rule out any toxins in your blood, blockages, and tumors, etc.
You should be proud of yourself for asking for help... and the fact that you KNOW this is wrong and have the strength to reach out makes you stronger and wiser than you may think. Good for you to ask for help... now keep that momentum going and seek professional medical care.
If your problem IS in fact caused by a nutritional deficiency and you can get this corrected by taking a nutritional supplement... think of how greater your quality of life could become!
Good luck to you.
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I've been on birth control since October 2009, and I'm going on a little vacation with my boyfriend, and I'm supposed to get my period over it, I was wondering how harmful (if it is) would it be if I just skipped my placebo pills and went straight to my next pack? Would that affect my next period? I'm just wondering. And is it safe? I mean I know you're supposed to get your period for a reason so I don't know how that would make me feel when I did get my period the next time but yeah..
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Here is information directly from the Mayo Clinic:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/birth-control-pill/WO00098
"It's possible to prevent your period with continuous use of any birth control pill. This means skipping the placebo pills and starting right away on a new pack. Some evidence suggests an advantage to this type of pill regimen. By continuously taking the pill, you prevent hormonal fluctuations that are responsible for bleeding, cramping, headaches and other discomforts associated with getting your period. However, you're at greater risk of breakthrough bleeding — bleeding between periods.
Continuous use of your birth control pills works best if you're taking a monophasic pill — with the same hormone dose in the three weeks of active pills. If you're taking a triphasic pill — with a different hormone dose each week of the active pill phase — using them continuously carries a much higher rate of breakthrough bleeding.
You may find continuous use of birth control pills a convenient way to avoid having your period during an important occasion or trip. Taking a monthly regimen birth control pill continuously is fine for about three months, but then you should plan on taking the placebo pills so that you'll have a menstrual cycle. "
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Hi, over the last couple of months I have been having weired problems with the muscles from the waist up but not my kneck and head.
If I am doing something, and other times not, I will hear a sort of click in one of these mucsles or around that area,all of a sudden I will be in agony from that area for a few days sometimes even a week then it will go away.
I can be fine a few days then it will happen again in a different place.
At the moment I am suffering from one of these spasms in my left side and to cough or lie on my side is agony, this morning it is happening in my middle back as well but not really bad.
I also suffer from OA and my medication is cocodamol 30/500 tramadaol 40 mgs and diclomax,I have been taking these pain killers for a long time now for my arthritus.
Can these be causing my mucsles or bones to act the way they are, life at the moment seems very tiring and painful and I just want it all to stop. (link)
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Tramadol can cause uncontrollable shaking of part of the body and muscle tightness. I am not sure what the "click" is....
You said this is in your torso but not the head and neck. This is suggestive that SOMETHING is going on in a particular nerve plexus.
A nerve plexus is a network of intersecting nerves that combine together to serve an area of the body.
The brachial plexus serves the chest, shoulders, arms, and hands. This could suggest that there is a nerve issue within this plexus. The cervical plexus serves the head, neck, and shoulders which do NOT seem to be involved. The lumbar plexus serves the lower part of the body (thighs, groin, legs, feet, etc.) which also does NOT seem to be involved.
You should contact your doctor who treats your arthritis pain and discuss this with him/her. It may or may not be one of your medications but either way, something could possibly be done about these spasms and would improve your quality of life!
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my doctor said my cpr blood work was very high is that erally bad im freaking out a bit
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I was just about to answer your question when I found an article at the mayo clinic website. I will give you the link below and then paste the info here.
The jist is, CRP- C-reactive protein is produced by the liver in response to an injury or inflammation. If your level is higher than normal it COULD mean you have "something" going on in your body but the blood test alone does not tell the doctor much... mostly it tells the doctor that more testing needs to be done to find out why your body is producing this protein that is a response to inflammation.
A higher level of CRP could be suggestive of a heart issue (heart disease) BUT... this level alone is not a diagnosis of heart disease.
Read the following from the mayo clinic and then I highly recommend you discuss your concerns with your doctor... that is what he/she is there for.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/heart-disease/HB00016
"C-reactive protein (CRP) is a protein your liver produces as part of your body's response to injury or infection (inflammatory response).
CRP is a marker for an inflammatory response somewhere in the body. However, CRP tests can't pinpoint where in the body this may be happening. Inflammation plays a central role in the process of atherosclerosis, in which fatty deposits clog your arteries. Measuring CRP alone won't tell your doctor your risk of heart disease. But factoring in CRP test results with other blood tests results and risk factors for heart disease helps create an overall picture of your heart health.
The American Heart Association doesn't yet recommend CRP screening for the general public — only those at known risk of heart disease.
Cholesterol-lowering statin medications may reduce CRP levels and decrease your heart disease risk, but it's not recommended that you take statin medications solely to decrease your CRP level. Talk to your doctor if you're concerned about your CRP level. "
Good luck.
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here are my symptoms that lead me to believe i do:
i'm always tired, no matter how much sleep i get.
i have depression
i'm dizzy a lot
i have very poor balance
i get muscle pains, especially in my back
my joints are sometimes sore or weak, and they sometimes grind
i read something on chronic fatigue syndrome and i had most of the symptoms, others i didnt. like weight gain and loss, panic attacks, sore throat, bloating, and a few others. but the main ones i do. i also might be anemic so some of these may have to do with that. i haven't been diagnosed by any doctors yet, but should i? i'm 17/f, by the way (link)
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You have some symptoms of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. You have many symptoms of depression. You also have symptoms of anemia.
Given that you are a 17 year old female, your most likely diagnosis is depression. Depression is SO common, add to that you are a teenage girl and you can multiply the likelihood of this being your problem. Depression can cause the most unusual things to happen to our bodies.
Depression can cause difficulty in concentrating, extreme fatigue where even the smallest task seems daunting. Weight loss and gain, headaches, unexplained body aches. CFS frequently has other physical issues such as enlarged lymph nodes and sore throat.
Without sitting down with you and having a conversation and evaluating you, and possibly blood tests to rule out such things as anemia it is impossible to give a diagnosis here... but your symptoms are quite indicative of depression. Again, add to your symptoms that you are 17... you should certainly see a doctor. There is no reason for you to have these issues. If you see a doctor he/she may be able to suggest some lifestyle changes that can make you feel better or even prescribe a medication that make you feel better.
I have had 3 kids and had post partum depression after each, and it got worse with each pregnancy/delivery as well. The difference between being on medication and NOT being on medication was indescribable. It takes a couple of weeks for the medication to really kick in but once it does you feel back to yourself again and it is GREAT.
But... what if it is not depression? If you are anemic or have another underlying condition, you need to get clinically diagnosed so you can continue to take care of yourself, mind and body.
Don't ignore this. You may be thinking "its not a big deal, I just dont feel good most of the time"... but your quality of life can be so much better if you nip this in the bud. Good luck.
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okay so my medication comes in packets, like you pop them out and i wanted to put them into a pill bottle(just because its easier for me). A pill bottle like this one http://www.globalpackagegallery.com/main.php?g2_view=core.DownloadItem&g2_itemId=26972&g2_serialNumber=2 would i be able to use that heron(panadol)pill bottle to put MY pills in it and still not go bad? because ive been told once you pop the pill out of the packets, that they go bad so i want to know if i can stop them going bad if i put them in the bottle. (link)
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Generally speaking, yes you can reuse a pill bottle. There are a few reasons why you should not...
Pills come in packages for a reason. Many tablets and capsules come (from the manufacture) in bottles that have silicon gel tabs in them to keep the moisture level low. Some pills come in blister packs because that keeps them individually fresher OR because they are dangerous enough to kids that the blister pack adds added protection if they get into the hands of little tikes. There are certain pills that come in small quantities because once the seal is broken on the bottle, the pill immediately starts to deteriorate. How many pills left in that bottle after a certain period of time should be thrown away once that bottle has been open: for example, nitro tabs for chest pain commonly come in a dark colored bottle of 25 tablets. These need to be kept in their original container because they need to be away from light, moisture, and once the seal is broken you only have a few months to use them before the pills are considered no good.
You did not mention what pill you are on. If I had to guess I would say birth control, prenatal vitamins, or something with iron. If this is the case, you should be fine IF you take them as they are supposed to be taken and the pills will only be in the replacement bottle for a month. Moisture can be a real issue if the pills are popped out... but the MAIN reason they are in blister packs is to keep children from getting iron poisoning.
The only other issue can be with traveling, ordering refills, and remembering the information needed on the package. It might be a good idea for you to, each month cut the label off of the blister pack and either tape it to the replacement bottle or fold it and tuck it inside the replacement bottle. This way you have your current refill number, the doctor's name, and directions, etc.
If you travel, you MUST keep the pills in their original package. Airports, customs checkpoints, etc. do not like meds to be outside of their orig. container.
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i am 20 my ex bf is 21. we were together for the pass two years. we were on and off for those two years for various reasons. we broke up this febuary and tried to be friends which didnt work because we spent all day together, talked to each other more than our friends, and were intimate but just didnt label ourselve bf/gf. we completly stopped all of this in march.
during our relationship, he wanted me to change some things to better myself and "our" future at the time. examples: like a better job, or move out, be more comfortable around his friends and family. (i was a shy girl).
three weeks ago, i was the one who texted him two weeks ago. we had lunch and he asked how i was doing and how my life was going. i told him i had found a much better job, i wasnt even looking just came across it from a friend and was hired. i went on his dream vacation and to a basketball game of his favorite team. i am even more open to people i meet and less shy, thanks to him. after lunch i asked to be friends, he said he couldnt handle it. he could never introduce me to anyone as his friend because he still loves me and cares for me too much. he couldnt even be my friend on facebook because he would get jealous and look at my fb stats. a week later we decided to be friends, he was hesitate at first but agreed to be actual friends this time.
then i told him my plan that i might move out because i am fiancially set now. he freaked out on me and said he cant be my friend. he thinks im doing this just to get back or make him jealous. he thinks i didnt make myself better when i was with him because i didnt care about him enough. he knows that its spiteful and he should be happy for me but he cant be. he said that im going to be the perfect girl and i will be with someone else so we cannot be friends. then he told me. "i hope whoever you marry, you have learned to love." this might have been out of anger when he saw me with a guy two nights ago.
i did grow up and mature from when i met him two years ago. but i am not doing this to make him jealous or to get him back. we had a lot of issues that we needed to work on and i think we are better off single or not with each other for now at least. i do love him and always will. he has helped me mature in so many ways and i have told him thank you numerous times, thats why i want him in my life as a friend. maybe years down the road we could be together but not now.
i just want to be his friend and have him understand that i am doing this for myself more then anyone else. i dont want him to be spiteful either but i know i cant force it on him and he has to do it alone...any word of advice?
Thanks
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Just based on the history you have written here, I couldn't agree with you more; maybe years down the road you could be together but not now.
It sounds like you have been doing really well for yourself with your new job and less shy personality changes. These are two great things and you said they came about thanks to him... but yet they occurred after you two had broken up. Your two years with him could have given you the life experience you needed to lose some of your shyness but it really seems as though your situation improved only after he was out of the picture.
I am bothered by a few things you said:
1. You were together for two years but on and off for those two years for various reasons.
2. During your relationship he wanted you to change things to "better yourself".
3. The whole paragraph about him being jealous and spiteful and hoping you can "learn to love" whoever you marry.
A relationship is not stable and productive if you are on and off... the whole time you are together. If the relationship is wanted by both people, you would never have times "Off". A mature relationship is going to have ups and downs but you dont just "call it off" for a while for whatever reason and then decide to get back together... this strongly suggests that the relationship should be ended and both people should find someone they are willing to have a relationship with... without having to call things off but rather work through the problems together.
As far as item 2, he wanted you to change things. He wanted you to change these things to better yourself. You should consider whether these things were things you WANTED to change to better yourself. Consider whether he was being controlling or supportive. We all have issues that we would really like to improve upon... but we need to do these things for ourselves, not because our boyfriend (when he feels like being our boyfriend) is telling us to change into something HE thinks we ought to be... or get out! Maybe he has friends who you feel uncomfortable around because his friends are different enough from you that you are uncomfortable with their personalities and need to be with people YOU choose.
Item 3... Given that you two are both in your early 20's it is likely that you have matured faster than him. Did you ever wake up one morning or be sitting having coffee and have this thought that nearly smacked you like a truck? Something like... I have ALWAYS done this particular thing a certain way. always! But... I'm sick of it. I feel liberated! I want to do something different that is unexpected and just might surprise people... and I think I am going to start it NOW! I believe this is our immature brain (you are not developmentally mature until around age 25) making a connection that helps us become mature adults.
He has no right wanting to make you a better person. You already ARE a good person. And without him you landed a better job, became more financially secure, and have an easier time with people. You tell him this and he makes it about him. You didn't care enought about HIM to make these changes when you were with him (during your on times). It is not about him. It is about you and the fact that YOU got a better job without him being a pest. You changed because you had the desire, knew the right people, and because you are good at being YOU.
He hopes you learn to love whoever you marry? Ideally you will meet a man who loves you for you. When things get tough, he doesn't call off the relationship until things smoothe out again. He doesn't threaten you that if you dont do something different then you will have to move out. The two of you will have fun, laugh, experience life together including having friends that you are completely comfortable with. And then, on the occasion you think about him you can hope HE has learned to love another girl because you are so indescribably happy.
The jist of my advice... leave him. Completely. Get to know yourself, what kinds of friends you want in your life, and where you want YOUR life to be 10 years from now. Then start working on it. Finish college, get a great place to live (on your own), meet new people in places you like to be. If you like nature... hang out at a nature preserve and get to know the volunteers there. If you like books, get to know people at the library or bookstore... get involved with people whos lives are similar to how you want YOUR life to be. Think about you and only you until you know who you are and what you want to do and where you want to be. Then, if you meet someone special you will be a strong enough person to give him a part of yourself... but still have yourself where you want to be in life. Once you are happy with your situation in life if your ex approaches you... consider being friends if that is what you both want. If you no longer want it... you are under no obligation to accept.
You became a better person without him... I say keep going. Become the best person you can be. Thats not going to happen with the baggage that he is bringing to the off/on relationship. You don't need that.
If you have read any of my advice column you know I can be long winded. Sorry 'bout that. Our problems just have so many angles that a simiple paragraph is not enough for me to spill out all my thoughts.
Be daring. Be strong. Be yourself. Enjoy life. Best of luck!
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I'm looking for a backwards story/poem/limerick that has a line in it "she went into the cellar to sweep the upstairs room". My Dad used to tell it to me and now he's forgotten it
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I don't know if this is what you were looking for but with a little research on the one line you gave I came up with this:
It was a nice day in October, last September in July
The moon lay thick upon the ground,
The mud shone in the sky.
The flowers were singing sweetly,
The birds were in full bloom,
So I went into the cellar to sweep an upstairs room.
The time was Tuesday Morning, on Wednesday, just at night.
When I saw a thousand miles a way, a house just out of sight.
The walls projected backwards, the front around the back.
It stood alone with others,
The fence was white as black.
It was moonlight on the ocean,
No streetcar was in sight.
The sun was shining brightly,
And it rained all day that night.
It was summer in the winter,
And the snow was falling fast.
A barefoot boy with shoes on
Was sitting in the grass.
It was evening and the rising sun
Stood setting in the night,
And everything that I could see
Was hidden from my sight.
This was all I found and it did not have a title, author, date, country of origin... nothing. It was a little snippet from what appeared to be a church's monthly newsletter. Just above the "poem" was in bold "Delirious Verses"... but I do not believe this is the actual title.
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I'm thinking about studying to be a psychiatrist. I think psychology is SO interesting and I think it's fascinating how the human mind works, etc etc etc.
But I'm not great with people. I suck at small talk. I'm just SO awkward around people I don't / barely know.
So does being a psychiatrist require one to be a people person? Or is there some branch in the field that doens't? (link)
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Psychiatry is a branch of medical school that focuses on the mind/brain. It is likely that you would be seeing patients and need to be able to speak with them and be open minded and show compassion. The difference between psychology and psychiatry is that a psychiatrist is a medical doctor and does things that M.D's do. You could work in the psychiatric department of a hospital. You could specialize in particular psychiatric disorders and treat patients with these disorders.
In general... whether you study psychology or psychiatry... you need to be able to counsel patients.
That being said... you sound young. If you love this field enough to go into it in college and continue throughout, you are going to have so much training and life experience by the time you are done that your awkwardness will melt away. It is AMAZING the difference in most people from age 18 to age 30, etc. I don't know how old you are... but I am pretty certain that after 8+ years of college, training, rotations, clinicals, residencies... etc., you will be a changed person :) You may end up being like MOST of us and be studying something related to psychiatry in school and realize you want to change your track. This happens ALL the time.
Do what you love. Thats what keeps us happy in life.
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Does the internet really know what its talking about?
Both my parents smoke in the house, internet says the person breathing in the smokers smoke is more at risk of getting sick, because you're breathing in the smoke from the cigarette and then you're also breathing in the smoke the smoker is exhaling, what doesn't make sense is wouldn't the smoker be more at risk then me especially if its BOTH my parents smoking around eachother because they're both breathing in eachothers smoke.
I mean I go in my room to get away from it as much as I can, so how can I possibly be more at risk of getting lung cancer then them?
please helppp.
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I don't have anything to add or dispute regarding the answer you have already received concerning the dangers of smoking, be it first or second hand.
One thing I just wanted to get out here is a new study that has brought about the term third hand smoke!
This study was done by Berkely Lab and to quote:
"The burning of tobacco releases nicotine in the form of a vapor that adsorbs strongly onto indoor surfaces, such as walls, floors, carpeting, drapes and furniture. Nicotine can persist on those materials for days, weeks and even months. Our study shows that when this residual nicotine reacts with ambient nitrous acid it forms carcinogenic tobacco-specific nitrosamines or TSNAs,"
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/02/100208154651.htm
The jist of it all... its not even good to be touching items that have been exposed to smoking. It can absorb into the body and cause problems.
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hi im 14 years old and im turning 15 in december and most of my friend in my class have gotten there period and i have started puberty like hair and pimplies etc and im going into grade 9 and im kinda worried because one i have breast my cup size is 34B and it strange how i havnt gotten my period yet i really need help i just want to be sure that i wil get my period (link)
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It is true that everyone is different and have their "menarche" (first period) at different times.
However, there are some guidelines from the American Academy of Pediatrics as well as the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists which state the following:
1. Girls are on average 12-13 when they experience menarche.
2. You generally have menarche two to two and a half years after breast development. Think about how long you have had breasts and other signs of puberty to determine if it has been more than 2 1/2 years.
3. There are some reasons you may want to see your doctor...
A. If you have had other signs of puberty for 3 years with NO menarche.
B. No menstrual flow by the age of 15.
A few things your doctor may want to check are your hormone levels and your diet. Both of these could cause issues.
If you are concerned, you should talk to your mom or an adult female you trust and ask that you see your doctor. He/she will be able to put your mind at rest that you are either perfectly normal or there is a plan of care that can be taken to get you on track.
Best of luck.
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about a week ago, me and my boyfriend went to the lake. we same in it for the two days we were there. when we came back home, a day after, he noticed some scabs on his feet. they were reaaaaallly tiny, barely noticeable. but they stayed, they never went away. i at first thought that he just scraped himself on some branches or something under the water. but after a few days, they were still there. i saw him the day before yesterday, and his foot still looked the same, but yesterday i noticed a big scab on his foot, up towards his pinky toe. he said he didnt remember scratching it or hitting it on anything, and it looked like the scab has been there for a few days. i didnt think much about it, but then that night he seemed to be running a little bit of a fever. he was hot, and sweating. and he said his head hurt. i gave him 3 ibuprofin, to break the fever and help his head. later that night when we were sleeping, i reached over and felt his head. he was still sweating, but his head was cold. i know it sounds stupid, but i'm worried that while we were at the lake, some kid of parasite(sp?) got into his system. maybe he swallowed some water or something, and he's getting sick. i'm really worried. any answers will be very helpful. (link)
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There are three things that come to mind reading this.
1. He could certainly have contracted some sort of "bug" or parasite and if he continues to have health issues he should be seen by a doctor.
2. If he scraped up his foot while swimming, he may not have realized it as it was in the comfort of cool water. This scrape (or scrapes) could have become infected from the less than sanitary lake water. If they are infected, he needs to see a doctor.
3. The lake could be a coincidence. There are several viruses that can cause scabs or blisters and they would also cause fevers. Some of these need medical attention. Some such as "hand, foot, and mouth" disease (Coxsackie virus) is quite common in children but there are adults who get it. Coxsackie is not a dangerous virus BUT... without seeing a doctor you cannot be certain what it is. There are so many skin ailments... and what if it isn't a virus but rather a serious infection or parasite...
Best to see a doctor- especially in light of the fever. Without the fever I would say take it day to day and see what happens but if there is a fever involved... you should always seek medical treatment. The inside of our body only has a few ways of communicating with the outside of our body; generally pain and fever... don't ignore what the inside is trying to tell the outside.
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I was never married to my son's father. My son is now 15 years old. Father doesn't want anything to do with son- when they do spend time together - Dad is always hyper critical of son (who is really a good normal teen). My problem is Grandma is toxic. She makes us feel guilty no matter how hard we try to please her. She used to bug son about going to orthodox church with her to the point that son no longer wanted to spend time with her. Since then I have tried to foster relationship out of respect for her but it always fails. Son now dreads seeing her. She has no respect for our busy schedule. When we do get together she only complains about lack of visits. Nothing is ever enough. I am tired of trying to reason with her. She makes my son feel bad and he doesn't want to be left alone with her. Neither of us feel like we can stand up to her because you usually respect your grandma. bad situation but I need to end it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated - thanks! (link)
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It just so happens I am going through this as well! It is my own mother, not my grandmother...
I am happy to say our issue is nearly resolved but it has taken a lot of hard work (emotionally) and has caused tears that you may need to get prepared for.
I dont want to tell you what to do. What I will do is give you some information that you can use to make your own decisions. And this happens to be the very same advice I got a month or so ago from a friend of mine at church whom I have tremendous respect for...
My mother is the sweetest thing. Almost everyone who meets her thinks she is so nice and would do anything for her. For a number of reasons that are too personal to share... this is only true if you dont know her as well as I do. She is manipulative. She is a liar and will tell you what SHE thinks YOU want to hear. She was "bad" enough that she wasnt even permitted by the court system to raise me. We were estranged for 22 years until I had kids and now she wants to be in their lives.
I have a big heart and did not want to tell her no. However, I am a responsible, overprotective, loving mother who is more concerned with my kids safety than anything else so I have permitted occasional supervised visits. Last summer she moved only a few miles from us. She has been calling us almost every day, generally wanting something. She has asked to borrow money. She wants me to be her taxi service. She has visited my church to scheme charity from them. When she doesnt get what she wants, she cries to her friends. They in turn started calling me telling me "she's your MOTHER!! You owe her!
At the advise of my (incredibly intelligent-smile) husband, my pastor, and my church friends I have come to the realization that I am responsible for 5 people; me, my husband, and our 3 kids. Not her. Her involvement in our life is toxic. I had to tell her she was not to call me more than once or twice a month. She was not to ask for money or for me to drive her places. If she wants to see her grandkids once or twice a month for an hour or two we can meet at a neutral location. That is where it ends. We will have nothing more to do with her.
If you want your relationship with her to be better she needs to have a clear understanding of how you feel. She may or may not understand that she is causing such hostile feelings in you or your son. If I were in your place I might have a conversation something like this "Grandma, we do not like the way our current relationship is going. You do not make our visits enjoyable. If you want to continue to spend time with us it is going to have to be on our terms, or we will have to stop visiting altogether. First: Johnny (your son) will not be visiting you on Sundays, at least not until you are home from church. Second: We have busy schedules so we can only visit you the first Saturday of the month unless you want to find a way to Johnny's football game."
Another effective communication tool is the "I feel" statement: when you ... I feel... because...
"when you complain about our lack of visiting I feel irritated because you dont respect we have busy schedules and when we do visit you make us feel guilty. We will not tolerate this any longer.
You are responsible for you and your son. Not letting her tell you two how to live your lives.
Obviously I dont know how you talk to your grandma so some of this may sound cheesy. I think you will find though that if you set your mind on a time and date, practice what you want to say in the mirror, and then hold your breath, close your eyes, and just DO it... at the end of the day you will feel a million pounds lifted off of your shoulder. I just want to caution that if you want to continue having her in your life... whatever you choose to say needs to be done letting her know that you love her and want her to cooperate because you would be hurt if she didn't want to be around anymore. I didnt have this problem. I was a bit nasty with my mother because I dont care if I see her again. I didnt see her for 22 years. I grew up in a wonderful home, married a great man, and have a very happy life... then she showed up so couth was not somthing i was concerned about.
I hope this helped... family relations can be tricky and we dont always want the outcome to be that we are estranged.
Best of luck.
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I was just diagnosed this morning with it. How long does it take to go away? (link)
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I cant give you a perfect answer because everyone is different. Gastritis has a number of causes and for most of these causes, once you begin your treatment plan (generally an antacid) you should start to feel relief pretty soon. Avoid spicy foods, sit up for a while after eating, dont eat too late in the evening, follow doctors orders and you should be feeling better.
Some causes require antibiotics while others require vitamin B shots. This is why I can't be too specific... but generally, it doesn't take long, it just may seem like it if you are in pain.
A full "cure" can take a while because whatever damage may have been done will have to heal. You may have to be on medication for a while even after you feel better to be certain any irritation (or ulceration) has completely healed.
Best of luck.
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I went on vacation last week and in the airport on the way there and on the plane i felt a burning on my upper left by my ribs. It hasn't FULLY gone away but it wasn't as bad as it is now. Like, i could hang with my friends and forget all about it but then when i got home, it hit me like a ton of bricks. like it's not the worst pain, but it feels weird. I immediately thought i have mono until i remembered that i had it when i was younger. I have really bad anxiety and stress so my mom thought that it could be a stomach ulcer. i took two exlax's to see if i was just constipated, but i don't feel much different, although it helped somewhat, but i wouldn't say much. i keep on burping every hour and my bowls are fine. I think its something in my stomach because when i eat it burns and so does my esophogaus. have you ever experienced this? if so, what diagnosis did you have? help. asap (link)
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To be clear, you cannot get a diagnosis from advicenators.
That being said, your description sounds like it could be GERD (gastroesophageal reflux disease) or a peptic ulcer... possibly a hiatal hernia.
Symptoms of GERD are generally pain in the upper abdomen and esophagus, especially before or right after a meal. Just to check for this you can easily take an antacid when you feel the symptoms.
Peptic ulcers can be caused by a number of reasons including medications, a virus (H. pylori), or other issues that can cause an imbalance of digestive juices in the stomach. Some common symptoms are a burning sensation in your stomach and this can certainly be affected by your diet. Untreated, you can end up with bleeding in your stool, vomiting, and a hole in the lining of your stomach.
A hiatal hernia feels much like heartburn but can also have a feeling of pressure.
Beyone these you could be looking at constipation or a urinary tract infection to problems with your colon, diverticulitis, pancreatitis... and some of these require IMMEDIATE medical attention.
The jist is, this should not be ignored particularly if you are having a fever, blood in your urine or stool, vomiting.
Start by trying the antacids. If this does not work it is important to visit a doctor and find out what it is. You may just need a stronger antacid-like medication (even heartburn untreated can lead to an ulcer of your esophagus) or even an antibiotic. It is never a good idea to ignore your body. Pain is one of the only ways the inside of our body can communicate to us that there is something wrong. Our bodies feel pain specifically to get our brain's attention.
Best of luck.
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From a 'black' person's POV
I don't get it. You can't blame someone for something their ancestors did in the past. And not every white person is even the descendant of slave owners, and not every black person is the descendant of slaves (w/ the whole American slave trade). Everyone has ancestors that did stupid sh** in the past. That is no excuse. Heck, everyone does stupid sh** anyways, cause humans aren't perfect.
Whenever the topic is brought up when I'm talking to my mom, she humphs. And it bugs me because I'm open to dating any race. I'm 16 and haven't had a boyfriend yet, but I wonder what my mom would think if the person isn't black, or even African (I'm Cameroonian). The only reasoning I've heard from her is that the people's are are too different, so they wouldn't get along. Which is silly because if people can be friends with people of different races and ethnicity, why can't they be lovers? Clearly they're able to have things in common with each other.
I find it silly that people expect others to treat them like equals and individuals when they scorn those who are more open-minded with their romantic relationships. Being in an interracial relationship doesn't mean you are selling out, or you hate being black. I think you're selling out if you confine yourselves to what society says. Black is just a skin color.. it doesn't come with coding telling you to act a certain way. And if someone doesn't follow this coding they hate the way they look, and want to have a different skin color. FYI, I love being black, and I love my Cameroonian heritage. Why do I have to listen to hiphop or date only black people to prove that to some people?
And I wouldn't marry someone that's not black just to get a bi-racial baby. I honestly feel thats really tacky. People should marry out of love, and with whoever its with the baby will be beautiful (link)
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I think many of the people who are opposed to interracian couples are of older generations. Not long after the civil rights act took place, whites tended to be OK with blacks, trusted them, respected them, befriended them, but because blacks had been kept on the back burner for so long, blacks in general did not have the education or social ettiquite (due to lack of opportunity!!) that would allow them to advance financially and socially. Therefore, if, lets say a white girl fell in love with a black man, she was likely to have a hard life financially speaking because her husband would not have been able to support her as her white father had been able to do.
Today, as hard as it is to hear and believe, statistics show that black men, for a number of reasons are not around to take care of their families. This could lead a white family to have concerns about their white daughters.
All of this being said- This is a class issue. All of the negative things felt about black men not making as much money, not being around for their kids... this is statistically accurate about lower class african-american men. The number of higher educated black me (in the U.S) is not nearly as high as higher educated white men. Those african-american men who DO go on to get a high school diploma and college degrees are at LEAST as reliable as their white counterparts.
From the black community... they may still hear and still feel the effects of generations of suppression!
Your mom may have what she feels are good reasons for prefering a certain mate for you. You should ask her!!! If she has reasons "A" and "B" but you meet a white boy who doesn't fit int A and B... she might like him and approve. But as your mother I am sure she has your best interest in mind.
I can't speak for your mother and I don't know what her life situations have been or what generation she is from... but I am in my 30's. I am white. I tend to be liberal from a political standpoint but from a personal standpoint I am very old fashioned and conservative. What I want for my daughter is a man who has a good education, ambition, has high morals... etc. I don't care if he is black or white. I want my daughter to have a high quality man and while I feel that in ANY race they are few and far between... they are out there... and they exist in every color. Just have to be picky about his inner core!
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I am currently attending a 2-year college, and working towards an Associate's Degree in general studies. I am transferring to a liberal arts college next year.
I love reading and I have always enjoyed English. I finished my English requirements for college my senior year of high school. Since then, the majority of my transfer classes have been a literature or writing class. I have been so unsure what I have wanted to do with my life, but since I have a profound love for English/literature, that is what I have decided to major in.
I am starting to second guess this decision though. I slacked off in highschool, but I have been an excellent student in college thus far. I hate to think I have been busting my ass (& will more than likely continue busting my ass for another 4+ years) just to end up with a ton of a debt 10 years from now. I am going to college because I want a better life. I want to be able to support my family, while at the same time giving them more than I was ever able to have. Will it be unlikely that I will be able to do this with a degree in English?
I suppose my questions are:
1. Should I continue college majoring in something I love and succeed in, or choose a different career path that offers me a definite, good paying job?
2. What well paying job options are available with an English degree?
3. Could I join an unrelated career with a minor? If so, what would be some good options?
Thanks to anyone who will take the time to help :) (link)
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My husband was an english major as well (over 10 years ago). He loves reading and books. Some would say he has a mild obsession with print.
Should you continue majoring in something you love? Absolutely. Settling for a program or career choice just for money will likely lead to a less than happy life. Will you become rich? Probably not.
There is an article at CNN Money. It is older; from 2000 but I believe it still holds true today. It gives some good suggesions on what you can do with a bachelor's degree in Englis... namely you go on to get a Master's in something related to english... but NOT english. A few examples are editing, teaching, law, and "business". The aricle (link below) goes into it a lot better than I can. My husband decided to change his major toward end to library science. He got his bachelor's in library science and then went on to get a master's in library science. He is now the branch manager/head librarian of one branch of our library system (21 libraries in total system). He loves his job because he gets to review books, choose which books the system orders/cuts, he gets to host reading programs and other social groups related to books.
Check this article out and then examine what it is about books and reading and literature that you actually love. This cold help you decide if you should be a teacher, an actor, a writer or editor, a lawyer, a librarian. I assure you as a teacher or librarian you will make a decent salary but we are NOT independently wealthy by ANY stretch of the imagination. More importantly, my husband is happy. He was once encouraged by a money hungry relative to be a lawyer... "something the family can be proud of" but he LOVES his job. He can't imagine doing anything else for the next 20 years.
I don't know how to answer your question about the minor... I have a friend who has a master's in early childhood education with a minor in spanish so she is able to teach elementary school. Because of her minor she taught beginning Spanish for 2 years before taking a job at a high school as an English as a second language (ESL) teacher. She loves it. I suppose the question is WHAT is another love of yours that you COULD minor in that could give you a boost to your english degree.
I hope this helps some... deciding what we want to be for the rest of our lives is a difficult and frightening thing to do in our late teens and early 20's. One hasn't experienced enough life at that point to really know... we only know what we LOVE, not necessarily what our true passions and talents are. I dropped out of college 13 years ago for this reason. I just stated back last year because after all this time, I finally have it figured out!!! You may decide in your english studies you love most reading books about animals and their habitats and decide to change to zoology! Happens all the time.
Best of luck. And if you change your mind... it's ok.
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soo both my parents smoke! getting them to quit would literally be impossible, i've been wanting to get both of them those water vapor cigarettes, but I was wandering how much they cost? and do you have to keep buying little peices to it? or do you just buy it and it lasts forever?
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I am gathering from your second sentence that you are trying to get them to stop smoking... without them actually stopping smoking. You already have an answer to your "water vapor cigarrettes" but I wanted to add a slightly different perspective.
It may actually be better/safer to just let them smoke cigarettes. Here is a little bit of information from the Mayo clinic, and I have also pasted the website should you desire further investigation.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/hookah/an01265
"Hookah smoking is not safer than cigarette smoking. Also known as narghile, shisha and goza, a hookah is a water pipe with a smoke chamber, a bowl, a pipe and a hose. ... The tobacco is no less toxic in a hookah pipe, and the water in the hookah does not filter out the toxic ingredients in the tobacco smoke. Hookah smokers may actually inhale more tobacco smoke than cigarette smokers do because of the large volume of smoke they inhale in one smoking session, which can last as long as 60 minutes."
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I will leave the above here just for information but I wanted to apologize for mis-reading your question. I thought you were asking about smoking water pipes, not the vapor cigarettes.
Because I feel guilty for misreading your question I will submit to you some information I found on one particular brand. The link is below though I am not suggesting, recommending, or endorsing this product. I am sure there are other brands available that may be better, safer, etc.
http://www.elumaecigs.com/
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what does it mean when you have pains in your stomach and you poop has blood in it? (link)
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There are a number of reasons you could have stomach pains and blood in your stool. Some of the reasons can be treated by medication or perhaps a change in diet. Some may require surgery. ALL of the reasons are concerning enough that you MUST see your physician.
Bloody stools alone can be a symptom of hemorrhoids, although these do not typically cause pain in the stomach. Irritable Bowel Syndrome can be very painful but is generally associated with constipation/diarrhea, and mucosy stools.
The blood could be caused by some sort of gastrointestinal bleeding. This means somewhere between your throat (esophagus), your stomach, your intestines, and your rectum there is a problem. This could be an ulcer. This could be inflammation of the colon. It could be a number of things.
Your doctor would more than likely feel (palpate looking for signs of point-specific pain, if the abdomen has areas of "hardness" when it is supposed to be soft, etc.) your abdomen, and likely want a stool/urine sample. From there, depending on what is found you may need to get a scan of your abdomen such as an X-ray or an ultrasound. Neither of these are painful.
Again- this could be something as simple as needing an antacid or an antibiotic. But blood in stool should never be ignored.
Please, visit a doctor and find out. Our health should always be #1
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